Learning how to give the girl you like an orgasm, and make her cum hard might be one of the most important things you learn as a man.
And yet so few men take the time to learn how to do it properly…
In fact, most men get ‘female orgasms’ horribly wrong.
So it’s no wonder why most women have to end up faking their orgasms.
But don’t worry – having founded School Of Squirt back in 2012, we know how to do one thing better than anything else…
And that’s teaching men how to give their women the best orgasms of their lives.
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- Foreplay, Buildup, Anticipation, and Teasing
- Trust, Intimacy, and Vulnerability
- Overcoming Female Shame And Guilt Surrounding Sexual Pleasure
- 3 Tips for Making Her Orgasm
- How To Make Her Orgasm During Sex
- Orgasms From Fingering
- Orgasms During Oral Sex
- Making Her Cum During Anal Sex
- G-spot Orgasms
- Clitoral Orgasms
- Squirting (Ejaculatory) Orgasms
- Giving Her Multiple Orgasms
- 3 Ways To Spice Things Up & Make Her Orgasm More Quickly & Easily
- How To Use Spanking To Create Arousal Spikes
- What to Do After She Has An Orgasm
Foreplay, Buildup, Anticipation, and Teasing
What you do before having sex is just as important as your actual technique to give her an orgasm. This is because, for women, sex is about more than just physical stimulation. It is about emotion.
And it takes longer for a woman to get in the mood than for a man.
So, if you really want to give her one of the best orgasms of her life, then foreplay, buildup, anticipation, and teasing are really important.
She will need to be horny, dripping wet, and practically begging for you to make her cum before she is ready to actually have an orgasm.
Here is our guide on how to make her horny.
Trust, Intimacy, and Vulnerability
A woman will never have an orgasm with you if she doesn’t trust you. So building trust and intimacy is one of the first things you should do if you want to make her cum.
Women are afraid of making themselves emotionally and physically vulnerable to the guy. An orgasm is one of the ways of showing she is extremely comfortable, relaxed and happy.
Having an orgasm also shows that she is surrendering to you. You are about to learn how to make women cum so hard that they have almost no control over their body.
But a woman can easily stop herself from having an orgasm if she doesn’t trust you or feels you will take advantage of her vulnerability.
So, it’s important to build trust and intimacy, and show a passionate and sensitive side too which will allow her to do the same.
Overcoming Female Shame And Guilt Surrounding Sexual Pleasure
Unfortunately, a lot of women still have negative feelings of shame and guilt surrounding sex. Getting her in the right frame of mind is an important part of being able to give her an orgasm.
The best way to do this is to make the whole experience fun. This way her guilt and shame will simply fade away.
For example, you could use roleplaying to make things interesting. When you both pretend you are someone different then those negative feelings won’t come up as much.
Play fighting is a great way to get her out of her head so she stops worrying about her negative feelings.
Showing that you are a guy who doesn’t have negative feelings about sex and would never judge her is the best way to allow her to feel the same way too.
So, what’s the best way to give her an orgasm?
There are 4 main ways to make her cum, and they all involve slightly different techniques. Before we get into that, though, let’s go over some basic tips.
3 Tips for Making Her Orgasm
Whether through penetration or cunnilingus, you can use these tips on your woman to make her orgasm every time.
1. Always Begin With Foreplay
As mentioned above, foreplay is crucial for both physical and mental readiness. The more foreplay at the start, the more likely she is to climax later on.
You’ll want to remember that bringing her to orgasm is a marathon, not a sprint. You should not try to rush this time together, but instead, relax and enjoy it. This will make the experience more enjoyable for both of you.
Foreplay can be as simple as pillow talk and light kisses, or as long and drawn out as erotic massage.
2. Listen to Her Body
During foreplay and beyond, it is important that you pay attention to her cues.
There are many women who are happy to vocalize their likes and dislikes, but there are others who are more reserved. In the case of a reserved partner, you’ll want to pay attention to her body language.
A few signs that your partner is enjoying it are:
- Sighs and moans
- Heavy breathing
- Relaxed body position
- Leaning into you
- Goosebumps and shivers
You will become accustomed to your partner’s signs over time and this will make the experience more enjoyable.
3. Learn to Switch It Up
While we may not like to admit it, we all have a tried-and-true technique. This is one we use because it’s worked so many times before and your partner seems to really like it.
But variety is the spice of life, so switch it up to keep your partner on her toes.
You can even use your predictable techniques as a tease. Begin your session as usual, but then slowly deviate from the typical pattern. Do you go for her nipples first? Then pretend to go for her nipples but at the last moment, use your fingertips to trace around her breasts and down her stomach. You can really draw it out which will be fun for the both of you.
How To Make Her Orgasm During Sex
To give her an orgasm during sex you’ll need to use your penis to hit her g-spot. The feeling of being ‘filled up’ by your penis will feel amazing to her, but it isn’t always the best way to bring her to orgasm.
There is one position that rises above all others when it comes to making her cum during sex.
Have your woman lie on her back on the edge of the bed and rest her bum on a couple of pillows so that her bottom half is slightly higher than her top half.
Now, from a standing position enter her. Thrust in, but upwards at the same time. Because her spot is located on the top half of her vagina, it is easy to slide right past it with your penis.
With this angle (you coming from below and thrusting upwards – and her on her back with bum raised) you’ll be able to confidently hit her g-spot and bring her to climax.
Orgasms From Fingering
Fingering a girl to orgasm is a great way to get started, especially if you know you can’t last very long during penetrative sex. Fingering is also the best way to give her a squirting orgasm because you can use your fingers exactly the right way to hit her g-spot.
There are numerous different fingering techniques, but here is a basic rundown of what to do.
With her lying on her back, slip your two middle fingers inside of her and curl them slightly upwards.
With your two fingers curled upwards pointing towards her belly button, start to move your hand up and down. This allows you to hit the g-spot and you can also use the palm of your hand to rub against her clit.
Orgasms During Oral Sex
For some women, cunnilingus is one of the most effective ways to bring her to orgasm. There are a lot of different ways you can go about doing this, and they could involve:
While you should always play around with different techniques, the key to good oral sex is asking your partner what she likes.
Making Her Cum During Anal Sex
Anal sex orgasms are not only very different from normal orgasms but they can be very pleasurable for her to experience.
Some women don’t like the idea of doing anal though, so here’s a good way you can introduce the idea to them.
First off, when she gives you a blowjob, ask her to slip a finger into your bum, and feel free to use lube and a condom if necessary. This will feel great and show you’re not afraid of the bum area.
Next, you’ll want to start eating her pussy out. With her permission, slip a finger into her bum (use lube and a condom if necessary).
Now you have two fingers in her bum while you eat her out, it’s not a big jump to try with your penis. Women often find that the fingers in the bum are so enjoyable that they’ll agree to anal.
G-spot orgasms are the ‘bread and butter’ of female orgasms. This is where women are truly lucky to be women because they have that extra spot that allows them to have mind-blowing orgasms.
The g-spot is located inside the vagina. If you take two fingers, slip them slowly inside her and curl your two fingers upwards, deep inside her, you’ll be able to feel a small spongy spot.
When she is aroused this increases in size and volume making it slightly easier to find.
Later on in this article, you’ll learn how to give her multiple stacked and full-body orgasms using her G-spot.
The clit and the g-spot can give women two completely different kinds of orgasms. The g-spot, as you’ve just learned, responds to direct stimulation from a finger or your penis.
The clit is located at the top part of the vagina and is often hidden away under a hood. During sexual arousal, it becomes engorged with blood and becomes more sensitive.
There are a number of ways you can stimulate the clit. The tongue is one of the best because it can make sensitive adjustments to the speed and power of the stimulation. The clit also responds incredibly well to vibrations, which is why most women use a vibrator pressed against the clit to orgasm.
You can stimulate her clit during sex, or whilst fingering her by using another finger. This works incredibly well to make her cum because you have the double stimulation on the g-spot and clit at the same time.
One neat little trick is to use a vibrator on her clit during sex – more about that later on in this article.
Squirting (Ejaculatory) Orgasms
We started School Of Squirt because we realized that squirting is so awesome that it should be part of everybody’s healthy sex life.
And we recommend that if you want to give your girl one of the best orgasms of her life then you’d better make it a squirting orgasm.
The easiest way to make her squirt quickly is with your fingers. This way you’ll be able to hit her g-spot in just the right way to give her one the most intense and dripping wet orgasms she’s ever had.
We’d like to show you exactly how to do this, demonstrated live. So if you are interested in giving her an orgasm that she will never forget, then you’ll need to download our training course Squirting Triggers.
Giving Her Multiple Orgasms
When most guys think of giving their female partners multiple orgasms, they think of multiple distinct orgasms, one after the other…
But this isn’t a true multiple orgasm.
Instead, they should be blended together (not distinct) and follow one after the other without stopping.
For this to happen, you need to know and understand how the female orgasm works.
The trick is that, just as she reaches climax, you pull back slightly. Around 2/3 way through her orgasm, just as she is coming back down, you then start to try and bring her back into another orgasm.
Do this right, and she’ll start having another on top of the previous one. And you can do it again and again until she collapses from exhaustion and too much pleasure.
3 Ways To Spice Things Up & Make Her Orgasm More Quickly & Easily
There are 3 simple ways you can make sex even more exciting and make and give her even better orgasms. I’ve chosen these three because the props are easy to get hold of and also work extremely well.
Use a Blindfold
Boredom and self-consciousness are two things that kill the female orgasm more than anything else.
And this is why using a blindfold in the bedroom can work so effectively. It both increases excitement and decreases self-consciousness.
Firstly, being blindfolded is naughty, it’s exciting, and it’s dramatic. Not being able to see anything will build sexual tension and put you in control of her which is a massive turn-on.
Women can also feel extremely self-conscious during sex. They are worried about how they look. But if they’re blindfolded – well out of sight means out of mind – she will soon start feeling less self-conscious.
The blindfold also has another exciting effect. Because she can’t use one of her five senses – sight – her other senses will become much more sensitive. Women aren’t visually sexual creatures as much as men.
We get turned on by what we see.
But women get turned on by what they feel and hear.
So when you cut off her sense of vision, she will become more sensitive to your touch. Her body with come alive from your touch and it will make it easier for her to orgasm.
You don’t have to use an actual blindfold – any piece of cloth that can be comfortably tied around her eyes to stop her from seeing can be used and it is great to make the whole experience feel spontaneous.
Handcuffs are another great prop that can be used to increase sexual arousal and her ability to cum.
There is little that is more exciting to a woman than being handcuffed to the bedpost while you bring her to orgasm.
Just ask the millions upon millions of women who are obsessed with the 50 Shades Of Grey books and films.
This kind of stuff drives women absolutely wild in bed.
Again, you don’t have to have an actual pair of handcuffs. You can use anything to comfortably and securely tie her hands to the bed. A tie or belt works great.
Watch as her excitement (and arousal) level go through the roof as you assume complete control over her, as she helplessly lies there tied to the bed.
Use A Vibrator
I know you might be thinking – “use a vibrator, isn’t that for women who masturbate?” but hold on a second.
Women use a vibrator because it works. The vibrations are extremely pleasurable and are especially effective for clitoral orgasms.
So why not use one to make her cum more easily? You can still do everything else the same.
This is how I recommend you use it:
First off, you don’t need to go to a sex shop to buy a vibrator. Durex now sells vibrating cock rings at most convenience stores. These have disposable vibrators that last for ages and are the perfect way for you to stimulate her clit whilst you finger her or penetrate her.
How To Use Spanking To Create Arousal Spikes
You should use erotic spanking as just another tool in your sexual toolbox. You can use it effectively to do a few things, which most women love:
- Spike sexual arousal when orgasm approaches
- Increase her level of anticipation
- Assert your dominance
Let’s look at each point individually.
Point 1: Spanking can be used to spike arousal when your woman is getting close to an orgasm. A lot of women can come very close to orgasm, but right before they reach the point of no return, they either hold back or can’t quite get there for some reason.
Spanking allows you to create an intense spike in her pleasure meter. It provides the shock that can send her spiraling into an orgasm.
For this to be the case, you will need to time your spanking right. You must be able to tell when she is getting close to orgasm. Right when she is about to orgasm is a great time to slap her hard on the ass.
Not hard enough to hurt her, but hard enough to make a great sound and to spike her arousal level.
Point 2: Knowing that someone has spanked you, and will surely spank you again increases your level of anticipation. You know it’s coming, you just don’t know when. This anticipation increases her excitement level, which makes sex more fun, and can bring her closer to orgasm.
The key is to be unpredictable in the way you spank her. Never do it in a pattern that she will be able to guess. You want to spank her when she least expects it. And when you do spank her, go hard, with multiple quick and hard spanks, and then go for a long period without any.
Never let her guess when she might get spanked by you. Never let her know, use it as a tool to build her levels of anticipation and excitement.
Point 3: Spanking can show her your dominance. You want her to feel that you are dominant and in control. This will turn her on and bring her to orgasm faster than anything.
Spanking is a great way to do this. It shows you understand what women want, what turns them on, and it shows you’re an alpha male who can take control sexually.
You should always read her feedback since some women don’t like being spanked, but almost all do.
Use spanking sparingly, but when you do it, make it count.
What to Do After She Has An Orgasm
After your woman finally comes to orgasm is a great time to bond and enjoy this special moment with her. She will feel vulnerable, exhausted, relaxed, sensitive, and still aroused. So keep this in mind. For a woman, after she has an orgasm is completely different from that experience for a man.
Now is the time to kiss, cuddle, smile, laugh, and if she can handle it, go for another orgasm again.
After the woman has experienced the intensity of multiple orgasms she will be very vulnerable and this is a point where you can build even more trust and intimacy, allowing you to take her to even higher sexual heights next time around.
Sometimes the woman will cry, this doesn’t mean she is sad, it is just her experiencing and purging her emotions.
Bringing your partner to orgasm every. single. time. doesn’t require a magic wand. While every woman is different, the information we shared above should help you to tailor your techniques to every sexual encounter you have.
When it doubt, follow these simple guidelines:
- Always start with foreplay.
- Listen to her body.
- Learn to switch it up.
While orgasm is the ultimate goal, it is important to enjoy the journey.