How To Make Her Squirt Easily – The Ultimate Guide

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How To Make Her Squirt Easily – The Ultimate Guide

You’re about to learn everything you need to know to make your partner squirt.

A squirting orgasm is a beautiful thing, and something your partner will never forget.

Just be aware, you may be changing the bedsheets frequently with this technique I’m about to teach you.

Firstly, did you know…

Not every woman is a natural squirter. In fact, only 10% to 54% of women can squirt with little effort:

So what are you to do if your partner falls into the 46% to 90% of women who require a bit of extra help?

In this guide, I’ll provide an in-depth introduction to squirting. I’ll then share the steps necessary to bring your partner from excited to thoroughly aroused and, finally, to gushing with pleasure.

I want to quickly say, I only recommend using these techniques if you’re in a loving relationship.

An intense orgasm can be an emotional experience, and it’s much better to experience that with someone you love and use it as a way to take the relationship to a deeper level.

So with that said…

Why choose to learn from us at The School of Squirt?

I’ve been teaching squirting techniques to men for over 7 years and I know exactly what works (and what hurts).

I’ve helped over 60,000 students, both men, women, and couples, have a squirting orgasm for the first time.

Oh yea, by the way…

We’re Jakob and Laura and we started School Of Squirt just for people like you, who want to learn how to give women the ultimate form of sexual pleasure.

We are going to be your ‘Sexpert‘ teachers while you’re here today.

At the end of this article I’m going to share something amazing with you.

It’s a massage technique that you can use to give her a squirting orgasm even more easily!!

So if you’ve tried to make your girlfriend or wife squirt before but it hasn’t worked…

This is most likely the hidden key to making to gush out her juices and soak your bedsheets for the FIRST TIME EVER.

Ready to get started?

Good, let’s begin…

What is Squirting?

Chances are, if you found this article, you know at least a little bit about what squirting is.

But for those of you who need a little refresher, here it is.

Squirting is the ejection of a colorless, odorless fluid from the female urethra during arousal or climax. It’s often depicted in adult entertainment as a forceful blast, though squirting fluids can trickle, leak, or gush from the urethra depending on the woman, her level of arousal, and other factors.

Isn’t Squirting Just the Same as Pee?

There’s a common myth that squirting is just urination.

I’m here to tell you that while squirting fluids do contain urine, it’s not the same as urination.

Let me explain.

Squirting fluid has been shown to originate in the bladder and, therefore, contain components found in urine. However, it’s still debated as to whether the bladder fills with urine, or it’s another yet-to-be-determined fluid.


Ultrasounds of the bladder were taken from women post voluntary urination, then right before squirting, and finally immediately following squirting.

The ultrasounds confirm that the bladder is emptied upon voluntary urination. Then, right before squirting occurs, the bladder suddenly fills with a fluid which is then forcefully expelled from the bladder.

That’s not to say that some of the fluid doesn’t contain pee, but considering the bladder doesn’t usually fill with pee so suddenly as was shown on the ultrasounds, it’s possible that there’s another process at play.

Further, squirting fluid also contains components similar to that found in semen (without the sperm). This is likely a contribution from the Skene’s glands, a prostate-like gland found near the opening of the urethra.

Oh, and by the way, squirting is also different from female ejaculation.

That’s right! While the two terms are often used interchangeably, they are different things.

The difference?

In short…

Squirting fluid is a combination of urine and fluid from the Skene’s glands which is ejected—often forcefully—from the urethra. Female ejaculation is only fluid from the Skene’s glands and it’s often ejected less forcefully, in a trickle or drip.

Can Every Woman Squirt?

This is a tricky question to answer because science and lived personal experiences will often tell you two different things.

According to the (admittedly few) research studies on the topic, squirting is possible for anywhere from 10% to 54% of women.

If that range seems ambiguous to you, it’s because it is.

The fact is, squirting is not much understood by the scientific community. Just in that research article alone, squirting and female ejaculation are grouped together even though the researchers admit they are two different phenomena.

So what’s the real answer?

I believe that every woman can learn to squirt assuming she has the necessary physical attributes. That is, a functioning bladder, Skene’s glands, and urethra.

How to Make a Woman Squirt

Now that you know the whats and whys of squirting, let’s talk about the most important part: how to actually make her gush.

Tip #1: Make Preparations To Set the Mood

The rest of this guide is absolutely useless without this first part. After all, you can’t expect your woman to be in the mood if you can’t even take the time to prepare her body and her mind.

Now if your partner is a ‘natural squirter’ you can skip these steps. But it she doesn’t come so easily, then please follow along.

It’s your job to erase all cares and distractions from your lover’s mind. Instead, you want her to only have thoughts of the pleasure that’s to come.

So, what are some small preparations you can make which will have a big impact?

  • Get rid of distractions – Clutter, both physical and mental, can really put a damper on the experience before you even begin. This is why it’s vital that you clear the area of clutter and remove or hide electronic devices.
  • Aromatherapy as an arousal methodLavender has been shown to induce relaxation while, at the same time, bringing females to heightened arousal. So, whether you spark up some candles or place a bit of incense in just the right places, you can use sense of smell to get your woman ready.
  • Do away with harsh lighting – Soft, gentle lighting, such as from flickering candles and low-light lamps, will bring her relaxation and set the mood for later.
  • Make a playlist – Create a soft and sensual playlist for you and your woman to enjoy.
  • Take care of your grooming needs – From shaving your prickly beard to trimming your fingernails, it’s necessary to take care of your hygiene needs in order to provide your lover with a truly enjoyable (and pain-free!) encounter.

Tip #2: Find the Position That’s Right for Her

Whether you’re just getting ready for foreplay, or you’d like to start stimulating her clitoris and vagina with the tips outlined in tips 4 and 5, the position she’s in can make or break the experience.

Here’s a simple position that will give you full access to her clitoris and g-spot, while also ensuring that she is comfortable and relaxed to the fullest:

  1. First, have her lie on her back.
  2. Now, either with her legs bent at the knee or flat against the bed, have her spread her legs. If her knees are bent, she can let her legs hang in an almost frog-like position. This will stretch and relax the muscles in the thighs.
  3. Last, be sure to have a pillow resting just under her buttocks. This will tilt her pelvis slightly, making it possible for both vaginal and clitoral stimulation during foreplay, stimulation, and intercourse.

You could even try this special ‘inverted Spiderman’ technique. Just hang her head off the edge of the bed and you’ll be able to hit her g-spot in the perfect position.


Now that she’s in the right position, let’s move on to some physical stimulation.

Tip #3: Focus on the Foreplay

Even more than the environment, preparing your lady – both mentally and physically – for the experience is absolutely necessary if you want her to climax, and especially if you want to make your woman squirt.

With the help of the foreplay techniques below, you can get started getting your woman into the proper mood.

Whisper sweet nothings – Whether your partner enjoys the gentle brush of your breath against her ear, or the sound of dirty talk gets her going, this step can be used to titillate and tease.

Your primary goal here is to get her out of a logical frame of mind.

When it comes to female orgasms, logic is the enemy of pleasure.

All of this preparation takes place for the purpose of turning off her logical mind so she can ‘inhabit her body’.

Only when she’s in this new ‘state of mind’ can she truly let go and release a powerful orgasm.

Utilize erotic massage – To get your night off to an exhilarating start, why not take some time to give your girl a sensual rubdown? There are various massage techniques you can incorporate into this part of the evening, and you can always take cues from your partner to see what’s a hit and what’s a miss.

Locate her erogenous zones – Just like men, women have a few ultra-sensitive spots that, with the right stimulation, can make arousal easy.

You may have an idea what some of the most obvious erogenous zones are, but get a training from the experts on the lesser-known hot spots for the ultimate experience.

Pro tip: Some men may find it difficult to determine which spots she finds to be most sensitive. This need not be an issue, as long as you communicate and pay special attention to her physical cues.

If your lover cannot tell you what she likes, and if you are unable to read her cues, at this moment in time, squirting will not happen. Instead, you must first work on breaking down these walls in your relationship.

Tip #4: Invest In High-Quality Lube

If there’s one thing to splurge on when it comes to bringing your woman pleasure, it’s a high-quality lubricant that will make this sexual escapade much more fun, both for you and for her.

You really can never use too much lube.

My favorite lubricant is actually grapeseed oil. It’s cheap, easy to buy, and free from harsh chemicals.

With this in mind, let’s go over some g-spot stimulating steps you can take:

  1. Consider trying a new lube to find the best lube for squirting.
  2. Apply lube liberally to her clitoris, inside her pussy, and to your fingers and palm.
  3. Stimulate her clitoris with a combination of digital and oral manipulation.
  4. Slowly insert your middle finger into her vagina, keeping your palm face up. Curl your fingertip and perform a “come hither” motion with your finger on the frontal wall of her vagina.
  5. While you don’t want to provide overstimulation, after a few minutes, you should be able to add another finger and test out a variety of other stimulation techniques in order to keep her aroused and interested. How will you know when it’s time? As your woman becomes more aroused, her vaginal wall will swell. This swelling will let you know she’s ready for more stimulation and getting closer to climax.
  6. Moving deeper inside her, locate her g-spot (a spongy structure, anywhere from the size of dime to the size of a quarter when stimulated) about 2-3 inches within her vagina, and take note of its location because you’ll need easy access for the tip below.

Keep in mind that your partner may complain of an urge to urinate. This is absolutely normal, and you should assure her that she need not worry.

In order to make a woman squirt, she will need to feel completely comfortable around you, and providing her with reassurance that a bit of urine isn’t anything that will freak you out will help her to relax and let go.

Tip #5: Combine Clitoral and Vaginal Stimulation for Electrifying Results

I mentioned above that the right position will ensure you’re able to stimulate the vagina and clitoris at the same time. But, what makes this so important?

The clitoris, while certainly the most sensitive part of her genitals, isn’t the only place she craves stimulation.

So, to provide her with a body-rocking, breath-taking, and moan-inducing orgasm, you’ll want to take extra special care to provide both the clitoris and vagina with equal amounts of attention.

Fortunately for you, there’s a well-defined technique for doing so, and here it is:

  1. Using your non-dominant hand, place pressure directly on her pubic bone. This pressure will provide you with better leverage, and also keep her stable while she squirms from delight.
  2. Now, with your middle and ring fingers gently grazing the g-spot (see tip #4 to learn how to locate the g-spot), you’re going to place your palm face up and allow it to rest upon her clit. (For this to work, you’ll either need to kneel or stand facing towards her.)
  3. With your palm applying gentle, yet firm pressure to the clit, begin to move your fingers in a “come hither” motion, gentle stroking the g-spot.
  4. Move your hand up and down while still stroking the g-spot. This can be a bit tricky, but in time, you’ll get the technique just right.
  5. Eventually, you’ll want to speed up your movements. Don’t go so fast and hard that you lose control, but instead keep pace which allows you to continue in a rhythmic motion. At times, you may feel as if you’re being too rough. But, as long as your partner is enjoying the encounter, continue at the pace which provides the most stimulation.
  6. As she comes closer to climax, you’ll notice an increase in sharp inhalations, moans, and squirms. Keep up the same levels of speed and pressure, and in no time your lover will be dripping wet from her own ejaculation.
  7. As a bonus, once your partner begins to cum, keep your palm placed firmly against her clitoris. This will maximize the intensity of feelings and pleasure without causing overstimulation.

Tip #6: Focus More on the Experience Than the Goal

You may be focused on bringing your partner to climax and making her squirt, but don’t let that be the main goal. Instead, focus on the overall experience and let her pleasure and climax be a byproduct of the encounter.

Men find it hard to understand how women become aroused because it’s so different from men.

For most men, it’s a sprint to the finish line – but for when the arousal cycle can go up and down, through plateaus and peaks.

Especially for women who have never ejaculated before, getting them to that point can take a lot of time and patience. You may need to tweak the techniques as you go along, but eventually, you and her will get into the groove that’s right for you.

And, once she’s cum once, she’s bound to want to cum again and again.

So, take your time and really enjoy the experience.

Bonus Tip #7: Use a Bit of Help (Use a Sex Toy)

There’s no shame in needing a bit of help from time to time, and there are a few tools you can use to make this process much easier. After all, this might be your first time learning how to make a woman squirt, so why not get a little help?

First, consider bringing some toys into the bedroom. There are a variety of toys – from vibrators to g-spot stimulators to dildos – that can aid you in getting your woman to a screaming, squirting orgasm.

Second, if you’re having trouble mastering the above techniques, you may need a more thorough guide to female arousal and ejaculation.

Here’s what I like to do…

Go out and buy one of those vibrating cock rings (Durex has some good ones that are available at most convenience stores…)

Durex vibrating cock ring

Now what you can do is, instead of using the vibrating part for your self, you can gently hold the vibrating part against her clit with one hand…

Whilst using your other hand to finger her in exactly the way I’ve described before.

This powerful combination of vibration stimulating her clit, and fingers hitting her g-spot is too much for most women to handle and they’ll almost always burst open with sprays of lovely female ejaculation.

How do I know this technique works???

Here’s how…

Soaked bedsheets Whatsapp message


If you’re feeling really cheeky (and experimental) you can see if she likes having an additional (lubricated) finger inserted up her bum.

This adds another dimension of pleasure to the equation and gives her an even stronger feeling of being ‘full’ which women love.

Or you could try using a butt plug, to give her that ‘full’ feeling without needing to use additional fingers.


There are sex toys created just for the G-spot, which are great too

These curved devices sit comfortably in the vagina placing pressure in the exact right spot.

Whether dildos or vibrators, you and your partner can certainly have some fun and give your fingers a bit of a break.

The Womanizer Red Duo Rechargeable G-spot and Clit Stimulator is just one option among many!

The key to G-spot stimulation and squirting? You must remove the stimulator—e.g. penis, hand, or sex toy—just prior to squirting. Otherwise, the stimulator can feel like a blockage and it may deter your partner from gushing.

That doesn’t mean you should stop stimulation altogether. Instead, switch to hardcore clitoral stimulation as soon as you release pressure on the G-spot. When done at just the right time, it will tip your partner over the edge.

Best Sex Positions for Squirting

There are plenty of ways to help her squirt… with fingering, while eating her out, and also during sex. However, there are some sex positions that are more conducive to squirting than others.

So if you want your girl to squirt all over your cock, try out these g-spot stimulating positions tonight.

Doggy Style


This classic position is actually the perfect position for getting her to squirt during sex.


She kneels on her hands and knees while you kneel between her legs and enter her from behind. You can use her hips for leverage as you thrust into her.


  • Doggy style offers deep penetration.
  • This position gives you complete control over speed, depth, and positioning.
  • It’s easy for her to make her g-spot more accessible. All she needs to do is push her pelvic floor muscles outwards which will lower her vaginal walls. This is the key to squirting during sex.
  • You can reach around and manually stimulate her, or she can reach down and take matters into her own hands.


  • Some women find this position demeaning or degrading and find this position a huge turn off. Other women love it.
  • You may be able to thrust so deeply that the tip of your penis reaches her cervix. Go slowly and gently at first to avoid causing her discomfort or pain.
  • Some women find this position painful on their knees. Use pillows for propping.

Reverse Cowgirl

This position is great for women who know just how they need to hit their g-spot to squirt and who want more control.


Lie on your back and have your woman straddle your hips while facing your feet. She can kneel down and start riding you.


  • This position gives her full control over angle, depth, and pace. She can lean back or forward to change the angle of your shaft thrusting into her.
  • This is a great position for G-spot stimulation.
  • She can reach down to stimulate her clit simultaneously.


  • This position can be painful, particularly on her knees, if she’s not used athletically inclined.
  • The non-face-to-face nature of this position can make it less intimate.

The Pushup

If she wants to lay back and relax while also being able to stimulate her clit, this position is just what you need.


Your partner lies on her back and raises her legs. You get between her legs and assume the standard push-up position.

To hit her g-spot more easily, place a pillow or cushion under her hips. This will tilt her pelvis upwards which also makes it easier for you to stimulate her clit.


  • This face-to-face position provides eye contact and skin-on-skin contact.
  • The space between you two allows you to reach down and stimulate her clitoris while simultaneously hitting her g-spot with your cock.
  • There’s less weight placed upon her than in more traditional sex positions so she can breathe and move more freely.
  • You can thrust with your pelvis and shoulders at the same time which gives you a greater range of thrusting depths and speeds.
  • She can see you entering her which is a turn-on for most women.


  • If you aren’t particularly fit, this position can be tiring.
  • If you’re not one who regularly performs push-ups, shifting to just one hand so you can use the other to manually stimulate her may be difficult for you. However, she can easily access her clit with her fingers or sex toys.

The Amazon

This face-to-face woman-on-top position gives her full control.


Lie on your back and pull your knees up to your chest. Your partner stands over you with her feet on either side of your legs. She crouches down and mounts your shaft. As you start to have sex, she kneels down and pushes her feet back and together. You can grab her thighs while she supports her weight on your chest.


  • Your raised legs will ger her excellent G-spot and A-spot stimulation.
  • While the Amazon can offer deep penetration, she’ll be in charge of depth and pace so she’s most comfortable.
  • With your hands mostly free, you can stimulate her nipples, clit, anus, etc. This is important for really getting her off as she stimulates her g-spot.


  • You’ll need good flexibility and strength to hold your knees in this position for any length of time.
  • You may find yourself rolling forward as she rides. You can place a pillow under your lower back to help stabilize you.
  • Your shaft may be angled awkwardly away from you which can make it more difficult for you to climax. If the goal is getting her to squirt, though, then this will help you to last longer.

Frequently Asked Questions on Squirting

There’s quite a bit of mystery surrounding the subject of female ejaculation. Hoping to dispel these myths so you and your partner can begin to enjoy the adventure that is squirting, I’ve compiled a list of some of the most frequently asked questions on the subject.

Q1: What exactly is squirting?

Contrary to popular belief, squirting is NOT pee.

In fact, the fluids released during the act of squirting have actually been found to be quite similar to male ejaculate without sperm.

But if not the bladder, where does this fluid come from?

In a 2007 research study, scientists utilized ultrasound technology and endoscopy of the urethra to find the source. The ultrasound revealed the presence of a structure, similar to the male prostate. This structure, known informally as the Skene’s gland, is located close to the G-spot, and surrounds the entire length of the urethra.

When compared to the chemical composition of voided urine, researchers found that the released fluid contained prostate plasma and shows that the fluid’s origin is the Skene’s gland and not the bladder.

Q2: Is squirting healthy?

Squirting can provide women with both physical and emotional health benefits.

Physically, it’s as a form of release that will reduce stress levels and boost the production of endorphins, the body’s “happy” hormones.

Emotionally, it can increase the bond between you and your girl, and create a deep sense of intimacy and love.

Q3: Can all women squirt?

Biologically speaking, all women have the physical attributes necessary to squirt. Emotionally, however, there may be a few barriers in place which make squirting difficult or “impossible” for a number of women.

With the proper coaching and a good deal of trust, even the most non-orgasmic of women can be brought to a squirting orgasm.

All women have a g-spot, so in theory they should all be able to squirt. Psychological and emotional issues are typically what stops her ejaculating, not the physical side of things.

Only a few women do squirt regularly during penetrative sex. Many women are embarrassed or worried that their partners might be confused or grossed out if they squirt. Many women feel the urge to pee during sex, when in fact they may actually be ready to squirt.

Almost all women can squirt because all women have the anatomy to do so. It just takes time and practice (and a willing partner who knows what they are doing).

The good thing is, once you’ve done it once or twice, you’ll know the feeling and be able to do it again, often more easily.

The only problem will be the soaking of the bedsheets every night. In fact, there is even a special massage you can use to become more orgasmic. There are also the squirter dimples that are an indicator that she can/ you can squirt.

So, to answer the question ‘can all girls squirt?’ Yes, they can, but it can often take time and practice. The woman should be comfortable with herself and her sexuality.

Shame, guilt, and tension will all prevent squirting orgasms from happening.

Q4: Is there a way to tell if a woman is better able to squirt than other women?

The best indication of a woman’s capacity for squirting is the openness and trust she feels in her partner. Of course, any woman can squirt with patience and effort on the part of her partner.

Surprisingly, there is also a physical attribute that may indicate the ability to squirt more easily. This attribute is known as squirter’s dimples, and they are the small indentations located on both sides of the lower back, just above the buttocks.

Q5: How can I get my woman to squirt?

If your partner has yet to experience squirting, you may think it just isn’t something she’s capable of.

As mentioned above, any woman can squirt. There are emotional blocks, however, which can make it more difficult and seemingly impossible.

There are a few things you can do to get her to squirt.

First and foremost, the trust which your partner has in you and in your relationship will make or break her ability to squirt. For women, arousal is just as much (if not more) emotional as it is physical.


This means taking the time to build up your partner’s trust, as well as connecting on a deep, emotional level, will make it possible for your partner to squirt.

Second, it’s vital that you create an environment in which relaxation and comfort is the main focus. The suggestions outlined in Tip #1 above will provide you with the information you need to create the perfect setting.

Q6: Can I make squirting easier for my lover to achieve?

Even women who have been known to squirt before may find it difficult or time-consuming.

Practice does make perfect, so just taking the time to focus on your woman’s sexual needs will do a lot to improve her abilities.

Other things to keep in mind are stimulation techniques, as well as cue reading. You always want to focus on your partner’s responses to your touch, as this will guide you in the right direction. Once you understand her cues, helping her to climax will become a breeze.

The best way to make it easier for her to squirt is to get her to practice the kegel exercise.

This tones and strengthens the vaginal muscles allowing her pussy to contract more powerfully, and therefore squirt more easily.

One simple kegel exercise is to lie flat on the floor with knees bent up, then raise up the bum and contract/flex the vaginal muscles.

Q7: Why does my partner feel like she has to pee?

The main complaint of many women who have yet to master the art of squirting is the inability to distinguish between the need to pee and the urge to squirt.

The simple fact is, for beginning squirters, there is no difference between these two feelings.

As the Skene’s gland is located in close proximity to the bladder, women who have yet to experience the feeling will assume they need to pee. As a woman becomes more accustomed to squirting, however, the feelings will become more distinct and easily distinguishable.

What can you do until she has gotten to that point?

If your partner feels the urge to pee and this is holding her back, there are still some issues that need to be addressed. Ask your partner to talk about her fears, and use this time to reassure her.

Q8: Does squirting always occur at the same time as orgasm?

The squirting orgasm, so commonly depicted in pornography, isn’t always the way in which things go down.

While the majority of women will squirt during orgasm, it is possible for them to squirt between orgasms, or even without reaching orgasm at all.

Q9: How can I get her to squirt during orgasm?

If you find your partner is having trouble orgasming and squirting at the same time, there may be a psychological block that is limiting her abilities.

That your partner is able to squirt while with you is a fantastic first step. Now, it’s time to work on any stresses or troubles that may be blocking her from orgasming.

Q10: What should I do while she squirts?

This may be the first time you’ve ever brought a partner to the point of squirting. If so, you’re likely worried that your actions during and after will turn her off from doing it again in the future.

Remember, as a natural and extremely enjoyable experience, your partner should never be made to feel discouraged for squirting. To foster positive feelings, be there – physically and emotionally.

Continue to perform the sexual act which caused her to squirt, such as intercourse of stimulation of the G-spot. This will prolong her pleasurable feelings and show her that you want her to enjoy herself.

After the encounter, ask her what she liked and what she wishes you would have done. Your partner knows her body, and she can best tell you what she’d like you to do in the future to intensify the experience.

Q11: How many times can my partner squirt in a single session?

Unlike men, women don’t have a refractory period. This means that squirting multiple times in a single session is absolutely possible.

If your partner is new to this, don’t expect multiple squirting orgasms during her first few sessions. As she becomes more comfortable, though, squirting more than once can certainly occur.

One thing to keep in mind is how dehydrating this can be. Provide your partner with ample fluids, preferably some with electrolytes, in order to replenish her hydration levels.

Q12: What can my partner do to increase the number of times she can squirt?

If your partner wants to improve the quality and quantity of her squirting, the best thing she can do is to work on her pelvic muscles.

Kegel exercises can provide your partner with the ability to better control her squirting, and it will make her more confident in her abilities.

Q13: Can sex take place after squirting?

Squirting is a sure sign that your lover is fully aroused. This means that intercourse after squirting can be the perfect time to bring your partner to vaginal orgasm, and it may also help her to squirt during intercourse as opposed to just squirting from g-spot stimulation.

Q14: Is there a technique I can use to prolong her pleasure?

The technique you’re looking for is called “squirt stacking,” and it takes a lot of practice to get just right.

Essentially, this technique involves you bringing your female partner as close to squirting as possible, and then backing off the stimulation.

Once you get the hang of this, you can perform this multiple times in one session, bringing your partner so close to squirting that she’s begging for release, and then toning back your stimulation so as to still pleasure her but avoid her climaxing as long as possible.

By the time she finally releases, however, the intensity and duration may provide her with the most pleasure she’s ever felt in her life.

Q15: Are squirting orgasms a good idea for loving relationships?

Female ejaculation used to have negative connotations in terms of loving relationships. They somehow seemed unnatural or like something you would see in a movie.

Squirting used to seem unladylike or unromantic and therefore some people had reservations about trying it in a loving relationship.

Luckily the taboo is slowly being lifted as couples come to realize that healthy, interesting sex lives are so important for a great relationship.

Of course, there is nothing unnatural or wrong about female ejaculation and squirting orgasms can and should be used to build a solid loving relationship. It also helps the man tune into the subtle variations of the feminine energy which can help grow the relationship.

Q16: Why do guys like squirting?

I’ve answered this question of why guys like squirting in much more detail. To summarise quickly, it’s a very visual form of showing you’re able to please your partner and it’s a great way to prepare for sex. It also shows a level of trust and intimacy that can build a relationship. I recommend reading the whole article if you want to know more.

Make Her Squirt Orgasm During Cunninglingus

Imagine going down on a girl just right… so she sprays her womanly juices all over your face…

Imagine giving any girl one of the most intense orgasms of her life using just your tongue

Well that’s exactly right because going down on a girl, munching out her vagina, is an art form and it is something that we should all learn to Master, for the sake of all the women out there.

In keeping with the theme of School Of Squirt, this will be about making your lady gush during oral sex, not just the simple female orgasm (although that happens as well).

The first point to note is that you will have to use your fingers as well whilst you go down on her.

The tongue simply can’t apply enough pressure (initially) to make her explode. Although, as you will read later on, once she is aroused enough and if she is easily orgasmic then a flick of the tongue may be enough to trigger her to douse the bed sheets with her feminine juices.

I often use cunnilingus as an aid when I want to make her ejaculate with my fingers because for a woman it can be intensely pleasurable and build arousal faster than with just fingers.

For the first round, however, the fingers need to be used since they apply pressure to the g-spot and Skene’s gland that result in her ejaculating and where the tongue cannot reach.

Fast Tip: Try This

As you go down to perform cunnilingus on your girl, take one of your fingers and put it in her mouth. Tell her to suck on it any way she wants. As she begins to suck, copy whatever she does on your finger on to her pussy.

Soon she’ll get the message and she’ll start licking, sucking and flicking your finger just the right way that turns her on – As you copy what she does onto her pussy.

Get Comfortable

You will need to have both your hand and mouth down by her vagina so it helps be able to position both her and yourself in a way that makes this comfortable.

Especially when we are talking about periods of time longer than 15 minutes it really pays off to get comfortable first. Maybe you will want her lying on the bed, with her butt at the edge, so you can kneel on the carpet and get good access to her ‘jade gate‘ as the Taoists call it.

Build Arousal Using Cunninglingus

The tongue is the perfect wet and sloppy mechanism to build arousal fast, stimulate her clitoris and get her to the ‘point of no return’ but it is not necessarily right for ‘triggering’ the squirting (unless she is very orgasmic/sensitive)

Because we can flick our tongues quickly and gently across the clit, as well as motor-boating this makes it perfect for stimulating the clit and advantageous over a heavy finger. Our mouths are already nicely lubricated with spit so oral sex can be perfect for warming her up until she is nice and wet.

Make Her Come Again With Your Tongue

It’s easier to make her gush again in one session than to cause her to flow initially, so once you do all the hard work to get her to that point, don’t just make her pussy explode once.

Unlike most men, women can orgasm/gush almost indefinitely.

When she has just ejaculated will be the perfect time to see if you can make her have another squirting orgasm again using just a flick of your tongue applied to her clit.

G-Spot Vacuum Method

This is an absolute beauty of a technique and if you do it right, it will blow her mind. It’s almost the opposite of applying pressure to her g-spot, instead, you will create a vacuum causing her g-spot to pulse.

It will probably be quite a new sensation for her and extremely arousing. Wrap your mouth around her vagina making it as air-tight as possible, but keep your two fingers deep inside her.

Press your fingers softly into her g-spot (you should know how to find it by now) and then flick away from it.

The flicking sensation combined with the vacuum teases out and engorges her g-spot causing it to swell with blood, and engorges her Skene’s gland with the liquid she will eventually release all over your face and bedsheets.

If you do this during the arousal period it will increase the likelihood of her pussy exploding as well as the quantity of liquid.

The Erotic Squirting Massage Technique

I’m about to share with you a massage technique that will drastically increase a woman’s ability/capacity to have a powerful orgasm. So powerful, in fact, that she will end up drenching you with her liquid.

See, a woman’s sexual energy circulated around her body, and tension spots can stop this flow of energy making her completely unable to have even a small orgasm.

You know when you’re trying too hard to make her cum, and she gets close, but in the end, she doesn’t?

This happens because of these tension spots.

Okay, firstly take a look at this diagram below:


Shown in red are the primary tension spots that cause a woman not to orgasm.

Helping to remove the tension in these areas through precise massage is the fastest way to make your lady highly orgasmic.

Of course, this technique isn’t for random girls you won’t see again because tension release takes place over a period of sessions. It’s not something you do only an hour before and expect to make a big difference (although it would certainly help a little).

But for a long-term partner, you won’t find a better way to give her the ultimate pleasure she deserves, simply by enabling her body to circulate its own sexual energy.

There’s some more info about this technique in my new course, Squirting Triggers 2.0. In fact, I made an entire course of using this special massage technique to make your partner far more orgasmic, it’s called “Erotic Massage Mastery” and it’s available as a special bonus to Squirting Triggers 2.0.


Using the tips above, you may soon find out that your girl is a natural squirter. But even if she doesn’t squirt the first time, the fifth time, or even the fifteenth time, that’s okay too.

Squirting is just one part of a larger whole.

Keep communication open, try new things, but most of all enjoy the journey.

Do you have questions about squirting? Drop them in the comments!

Laura Rose Halliday

Laura Rose Halliday started The School Of Squirt back in 2012 and has been running the website and digital courses along with Jakob Wulfe since then. She is a full time sex writer, researcher and practicer.

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  1. I’ve personally only ever had one guy make me squirt, and it was using his tongue and fingers. It was my first time so I was a little unsure to start with but, when he did it again I started loving it more and more. I wish more guys knew how to do it properly.

    1. You need to add after-care lessons for all these men on a squirt quest. She will need to be re-hydrated, so water and electrolytes are essential. As a squirter, it’s blissfully exhausting work ??

      1. Great point, there’s so much more to great sex than the just the orgasm. Everything that happens after, caring, cuddling, playing, rehydrating is all part of the fun. Thanks for sharing.

  2. I really want to make my girlfriend squirt. We’ve only been together a few weeks but it sounds like so much fun. Thanks for the tips

  3. Once I was in on holiday. I met this beautiful blonde girl and we ended up going back to my apartment after a few drinks.

    To my complete surprise, after about 5 minutes of having sex she abruptly squirted, literally drenching the bedsheets (and me.) It was totally awesome. I don’t know if it was really anything I was doing, maybe it was the perfect angle.

    After that happened I really wanted to do it again with every other girl, so I found myself looking for more information on how to make a women squirt online.

  4. What’s the best way to introduce your girlfriend to squirting? I mean, do you just come straight out and try it immediately, or do you tell her what you’re going to try and do. Maybe we could just go through your squirting course together?

    1. Honestly it changes for each situation, but if you have a long term partner I would recommend going through our Triggers course together.

    2. Well being a lady I think telling her about your plans will be more exciting and it will help her guide you on what you’re doing correct and wrong.

    1. Thanks Harrison, good luck. Check out our Squirting Triggers program for the learning fast track if you want to become an absolute master of the bedroom.

  5. Hi Laura and Jakob, I bought your Triggers course last weekend and last night my gf had ‘the best orgasm ever’ as she put it. You both rock!!

    1. Thanks Alex, glad you’re taking what you’ve learnt and putting it to use. Sounds like you both had a great time.

  6. My girlfriend cums like literally up to 20 times from sex and foreplay but it never seems to be much fluid, more like my cum than squirt juices. What am i doing wrong? She never complains and she gets crazy wet and swollen but im pretty sure she hasnt squirted properley yet. Should i build it up more dya think? Or what? Got a feeling shes scared to pee herself but i already told her she wont and even if she does i dont care really. Lol wish i could move on but im so damn turned on by squirting i dont think i can imagine NOT doing it. Help meeeee

    1. Hi Jay, it certainly could be that she’s holding back from fear of peeing. It’s common for a girl to get really wet, but that’s a different thing from a full-on squirt. One thing you could try is going to the toilet together. As she pees hold her hand and let her know you don’t judge her and are totally comfortable with it. This should help get rid of her fear. Then next time you’re winding up for another session in the bedroom have her go to the toilet so she knows her bladder is empty. If she feels the need to pee again while you’re stimulating her then you know she’s ready for the full squirt.

    1. Pure, high quality grapeseed oil can be a good choice. If not then a water based lube from your local pharmacy is also good.

  7. Hi I have read alot on this and have tried almost everything and she gets to the point where she feels like she has to pee but then nothing she thinks were getting close we been trying for weeks now my wife is on a few psych meds that mess with her libido so im at a loss I am able to make her cum 4 or 5 times by licking her clit any help would be great thanks

    1. Hi Keith, if she thinks she needs to pee this could be a sign she’s close. Women often confuse the feeling of needing to squirt with needing to pee. She needs to feel comfortable enough to pee in front of you to be able to ‘let go’.

  8. My man came to me with this and I told him there’s no way, Well I have to thank you b/c yes there is a way. I’m 40 and I’ve never felt such pleasure in my life! I literally woke up wanting to do it again! We are just beginning but I’m a happy woman! I love him to death for thinking of me in this way! ?

    1. Thanks for sharing your experience Mandy. So happy to hear this. It’s a whole new world to explore.

  9. Thanks a million to you, I managed to experience it for the 1st time in my life after I shared it with my husband yesterday. The feeling is so out of the world. Thank you!

  10. With the vacuum technique, how do I totally make her pussy airtight while also having two fingers in , won’t there be a gap ? ?

  11. I have been with my girlfriend for 11 months, I have never gotten to see her in person yet, its a long distance relationship. We are going to meet up soon (within the next couple of months when we get time). We have talked about sex, and we have sent pics back and fourth a lot! We both have said we really want to have sex with each other. She’s said how much she’s wanted to squirt and has tried before but felt like she has to pee and then after awhile the feeling went away. I’m thinking the first time we have sex I really want to try this stuff and get her to squirt and stuff. Would you guys say this is good idea to do/try the first time we have sex??

    1. Hi Grayson, thanks for sharing your story. It’s an interesting question. My question to you is how comfortable are you with each other? It’s good that you’ve already talked about it and that it seems she would be ready (needing to pee) so with the right technique you could definitely make it happen. I’d also say that giving her a squirting orgasm on the first date would be amazing, and something she would never forget. She’d love you for that, no doubt.

      I would add though that it’s good not to be too outcome dependent, or try too hard to give her an orgasm. You will want to do the buildup/foreplay right and if you feel like the right moment comes up then use the trigger finger technique and I would be very confident you cause her to squirt. Just make sure your comfort level with her is high enough when you try and I’m sure it will be amazing.

  12. Wow this is great information, my wife and I have been married for 27 years over that time I have learned to give her the most amazing multiple orgasms she loves every second of it and can literally soaked a bedsheet I have tried in the past to get her to Squirt but we just haven’t got there yet perhaps with this information we can take it to a new level.

  13. Ugh! I want to send this to my husband!! But it’ll be just another article he doesn’t read because he “thinks” he can do this. I’ve been with men (and women) that were quite educated in this department and knew my “buttons”; so when he says he knows how to do this, I really don’t have the heart to tell him that he doesn’t quite have it down. I’ve given subtle clues, like after sending a previous article, give his above response, I would say “there’s always a better way, especially since women’s body’s change over time”. Given I don’t ever drench the sheets unless I take over from being on top you’d think that would be enough of a clue…

    1. Hello Constance, thank you so much for your comment. It’s really insightful to see it from a woman’s perspective. There are so many women out there wishing their man could learn more about this subject… and what a big difference it makes to our lives. You’re definitely right, our body can change over time, which is why it’s so important to be adaptable and learn about the signals.

  14. I’ve been using your tips and my wife gets super wet. Problem is she gets off without squirting then gets too sensitive for me to continue foreplay. How can I get her to squirt before getting too sensitive?

    1. Hey Taylor, great question. This is a common issue actually. The trick is about bringing her up to the point of climax, but not over it, and then back down again. So just before she gets off, you want to reduce the stimulation slightly to bring her back down again. You can go through this rhythm a couple of times. For the final time you bring her back up to climb you’ll need to go hard and make her squirt on that attempt. Sometimes you’ll need to ‘catch her by surprise’ since sometimes she will resist squirting automatically. We have more information about this and some useful diagrams in the course.

      1. Thanks for the pointer. I’ll test it out and let you know how it goes. By the way, putting my finger in her mouth was fantastic, I could really tell she was enjoying it and in to it. Thanks again

  15. Hey guys i have read your post .. i really like it .. my experience is almost same as yours .. be patient .. be hungry for her .. make her love you .. care about her pleasure not yours .. women is something beautiful.. feel her while you talking .. let her come for you .. don’t make anything disturbing her while in bed … my girlfriend squirt 8 times every sunday .. pleasure then sex … enjoy all

  16. My boyfriend isn’t doing it right.. Time to go for someone who can just fuck me hard and make me squirt several times.

  17. i just tried your techniques this noontime after reading this article. she has squirted for her time God bless you

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