How to Give Her a Squirting Orgasm: The Complete Guide

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How to Give Her a Squirting Orgasm: The Complete Guide

Orgasms are great, and there’s nothing better than bringing your woman to climax. But what if I told you that you could bring your partner to climax as she squirts? What if I told you that this would bring her immense pleasure?

If you want to bring your partner to the heights of pleasure… If you want her to be screaming with joy as her pussy throbs… If you want her to squirt while she climaxes… You’ve come to the right place.

This guide will teach you everything you need to know about making her squirt and giving her one of the best orgasms of her life.

But first…

What is Squirting?

Squirting is the flow of tasteless, odorless liquid from the female urethra. It can be anywhere from a trickle to a stream to a gush.

And contrary to popular belief, the fluid that flows from her as she squirts is not urine.

So, what is it?

There’s still a bit of debate in the scientific community about squirting. But more recent analysis on the composition of the fluids has helped to shed some light on the confusion.

While the gush of fluid does come from the urethra, it’s actually produced by the Skene’s gland. And while there may be small amounts of urine present in the gush, it’s more so a liquid that scientists are still trying to identify.

Here’s a direct quote from a 2017 study on the topic:

“Biochemically, the fluid emitted during orgasm showed all the parameters found in prostate plasma in contrast to the values measured in voided urine.”

The Anatomy of Squirting

There are two structures directly involved in squirting. Let’s take a closer look at the anatomy one by one.

The G-Spot

Ever since the existence of a g-spot was introduced to the scientific community, it was often regarded as a myth.

In more recent years, however, the existence of the g-spot has been proven time and again. And its role in squirting orgasms has been even more firmly established.

But what is the g-spot?

The g-spot, also known as the Gräfenberg spot (for the gynecologist who discovered it), is a spongy, slightly bulbous spot at the top of the vagina. It’s similar to the male prostate in that when stimulated, it can produce a powerful, whole-body orgasm.

One thing often misunderstood is that the g-spot is not its own freestanding structure. It’s actually part of the clitoris.

You’re likely familiar with the clitoris as the small, nubby structure at the very opening of your partner’s vulva. The clitoris has millions of nerve endings which makes it a great spot to tickle and massage to bring her to an intense orgasm.

But the clitoris on you see on the outside is only a small part of the structure. The rest of the clitoral structure is hidden within the female anatomy, and a part of that even extends to the vagina.

It’s believed by many scientists, then, that the g-spot is actually an internal extension of the clitoral structure.

The Skene’s Gland

The Skene’s gland is where the tasteless, odorless fluids that your partner squirts are believed to reside. It’s systematically similar to the male prostate, as the prostate is where male ejaculate is stored prior to climax.

What is a Squirting Orgasm?

Now that you know what squirting is, the answer to this question seems quite obvious.

If squirting is the flow of tasteless, odorless liquid from the urethra, then a squirting orgasm is the same flow but during a climax.

So you may be wondering, “is it common to squirt without orgasming?” And the answer to that is yes.

We also wrote an article about “how common is squirting” here.

While most women will squirt at the same time as they climax, there are some women who will squirt prior to a climax. They may also squirt without having an orgasm at all.

The goal, however, is to get your partner to have a squirting orgasm. This can be immensely pleasurable and satisfying.

How to Give Her a Squirting Orgasm

If you want to bring your partner to an intense orgasm that drenches your bed sheets in her liquids, then take a look at the tips below.

Get Her in the Mood

It’s not enough to perform the physical techniques, as described below. You must also get her emotionally and mentally prepared for the encounter.

Women tend to place a higher value on emotional connection and intimacy during a sexual encounter. That doesn’t mean they don’t value the physical aspects, but it’s difficult for them to enjoy without the emotional connection.

This is why you must get her into the right mindset if you want her to squirt.

What does this look like?

The most important thing you can do with your partner prior to an attempt at a squirting orgasm is to build trust.

Your partner must trust you in order to open up such an intimate part of herself.

You also want to create a relaxing environment. This means removing all outside distractions (e.g., cell phones, televisions, etc.) and creating her very own oasis within your home. You can even add a few of her personal favorites – a spritz of her favorite perfume, her favorite song playing softly on the radio – to increase the intimacy and comfort of the moment.

Relaxing candles help set the mood for erotic massage

But the most important tip of all is to read her body language.

If you can’t already read her body language quite well, then getting her to squirt will be difficult. It’s also an important part of creating a relaxing environment, though.

When you can read her body language, you can adjust the environment to fit her needs at the moment. You can meet her exactly where she needs you, and this will go a long way in furthering that trust and emotional connection.

Enhance Her Arousal

While it’s not true of every woman, it’s true that many women tend to require a bit more to get their engine’s revving. With that in mind, there are things you can do to enhance her arousal prior to your session.

  • Send her dirty texts throughout the day
  • Whisper what you’d like to do to her in public
  • Read erotic literature together
  • Watch pornography together (and let her pick her favorite)
  • Give her an erotic massage

And this tip leads directly to the next…

Don’t Skimp on the Foreplay

Now that she’s aroused, she’s good and ready to go. Right? Not so. Even if you followed the arousal techniques above, it’s still a good idea to lead into sex with some foreplay.

Foreplay is important due to both the physical and emotional aspects. It will help your partner to transition from her many everyday roles to just one: your lover.

Man biting womans ear turns her on and makes her wet

You don’t need to be creative. There are plenty of classics you can rely on. For example:

  • Making out
  • Heavy petting
  • Fingering
  • Dirty talk

You can even start foreplay hours (or days!) in advance with dirty text messages, video calls, and suggestive pictures.

Hit the Right Spots

Sure, it’s possible to get your partner to a squirting orgasm through clitoral stimulation. For most women, though, there’s one spot in particular that will get the job done: the g-spot.

But how does stimulating the g-spot also lead to squirting?

Right next to the g-spot is a more recently discovered structure: the Skene’s gland.

By stimulating the g-spot, you also indirectly stimulate the Skene’s gland. This means good things if you want her to squirt.

Do you want to increase the odds of hitting the sweet spot and getting her to a gushing orgasm? Then stimulate the clitoris and the g-spot simultaneously. You can do so yourself with vaginal penetration, fingering, or oral sex. But sex toys can also be a great help.

Invest in High-Quality Lube

Too much of a good thing is usually bad. But when it comes to preparing your partner for a squirting orgasm, there’s no such thing as too much lube.

If you’ve followed the tips above about preparing your partner for the encounter, then you might feel that lube is unnecessary. After all, her arousal juices should be enough, right?

All women are different. Some women produce a lot of their own natural lubricants, while others don’t. And even if they do, the use of lubricants can take a lot of the pressure off of her.

There are plenty of lubricants on the market, and there are many different types.

Applying massage oil

The two most common are silicone-based and water-based lubes. There are also flavored lubes, scented lubes, and ‘all-natural’ lubes.

There are even lubes that deliver a warm and/or cool sensation upon application.

The best lube, though, is the one that works for you and your partner.

NOTE: If using condoms, be sure that your lubricant is compatible. Silicone-based lubricants can break down the condom, while water-based lubes are often safe with both latex and non-latex condoms.

To use the lubricant for a g-spot orgasm, apply a nickel-sized amount to your fingertip. Insert your fingertip into her vagina, and slowly begin to flick the g-spot.

You can always add more fingers as she becomes more aroused, and you should add more lube at regular intervals to ensure she remains comfortable. After all, there’s nothing more unpleasant than having a finger catch against her vaginal walls, or tugging that can happen when there isn’t enough lubricant.

Introduce Sex Toys

Speaking of sex toys, let’s take a look at a few, which can make it easier for your partner to achieve a mind-blowing squirting orgasm.


A vibrator is a simple tool that’s used by millions of women (and men) worldwide. So how can it get your partner to squirt?

The versatility of the vibrator makes it easy!

A vibrator can be inserted into the vagina, used on the clitoris, or even used on the lips of the pussy as a tease.

The most direct route is to insert it into the vagina. If you insert it at just the right angle, it can stimulate the g-spot directly.

Even if you enter at an angle that doesn’t include direct contact with the g-spot, the vibrations can still provide indirect stimulation. And if used to completion, this will bring her to a deeper, more satisfying orgasm.

Rabbit vibrator in hand

You can also use the vibrator on her clitoris while simultaneously stimulating her g-spot. The combination will be an intense, but deeply internal, orgasm that results in a gush of her sweet fluids.

G-Spot Stimulator

I mentioned above that one of the best ways to get your partner to squirt is by stimulating the g-spot. The fluid which is produced during the squirting is from a structure that’s very close to the g-spot – the Skene’s gland – after all.

You can (and should) stimulate her g-spot with your finger and your penis. It might not always be enough, though. In that case, a g-spot stimulator is your new best friend.

A g-spot stimulator is similar to a dildo in that it’s inserted into the vagina. The difference, though, is the special attachment which a g-spot stimulator has to, well, stimulate the g-spot.

If you want to take it up a notch, you can also get a g-spot stimulator that vibrates. This will further intensify the squirting climax your partner is sure to have.

Find the Right Position

It’s common, especially in the beginning, to use manual stimulation to get your partner to squirt. It’s possible for your partner to squirt from sex, though.


The key is the find the right sex position.

The ‘right’ position will depend on many factors, though there are some positions that are more ‘squirt friendly’ than others. Which ones? Let’s take a look.

Missionary Position

If your partner is nervous about squirting, then the missionary (and similar) position is a great place to start.

I mentioned above that trust and intimacy are important for women during sex, but especially when squirting. It can be difficult for a woman to get to the point where she can fully let go unless she feels emotionally and mentally connected. Sex positions can put you and her face to face, though, can make it much easier to build that connection.

In the missionary position, you and your partner will be incredibly close. There will be enough room between you two, though, that your hands (and hers) can easily wander.

Allow her to explore your body and also encourage her to explore herself. You can even tell her how much it turns you on when she touches herself.

While missionary may not give you the greatest depth, it does position the penis in such a way as to rub against the g-spot on each thrust. This will slowly bring her closer to climax and, hopefully, a squirting orgasm.

The Cowgirl

If your partner still wants to be face-to-face, but she wants more control than what missionary position allows, then try cowgirl.

As the name suggests, the cowgirl position is when the female mounts her male partner’s dick. She then rides the dick, either by lightly bouncing up and down or grinding on it.

There are two reasons that the cowgirl position is great for achieving a squirting orgasm.

  1. The face-to-face nature of the position still brings with it intimacy.
  2. The ability for her to grind means she can target her g-spot and clitoris at the same time.

The Butterfly

Intimacy is important, but face-to-face intimacy isn’t always necessary for your female partner. In that case, I’d suggest you give the butterfly position a try.

To get into position, have your partner lie on her back with her ass at the very edge of the bed. As you approach her, she’ll lift her legs and place them on your shoulders.

Now place your hands on her bum, and lift her up slightly. This will bring her pussy into position with your penis.

You can now begin to thrust into her. For the purposes of g-spot stimulation, you can go deep or shallow. It’s likely that you’ll find her sweet spot right in the middle of those two depths.

The Sandwich

A variation of the butterfly position is the sandwich.

Just like in the butterfly, your partner will lie flat on her back with her ass at the very edge of the bed. You’ll approach her, but instead of her placing her legs on your shoulders, she’ll bend them at the knees and bring them up to her torso.

You may need to adjust her hips to tilt forward slightly, but then you can enter her and thrust away.

The benefit of this position over the butterfly is the angle with which your penis will enter her vagina. In this position, you’ll be much more likely to hit her g-spot with minimal effort.

Doggy Style

This position seems contrary to the advice in the rest of this section, but doggy style seems to work for many women.


One of the best ways to bring your partner to climax, and to have her squirt at the same time, is with dual stimulation. This means stimulating the g-spot and clitoris at the same time.

And, you guessed it, doggy style is the ideal position for this.

While the angle of the penis isn’t ideal (i.e., it doesn’t brush against the g-spot as vigorously as it could), the man can reach around and stimulate his partner’s clit. He can hit both spots at the same time, which makes it more likely for her to achieve a squirting orgasm.

The other great thing about doggy style is you can adjust your position as you see fit.

Have her on all fours, back straight, if you want your thrusts to go deeper. Or have her arch or cave in her back for more shallow thrusts that more rigorously stimulate the g-spot.

Advanced Technique: Erotic Massage for a Squirting Orgasm

As I’ve mentioned throughout this article, there’s one thing that a woman must do if she’s to achieve a squirting orgasm: relax.

The best way to do that? With an erotic, full-body massage.

What is Erotic Massage?

If massage is the manipulation of the body’s soft tissues, then erotic massage is the manipulation of the body’s most sensitive soft tissues.

But even more than that, erotic massage is a time for your partner to relax and fully de-stress. It can also bring her (and you) more in tune with her body.

Erogenous Zones

To know how to give a spine-tingling massage, you need to know where her most sensitive spots are. These spots are also known as erogenous zones.

The seven erogenous zones are the:

  1. Lips
  2. Ears
  3. Neck
  4. Lower back/buttocks
  5. Breast/nipples
  6. Inner thighs
  7. Clitoris

You should use your time during an erotic massage to pay special attention to these zones, and even tease them as you work.

How to Give an Erotic Massage

You’ll need a few things before you begin.

First, you’ll need a calm environment. This can be your bedroom, living room, or really anywhere you can make quiet and relaxing.

Second, you’ll need a high-quality massage oil. You can use oils such as coconut or almond oil, or you can use an oil designed specifically for massage.

Third, you’ll need patience. It’s important that you use this time to focus on your lover and her enjoyment.

And if this is your first time, you’re probably wondering what techniques you should use. That’s where the Orgasmic Potential (OP) massage comes in.

The OP massage is just as it sounds — a massage technique that will help your partner to discover her true orgasmic potential. It focuses extensively on the erogenous zones.

Ayuvedic massage with oils

These are the areas you should focus on in particular:

  • Shoulders and neck
  • Under the shoulder blade
  • Down the back
  • On the top of the buttocks
  • On her back
  • Just below the collar bone
  • At the top of the breast
  • On the bottom of the breast
  • Under the bottom of the rib cage
  • The V at the top of the pubic bone
  • Along the inside of the upper thigh in line with the vagina


As you work your way down her body, you’ll want to have her inhale and exhale at key times. For example, you should have her exhale at these particular points:

  • Under the shoulder blade
  • Just below the collar bone
  • Under the bottom of the rib cage

You can even have her work on a breathing pattern, such as 4-7-8 (breathe in for four seconds, hold the breath for seven seconds, and exhale for eight seconds).

You shouldn’t consider this technique a one-time thing, though. You should perform this several times per month and watch as she blossoms in the bedroom.

Kegel Exercises: A Tip for Women Looking to Squirt

If you’re a woman who has stumbled across this article in hopes of squirting, then welcome!

While the majority of the tips above are aimed at men, the tips can also be co-opted by women.

You and your partner should work together to make the environment as relaxed and stress-free as possible. But there’s something you can do on your own to improve the odds of squirting.

Kegel Exercises

Kegels are a group of exercises that target the pubococcygeus muscles or pelvic floor. The exercises aim to strengthen these muscles so as to prevent prolapse.

Another use of these exercises, though, is to prepare you for a squirting orgasm.

When a woman has strengthened her pelvic floor muscles, she has more control over them during sex and intimacy. This can make sex more enjoyable for her, as well as her partner.

How to Perform Kegels

Kegel exercises are something that can be done anywhere, anytime. To get the idea of what muscles you’re targeting, though, I’d recommend you practice the next time you’re urinating.

As you urinate, cut off the stream about halfway through. The pulling sensation you feel when you do this is the sensation you should feel when performing your kegel exercises.

Now that you know what sensation to look for, here are a few kegel tips.

Perform kegels in short bursts. A five-minute session (or five, one-minute sessions) on a daily basis is enough to strengthen the muscles.

You should also vary the exercise. If you normally clench and unclench the muscles in quick succession, then consider clenching the muscle and holding for a count of ten. This will work the muscles more deeply.

The more you work the muscles, the stronger they’ll be. This will give you greater control during your attempts at squirting.

Advanced Kegels

Are you looking for more of a challenge? You can also add kegel exercises to your normal exercise routine. Here’s how.

Lie flat on your back on a stable surface, such as a floor. Bend your knees and place them shoulder-width apart.

Place your hands, palm down, firmly on the ground. Now lift up your pelvis (using your feet and hands for stability), and continue to lift until your torso creates a slope with your knees.

Hold this position, and perform your usual kegel exercises.

If you want to make it more difficult, you can make this a dynamic exercise.

As you lift your pelvis, clench your pelvic floor muscles. Hold them through the entirety of the lift, and then release them as you bring your pelvis back down to the floor. Repeat ten times.

Frequently Asked Questions About Squirting

Do you have burning questions about squirting? I’ve got answers!

Is Squirting Healthy?

Squirting can seem intense, and perhaps even exploitative.

But squirting is actually a natural, healthy experience.

The hormones released when a woman squirts (and orgasms) are biologically healthy in that they help to release stress and lower anxiety.

And the fact that a woman is able to squirt with you indicates that there is a healthy emotional bond, as well. This can provide a boost to your relationship.

It takes a lot for a woman to trust you enough to squirt in your presence. After all, it’s a vulnerable time. But once that fear of judgment has been removed, you can begin to experience a stronger, more healthy relationship.

Can All Women Squirt?

The million-dollar question.

It’s possible, biologically speaking, for all women to squirt. They have the physical elements (g-spot, Skene’s gland), which makes it possible. But that doesn’t mean that it will happen.

There are some cases where a woman may be unable to squirt due to an inability to trust her partner. Or there are cases where a woman has suffered physical or emotional trauma, which makes the task almost impossible.

But assuming your partner is a willing participant, and that you’re using the techniques above, it is possible to make her squirt.

What Should I Do While She’s Squirting?

You’ve made your partner squirt — jackpot! But now what?

Your partner is at her most vulnerable when she’s actively squirting. You don’t want to interrupt her positive experience by doing something wrong, then.

So, what can you do to support her physically and emotionally during this moment?

Physically speaking, it’s best to continue with the activity you were doing just before she began to squirt. You want to maintain the same speed and intensity so as to help her ride the wave of pleasure for as long as possible.

A woman screaming with pleasure from an orgasm

DO NOT act surprised or grossed out, by the experience. This can turn her off from squirting entirely, and it will certainly do damage to your relationship.

Support her by bringing her to completion, and then holding her closely as she comes down from the high.

She Says She Has to Pee. Is That True?

A common ‘complaint’ of women who are having trouble letting go and squirting is that they feel they have to urinate right before the climax. The intensity of the feeling can be off-putting to most women, and it can make it difficult for her to fully let go.

The good news? It’s quite difficult for a woman to pee when she’s aroused. So that feeling is actually the need to squirt and not the immediate need to relieve her bladder.

Even with this knowledge, though, many women will be scared to let it happen. This comes down to her comfort level with you and your relationship.

So what can you do to ease her fears?

Reassure her that even if it is pee, it doesn’t matter. You won’t be grossed out, and you want her to let go of herself and experience the moment fully.

Further Learning – Video Lessons

The above guide teaches you everything you need to know if you want to help your partner have a squirting orgasm. But of course, there’s always more to learn.

That’s why I’ve created an in-depth course on the topic, and it’s called Squirting Triggers 2.0. With demonstration videos, e-books, and audio clips, this course will provide you with all the tools and knowledge you need to become your partner’s best lover.

You’ve read the article, but the best way to learn is not from reading, it’s from watching.

In fact, watching video demonstrations with an expert is the best way to learn.

See if you’re suitable to join by clicking below.


Laura Rose Halliday

Laura Rose Halliday started The School Of Squirt back in 2012 and has been running the website and digital courses along with Jakob Wulfe since then. She is a full time sex writer, researcher and practicer.

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  1. My girl squirts, but it doesn’t happen everytime. I’ll have to give these techniques a shot, especially the massage!!

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