For many people, their introduction to squirting is through adult videos. Perhaps you thought it was just a natural talent that some women were endowed with. The truth, though, is that squirting isn’t as dramatic as portrayed and most women can do it with the right strategies.
In this post, we’ll introduce squirting. This will include a look at who can squirt. Then we’ll outline 5 easy steps that any woman can use to learn how to squirt, either by themselves or with a partner. We’ll also discuss what to do if you “can’t” squirt and answer some frequently asked questions.
So if you’re ready to be squirting by the end of the night, then let’s dive in!
What is Squirting?
Squirting is defined as the expulsion of colorless, odorless from the urethra during arousal or orgasm.
Squirting is different from both female ejaculation and pee.
So what do squirting fluids contain?
Squirting fluids are a combination of “prostate specific antigen, prostatic acidic phosphatase, prostate specific acid phosphatase, and glucose.” And, yes, a bit of urine since the fluids travel through the bladder.
Who Can Squirt?
So there are really two answers to the question of who can squirt.
The first answer is based on research. According to a literature review on the topic, the percentage of women who squirt ranges from 10% to 54%. That’s a huge variance which doesn’t really tell us much.
The second answer is that anyone can learn to squirt assuming no physical limitations (e.g. lack of Skene’s glands).
Can You Really Teach Yourself to Squirt?
It’s true that some women are more open to squirting naturally, but with the right mindset and stimulation techniques, you can teach yourself to squirt.
Squirting is a natural bodily function. Just as some women can more easily orgasm than others, so too it’s the same for squirting.
So while it may take some time and patience, you can teach yourself to squirt by yourself or with a partner.
Learn to Squirt in 5 Easy Steps
Whether you want to squirt by yourself or with a partner, these 5 steps will help to get you there.
1. Get Hydrated
This isn’t exactly a scientifically-backed necessity for squirting, but most things are easier when you’re properly hydrated.
There’s no need to chug gallons of water, just 16 oz (or two cups) of water is fine. Hydrating before physical excursion has many benefits. After all, your body can’t function at its highest level without proper hydration.
Of course, don’t do this just before showtime. I’d recommend doing so 2 to 3 hours before and then empty your bladder immediately before. This can help to avoid any shyness you may have around accidentally urinating while squirting.
2. Get Comfortable and Aroused
Throughout this article, you’ll notice a common theme: relax.
When it comes to squirting, relaxation is crucial. You can’t squirt if you’re uncomfortable or clenched, so you need to get yourself comfortable.
And, of course, arousal doesn’t hurt.
What does comfortable mean? Ultimately, it comes down to what comfortable means to you. Are you most comfortable in your bed with the blankets over your head? Are you more comfortable in the bathtub with the lights dimmed and candles lit around you? Are you comfortable on the living room floor in front of the fireplace with towels beneath you?
Comfort is very subjective, so take the time to consider what will make you feel most comfortable and relaxed.
Once you’re comfortable, it’s time to focus on arousal.
The more aroused you can get yourself before stimulating the g-spot, the more comfortable the experience will be. So take your time to get yourself hot and ready for the next big step.
A few ideas to get yourself horny include:
- Watching erotic videos
- Reading erotica
- Running your hands up and down your body
- Nipple play
- Playing with your clit
- Using a sex toy to stimulate nearby areas
Remember, if you start stimulating the g-spot and you feel like you’re still not aroused enough, stop and go back to the arousal stage. There’s no shame in recognizing when you’re not ready!
3. Stimulate the G-Spot
The g-spot can be intimidating, especially if you’ve never learned how to properly stimulate it. Once you find the g-spot, though, stimulation comes quite naturally.
So what is the g-spot?
The g-spot is an important part of the female anatomy. It’s an internal extension of the clitoris into the front wall of the vagina. As part of the clitoris, it’s extremely sensitive. This makes it ideal for pleasurable stimulation.
To find the g-spot, lay down on your back. Using one or two fingers, insert into your vagina. Curl your fingertips at the first knuckle and feel around towards the front wall of the vagina. You’ll soon notice there’s a spongier, fleshier spot that stands out from the surrounding vaginal wall. That’s the g-spot!
When it comes to stimulating the g-spot (which can lead to a g-spot orgasm), it’s all about the pressure.
Start slowly, applying gentle pressure to the area with one or two fingers. As you become used to the sensation, press more firmly and then release. Continue with varying levels of pressure as you become accustomed to the feelings and sensations.
If you’re not particularly aroused, this may feel weird. After all, the g-spot will engorge when aroused similar to the external clitoris which makes it more sensitive. So the more aroused you are, the better this will feel.
If you’re not feeling it, that’s fine. Try some other things and then go back to stimulating the g-spot after a few minutes. Continue until the stimulation becomes pleasurable.
NOTE: As the pleasure builds up, you may feel an overwhelming urge to pee. This is completely normal and nothing to be concerned with. Assuming you’ve emptied your bladder prior to this session, you should be good to go. As you continue to stimulate the g-spot, you will soon get over that feeling as more pleasurable sensations take over.
4. Introduce Clitoral Stimulation
Whether you’re feeling like g-spot stimulation alone isn’t enough, or if you just want to take a break to get more aroused, clitoral stimulation can also be part of your journey when learning to squirt.
Remember that the clitoris and the g-spot are part of the same organ. The clitoris is external while the g-spot is internal. So while g-spot stimulation is the golden technique for most women, external clitoral stimulation may be enough for others.
Clitoral stimulation can be done manually or with the help of sex toys. Vibrators or clitoral stimulators are a good place to start and you can find these in pretty much any price range.
If you want to combine g-spot and clitoral stimulation, you can do that too!
If you’re with a partner, you can ask them to stimulate your g-spot as you work on your clitoris. You can also ask them to rub your clit or suck your clit if you’re wanting some intense stimulation. There are also dual clitoral/g-spot toys you can try whether alone or with a partner.
5. Take Your Time
Remember how I mentioned “relax” as the overarching theme throughout this article? That definitely applies here, too.
When it comes to squirting, you can’t rush the process. This is true whether it’s your first time or your fiftieth time.
So what does taking your time look like in practice.
Within the individual session, taking your time means spending time on arousal, letting go to enjoy pleasure, and not focusing so intensely on the end goal (to squirt).
If you didn’t squirt the first time or even the tenth time that you’ve tried, that’s fine. Because taking your time also applies to the overall experience.
If you’re putting pressure on yourself to squirt within a specific time, then you’re taking away from the pleasure of the experience. Your goal shouldn’t be to squirt on demand but to enjoy the journey whether it ends with squirting or not.
What If I Can’t Squirt?
You’ve tried the above techniques but you haven’t been able to squirt. Does that mean you’re doomed to never squirt? Nope! Squirting is possible for the vast majority of women.
So what’s the problem?
The most common reason a woman can’t squirt is a mental block. Whether it’s shame about her sexuality or anxiety about being vulnerable or even a fear of peeing during it, there are plenty of mental blocks associated with it.
Squirting is a very personal experience. It’s a vulnerable moment, perhaps one of the most vulnerable you’ll experience in your lifetime. And even if you’re alone, that can be a difficult thing to come to terms with.
The good news is that it’s often possible to work through these mental blocks.
First, you need to identify your mental block. Think of how you feel when you’re on the verge of climax but just can’t bring yourself over the edge. What are your thoughts at that exact moment?
Second, you need to address the mental block either with yourself or your partner. You can even work through things with a sex-positive counselor. Yea, seriously!
Only once you feel it’s been successfully resolved will you be able to squirt.
Frequently Asked Questions About Learning to Squirt
Do you have additional questions about learning to squirt? Here are some answers to some frequently asked questions on the topic.
What Does Squirting Feel Like?
The experience varies for every woman. Women often say that they initially have the urge to pee. This can cause many women to stop but push through it. As you begin to climax, the urge will disappear as liquid ejects from the urethra. For some women, the experience is euphoric and even pleasurable. For others, it feels more like a satisfying release.
Why Can’t I Squirt?
As mentioned above, the most common reason a woman cannot squirt is a mental block. If you’ve worked through your mental blocks and are concerned it’s a physical problem, consult with a sex-positive gynecologist (they exist!).
Why Can I Only Squirt Alone/With a Partner?
If you learned to squirt one way, it’s not uncommon to then be more comfortable with that situation. The good news is that you can likely work through the blockage that makes it difficult to squirt in other situations once you’ve found the underlying reason.
If you’re used to squirting with a partner, you may have trouble reaching the same spots they do when you’re alone. Sex toys can help! If you’re used to squirting alone, you may be embarrassed or uncomfortable doing so with a partner. So speak up and let your concerns be heard.
Despite what pornography may have you believe, squirting isn’t just for experienced pornstars. While some women are more susceptible to squirting than others, most women can squirt with the right mindset and techniques.
And remember, not every woman will soak the bed. Your squirt may be more of a trickle or flow, and that’s okay, too!