Anal orgasm isn't some weird porn myth or something only "certain people" can experience. A 2022 study found nearly 40% of women tried anal play, and most actually loved it, not just tolerated it for their partner.
Not convinced? The CDC's National Survey of Family Growth shows that over 30% of men and 25% of women have engaged in heterosexual anal intercourse at least once. That's millions of people, mate. So why haven't you tried it? Or if you have, why wasn't it mind-blowing?
In this article, we'll cover:
What Is Anal Orgasm?
What Most People Get Wrong?
How Does An Anal Orgasm Feel?
What Science Says Anal Orgasms Feel Like
What Actual Men Say Anal Orgasm Feels Like
Anal orgasm feels deeper and fuller, like the pleasure comes from inside my body instead of just my dick. — Reddit user.
It feels like a pulsating orgasm…a wave expanding from the prostate to the entire body, and I can't stop moaning. — Reddit user
There is a build-up of sensation…the inside starts to throb, and suddenly my body pushes out involuntarily. I’m gasping for breath and shaking from the sensation. — Reddit user
What Actual Women Say Anal Orgasm Feels Like
Anal orgasms aren’t as sharp as my vaginal or clitoral orgasms, but they are more intense because they go on forever. — Valerie – Interviewed in The Femedic
There’s this ticklish, tingling sensation deep inside the G-spot area. — Leila – Interviewed in The Femedic
Alright, enough about what it feels like. Let's talk about how to actually make it happen.
How To Have An Anal Orgasm Safely & Enjoyably?
Step #1 – Wash Up
Look, we're all adults here. Cleanliness isn't just polite, it's practical. A quick rinse in the shower removes the mental block. You can't relax if you're worried about...you know. Hygiene matters for health, too. Bacteria from the rectum can cause infections if transferred elsewhere. So wash. Use mild soap. Pat dry. Your partner will thank you.
Step #2 – Set The Vibe
Dim lights. Music if that's your thing. No distractions. Here's something sexologists know that most people don't: sexual arousal isn't just mental, it's also physical blood flow. The more turned on you are, the more relaxed those muscles become. So set the scene like you're hosting a guest, not performing surgery.
Step #3 – Lube Up (Always)
I'll scream this from the rooftops: the anus does not self-lubricate. Period. End of story. Lube isn't optional. It's the difference between pleasure and pain, between trying again and never trying again. Use silicone-based for longer sessions, water-based if you're using silicone toys. Use more than you think you need. Then add a little more.
Step #4 – Warm Up Outside First
Don't just go for it. Start with the external area. The pudendal nerve, the main nerve for pelvic sensation, runs through this whole region. Stimulating the outside first gently wakes it up. Use circular motions on the anal opening. Light pressure. Teasing. Let your body remember that touch here can feel good.
Step #5 – Relax Your Sphincter Muscles
Here's a trick most people don't know: bear down slightly, like you're trying to push something out, then relax. That "push" actually helps the muscles release. Your sphincter has two layers: outer (voluntary) and inner (involuntary). You can consciously control the outer one. The inner one? That responds to arousal and relaxation. So breathe. Deep breaths. Exhale longer than you inhale.
Step #6 – Go Inside Slowly & Gently
When you're ready, start with one finger. Trim your nails first. File them smooth. Enter on an exhale. Let your body open around the finger rather than pushing against it. If there's pain, stop. Pain means something's wrong. Too fast, too dry, too tense. Back up. Try again, slower.
Step #7 – Experiment With Depth, Rhythm & Angle To Build Arousal
Once inside, don't just poke around. Explore.
Step #8 – Give Yourself Permission To Let Go Fully
This is the hardest step. Mentally. Anal orgasms often require surrendering control in a way other orgasms don't. You're not directing the pleasure. You're receiving it. That can feel vulnerable, especially for men taught to always "do" rather than "receive". Let that go. This is your body. This is pleasure. You deserve it.
Step #9 – Do Aftercare & Wind Down
When you're done, whether you climaxed or not, take a moment. Breathe. Hydrate. Maybe cuddle if you're with a partner. The pelvic floor just worked hard. It needs to relax. Lying on your back with your knees bent helps. So does a warm bath. And remember: if it ever hurts, stop. Pain isn't weakness, it's information. Listen to it.
Follow those nine steps, and you won't just survive anal play, you'll actually fucking enjoy it. You deserve to experience everything your body is capable of. And yeah, that includes anal orgasms.
Now that you know how not to screw it up, let's talk about the moves that'll actually make you see stars.
Powerful Hacks You Can Use To Reach An Anal Orgasm Even If You Never Had One Before
Now we're getting into the good stuff. These aren't random tips; they're tried and tested hacks that work.
Hack #1 – Start With Tongue Play To Wake Things Up
Rimming isn't just for porn; it's the warmest, softest way to introduce anal pleasure without freaking anyone out.
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Hack #2 – One Finger, Slow, Just The Tip
Anal penetration should feel like an invitation, not an invasion. One finger. That's it.
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Hack #3 – "Come Here" Motion To Find The Spot
That curled finger position? It's how you find the P-spot in men or hit the back of the front wall in women.
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Hack #4 – Use A Penis Or Strap-On With Controlled Depth
Yes mate, we are talking strap-on. But here's where most people screw up: they think anal intercourse means hammering away. Nope. Wrong game.
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Hack #5 – Use The "Anal Clock" Method
The anus isn't just a hole. It's a dial with different sensitive spots at different positions. Most people never discover this because they treat it like one uniform target.
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Hack #6 – Quick Pulses When They're Close
You'll know they're near climax when their body starts contracting around your finger or penis. That's your cue.
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Hack #7 – Bring In A Toy (With A Flared Base)
Fingers find it. Toys finish it. But here's the rule: anything going in must have a way to come out.
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Hack #8 – Vibration On The Perineum Changes Everything
A vibrator held against the skin between the genitals and anus sends shockwaves straight to the prostate or internal clitoris.
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Hack #9 – Stack The Pleasure. Always.
Here's the secret nobody tells you: anal orgasms hit hardest when you're not relying on them alone.
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Quick reminder: Whether you're flying solo with masturbation or with a partner, these different hacks work because they're based on how your body is actually wired. Women, men, everyone in between, the anatomy differs, but the principle stays the same: slow, targeted, and patient always wins.
You've got the techniques down. Now let's find you a comfortable position, so you're not cumming with a cramp.
Andrew's Best Anal Sex Positions To Help You Relax, Control Sensation, & Experience An Anal Orgasm
Anal sex positions matter. Some angles make relaxation easier. Some give you more control. Here are the ones that work.
Position #1 – Spooning (Side-Lying Comfort Position)
Both of you on your sides, receiver's back pressed against giver's chest. No eye contact means no performance anxiety, just pure sensation. Here's the magic: The receiver controls exactly how deep things go by scooting back or holding still. Plus, everyone's muscles stay relaxed because nobody's holding weight. A 2026 qualitative study in Sexual Medicine found this position was the top choice for couples new to anal sex practices. Not surprised. It just works.
Position #2 – Lazy Missionary (Back With Hips Raised)
The receiver lies face down on her stomach, with her legs relaxed, while the pelvis tilts upward toward the partner. What makes this one special: That lifted hip angle changes everything. The tilt creates deeper pressure through the rectal wall, which can stimulate the prostate in men or internal erogenous areas for women. The receiver stays relaxed because she’s lying down, while the giver controls depth and rhythm. Simple position. Strong angle. Very effective.
Position #3 – Doggy Style (All Fours, Slow & Controlled)
Receiver on hands and knees. Giver behind. The deal with this one: Deep access, but here's the catch: the receiver controls everything by how much they arch that back. Don't let anyone get carried away with uncontrolled thrusting. You're in charge of depth, period. Works for any gender because the pelvic floor muscles respond the same way whether you're chasing receptive vaginal or anal pleasure.
Position #4 – Face-Down, Ass-Up (Pillow Support Position)
Face down, hips raised on pillows. Giver behind or above. Why people love this: The receiver literally doesn't have to do anything. Just lie there. Receive. The pillows create the perfect angle for prostate access or hitting that deep spot women engage when they're chasing blended orgasms. It's a surrender position, and sometimes that's exactly what you need.
Position #5 – Bent Over Support (Against Bed, Couch, Or Furniture)
Bent at the waist, upper body supported by something sturdy. Giver behind. The advantage here: Stability. You're not wobbling on all fours, wondering if your wrists are gonna give out. You're supported, which means muscles stay relaxed. According to a probability sample study on sexual behavior, this is a favorite for women exploring anal because it hits different angles without requiring circus-level flexibility.
Position #6 – Legs-Up Position (On Back, Knees Toward Chest)
On your back, knees pulled all the way to your chest. Giver between your legs. What this one delivers: Maximum opening. Maximum access. Great for when you want targeted stimulation of specific erogenous zones without guessing where everything is. Intimate? Yeah. Exposed? Absolutely. Save this one for when you're fully comfortable and ready for deeper vaginal penetration-style sensations through the anal wall.
Position #7 – Sit & Ride (Receiver Straddling While Partner Sits)
Giver seated or reclining. Receiver straddling, lowering down onto them. The beauty of this one: Receiver controls literally everything, depth, speed, angle, rhythm. Giver just holds still and enjoys the show. Perfect for learning what works without someone else moving the wrong way. A qualitative study on women's techniques found this was the top position for first-time anal orgasm success because you're not guessing, you're just chasing what feels good.
Look, there's no "wrong" position if everyone's having fun and nobody's cramping. Spooning, doggy, face-down with your ass in the air, they all lead to the same destination if you're patient, lubed, and actually listening to each other.
Now let's answer the questions you're too embarrassed to type into Google.
Frequently Asked Questions
You've got questions. I've got answers. And no, I won't judge you for asking.
Yes, you can train for it. The pelvic floor is a muscle with nerve endings, and, like any muscle, it responds to practice. People who initially struggle often succeed after several sessions because they learn to voluntarily relax the sphincter and interpret the signals differently. It's not magic, it's neuromuscular conditioning.
Pressure is static. Building pleasure has a rhythm; it waves. When you're close, you'll feel involuntary pelvic floor contractions starting, warmth spreading from the stimulation point outward, and your breathing will shift from controlled to automatic. The sensation stops being "something's there" and becomes "I need this to continue."
External only works for many people. The anal opening contains more superficial nerve endings than the interior. Anal touch, rimming, pressure, vibration on the outside, can trigger orgasm by stimulating the pudendal nerve branches. No penetration required. About 15% of people who experience anal orgasms report doing so through external stimulation alone.
Completely normal. Some people's nerve pathways just route pleasure more intensely through anal stimulation. The prostate and internal clitoris contain different nerve densities than the external genitals. Stronger orgasms from anal play usually mean you're accessing deeper pelvic nerve networks that other stimulation misses.
Both work. During vaginal sex, adding a butt plug or finger provides simultaneous stimulation. During oral sex, anal touch adds sensation. Many people find anal stimulation enhances other orgasms rather than replacing them. It's not either-or, it's additive.
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