Is squirting “real?” It’s a question that’s been asked for decades. The answer is yes, squirting is a very real occurrence that happens to women during arousal or orgasm.

But what if you’ve never squirted before? Does that mean it’s not possible? The good news is that squirting can be learned by any woman at any age.

Whether you’re new to squirting, or you’re a pro at squirting with a partner but want to give it a try by yourself, this guide will teach you how to squirt while masturbating. Let’s dive in!

What is Squirting?

Squirting is the colloquial term for female ejaculation. That is, the emission of fluids from the urethra during sexual excitement or orgasm.

There is some debate as to whether female ejaculate is simply urine. In other words, squirting is just a woman urinating during orgasm. While female ejaculate does contain similar components as are found in urine (e.g. urea, creatine) it does so in different amounts. It also contains additional components like Prostate Specific Antigen (PSA).

The addition of PSA suggests that the fluids emitted during squirting originate in the Skene’s glands as opposed to the bladder. These glands sit on either side of the urethra and provide lubrication.

Can Anybody Squirt?

While current prevalence is unknown, we can assume squirting is not incredibly common. This is because it is seen almost as an anomaly by men and women alike. In theory, it should be possible for the majority of women.

We wrote a longer article about how common squirting is here.

The barrier to squirting for women is often the feeling of shame. Female ejaculation is often portrayed in pornography as an “extreme.” But beyond that, female body fluids have often been something never to speak of. So even if a woman is naturally disposed to squirting, she may hold back so as not to deter her partner.

If you really want to squirt, then it’s likely that all that is holding your back is yourself.

How to Squirt While Masturbating

While squirting is often discussed in the context of sex, doing so whilst masturbating is a good way to become used to the feeling. Here are some tips on how to do it while you masturbate.

Relax

The key to squirting is to be in a relaxed state of mind. You must be mentally and physically relaxed for your greatest potential.

What does this look like?

A relaxed mind is one that doesn’t wander. One that focuses on the task at hand. While thoughts may enter your mind, you should be able to push them to the side easily and focus only on the pleasure.

As for a relaxed body, that means no clenching or tensing. You should be in a comfortable position with no fear of interruption.

If you have trouble relaxing, then here are some techniques to use:

• Guided meditation
• Deep breathing
• Chamomile or lavender bath
• Full-body massage

The important thing is to get yourself into a relaxed state of mind.

Hydrate

You’re not going to be successful if your body isn’t properly hydrated.

A few hours before you want to try, drink a few glasses of water. You don’t need to drink a lot, just two to three glasses should do.

Then, right before you try, empty your bladder. This will do two things:

It will make you feel more comfortable when you’re preparing to squirt. If you’ve just peed, then you know that you aren’t going to actually pee yourself despite what it may feel like.
It reduces the amount of urine that’s released in the squirting fluid. Since squirting fluid travels through the bladder, it does pick up some urine, so the more diluted the better.

With a bit of practice, you’ll soon find the right hydration balance for you.

Prepare Your Space

If you’re new to squirting, then you’re likely to be unaware of how your body squirts. Will you gush? Will you soak your bedding?

To assuage your fears and to ensure these questions aren’t hindering your success, it’s best to prepare your space.

If you’ll be masturbating in bed or on the couch, then a few towels should do the job. You may also feel more comfortable doing it on the floor, so throw down a yoga mat and cover with towels.

If you’re particularly worried about making a mess, then considering masturbating in the bathtub! Spend your time setting the scene – candles, lighting, music. You should also throw down a towel or a bathmat so you’re comfortable in the tub.

Explore Your Erogenous Zones

Every woman should take the time to explore her body. You can do that by exploring your erogenous zones, the most sensitive areas of the female body.

The erogenous zones go beyond just the usual sensual body parts. They include the ears, lips, lower back and buttocks, thighs, and feet.

While some spots are easier to stimulate with a partner, you can explore your erogenous zones on your own. Use aids like feathers, paddles, fans, and vibrators. These can provide a gentle touch that triggers the nerves’ sensitivity in these otherwise neglected areas.

We have an awesome article about how to squirt using a vibrator over here.

Find Your G-Spot

Is it possible to squirt without stimulating the g-spot? Sure, but where’s the fun in that?

The g-spot is a spongy tissue located on the upper wall of the vagina just a few inches inside the vaginal opening. While the g-spot has been a topic of debate for many decades, this debate has largely been put to rest with the latest research. The consensus? The g-spot is real, but just not in the way we once previously thought.

The area we know as the g-spot is actually the internal part of the clitoris. As you can imagine, stimulating this area will stimulate the larger organ and induce intense pleasure.

For most women, finding the g-spot is as easy as inserting a finger into the vagina and hooking it just past the entrance. You should feel a spongy structure that differs in texture slightly from the tissues surrounding it.

Try a New Position

Sex positions aren’t just for partnered play! Whether you’re trying to hit your g-spot or just get more comfortable, it’s good to try new masturbation positions.

The most basic of positions, on your back with your hands between your legs, is a great place to start. It’s easy and accessible, and it gets the job done. But sometimes you need to spice it up.

You can try a variation of the on-the-back position like knees bent with legs spread apart (like you’re in stirrups at the gynecologist). You can also transition to a leaning/sitting position with your back propped against a stack of pillows or a wall.

If none of those tickle your fancy, there are plenty of other female masturbation positions to try.

Take Your Time

Even for those women where squirting comes naturally, it can take a longer session to squirt. Don’t rush to orgasm just to see if you can squirt. Really take your time.

The more aroused you are, the easier it’ll be to squirt.

Why?

Many women have mental blocks to squirting. Whether that be because they’re worried about making a mess, about peeing, or just because it’s new, these mental blocks can be difficult to overcome.

One surefire way to overcome them, though, is to be overcome with arousal.

If pleasure and climax are all that’s on the brain, you’re more likely to release yourself from those mental blocks. That means you’ll be more likely to squirt.

So take your time and enjoy the journey.

Introduce Sex Toys

From dildos to vibrators to nipple clamps, there are so many sex toys to experiment with. And even if they don’t bring you to squirting orgasm on their own, they can certainly help to get you there.

If you’ve never used sex toys before, you can start with something small and unintimidating like a bullet vibrator. You can use it directly on your clitoris or on your g-spot. If clitoral orgasms are your thing, then clitoral stimulators exist too. These can bring you to climax within minutes, or you can use it to edge yourself.

Keep Going

A common complaint from women new to squirting is that they feel as if they have to pee. This is normal, but it’s something you’ll have to push through.

Remember there is a difference between squirting and urination. While it may feel like urination at first, you will soon realize the difference. It will become easier to distinguish the more comfortable you get with squirting.

If you’re very concerned in the beginning, you could always try in the bathtub. A more comfortable option is to throw some towels on the bed in the event that you do pee. The likeliest outcome? You’ll feel like you have to pee until the climax, but once you overcome the “hump” you’ll climax and squirt simultaneously.

What If I Can’t Squirt?

You may not squirt the first time you try. Or the fifth. Or the fifteenth.

There are many reasons you may struggle to squirt. The key is to enjoy the practice and know that it’s normal to have some mental blocks.

Squirting comes more naturally to some women than it does to others. Just because you’re having trouble squirting, it doesn’t mean you’ll never get the hang of it.

Make a mental note of what you think may have hindered you in previous sessions, and then work to resolve them in the next session. For example, maybe you weren’t able to get fully into the mood because you kept getting distracted by outside noises. You can resolve that by setting up a playlist for the next time.

You may also be one of those people who only squirts with a partner. Don’t be afraid to broach the topic with your partner and see if they’d be willing to learn some techniques to help.

From a partner’s perspective, they may be able to help you. In which case this article about how to make a woman squirt will be very useful.

Conclusion

It’s common for women to downplay their sexual desires due to shame. This is true of many sexual acts, but especially squirting. Only you can allow yourself to let go of the shame and guilt and start living freely.

Once you have done that, though, you can use the tips above to introduce yourself to a new world of pleasure. If you’re new, it helps to start out alone. But you can always incorporate the tips above into partner play, too.

It’s true that squirting isn’t for everyone. Even if someone can squirt, it doesn’t mean they enjoy it. But for those who like squirting or who want to give it a try, the above tips can help.