There are many questions around the topic of squirting. For example: What is squirting? Can all women squirt? How do I make her squirt on my first try?
But perhaps one of the most asked questions on the topic, and one of the most controversial, is: “Is squirting real?” You’ll be glad to know that squirting is very real and, for many women, it’s very possible to achieve.
Are you ready to learn more about squirting? Then this guide is for you. This illustrated guide will introduce you to squirting. It will expose common myths on the topic, as well as answer frequently asked questions.
Most importantly, this guide will show you how to get your partner tonight.
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What is Squirting?
In technical terms, squirting is defined as “the discharge of a noticeable amount of fluid from the urethra.” This occurs after a variable time of sexual stimulation, and it’s often linked to g-spot stimulation.
Is Squirting Real?
Now that you know how squirting is defined, let’s answer the question that many men and women wonder: “Is squirting real?”
The short answer? Yes.
Now for the long answer: Squirting is a real, scientifically confirmed phenomena. It occurs when a gush of liquid flows from the urethra during sexual excitation, and it may or may not occur at the same time as an orgasm.
The confusion doesn’t seem to be around whether squirting is real or not. Instead, it seems to be based around the definition of squirting and exactly what squirting is. For years, it’s been believed that the fluid associated with squirting is urine. That is, a woman who squirts is actually urinating during sexual stimulation.
The real composition of squirting fluid is more complicated than that, however. It’s true that the fluid associated with squirting does come from the bladder. In addition, it contains urea, creatinine, and uric acid, all of which are found in urine. But that’s not the only things found in the fluids. In fact, a particularly protein which is associated with male ejaculation, Prostate-specific antigen (PSA), is also found in the fluid produced from female squirting.
This protein is believed to come not from the urethra, but from the Skene’s gland. The Skene’s gland (or more accurately, Skene’s glands) are glands located on the anterior wall of the vagina, near the base of the urethra’s opening. It’s believed that the Skene’s gland releases its own fluids at the same time as the bladder. This is what marks the difference between a woman urinating and a woman squirting.
4 Myths Associated with Squirting
There are a lot of misconceptions about squirting, especially as its portrayed by the media. But I’m here to clear up the confusion.
Myth #1: Squirting is Fake
I covered this briefly above in the section on “Is Squirting Real?” But there’s no doubt that this myth requires further discussion. The most common association that many men and women have with squirting is what they’ve seen in pornography. Just as with anything else portrayed in pornography, though, squirting is dramatized.
The woman in pornography often have torrential, gushing squirts that seem to go on forever. They will also often convey the fact that they’re having the most intense orgasm of their life at the same time.
It’s true that the amount of squirting which happens will vary from woman to woman, and even from session to session. But let’s get one thing clear: The squirting that’s portrayed in pornography is often far from reality.
So will your partner have an intense squirting climax that leaves you, herself, your bed, and everything within 10 feet drenched in her fluids? Unlikely. That doesn’t mean that squirting is fake, though.
It helps if you think of squirting in pornography the same way you think of orgasms. You know orgasms are real, but they’re overplayed by pornography models. The same can be said for squirting, but this shouldn’t discourage you from getting your partner to squirt.
Myth #2: Only a “certain type” of woman can squirt
It’s true that pornography has seriously altered the way men and women view sex. A particular way in which its done so is by portraying a certain image of a woman who can squirt.
Squirting is often thought to be a rare phenomena, and one that only ‘experienced’ woman can achieve. The truth is that just about any woman can squirt under the right circumstances.
Myth #3: If she squirted, she orgasmed
It’s commonly thought that squirting = orgasm. But as many squirters will tell you, that’s not always the case.
Is is possible to squirt and orgasm simultaneously? Of course! It’s not a requirement that you orgasm at the same time as you squirt, however. In fact, many women can squirt multiple times before they reach climax. How’s that for amazing?!
There are things you can do to increase the chances of her having a squirting orgasm, though it’s never guaranteed. A few tips include:
- Stimulating her clitoris
- Practice edging
- Use a sex toy (e.g. vibrator, nipple clamps, etc.)
If you can’t get her to squirt and orgasm at the same time, does that mean you’ve failed? Absolutely not! It may be that your partner just isn’t conditioned to do that. Or perhaps you and her just need to get more practice (*wink, wink*).
Myth #4: Squirting can only occur with g-spot stimulation
There’s no doubt that for many women g-spot stimulation is the easiest way to get her to squirt. It’s not the only way, however. The g-spot is the fleshy nub located towards the opening of the vagina. When the woman is aroused, the g-spot will even fill with blood and seemingly grow larger.
Does this sound familiar? If you know anything about female anatomy, then this may sound similar to how the clitoris fills with blood during female arousal.
Why? Because the g-spot is actually thought to be an extension of the clitoris.
When we speak of the clitoris, we’re referring to the small, spongy structure at the top of the vulva. This is only just a small part of the clitoris, though, as the majority of it is internal. So even if your girl is only used to squirting from g-spot stimulation, it may be a lot easier to get her to squirt from clitoral stimulation than you both think.
In some cases, you may even get her to squirt with nipple stimulation or anal intercourse. So if you and your girl are happy with the way things currently are, great. But you can also play around with a few other techniques to see if you can get her to squirt in different ways.
How to Get Her to Squirt
Are you interested in bringing your female partner to a squirting orgasm? Or maybe you’re a female who wants to experience one herself. Let’s look at ways to make that happen.
Get Her in the Right Frame of Mind
Squirting is just as much (if not more) about the emotional connection as it’s the physical connection. This is why it’s crucial that you get your partner in the right frame of mind if you want her to squirt.
What does this mean?
The act of squirting is a very intimate experience. It leaves her in a vulnerable position, and it’s often thought of as shameful. This is why you must have your partner’s full trust before you move forward.
How can you gain her trust?
- Reassure her. It’s unfortunate, but many women think of squirting as a shameful act. This is why you must reassure her that you want her to enjoy herself fully. You should also let her know you aren’t worry about the “mess” associated with squirting.
- Talk about her fears. What is she most worried about? Is she scared you’ll make fun of her? Or maybe she’s concerned about the mess. Once you know what her hangups are, you can confront them head on.
- Make yourself vulnerable. How can you expect her to be vulnerable if you aren’t vulnerable in return? So open up to your partner about your own insecurities and fears. You may even consider doing some sex acts that you may have previously been uncomfortable with if it means opening yourself up more emotionally and physically to her.
And remember that actions speak louder than words. You must back up everything you say with your actions if you want her to truly feel comfortable opening herself up to you.
Get Her Warmed Up
Once she’s prepared emotionally, it’s time to get her physically ready to squirt. One way to do so is with extensive foreplay. Foreplay is an important part of any sexual encounter.
It gives the woman time to get into the right headspace, and it also prepares her physically by ensuring she has enough natural lubricant. While foreplay can sometimes seem like a chore, especially if you’re ready to go, it’s a great way to build up that sexual tension and ensure a more explosive climax for the both of you.
Did you think that steamy makeout sessions were just for teens? Think again!
A hot makeout session can be a great way to get your partner warmed up and ready to go. The lips are a very sensual spot, after all. But a makeout session is also a fun way to show her just how much you want her.
So if you’re looking to build the anticipation, then add a makeout session to your list.
Is your partner particularly tense? If she sensitive to touch? Or perhaps she’s just always up for something new. Erotic massage is the answer to all of the above, and more!
The good news is that erotic massage is very easy to do with very little training. There are tips, however, that can make this time even more special for your partner. For example:
- Learn about the erogenous zones. The erogenous zones are the most sensitive spots of a woman’s body. They include the obvious (e.g. nipples, clitoris) and the not-so-obvious (e.g. ears, neck, arch of the back). If you pay special attention to these areas during massage, you’re bound to turn her on quickly.
- Take your time. You want your partner to fully relax and open herself up to you. This will take time and patience, but the results are totally worth it.
- Use massage oils. To increase the intensity of your touch, and to make it easier to glide your hands across your lover’s skin, you should consider using a massage oil. Oils come in many different types, such as water-based and synthetic. You can even get scented oils, like lavender or vanilla.
- Incorporate sex toys. An erotic massage should focus largely on soft, sensual touches. That doesn’t mean you can’t add in a sex toy or two from time to time. A clitoral stimulator, nipple clamps, or even a feather – these can add that extra jolt of pleasure that your partner craves.
Do you want to earn extra points with your lover? Give her an erotic massage without the thought of getting anything in return. This gives her a chance to really relax and enjoy herself. It also helps you to build your emotional bond.
I mentioned sex toys in the previous section. They’re certainly an interesting addition to an erotic massage session, but you can also add them to your usual foreplay routine.
With so many sex toys to choose from, there’s bound to be one that’s right for her. Do you need some inspiration? Here are a few types:
- Dildo. Who doesn’t love a good ol’ fashioned dildo? Dildos come in many shapes and sizes, so you and your partner can explore the many options to her heart’s content.
- Vibrator. Do you want to bring your partner from zero to 60 in no time at all? A vibrator can help you to achieve that, and so much more. Vibrators are a great way to sensitize her already sensitive spots (e.g. clitoris, nipples, vulva), and they can make her later climax even more intense.
- Paddles and whips. Are you and your partner interested in mild BDSM? Then paddles and whips are a great start.
- Restraints and blindfolds. An easy way to add suspense to your foreplay is with restraints and blindfolds. Use them to restrict her hands so you can explore her body freely. Or blindfold her as you make her guess just where on her body your mouth will go next.
It may take a few tries to find the toy that’s right for her.
Get in the Right Position
You can make your girl squirt with just about any sex position. There are some positions which are more conducive to squirting than others, though. This is because these positions hit the g-spot just right.
So which positions can you use to bring your woman unimaginable pleasure? Here’s a look at just a few.
While it may seem “boring,” missionary is actually a great position for first-time squirters.
Why? Missionary puts the man at just the right angle to hit her g-spot. But it also means the couple is face to face, and this is important for women who’re still uncomfortable with the idea of squirting.
As mentioned above, squirting is just as much about the emotional connection as it’s the physical. If you and your partner are new to squirting, the best thing you can do is to encourage the emotional connection.
If you’re looking for a ‘sexier’ take on missionary, then the butterfly sex position is a good bet.
In the butterfly position, the woman will lie flat on her back with her butt at the very edge of the bed. The man will then approach her from the front and slide his hands under her buttocks to tilt her slightly. The woman will place her feet on both shoulders, and the man can then penetrate her.
This position allows for deeper penetration. The man’s hand on the woman’s buttocks also allows him to massage a very sensual place which itself is very erotic.
Does your woman want to take control? After all, it’s a great way to get her comfortable and this may make it easier for her to squirt. If so, then cowgirl position is a great way to do so!
In cowgirl position, the man lies on his back. The woman straddles his hips so his erect penis is just below her pussy. She can then slowly guide his penis into her vagina and slide down the shaft.
With cowgirl position, the woman can ride with abandon. When she’s tired, the man can also take over by pumping.
The great thing about this position is the woman can adjust herself on her man’s penis until she’s hitting just the right angle. She can also ensure that the clitoris and the g-spot get some action for an out-of-this-world climax.
The cowgirl position is a great way to stare into your partner’s eyes as she grinds on your dick. But the reverse cowgirl can offer some great advantages, too.
As you might have guessed, reverse cowgirl requires the woman to straddle the man’s hips with her back facing towards him. The woman can then ride the man’s dick to her pleasure.
It’s not often that the man’s penis will be in his woman at this angle. This means it can hit new areas within her pussy and bring her to new levels of joy. And depending on the shape of your penis, it may even be easier for your penis to hit her g-spot from this angle.
Do you want to make it even more likely for your partner to squirt? In reverse cowgirl, you can reach around her hips and lightly flick her clitoris. You can use the other hand to gently squeeze and tease her nipples.
You may have tried the positions above, but you don’t seem to be hitting her sweet spot. What now?
The pushup position is similar to the missionary position in that the woman lies on her back while the man penetrates her. The difference is in her leg position (her legs are wrapped loosely around him in this position) and in her pelvic angle.
If you’re unable to hit her g-spot while in missionary, then the pushup position is for you. This is because you can easily tilt her pelvis to the exact right angle for her needs. Just place a pillow or wedge underneath her buttocks. She can then position herself until you’re hitting her g-spot just right.
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How to Make Yourself Squirt
Are you a woman interested in learning how to squirt on your own? Then you’ve come to the right place! Read on for some in-depth tips and tricks that you can use for your next self-love session.
It’s easy to become distracted by your usual day-to-day responsibilities. But for a successful squirting session, you’ll need to shut off your racing mind and embrace the calm.
What this looks like, and how it’s done, will vary from woman to woman. A few tips you may want to try:
- Take a few deep breaths. While lying down comfortably, breathe in for seven seconds. Hold your breath for four seconds, and then slowly exhale for eight seconds. This pattern of breathing is intentional, which means you’ll have to steady your mind to focus.
- Play a lowkey playlist. When you need to calm your thoughts and clear your mind from all other outside distractions, music can help. Just put your favorite playlist on repeat.
- Practice aromatherapy. Lavender and vanilla are popular choices when it comes to aromatherapy blends. You can diffuse them, or even just use a scented plug-in or room spray.
Only once you’ve brought yourself to a more relaxed state are you ready to move on.
Explore Yourself Freely
The female body is a beautiful thing. But for many women, they view their bodies as shameful. This means that many women aren’t acquainted with themselves, and this can be a big hindrance to squirting.
The good news? You can take the time to explore yourself freely. This means touching your most sensitive spots and finding what you like and what you don’t like.
Are you not sure how to start? Why not begin with the erogenous zones? These include:
- Lower back/buttocks
- Inner thighs
It may feel weird at first as you explore your body. This is especially true for spots you might not otherwise think of as erotic (like your ears and neck). But by taking the time to acquaint yourself with your body, you set yourself up for success.
Find the Sweet Spot
When it comes to squirting, I’d recommend you focus on two key areas: the clitoris, and the g-spot. The clitoris is easy enough to locate, but what about the g-spot? That can be a bit trickier.
One tip for making your exploration easier? Wait until you’re fully aroused. As mentioned above, the g-spot engorges when you’re aroused. This will make it much easier to find.
Once you’re aroused, you can then insert a finger or two (or even a sex toy, like a dildo) into your vaginal opening. The g-spot will be located on the top just past the opening, and it feels like a sponge.
Once you’ve found your g-spot, you can begin to learn what you like. Stimulate it with your fingers by making a ‘come hither’ motion. Or use a vibrator or dildo.
The majority of squirting fluids come from the bladder, so it can feel as if you urgently need to pee when you’re close to squirting. This is because the bladder fills up when it’s sent signals from the Skene’s gland that you’re close to ejaculation.
The good news? It’s not urine. So if you feel like you’re on the verge of peeing, keep going. Just be sure to empty your bladder right before your squirting session and you should be good to go!
Practice Makes Perfect
It’s not uncommon to require multiple sessions before you’re finally able to squirt. And that’s okay. The more you practice, the ‘better’ you’ll get. This is because you’ll become more attuned with your body. This also means that, should you ever want to squirt for your partner, you’ll be better able to guide them.
Frequently Asked Questions About Squirting
While we’ve covered some of the common myths about squirting, there are still a lot of questions on the topic. Let’s tackle a few of those FAQs now.
Can All Women Squirt?
The quick and dirty answer to whether all women are physically able to squirt is yes. The answer is a bit more complicated than just having the “right” physical parts, though.
As mentioned throughout this article, an important part of squirting is a strong emotional connection. Is it possible for some women to squirt without that connection? Sure. But the vast majority of women need that bond so as to open themselves up to such a vulnerable position.
So whether a woman can squirt or not is about more than just her physical ability to do so. If she’s not in the right mental space, then it’s unlikely to happen.
Is It Possible to Tell If a Woman if More Likely to Squirt?
There’s the obvious signs that a woman is more likely to squirt, such as she’s been able to squirt with prior partners or by yourself. But what if you’re not sure about her squirting status? Or if she’s never squirted previously?
One trick that’s often recommended is to look for dimples in the lower back, also known as squirter dimples or dimples of Venus.
The theory surrounding these dimples is that women who have them have a “stronger sexual energy.” That doesn’t mean that women without those dimples won’t be able to squirt. The theory suggests that it’ll be more difficult, though.
Is there scientific evidence to support this theory? Not exactly. But there’s plenty of anecdotal evidence supporting the ability of these women to orgasm more quickly. This suggests that the dimples may facilitate good circulation to her genitals.
Why Does She Feel Like She Needs to Pee?
A common concern of women who are just about to squirt, and the reason that many women hold back, is the intense feeling of needing to pee. The good news? Squirting is not urination (though a small bit of diluted pee may be mixed in from time to time). So the next time your partner feels like she needs to dash off in the middle of your lovemaking session, reassure her that you want her to let go.
What Should I Do While She’s Squirting?
When your partner first squirts, especially if she does so without warning, it can be a bit of a surprise. But whatever you do, don’t show yourself to be surprised or freaked out. That will only make her self conscious and less likely to squirt with you again.
What should you do while she’s squirting then? You don’t want to stop whatever you were doing to get her there, so keep up your rhythm whether that’s intercourse or fingering or using a sex toy.
You can also make her feel comfortable by giving her a ‘soft place to land’ as she comes down from her climax. Wrap your arms around her and hold her close. This will make her feel wanted, and it will add that emotional depth that so many women crave.
How Many Times Can She Squirt in One Night?
Are you gearing up for a night of intense lovemaking? Then perhaps you’re wondering just how many times you can get her to squirt. But the answer, just like with men, can vary.
Unlike men who can only ejaculate once per session, woman can squirt multiple times per session. She may even squirt before reaching climax, and again during it.
Just how many times she can squirt in one session will depend on many factors, though. If your partner has strong vaginal muscles (either naturally, or through kegel exercises), then she may be able to squirt four, five, or even six times! It’s also more likely for her to squirt multiple times if she’s squirted before in a prior session.
There are things she can do to increase the frequency of her squirting, which I’ll get to next…
Can She Get ‘Better’ At Squirting?
How can your partner increase the amount of times she’s likely to squirt in one session?
Kegel exercises may be the answer. Kegel exercises are exercises that strengthen the pelvic floor muscles. With stronger pelvic muscles, the woman may be able to control her ability to climax and to squirt. In fact, a strong pelvic floor can even mean more intense orgasms.
Now as to whether she can become a more intense squirter (from a dribble to a gusher) is up for debate. Just as men ejaculate differently — some in long streams, others in short bursts, etc. — so too can women squirt differently from other women.
Is your partner unable to squirt with the techniques above? The reason may be easy to address. Let’s look at some common issues you and your partner may be experiencing and how you can overcome them.
My Partner Doesn’t Enjoy G-spot Stimulation
For many women, g-spot stimulation can feel odd at first. After all, it’s an often overlooked spot. And while many women will come to love g-spot stimulation, still others may continue to feel odd about it.
The good news is, g-spot stimulation isn’t necessarily required for squirting. It may be easier for most woman to squirt from direct stimulation of the g-spot, but it’s also possible via other avenues.
Remember that the g-spot is an inner extension of the clitoris. As such, it may be possible to squirt from clitoral stimulation.
You can also try less direct methods of g-spot stimulation, such as penile penetration or the use of a dildo. The penis and dildo will still rub against the g-spot, but there will be other feelings (good ones, at that!) going on at the same time. This can help your partner to relax and enjoy the experience.
My Partner Cannot Overcome Her Fear of Peeing
It’s true that, as a woman nears the verge of squirting, she may feel an intense urge to urinate. This can cause a significant mental block for women as they fear “letting go.”
What can you do?
- Move to the bathroom. The shower or bathtub are a great place to get your partner used to squirting if her greatest hangup is the potential mess. This is especially true if she fears that she’ll pee instead of squirt.
- Prepare your environment. Does the bathroom sound unappealing? Then maybe your partner would be more comfortable with the idea of squirting if you first ‘prepared’ the environment. Put down lots of towels, and remove anything that may be harmed from getting wet.
- Offer her further reassurance. You may have attempted to ease her fears in the beginning, but it’s important that you continue to do so throughout your session. Let her know that even if she does pee (which is unlikely), it doesn’t matter.
The most important thing you can do? Be patient. It may take your partner several sessions to finally let go, and that’s okay.
It Takes My Partner a Long Time to Squirt
Patience is key when it comes to getting your partner to squirt, especially if it’s her first time. However, your partner may feel self conscious about how long it takes her to finally get there.
There are steps you and her can take to hasten the process, though there’s no guarantee. Every women is different so it may just be that she takes longer than most.
Anyway, on to the tips.
- Practice kegels. One thing your partner can do to improve her chances (and speed) of squirting is kegel exercises. These exercises strengthen the pelvic floor muscles. They can be done anywhere, anytime.
- Try new positions. Perhaps your current positions aren’t hitting her g-spot at just the right angle. That’s okay, because there’s plenty more to try!
- Go back to the basics. A common issue, and one that’s easy to resolve, is that your foreplay and warm-up sessions just aren’t as long as they should be. So go back to the basics and take it slow.
You can also enlist the help of sex toys, like vibrators and g-spot stimulators. They don’t have to ‘do the job for you,’ but they can offer some relief during the longer sessions.
To reiterate what I’ve stated throughout the article:
Squirting is real and possible for most women to achieve.
Are you ready to give your partner a squirting orgasm? Or perhaps you’re a woman yourself who wants to make herself squirt? Either way, the tips above will give you an excellent start.