Curious about taboo sex acts?
You’ve come to just the right place.
Taboo sex can be really, really exciting…provided it’s legal and consensual. With thousands of possibilities to choose from, your only decision is which of these out-of-the-norm acts you want to break first.
In this post, I’ll run through 20 of the most incredible taboo sex acts that you try with your partner(s) tonight…and take your sex life to the next level.
Whether you’re a complete newbie yet to venture to the dark side or a seasoned pro in search of maximum pleasure, you’re going to love what I’ve got in store for you.
The sex acts you’re about to read about are ones that I’ve distilled from over ten years of coaching men and women about how to have great sex. I’ve worked with and spoken to thousands of men and women, and interviewed dozens of porn stars and sexologists in my quest to cover the best sex acts.
At the end of this guide, I’ll be sharing two of my most powerful (and lesser-known) orgasmic sex acts for men and women…so stick around.
1. Food play
Great food and great sex go together like peanut butter and jelly, but enjoying both at the same time is still beyond the pale for most people. Food play is one of the tamest taboos you can break and it’s easy to enjoy. There’s nothing like seductively licking a bit of whipped cream or some of your favorite desserts off one your partner’s erogenous zones to get both of your pulses racing.
2. Intense nipple play
Good nipple play should be part and parcel of any fun foreplay session. But intense nipple play is still considered taboo by most. From stroking to nibbling, fondling, and vibrating, there are hundreds of ways to give yourself or your partner pleasure through the nipples.
I covered the art of nipple sucking in my ultimate guide to nipple play, where I shared my secrets for experiencing a hallowed ‘nipple orgasm’. And if you’ve long fantasized about making a titty fuck part of your sexual repertoire, I covered all the best techniques and positions in my complete guide to giving and receiving a titty fuck.
3. Masturbating in front of your partner
Many people are taught when they are young that masturbation is sinful, shameful, and should be done secretly. Getting caught masturbating is one of the biggest fears that most people carry with them from adolescence into adulthood. And most people feel too uncomfortable to masturbate in front of their partner, even if they are in a loving, long-term relationship.
But breaking this has numerous advantages. Doing something that you usually do in private in front of your partner can help build trust and intimacy. You soon lose the sense of awkwardness and shame that masturbation tends to create and strengthen your relationship.
Masturbating in front of your partner is also one of the fastest, most effective ways, to get what you want in bed. You can show your other half the types of touch and movement that you enjoy. It can develop into mutual masturbation if you want and is sure to improve your foreplay and sex immeasurably.
4. Using sex toys during sex
Using sex toys during sex is another common ‘forbidden act’ that’s fun to break. Many people believe that using a toy during sex with their partner would be rude; as if showing them that you aren’t satisfied. But it can lead to some of the best sex ever.
A simple clit or wand vibrator can transform common positions like missionary, cowgirl, and doggy into other-worldly events, and lead to full-body, shaking orgasms.
5. Period sex
Curious about whether you can have sex on your period?
The answer is a resounding “Yes!”
While the downsides of period sex include getting blood on yourself, your partner, and the bed (or wherever you have sex), these minor inconveniences are far outweighed by all the awesome benefits of getting it on, when you’re ‘on’.
Orgasms can help relieve menstrual cramps by releasing endorphins that help beat period blues. Enjoying a spot of ‘crimson sex’ also helps alleviate headaches, shortens your period, and boosts your sex drive; what’s not to love?
6. Alfresco sex
Alfresco sex is one of the most exciting taboo sex acts you can break. Whether you have oral sex or enjoy a quickie, sex outdoors is nothing if not exhilarating. Just be aware that having sex in a public place or anywhere open to the public may be illegal where you live. That’s why the best place to indulge in alfresco sex is a secluded beach – provided that no one can see!
If you feel like having a romp in nature and can find a secluded spot, I covered all of the best positions to try in my guide to having sex in the woods.
Much of the thrill of outdoor sex comes from the ‘exhibitionism’ aspect, which is where being seen naked or engaged in sexual activities by others leads to arousal. Exposing yourself to others without their consent is a sex crime and is illegal, but there are several ways to do this legally and safely.
You may like to invite someone you trust to watch you while you and your partner are being intimate, aka the ‘Peeping Tom’ (shown above). If you’re feeling really brave and both you and your partner are open to the idea, you may like to try cam sex and get your kicks from having others watch you while you become intimate.
Non-consensual voyeurism is a form of sexual abuse and is 100% illegal; you should never view others without their consent or take photos or videos without their permission. However, it is okay to get turned on by watching someone else (such as your partner) while they are nude or engaging in sexual activities, provided they consent to it.
There are multiple ways to make voyeurism a part of your sex life. You may like to watch your partner while they masturbate, which is a great way to learn more about what types of touch and sensations they enjoy. If they are open to it, you may like to watch them be sexual with someone else such as a friend, lover, or even a sex worker.
9. Anal massage
Booty play is certainly more accepted than it once was, but ‘venturing south’ is still considered taboo by most of society. One of the tamer acts is anal massage. It’s a great foreplay act that offers heightened pleasure and bigger orgasms for all genders.
If you or your partner are a little squeamish about butt stuff, it may help to start thinking about the butt as an erogenous surface – like a nipple – rather than a hole. Agreeing to stay outside only will take the pressure off and help you both relax and have fun. You’ll soon discover a new world of pleasure.
Start with a well-lubricated toy or finger and use small gentle motions on and around the butt and perineum. When you’re ready to venture a little deeper, check out my ultimate guide to anal fingering where I offer eight mind-blowing tips for giving and receiving anal pleasure!
Anal massage feels fantastic to give and receive, but eating ass or ‘rimming’ feels even better. While it’s still considered taboo by most people, using your tongue to pleasure your partner’s butthole is a fun foreplay act that feels amazing, no matter what your sexual persuasion.
Before rimming, the receiving partner should shower or, at the very least, uses an antibacterial wipe. The ‘giver’ can add some flavored lube and start licking, stroking, and toying their partner’s asshole to give masses of pleasure. Check out my complete guide to licking ass to discover my best rimming tips.
11. Bondage and BDSM
Intimate, romantic sex feels incredible, but bondage sex can be way more exciting. If you’ve always fantasized about tying your partner up or being tied up, then bondage sex is worth indulging in.
Bondage sex is part of BDSM, which stands for bondage, discipline, dominance, and submission. It typically involves safely restraining your partner, blindfolding them, and teasing them, while adding some intense stimulation such as tickling, stroking, and oral sex. Bondage sex may lead to some type of impact play (see below) but doesn’t have to.
You can try bondage sex spontaneously with anything you have to hand – a necktie, silk scarf, or belt – but make sure you set a safe word first. As a precaution, tie bows instead of knots as they can be undone in an instant. And always leave a one-finger gap between the restraint and your partner’s skin.
If you enjoy bondage sex and want to take things to the next level, a set of under-bed restraints, cuffs, or even a spreader bar, can help you live out your 50-Shades-of-Grey fantasies in the comfort of your bedroom, living room, hotel room, or anywhere else you please. Learn more in my complete guide to Bondage Sex.
12. Impact play
Once you’ve tied your partner up, the prospect of slapping, spanking, or even whipping them can seem irresistible. This is known as impact play, and it one of the most exciting taboos you can break. As with bondage and BDSM sex, you need to set and abide by a safe word before experimenting with any form of impact play. This will keep things fun and consensual.
You don’t have to tie your partner up to start experimenting with impact play, but it helps. I suggest starting with some simple spanking and taking things from there. Get my best tips for erotic spanking here.
If you want things to progress a little further with restraints and more intense form of impact, I covered mainstream toys such as paddles, riding crops, and floggers in my Illustrated Guide to BDSM play.
13. Being degraded
If experiencing pain and humiliation turns you on, then being degraded may be the sex act for you. Rough sex is one of the best ways to feel ‘used’ as you can explore your feelings and internalized shame safely.
If you’ve always secretly harbored a longing to be treated like worthless trash, check out my guide to giving a kneeling blowjob. Learning how to give the ultimate facial is sure to make you feel like a complete slut.
One of the most powerful aspects of BDSM play is choking, but it can also be one of the most dangerous if you don’t know what you’re doing. Choking helps you build trust and intimacy while giving you a hot, intense feeling of being degraded and dominated. Having your airway lightly restricted by someone you trust can give you a delightful rush.
The caveat is that choking must be consensual and should never block or restrict your partner’s airways. It’s best to touch your partner on their upper chest rather than around their neck or throat. You should aim to give your partner the sensation of being choked, not the real deal.
If you fancy being the one who’s doing the choking, make sure your partner’s on board first and set a safe word or ‘safe action’ that lets them communicate that things are getting too rough.
Spitting in your partner’s mouth or on their body can be an incredible turn-on, especially if you enjoy being dominant. Being on the receiving end can seem degrading, but it can also be a sweet way to show submission and build trust, provided it’s with someone you trust sexually.
In my experience, having a threesome of one of the most commonly wished-for taboo sex acts. Whether you’re single and want to join a couple, or in a relationship and want to invite a friend, threesomes are the ultimate taboo for many.
If wishing turns into trying, be sure to check out my guide to the Hottest Threesome Positions to Try.
Having sex with people outside your relationship is seen as off-limits by most, but it’s perfectly normal. Discovering the swingers’ lifestyle can breathe fresh air into a long-term relationship, provided both partners are open to the idea.
Sex clubs and sex parties offer a way to safely ‘hard swap’ with other couples. The important thing is to maintain communication before and after and always practice safe sex.
Despite being normal and natural, squirting is one of the most shameful and secretive of female bodily functions. There is very little research into this phenomenon.
I’ve helped hundreds of couples unlock the secrets of squirting and the one thing I’ve found is that almost every woman can squirt, even those who have spent years thinking they couldn’t. What I’ve learned is that there’s no single ‘magic method’ to squirting; some women prefer gentle motions, some harder pressure. Most women squirt from having their G-spot stimulated, but some can squirt from rubbing the clitoris and a few can squirt from anal stimulation.
The one common theme I’ve noticed is that technique that leads to squirting for any one person usually causes a weird, unfamiliar feeling of tension inside. Like a ‘queasiness’ or ‘having-to-pee’ sensation. It usually takes time and a lot of practice for this feeling to start becoming pleasurable.
When squirting happens, it feels amazing, but in a completely different way to having an orgasm. It feels like an intense pressure that builds to a release. Your thoughts and worries disappear for a while as you surrender to the moment and just let go.
Most women find that the messiness helps them become more intimate with their partner and some report becoming emotional.
If you want to experience squirting for yourself, or help your partner squirt, check out my complete guide to giving any woman a squirting orgasm to learn how.
19. Anal sex
While anal sex isn’t quite the taboo it once was, it’s still an ‘off-limits’ act for most people, even those who are open to anal massage or rimming. Many folks hear the term ‘anal sex’ and immediately think of deep, thrusting, ‘porn-like’, penetration. But gentle anal penetration can be a great ‘ingredient’ in the bedroom and make orgasms easier to achieve and more intense.
Having talked to hundreds of men and women who enjoy anal penetration, my number one insight is that it feels best when the receiving partner can control the depth and speed, at least to begin with. I call this the ‘push-back’ method; the penetrating partner keeps their finger/penis/toy completely still and the receiving partner backs onto it and controls the motion. They can progress at their own pace.
Anal sex has plenty of little-known benefits for men and women. For men, it stimulates the prostate – or P-spot – and can lead to some blissful P-spot orgasms. For women, anal sex stimulates their A-spot (near their cervix) and can lead to powerful orgasms and even squirting, if combined with clitoral and G-spot stimulation (from a finger or toy).
If you want to try A-level yourself or with a partner, check out my comprehensive guide How To Prepare For Anal Sex which is packed full of tips and tricks that you can use to make the experience comfortable and pain-free. As you gain experience, you can try different Anal Sex Positions until you find one that works.
Pegging is what anal sex was 20 years ago and is fast gaining popularity. It refers to the act of a woman using a strapon dildo to penetrate their male partner anally. It’s a wonderful, intimate act that can help any girlfriend or wife feel closer to their boyfriend or husband. It requires plenty of trust and can bring any couple closer together.
If you’re a guy who’s curious about letting your other half penetrate you with a strap-on, or a girl who’s always wanted to bend your guy over and take control, my illustrated guide to Anal Training offers plenty of pointers for preparing for the occasion.
Just like anal sex, pegging can lead to powerful P-spot orgasms for men, and it’s just as exhilarating for women too. Women who’ve tried it report amazing levels of power and sexiness that are super-hot. Using a feel-doe vibrator can give them plenty of amazing clitoral and G-spot stimulation at the same time, leading to explosive orgasms as they thrust.
If you were curious about taboo sex acts, hopefully, this guide has given you some good inspiration. When it comes to sex, there’s really no such thing as normal. Everyone has their own desires and kinks, so providing you keep things legal and consensual, breaking these taboos should help you transform your sex life.
Want to share your favorite taboo? Tell me about it below – I’d love to hear from you.