7 Erotic Massage Secrets – The Ultimate Guide

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7 Erotic Massage Secrets – The Ultimate Guide

Massage is something that everybody loves!

And if you’re trying to turn a girl on, get her wet and ready for sex, and at the same time, love being in the bedroom with you, then erotic massage is something YOU NEED TO KNOW.

In addition, these special massage techniques will do something magical for your woman…

They will help her orgasm more easily.

In this ultimate guide to erotic massage, I’m going to reveal to you my seven secrets that will:

  1. Make any woman dripping wet and in the mood for sex no matter how frigid see seems initially
  2. Reduce the tension and stress that prevents her from having orgasms easily
  3. Remove the physical ‘blocks and knots’ that stop her from experiencing full-body orgasms
  4. Show you a simple (yet top secret) massage technique that can help her to squirt during orgasm
  5. Remove the back pain (that comes from wearing high heels) that can stop women having orgasms
  6. Prepare the environment so it’s perfect and relaxing for an erotic massage
  7. Increase your partner’s sex drive using just acupressure massage technique

Chapter 1: Female Sexuality and Your Relationship

In this erotic massage ‘blueprint’ you’re going to learn the secret massage techniques and methods that will simultaneously relax and stimulate any woman, turning her from completely uninterested in sex to dripping wet and begging you for more.

At the same time, you’ll learn how to rapidly remove the physical and emotional stress and tension that can make it almost impossible for a woman to achieve orgasm.

Do this, and not only will your woman enjoy orgasms more easily and frequently, but she’ll also be much more likely to experience full body and squirting orgasms too.

A Short Introduction: Stress and the Female Arousal Cycle

In a study performed in 2009, 50% of women admitted to faking an orgasm at one point or another. For men, the number was much lower, just 25%.

Some of the more common reasons for pretending to orgasm were, wanting the sex to end and not wanting to create hard feelings between themselves and their partner.

A woman screaming with pleasure from an orgasm

What does this research tell us?

One, it’s obvious that there’s a certain expectation surrounding sexual experiences and achieving orgasm.

Two, women experience greater amounts of pressure regarding this issue.

But why is the percentage for faking orgasm significantly higher in women than in men?

Just to speculate, consider the difference in arousal styles of men and women.

For men, sexual arousal is like a simmering pot. Feelings of sexual desire are frequently spontaneous, and orgasm is easily achieved by the majority of men, due to these two factors.

For women, however, sexual arousal can be best compared to a pot of standing water.

Female desire is more responsive in nature, and as opposed to the already simmering pot of male sexual around, women first must be brought to a simmer before they can be brought to a boil.

Comparisons aside, it’s obvious that female and male patterns of sexual arousal differ. And, while men may use sex and orgasm as a form of stress relief; stress and tension play a very different role in female desire, arousal, and, ultimately, orgasm.

A number of stressors can have an impact on women making it difficult for them to become aroused or achieve orgasm. From work stress to illness to general feelings of busyness, feelings of tension can make it difficult for your female partner to “shut down” at the end of the day and truly enjoy sex.

A stressed woman having trouble orgasming in the bedroom

This means that your partner may only go through the motions in order to avoid hurting your feelings, or they may engage in sex hoping to reach orgasm but struggle to fully enjoy themselves due to physical and emotional stress.

But don’t men experience daily stress, too? So, why does stress impact women and men differently?

According to researchers, women are more likely to report physical and emotional symptoms of stress when compared to their male counterparts.

The exact reason isn’t known, but there’s no doubt that stress has a big impact on women’s physical and emotional health.

Symptoms of stress in men vs women


With some of the physical and emotional symptoms illustrated above, and without feelings of enjoyment and fulfillment, it’s easy to see why many women aren’t as “into” sex as their male partners.

So, what can you do to combat feelings of stress and disinterest in your lover?

As will be explained more thoroughly in the next section, erotic massage can help you to relieve your female partner’s stress and gain her full attention in the bedroom.

How Stress and Tension (or Lack Thereof) Play A Role In Sexual Energy & The Female Orgasm

You now understand how stress and tension can physically and mentally affect your female partner’s desire, arousal, and ability to orgasm.

So, let’s consider what it looks like on the other side – how lack of stress and tension can ignite your partner’s sexual energy and enable her to reach climax, and even squirt.

Emotional stress brings with it the numerous physical symptoms mentioned in the previous section.

From backaches to sore muscles to general discomfort and tightness, your female partner’s sexual prowess can be severely affected in a negative manner.

A woman with back pain

This is why the massage techniques outlined in this blueprint are essential.

These techniques will not only relieve the physical and outward signs of tension, but they will also increase blood flow to your partner’s most sensitive areas and teach her how to control her breathing in order to use it as a tool of sexual bliss.

The diagram below gives a good idea of how a woman’s sexual energy can flow around her body, according to Toaist wisdom.

Sexual energy flowing around the human body

Further, you and your partner will experience a deeper bond, which will help her to relieve feelings of self-consciousness (which may make it difficult to climax) and become more sexually confident and self-aware.

What are some of the other physical and mental benefits that your partner can hope to experience when you utilize erotic massage?

Reduced Vaginal Tension

The vagina is a muscle just like any other found elsewhere on the body.

This means that regular sensual massage sessions will help your female partner to let go of her vaginal muscle tension and allow you to manipulate her genitals and erotic zones without involuntary muscle tightness on her behalf.

Increased Inclination Towards Squirting

The very same muscle found in the vagina which is tightened and relaxed during Kegel exercises, the PC muscle, is also linked to squirting.

Some women struggle to fully let go during foreplay and intercourse, and this can make it difficult (if not impossible) to squirt.

After numerous massage sessions, however, your female partner will be better able to not only relax her muscles but also let go of general anxieties and fears associated with squirting and loss of control.

Elevated Self-Esteem

In our modern culture, while sex is certainly more celebrated today than in the past, there’s still much surrounding the subject, which is considered taboo, and even shameful.

For some women, this can translate to shame and guilt, which in turn leads to lowered feelings of desire and arousal and further cycles back to shame and guilt when she recognizes that she isn’t meeting her male partner’s sexual needs.

This vicious cycle can be difficult to break, but sensual massage can help to bring your partner to a better awareness of the abilities of her body, and the beauty that is sexual desire and release.

Whether you’ve previously realized it or not, there should now be no doubt in your mind that stress and tension (and the control of such things) play a vital role in your female lover’s ability to orgasm and fully enjoy each sexual encounter she experiences.

But of course, massage sessions can also benefit you and your relationship in a number of ways, two of which will be outlined further in the coming sections.

Please see our article about how to have an orgasmic wife here if you want more information.

Using Massage to Bring You Closer

A common problem in relationships tends to be a feeling of disconnect. The male partner may feel unloved because his physical (i.e. sexual) needs aren’t being met.

The female partner may feel unloved because her emotional needs aren’t being met. This cycle continues, or one partner goes without need fulfillment in order to avoid conflict.

While the above scenario is far too common, it’s also unhealthy and can be damaging to your relationship.

After all, there’s only so much that each partner can give before they must also feel that they’ve received an equal amount back in reciprocation.

So, what’s the answer? How can the male partner feel sexually fulfilled without feeling like he’s pushing his female partner to have sex, and how can the female partner feel emotionally fulfilled without feeling like she begrudgingly gives in to her partner on a regular basis?

Well, as this ebook outlines, erotic massage may be just the answer you’re looking for.

In day-to-day life, it can be easy to let stress and emotional distance get in the way of sexual and emotional relationships with our partner.

Erotic massage, however, forges feelings of intimacy and physical closeness while simultaneously easing your partner’s stress and allowing her to get into the mood for a sexual encounter.

For some, the use of massage as a lead up to sex may seem crass, and perhaps even manipulative. Keep in mind, however, that while the results of introducing sensual massage to your relationship may lead to more and better sex, it’s not the only end goal to be achieved.

With the addition of massage to your love life, you can also bring you and your partner closer together, physically and emotionally.

Massage As a Tool for Sexual Bliss

Whether your partner is regularly stressed or is simply feeling uninspired, sensual massage can be just the tool you need to explore deeper levels of sexual bliss in your relationship.

There’s no gimmick and there’s no catch. Simply put, bringing massage into the bedroom will improve your love life because, by its very nature, it’s intimate and stimulating and profound.

You will explore every inch of your lover’s body, and in doing so, you will introduce her to new sensations and feelings. You will reduce her stress levels and make it possible for her to become more easily aroused and even reach orgasm.

Erotic massage is just as much a tool for sexual bliss as it is for emotional intimacy. In the process of exploring both your and your partner’s sexual desires, you will also build an intimate bond that will bring her to a deeper and more satisfying arousal.

Now, if you’re ready to get started, you may be feeling a bit overwhelmed. In the next few chapters, you’ll learn more about the essential elements of sensual massage, how to massage each area of your partner’s body, and how to combine all that you’ve learned to provide your partner with a targeted massage that will get her in the mood.

Chapter 2: The 3 Essential Elements of Erotic Couples Massage

In order to reap the benefits laid out in the previous chapter, it’s time to take a look at the three essential elements of erotic couples massage and how you can use these elements in the bedroom.

The Environment

Setting the scene from the very start is important, as the environment can easily make or break the experience for your partner.

Fortunately, this need not be an expensive or time-consuming endeavor, as long as you consider the three aspects below.

First, you’ll want to create an environment completely free from distraction. Remove all phones and laptops from the room, or set them to silent and place them out of sight. Unplug the TV and computer, and even cover alarm clocks and other devices that have harsh, electronic displays.

Next, take a moment to think about how your partner likes to relax. Perhaps she enjoys the scent of a particular candle, or maybe a fresh arrangement of flowers is more her thing.

Relaxing candles help set the mood for erotic massage

Set the tone with soft, instrumental music, and create a world that is just for the two of you.

Now, consider which “equipment” you’ll be using during the session. Oil is an absolute must, but the one you choose will depend entirely on you and your partner’s preferences.

Oils such as coconut and almond are lightly-scented options with good, moisturizing effects.

Some, however, prefer the feel of mineral oils, while others prefer vegetable oils, such as canola or sunflower.

Applying massage oil

Also, where will your partner be laying throughout this exercise? The bed is a good space, if it’s large enough for her to stretch onto comfortably.

However, a table or floor is just as good once covered with a soft, layered mat.

The Mindset

It’s important that your mindset is focused entirely on the enjoyment and relaxation of your female partner.

Prior to a massage session, ask yourself:

  • How can I make her experience as relaxing and enjoyable as possible?
  • How can I keep my mind focused throughout the entirety of the session?
  • How can I communicate with my partner to ensure maximum pleasure?
  • What signs should I be looking for in my partner’s reactions/responses?

The answers to these questions can help you to maintain the proper mindset throughout the session, and while they may take a bit of time to figure out, it’ll be worth it to provide your partner with the relaxing and erotic experience she’s craving.

The Technique

While environment and mindset are essential aspects, the massage itself would be nothing without technique.

What is technique and how can you be sure to take the right approach?

We’ll be focusing on applied techniques more thoroughly in Chapter 4, and in Chapter 5 we’ll discuss the various massage theories and their techniques, but let’s lay out the basics.

First and foremost, keep in mind that nothing is more important than focusing on how your partner responds to your touches.

While you may be tempted to follow a massage routine or technique strictly, it’s important that you use your intuition to see what your partner likes and use judgment accordingly to alter the routine.

Now, what are some common massage techniques to use in the bedroom?


At the beginning of any massage session, it’s best to start with light and gentle touches.

These touches are known as effleurage, and their purpose is to get the blood circulating and the subject prepared for the massage that is about to take place.

Using the palm of your hands, begin with a light touch. You can work in any pattern you choose, though circular motions are the most common and are the best at covering the most surface area.

Keep the pressure consistent and be sure to pay equal amounts of attention to each area of your partner.


This is perhaps the most commonly used technique during massage sessions, and it’s also one of the easiest to learn.

Kneading erotic massage technique

Using your thumb and fingertips, you’ll take the muscle tissue between them and squeeze at varying intervals. This is excellent for larger muscles, such as those found in the thighs, upper arms, and buttocks.


If your partner has particularly stubborn knots or areas of stress, manual stretching can provide them with the greatest relief.

This technique involves the manual manipulation of your partner’s joints. You can gently rotate their wrists and ankles, stretch and bend their knees and elbows, and work to get their limbs as free and loose as possible without force.


The swift, chopping motions associated with this massage technique may not seem erotic, but this can be fun to experiment with and see how both you and your partner like it.

Percussion massage technique

There are various ways to perform this technique, from using the side of your hand to perform a quick chopping motion to the thighs and upper back to using your fingertips to tap out kinks and knots found on the lower back, neck, and face, percussion is a useful tool in your massage arsenal.


Frequently associated with deep tissue massage, the friction technique can be useful when working out tight, focused kinks.

With your thumb and fingertips, gently apply pressure to the knot and slowly work in a circular motion.

As the knot begins to give way to the pressure, apply more pressure while continually ensuring that your partner is not uncomfortable.

Friction massage technique

To lessen the hurts-so-good feeling associated with this technique, vary the levels of pressure throughout the session to give your partner a bit of a reprieve every now and again.

Those are just a few common techniques that can be used during a massage session.

Experiment with different forms of manipulation and touch, and remember to always keep an eye on your partner and her reactions.

Chapter 3: The Science Behind Sensual Massage

If this is your first glimpse into the world of massage, you may be asking yourself how massage can provide all of the benefits mentioned in Chapter 1 and so much more.

That is certainly a fair question.

First and foremost, humans are sensory-seeking creatures.

From a young age, humans are taught that touch is good. We touch others in order to give and receive comfort, to provide warmth, and to show a sign of solidarity.

We touch our lovers to show that we care, and to provide them with joy and satisfaction.

Massage, then, can be an easy way to show your partner that you care for them and their wellbeing.

Second, consider that there’s a certain level of openness—of trust—which comes with a sensual massage.

Not many women would be open to a sensual massage from a man they didn’t trust or care for, and this contributes significantly to the positive feelings and physical benefits associated with a massage session.

The Mechanics of Massage — How It Works

There are a number of processes that the body undergoes when receiving a massage. Some of these processes, such as the relaxation of targeted muscles, are local.

Other processes, such as the release of endorphins, are whole body.

But what’s the exact mechanism behind these happenings?

There are a few theories among experts. Some scientists and researchers believe that physical touch as experienced in massage sessions improves circulation.

Massage helps improve circulation

This, in turn, increases the amount of oxygen delivered to the muscle and helps to speed up the healing process. Other experts believe that massage engages the lymphatic system.

This removes the waste from the knotted area and improves muscle healing and movement. Still, others believe that the benefits of massage are all based in the nervous system.

Touch leads to an electric sensation that travels from the physical location of the massage to the brain, releasing endorphins and other pleasant chemicals.

So, who’s right?

As of yet, there’s no right or wrong. It could very well be that none of the above theories are true, or that they all are.

But whatever the exact reason for the “good” feelings, there’s no arguing with the scientific research which backs the many benefits associated with massage.

From reduction in anxiety and depression levels to control of inflammation following strenuous physical activities, massage and massage therapy certainly have shown time and again that they provide many benefits to those who undergo treatment.

Massage and Eroticism

Once you understand how massage works and the many benefits it provides, it’s easy to see how erotic massage came to be.

After all, when you combine two things that make you feel good (in this case, massage and sex), doesn’t it make sense that the good feelings would be amplified?

But sensual massage isn’t all about sexual pleasure. Instead, there are two sources of pleasure that your partner will enjoy during a session.

Man giving woman a back massage

Of course, sexual pleasure is certainly one of those sources. However, the other source of pleasure derives from the massage itself.

Think of an orgasm as a by-product of the session, but not the ultimate goal. As your hands move from body part to body part, your partner will become more and more relaxed.

The tension will leave her body, ever so slowly, until all muscles are loosened. This is the reason that climax becomes more likely, and squirting even becomes possible—as your partner gives into the relaxation, her inhibitions will give way as well.

With sensual massage, your partner will slowly lose all signs of fear, anxiety, and self-consciousness.

This is the “magic” that is erotic massage. It’s not really magic, however, is it? Instead, the physical and emotional benefits are supported by research and touted by medical professionals around the world.

Chapter 4: Targeted Massage Combinations with Endless Possibilities

It’s not enough to know the common massage techniques outlined in Chapter 2.

To ensure that your partner receives the satisfaction that she deserves, it’s also important to know which areas of the body to target and in which manner.

You can certainly use the outlined techniques from head to toe, but sometimes a routine which includes targeted combinations of different body parts can provide just as much, if not more, satisfaction when done in the right way.

Massage Routine to Prolong Desire

As the point of this routine is to prolong desire in your partner and leave her hungry for more, you want to be sure in the beginning stages to avoid genital contact. It’s important to build anticipation and excitement in your partner, and you can easily do so by utilizing the massage techniques outlined in Chapter 2.

This way, by the time you’re finally ready to stimulate her sexually, she’ll be more than ready, and even craving for more.

This is why massage is such an effective prelude to sex, especially If the woman has a hard time getting in the mood.

The Routine

To begin, have your partner sitting straight up either on the edge of the bed or in a chair.

Start with a simple neck/shoulder combination massage, utilizing a mix of effleurage, kneading, and perhaps even friction.

As your partner’s neck and shoulders loosen, move on to her arms. Begin at the top, kneading the larger muscles and then using a simple gliding/pulling method from the shoulder all the way down to the wrist. Repeat on the other arm.

Moving on to the legs, begin at the thighs. It’s important at this point in the routine to avoid contact with her genitals.

Using a combination of effleurage, kneading, pulling, and percussion, slowly work your way from thigh to knee to calf to ankle. To intensify feelings of desire, track back to a previous point and then continue on your journey downwards once more.

Interpreting Your Partner’s Response

It’s vital that throughout this process, you really focus on your partner’s sexual cues.

How is she responding to each touch, and which areas of her body are most sensitive? You can answer these questions by taking note of her physical responses.

When you touch a particular body part or perform a particular technique, does she…

  • lean into your touch?
  • moan or sigh with delight?
  • shudder or quiver excitedly?
  • get goosebumps?
  • wiggle her body to manipulate where your touches go?

The above signals are physical signs that your partner is enjoying the experience, and such cues can help you to get a better idea of what body parts your partner enjoys having touched and which massage techniques she enjoys.

Massage Routine to Intensity Orgasm

An orgasm is the greatest possible sexual release that your partner can experience. And, while orgasms can vary in length and intensity, with the right massage routine, you can both prolong the length and increase the strength of the orgasm.

Now, the last targeted routine focused on prolonging desire. That’s a fantastic routine to begin with, especially if you and your partner are still new to erotic massage.

However, at a certain point, it becomes obvious that your partner is ready to receive more.

For the majority of women, orgasm cannot be achieved with penetration alone.

Instead, clitoral stimulation plays a large role in a woman’s ability to orgasm, and this nugget of knowledge can be beneficial for you and your partner.

To intensity your lover’s orgasm, you don’t necessarily need to increase the amount of contact that your fingers make with her clitoris.

What’s most important is the quality of that contact and whether you truly know your partner’s sexual cues.

The Routine

Whether you’re working your way from the above targeted routine into this one, or you’re beginning this routine from the very start, have your partner lay flat on her back on the bed, the floor, or a cushioned table.

The Once Over

For this routine, you want to start with a whole-body once over. This is a quick “rundown” of the more thorough routine you’ll be getting into, but it will start with getting your partner’s blood circulating.

Using just your fingertips, begin at the forehead. Graze either side of her face with both hands, and then slowly work your way down to her neck and chest.

Avoid direct contact with her nipples, but do a light graze around her breasts and down the sides of her torso. At her hips, you’re going to begin to branch out with one hand on one leg and the other hand on the other leg.

Simultaneously working your way down with both hands, remember to keep your touches light and feathery, and for added fun, trace your way back up a few steps and then down again.

As in the previous routine, it’s good to take note of your partner’s cues throughout this once over. This will allow you to have a better idea of your lover’s more sensitive areas.

The Massage

Now, beginning again at the head, this time you’ll use the techniques from Chapter 2 to work your way down your lover’s body and towards her genitals.

You want to spend time kneading out any tight knots or kinks, but also be sure to add in light touches now and again to excite and arouse.

You’ll know which techniques are best for which body parts by experimenting and focusing on your partner’s physical cues.

As mentioned above, intensifying your partner’s orgasm doesn’t necessarily mean spending more time on the clitoris. Instead, you want to maximize the touches you do make by utilizing some massage techniques in the pubic region.

One such technique is the use of pressure just above the pubic bone. By running your fingers along your partner’s stomach, you’ll find the very top of the pubic bone above the hips but below the belly button.

Using the palm of your non-dominant hand, press down at a comfortable measure. You don’t want your partner to be uncomfortable, but you also want to be sure that she is grounded and secure.

Now, with your dominant hand, slowly work your way to your partner’s genitals, grazing the clitoris and exploring the outer lips.

Insert your middle and ring fingers into her vagina, and place the palm of that hand so it is against the clitoris. Moving your entire hand up and down, your middle and ring fingers will be hitting and stimulating the g-spot while your palm is simultaneously rubbing against your partner’s clitoris.

As your partner becomes closer to climax, press down above the pubic bone a bit more firmly and increase your strokes.

The Climax

Once your partner reaches climax, this is the most important part. Keep your middle and ring fingers pressed firmly against the g-spot and allow your palm to rest against the clitoris.

When females climax, the clitoris can become extremely sensitive very quickly. This can cause the climax to fizzle out prematurely.

Full-body orgasm demonstration

By using your palm as an anchor, you’re helping to keep the nerve endings from becoming too sensitive while still providing the pressure that the nerves need.

Massage Routine to Encourage Squirting

For a lot of women, squirting may seem to be an elusive experience. The reason for this, as discussed thoroughly in Chapter 1, is stress. The goal of this particular routine, then, will be to reduce stress in your partner and open her up to complete trust and vulnerability.

This will take some time, and it will likely take quite a bit of patience on your part. The results, however, are nothing short of amazing.

You will want to have worked through the above two routines a number of times prior to attempting this routine. This will ensure a certain level of comfort.

Realizing and Releasing the Fear

We touched briefly on the shame and fear that is so commonly associated with sex, but now it’s time to focus on a little-understood ability in women: squirting.

Why does squirting seem to be a scary topic for so many women, and what can be done to “train” your partner to let go of all fears and consciousness in order to further explore this ability?

One common fear that women have is of urinating during sex. Both squirting and urinating are controlled by the same muscle, the PC muscle, and this can cause anxiety during sex and climax.

After all, if someone has gone their whole life associating a particular feeling with only one activity, it can be difficult to realize that that feeling can also be used for another, much different, activity. So, how can you help your partner to overcome this fear?

First, it’s important to speak with your partner. You need to understand what her biggest fears are and confront them together.

So, for example, if your partner expresses embarrassment about squirting, how can you two work together to overcome that embarrassment. For one, you can discuss “worst-case” scenarios.

So, if your partner does end up confusing urination and squirting during sex, what’s the big deal? Let your partner know that, if she does happen to urinate (she won’t), there’s nothing to be ashamed of and you’ll be proud of her for trying.

Second, you need to practice patience with your partner. So many females are taught to feel shameful about their bodies and their sexual abilities, so you need to create a united front with your partner and help her to better see the beauty that is her body.

Third, you and your partner need to create a routine that brings her ultimate relaxation and allows her to feel her most vulnerable and open.

This routine will vary from woman to woman, which is why experimentation is the best course of action. Take the time to explore your lover’s body on a regular basis, and make sensual massage sessions part of your relationship.

The Routine

What the exact routine will look like will depend upon you and your partner. If you aren’t sure where to start, however, consider following the targeted routine above for orgasm.

As stated previously, you and your partner should have worked through the first two routines offered in this chapter a few times.

This will provide both of you with a sense of comfort and vulnerability, and it will make the experience that much more relaxed and enjoyable. After working through these routines, you should have a better idea of what your partner likes and doesn’t like.

Perhaps you made some small adjustments along the way that worked better — that’s great! Be sure to keep on top of your partner’s cues and take note of what techniques you used when she’s her most relaxed and open.

Remember, squirting need not be a mysterious experience for you or your partner. With the right level of relaxation and with patience and kindness displayed on your part, your partner too can experience the spine-tingling joy that comes along with the experience.

Chapter 5: Understanding the Theories Behind Massage and How to Put Them Into Practice

The previous chapters have provided you with much insight into the world of erotic massage, including how it can be beneficial for your female partner and how you can use it to open her up to desire, arousal, orgasm, and even squirting.

Now, it’s time to take a closer look at some of the world’s major massage theories and how you can put them into practice in your own massage sessions.

Major Theories


This ancient theory has been practiced for thousands of years, but it’s only recently gained worldwide recognition as a therapeutic technique for a number of maladies.

Applying acupressure to hands

A closely related therapy, acupuncture, commonly uses needles to stimulate the various pressure points throughout the body.

Acupressure, on the other hand, stimulates these same pressure points with the use of the hands. From the treatment of nausea to its use in chronic back pain sufferers, acupressure has a proven track record.

Bringing Acupressure to the Table

There are actually quite a few pressure points dedicated solely to arousal and female desire.

Three of these points which can be easily added into your routine are bubbling spring (located on the sole of the foot K1, K2), mansion cottage, and rushing door (both of the latter being located in the pelvic region).


Bubbling Spring is an excellent acupressure point for beginners, as the point is easy to find and the pressure can be applied with the thumb.

This point, located at the center of the sole and found right in between the two ball pads, can be pressurized at different times during the full body massage.

Perfect spots on the feet for acupressure

During your routine, you may want to make your way down towards the point every so often in order to apply pressure, or apply continuous pressure while performing oral or digital stimulation on your partner.

For Mansion Cottage and Rushing Door, both pressure points can be stimulated during oral sex, or when you’re working your way down her body.

These points are found right where the thigh and pelvis meet, so they’re easily accessible during massage and sex.


Ayurvedic medicine has been practice for more than 3,000 years in India.

Additionally, Ayurvedic massage practitioners are just as concerned with what oils are used on the body as they are with what techniques they use.

Incorporating Ayurvedic Practices

One of the simplest ways in which to incorporate Ayurvedic practices into your sensual massage sessions is with the use of herb-infused oils.

These fragrant oil combinations can not only set the mood, but they can also provide therapeutic benefits and make it easier for your female partner to become relaxed and open during this experience.

There are a number of oils to try out, from almond to sesame to thuja orientalis. Each oil has its own properties and nutritional benefits, and you and your partner can have fun customizing the experience.

Ayuvedic massage with oils

Another thing to try is herbal infusion. There are an array of herbs used in India which can be infused into the oils you use for massage.

Ocimum Sanctum, also known as Holy Basil, is one such herb, and it’s been shown to be an effective treatment for Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD) in adults.


Shiatsu is another Asian pressure massage, very similar to acupressure.

In fact, Shiatsu is actually derived from Traditional Chinese Medicine, but has developed over time to become it’s own practice within the country of Japan and around the world.

Shiatsu erotic massage

Shiatsu massage practitioners use a combination of finger pressure, joint manipulation, stretching, and palpitations to complete treatment. Oil is not commonly used.

How to Add Shiatsu to Your Routine

Similar to acupressure, Shiatsu massage can be easily added into your sensual massage routine, or pressure points can be triggered at random times during foreplay or intercourse to increase arousal.

Many of the pressure points are similar, however, in Shiatsu, there are other forms of manipulation other than pressure which can be applied.

An example of this is joint manipulation at the hip joint, right where the thigh and pelvis connect. Instruct your partner to lift her leg and bend her knee.

Grasping her foot with one hand and placing your other hand on the thigh which is lying flat, apply pressure to the Bubbling Spring pressure point on the sole while simultaneously leaning your body weight against her foot.

This gentle form of joint manipulation can trigger the two pressure points found in that pelvic crease, while also allowing her to stretch any tight muscles.


This style of massage is one most commonly recognized. In fact, the techniques mentioned in Chapter 2 make up the majority of Swedish massage techniques, which means you can add the Swedish style of massage to your sensual massage routine without too much work.

Giving a woman a Swedish erotic massage

Swedish massage is likely the most studied form of massage, with dozens of independent studies confirming its benefits.

From decreasing blood pressure in hypertensive women to increasing the quality of life in Multiple Sclerosis patients, Swedish massage certainly has a lot to offer those who undergo its techniques.

Swedish Massage in the Bedroom

Throughout this ebook, we’ve touched upon some of the most basic massage techniques out there.

These techniques, as mentioned above, are all utilized in the Swedish massage tradition, and even the routines in Chapter 4 can be said to be done in the Swedish fashion.

As you can see, many of the techniques used in Swedish massage can be easily added to your sensual massage sessions and will benefit your partner immensely.

The Orgasmic Potential Massage

This is the massage method that has been developed over a number of years with the specific intent of enhancing the female orgasm.

Post massage orgasm

There are very specific areas where the massage must be applied. These are the areas in the female body where her sexual energy must flow unrestrained to maximize her ‘orgasmic potential.’

When these areas are blocked by stress and tension sexual energy tends to stagnate, so it can’t flow around her body and she will be less likely to achieve full-body orgasms.

Conversely, by using this massage technique to remove the tension spots her body will fully be able to let her sexual energy flow throughout her body.

Think about it like a ripple in a pond. The muscle tension and stress stop the energy flowing, and stop the orgasm travelling from her pussy into her body.

Removing the tension at these specific spots also means stronger orgasms in the first place. The female orgasm can be though of as an ‘energetic release.’

Sexual energy ripples

But for this energy to first be available (to be released) it must flow from her body into her genitals.

This is why unhealthy and unfit women generally find it harder to orgasm – they have less sexual energy to start with.

Once you’ve removed these tension spots its easier for the energy to flow into her pussy (during foreplay) and then ripple out through her body (during climax.)

This is ultimately what makes for some of the most pleasurable, healing and intense orgasms she’ll ever have.

Here are the tension spots that you’ll need to get rid of:

On her front

  • Shoulders and neck
  • Under the shoulder blade (as she exhales deeply)
  • Down the back
  • On the top of the buttocks (she will give you feedback about the exact location on her buttocks)

On her back

  • Just below the collar bone (as she exhales)
  • At the top of the breast
  • On the bottom of the breast
  • Under the bottom of the rib cage
  • The V at the top of the pubic bone
  • Along the inside of the upper thigh in line with the vagina

The blue patches of the body indicate the most important areas that need to be massaged.

The orgasmic potential massage zones female body

Depending on various factors she might need 10 – 15 2-hour massage sessions, over a period of 2 – 3 months.

Some woman who do yoga, for example, eat healthy, regularly detox physically and emotionally will need much less sessions to reach their full orgasmic potential.

On the other end of the spectrum women who have ‘let themselves go’ and are unfit and unhealthy will need more.

Regular massage oil works well, but grape-seed oil is probably the best option, being easily available, cheap, good for the skin, an excellent lubricant, and both good for massage and the squirting method.


This “blueprint” was designed to teach you how to turn your female partner from stressed and unable to orgasm to relaxed and able to achieve full-body orgasms every time.

You don’t need special skills or expensive training. All you need is patience and understanding.

Remember, this blueprint is not meant to be a magic cure for relationship woes. Instead, it’s here to teach you the steps you need to take to relieve your partner’s tensions and create a truly enjoyable sensual experience for her.

This sensual experience will require a relationship of trust and love, and both you and your partner need to be willing to be open and vulnerable in order for her to achieve the satisfaction she so desires.

Give Your Partner The Gift

Give your partner the gift of the best orgasm of her life.

She deserves it!

But how?

I would highly recommend learning more about female pleasure and satisfaction with our amazing new program, Triggers 2.0 where we teach you the secrets that very few men know.

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Laura Rose Halliday

Laura Rose Halliday started The School Of Squirt back in 2012 and has been running the website and digital courses along with Jakob Wulfe since then. She is a full time sex writer, researcher and practicer.

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  1. This is such a great guide, I can’t wait to try some of these massage techniques on my girl tonight 🙂 – what a great way to get her in the mood for something more naughty.

  2. I want too correct something in your great article. In tantra you learn to give your women energy orgasms. those can also be given in intercourse if you are more advanced. they are very strong. also if you combine erotic hypnosis with erotic massage or tantra massage you can make a women highly orgasmic in intercourse on command.

  3. My girlfriend loves it when I massage her lower back – it actually makes her orgasm! She calls it a ‘back-gasm’ and it’s her fav way to get warmed up.

    1. Those erogenous zones can definitely be no joke! If only all women could cum from a back massage 😉

  4. Guys, if you want anal – a good, long back, leg and buttock massage is the way to go! You’ll know she’s ready when she starts gradually widening her legs and pushing her bum up towards you when you lightly trail your fingers down between her bum cheeks..use .lots of oil and you’re away!! ?

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