Squirting from Penetrative Sex: A Step-by-Step Guide

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Squirting from Penetrative Sex: A Step-by-Step Guide


This step-by-step will go over how to make your partner squirt during sex.

But first, what is squirting? If you are curious to learn more, go here. This article will answer all your burning questions about it.

Keep in mind that not all women will squirt, and it's completely normal if it doesn't happen every time. Further down, I will help you troubleshoot what might be going wrong.

Squirting from Penetrative Sex: Step-by-Step Guide

Warning! Great sex starts with foreplay.

So, I am assuming you've done all the work beforehand, everyone is ready, and she is well-hydrated — all essential ingredients for a powerful, explosive, squirting orgasm! 

Step 1 - Get into Position

Both partners need to pick a position that allows for deep penetration, which helps in stimulating her effectively. Here are some positions that work well.


This is a simple face-to-face position. To make it better for stimulating her, put a pillow under her hips. This helps to hit her G-spot.

It's a tried and true position for squirting, which is why it's so popular.
It is common and not very exciting.

She lies on her back with her legs up and wide apart, and he kneels or stands. This gives deep access and is great for hitting her G-spot.

Thanks to her elevated legs there is depth and a better angle of penetration, which are great for squirting and hitting the G-Spot.
The position does not always work for all couples, especially those with lower-body mobility issues.

She lies on her back with her legs up and bent towards her head while he positions himself on top of her, almost as if he wants to plank or do a push-up.


Very deep penetration and easy angle adjustments on his side to make sure he hits the right spot.


Not suitable for all couples, since it requires a lot of upper-body strength on his end.


She lies on a table with her bottom near the edge, and he stands to enter her. This also offers deep penetration and lets you adjust the angle to better reach her G-spot.


The man can stand to control the movements, easily adjusting the angle of penetration, and has easy access to her clitoris.


Discomfort from a hard and cold tabletop, which can detract from the experience.

Step 2 - Stimulate Her G-Spot

The G-spot is a spot inside the front wall of the vagina, about two to three inches up.

It feels rougher and spongier than the rest of the vaginal wall. When you touch it right, it can swell up and is easier to feel.

Stimulating this spot can cause strong sexual arousal and intense orgasms.

Here's what you do:

  • Aim for the front wall of her vagina. You'll notice you're in the right spot if you feel this distinct texture.
  • To make the sensation even stronger, stimulate her clitoris at the same time with your hand or a sex toy, depending on your position.

G-spot stimulation tends to be more intense than other types and, when paired with clitoral stimulation, can lead to powerful orgasms and even squirting.

Step 3 - Build Up

To help her squirt, start with a steady and comfortable rhythm of penetration of her G-Spot.

Then, increase the intensity and pace before slowing down again. This cycle of building and easing tension can create a powerful buildup inside her.

Listen for a squishy sound, a sign that squirting may be close.

Then, increase the intensity again. This technique of varying the pace and pressure will build up sexual tension, allowing her to eventually squirt.

Step 4 - Encourage Her

When she feels like she might need to pee during sex, it’s often a sign she’s close to squirting.

Tell her it’s okay and to just let it happen. Keep encouraging her with simple, supportive words.

This kind of encouragement can make her feel comfortable and supported, helping her to relax and enjoy the experience more.

Listen for words like, "I have to pee." and tell her to "let go."

Step 5 - Pull Out

The right time to pull out is before she feels like she’s about to squirt.

As you pull out, she should try to push down with her pelvic floor muscles. This helps release the built-up fluid.

When you pull out at the right moment, and she pushes down, it can make the squirting more intense and satisfying for her.

Paying attention to her cues and timing shows care and can help you learn to make adjustments during sex to lead to squirting.

Make Her Squirt Without Using Your Dick

Some women need strong and consistent pressure to squirt, and sometimes, using just your penis isn’t enough.

Other methods like using fingers, toys, or oral sex can help. These methods can work well on their own to build up her arousal or together with penetration to get things going in the right direction.

Moreover, using different methods can help you better target the areas that need the most stimulation, like the G-spot and clitoris. This can make it easier for her to squirt.


Using your fingers can be very effective. To reach her G-spot, form the Spiderman grip (as if Spiderman is shooting his webs) curve your fingers upward inside her, and put pressure on her G-Spot.

To intensify the stimulation, use your arm instead of your fingers to pull upward.

This direct pressure can help her squirt. You can also rub her clitoris with your other hand at the same time. Adjust based on her reactions.


Sex toys that are curved, like a metal G-Spot wand, can target the G-spot well.

G-Spot Vibrators add extra stimulation, which might help her squirt. 

Using toys can make sex less physically demanding for you while still giving her a lot of pleasure. 

Oral Sex

Oral sex focuses on the clitoris and the vaginal opening, which are very sensitive.

While oral sex alone might not make her squirt, combining it with finger stimulation of her G-spot often works well.

Scroll back up to the section on using your fingers and combine it with eating her out. 

Andrew's Secret: The Pro Experience

I enjoy making a woman squirt, and more importantly, I enjoy helping my clients make their partners squirt.

After studying female sexual physiology and psychology, I created this technique called "Eat - Spray - Love." It's an approach that provides a fuller experience beyond what we have already covered, and trust me, you won't regret it.

  • Eat: Starting with "Eat," focus on giving her oral sex. It helps set the mood and builds a close connection from the start while also maintaining and building arousal as she gets ready to orgasm. 
  • Spray: Then we move to "Spray," where the aim is to help her squirt. This part isn’t just about the right physical techniques, like finding the G-spot or going with the right motions. You must create the right setting and emotional space so she can fully let go. This includes keeping a pace she's good with and talking throughout to ensure she's enjoying herself.
  • Love: Finally, "Love," and by "Love," we mean making hot, passionate love to your partner, enjoying how wet and sexy she looks.

What comes after "Love?" Take a break, grab some water, or repeat! Yes, this method was made for more than one round. Have fun and get lost in the experience!

Common Concerns and How to Solve Them

When trying to help your partner squirt, several issues can arise, from physical to emotional and mental challenges. Here's how to tackle them easily.

Anatomical Issues

If there's physical discomfort during sex, first make sure there is enough lubrication to reduce friction. Keep a bottle of water-based lube nearby.

If her G-spot is hard to find, experiment with different positions that allow for deeper or more angled penetration.

Always talk openly about what feels good or not so adjustments can be made immediately during sex.

It might also be helpful to spend time exploring her body beforehand without the goal of making her squirt so that you both become more familiar with her anatomy, her responses, and what she likes and needs more of.



Emotional & Mental Problems


Women squirt when they are in the right state of mind. Regardless of your Superman techniques, if you do not address emotional blockages, she will not squirt.

  • Emotional issues might include feeling vulnerable or scared to let go. To help, ensure the environment feels safe and she can talk openly about her feelings and preferences. Keep reassuring your partner and make sure she feels supported throughout.
  • Mental obstacles, such as her not being present due to overthinking, or her trying to control the situation rather than letting go can cause difficulties. Have a conversation with her and allow her to feel seen, gently bring her back into the moment by focusing on what's right in front of her

In the end, it's a win-win. It can make it easier to relax and enjoy the experience, which can help in achieving squirting, orgasms, or just connecting deeply and being present with each other.



To wrap it all up, squirting during sex starts with understanding her body and preferences, using the right techniques, creating a safe and comfortable environment, and supporting her emotionally, mentally, and physically.

Frequently Asked Questions

As a sex and relationship coach, I am often asked questions by my clients on various topics, from foreplay to sex positions to squirting.

Here are a few of those most frequently asked questions about squirting during sex. 

Does porn portray squirting during sex correctly?

No, porn often does not portray squirting during sex accurately. It tends to exaggerate for visual effect.

Is every woman able to squirt from penetrative sex?

No, not every woman can squirt from penetrative sex. It varies from woman to woman.

Can I make her squirt with a small dick?

Yes, penis size does not necessarily affect the ability to make a woman squirt. It often depends more on the technique used.

Why does a woman squirt during sex?

A woman squirts during sex due to the stimulation, which can lead to the expulsion of watery fluid when she is highly aroused.

Is squirting during orgasm normal?

Yes, for some women. For others, it's less common. Not all women have experienced squirting, much less during an orgasm.

How do I know whether she is squirting or experiencing female ejaculation?

Female squirting usually involves more fluid that is expelled and can sometimes be more forceful. Female ejaculate is a smaller amount of thicker fluid, which comes from the "female prostate," which is not related to the male prostate, despite the name. It is actually called Skene's gland.

A female ejaculation orgasm sometimes looks like squirting, but typically, the amount of fluid is far less. However, both occur during high arousal and usually during sex or other sexual activities.

How long does it take to make a woman squirt during sex?

The time it takes can vary widely. It depends on the woman and the level of arousal, stimulation, her mental and emotional state, techniques, and comfort during the experience.

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Andrew Mioch

Andrew Mioch is one of the world’s leading sex coaches and best-selling author after spending 10 years learning from experts all over the world.

Currently pursuing his Master’s Degree in Sexology, Andrew has personally coached over 5,000 men. His expertise is regularly sought in publications such as Men's Health, Medium, and Cosmopolitan Magazine.

These days, Andy spends most of his time coaching clients privately and also through SQL’s online Mastery Academy.

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