Well, there are obviously quite a few to choose from, and we’ll cover all the best options in this article.
Often guys will just go for spit because they didn’t plan in advance what to use. But spit dries up quickly and you will run out of it eventually, so we don’t recommend it unless it’s your only option.
The other options are water-based, silicone-based, and oil-based lubricants.
Make no mistake though, lubrication is very important.
Making her ejaculate can take time. Her arousal will build over time as you continue to stimulate her, but her own internal lubrication will dry over time. If this happens, instead of enjoying the feeling of you stimulating her, the friction will simply become more and more uncomfortable.
The answer is to get a good lube, place it on your bedside table, and get ready to send your girl to heaven.
Water-based lubes are smooth, slick, and aren’t sticky like some oil-based lubricants. They are also completely condom compatible, unlike oil-based lubes that can destroy condoms over time.
Water-based lubes also absorb easily into the skin. So they will leave your skin nice and smooth, but then you will have to reapply now and again to keep it friction-free exactly because they do absorb into the skin.
Note: It is known that water-based formulas contain glycerine which can promote infections. It is best to make sure your girl always cleans up after.
Silicone-based lubes are similar to their watery cousins, but they last much longer though with a stickier feel. Some couples find them too greasy, whilst others appreciate that you almost never have to reapply because they simply don’t dry out.
This type of lubricant is best for more time-intensive activities, like vaginal massage.
Oil-based lubes such as Vaseline and baby oil last much longer but are not recommended because they corrode condoms and are also conducive to vaginal infections when they aren’t washed away properly.
We recommend you avoid them for squirting techniques and intercourse. Instead, use them only for non-vaginal massage.
A good alternative, if you have no other options, is grape seed oil. It’s completely natural, long-lasting, and healthy for the woman. It’s also cheap and easily available. It does need to be reapplied fairly often though.
Grape seed oil is ideal for the orgasmic potential massage but isn’t recommended during intercourse. The only downside is sometimes women can find it weird and aren’t sure about using it.
Which Lube Is Best?
The lubricants listed above all have their own purposes. Let’s discuss the main activities one would use lube for, as well as which lubricant is best.
Activity: Vaginal Intercourse
Best lube: Water-based or silicone-based.
Both water-based and silicone-based will provide the slippery barrier you need to prevent friction during vaginal intercourse. When choosing between the two, you’ll have to consider the frequency of reapplication and messiness.
Water-based lubricants may need to be reapplied multiple times during sex, but they are mess-free. Silicone-based lubricants can last for long sessions, and they can even be used in water. However, they can stain and leave a residue.
If the concern is compatibility with condoms, then both water-based and silicone-based lubes are safe to use.
Whether through intercourse, digital penetration, or sex toys, you will need a good lubricant to get your girl to squirt.
For many of the same reasons listed above under vaginal intercourse, water-based and silicone-based lubricants are your best bet. They offer the most versatility and comfort, and they are the least likely to cause irritation or lead to infection.
If your partner has a preference, then let her decide. If not, then silicone-based does have a slight edge over water-based simply due to its long-lasting performance.
Activity: Anal Intercourse
Best lube: Water-based or silicone-based.
Similar to vaginal intercourse, both water-based and silicone-based lubricants offer the slip you need for anal intercourse. These types of lubes can make it easier to achieve anal orgasm. The decision here is purely up to your preference.
Activity: Digital Fingering or Masturbation
Best lube: Silicone-based.
Activity: Sex Toys
Silicone-based lubricants can break down silicone sex toys over time. Even with non-silicone toys, you may find that silicone-based lubes leave stains or residue on your latex, plastic, glass, or stainless steel toys.
Best lube: Oil-based.
Oil-based lubes are the most slippery of the three main types of lubricants. This makes sense since they are, well, oil. When using oil-based lubricants, it is best to avoid vaginal or anal penetration as oil-based lubes may upset the pH balance and cause infection.
Using the “right” lube can make a huge difference in your sex life. This is true for both men and women. However, the right lube will differ by person and by activity.
For many people and activities, water-based and silicone-based lubricants will do the trick. This is also true of an activity such as squirting, which can take considerable time and effort to achieve. If your girl is new to squirting, then I recommend silicone-based simply for its longevity. But it never hurts to experiment and see what works best for both of you.