Ever had sex so good you forgot how to speak? Yeah… that’s a missed opportunity. Research shows that 93% of women have fantasized about dirty talk, with 56% fantasizing about it often.
If you’ve ever wondered what to say during sex to drive her wild (without sounding cringe), this guide has you covered—explicit examples, expert tips, and the dirty talk secrets that make sex unforgettable.
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Andrew’s Expert Guide On How To Dirty Talk So That She Begs You To Fuck Her
Silence isn’t sexy. If you’ve ever wondered what the hell you should say during sex, you’re not alone. You know she wants more than just your body—she wants your words to turn her on, to make her feel desired, to pull her deep inside the moment with you.
That’s where dirty talk comes in. Done right, it amps up her pleasure, intensifies sexual intimacy, and makes you look like a guy who knows exactly how to make a woman lose herself in pleasure. And the best part? It’s stupidly easy to learn—especially if you follow my no-BS dirty talk guide right here.
Here's what you should say, how to say it, and WHY you should actually say it while making love.
#1 - "Tell me exactly how you want it, and I’ll make it even better."
#2 - "Look at me while I fuck you."
#3 - "You feel so fucking good wrapped around me."
#4 - "Cum for me, I want to feel it."
#5 - "Slow down, baby, let me enjoy every inch of you."
#6 - "Spread your legs for me. I want to see everything."
#7 - "Let me take care of you."
#8 - "That’s it, take every inch like the good girl you are."
#9 - "This pussy belongs to me."
#10 - "I love you."
#11 - "Uuuuugggghhhh."
#12 - "Fuck, you’re so wet for me. I can’t get enough of your little pussy."
#13 - "Tell me what you need. Slower? Harder? More? Yeah, like that? Say it."
#14 - "I can feel your heartbeat racing against mine—just let yourself go.”
#15 - “You make me want to stay right here forever.”
#16 - “I love how soft your skin feels against mine. I could touch you for hours.”
#17 - “Ready for me to make you cum?”
#18 - “Hold onto me, baby. I’ve got you.”
#19 - “Just stay here with me a little longer. Let’s make this last.”
Dirty talk isn’t about spitting out lines like a bad porno script. It’s about reading the moment, communicating desire, and owning your role as her ultimate turn-on. Your words have the power to make her feel sexy, wanted, and completely uninhibited.
And the best part? The more you do it, the easier it gets. So tonight, don’t hold back. Tell her what you want. Make her blush. Make her whimper. And most of all? Make her beg for more.
But, remember, my man, for every moan-worthy line, there’s a mood-killing disaster that’ll have her mentally drafting a grocery list instead of enjoying the moment—let’s talk about those.
A Woman's Perspective..
On Which Phrases Kill The Mood During Sex
Some words spice things up. Others make a woman lie there, staring at the ceiling, wondering if she should fake a phone call to escape. If you’ve ever watched a sexy moment die in real-time, chances are you said something that took her fantasy from hot to hell no.
Let’s go over the absolute worst things you can say in bed—so you never make these mistakes again.
#1 - "Are you close?"
Why it’s a turn-off: Nothing kills an orgasm faster than feeling rushed. Instead of letting her enjoy the moment, now she’s waiting for something to happen—like a download stuck at 99%. If she’s close, you’ll know. If she’s not, this question won’t help.
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#2 - "My ex loved when I did this."
Why it’s a turn-off: Comparing her to anyone else—especially someone you used to fuck—is the fastest way to make her feel good about leaving you on read the next morning. No person wants to feel like they’re a stunt double in someone else’s highlight reel.
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#3 - "Is it in?"
Why it’s a turn-off: If you have to ask, you already know the answer—and it’s not making her mouth drop in pleasure.
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#4 - "You’re so much better than I expected."
Why it’s a turn-off: Expected? Like you thought she’d lay there like a starfish and check her emails? The only idea she’s getting now is to never sleep with you again.
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#5 - "Can we speed this up?"
Why it’s a turn-off: If you’re treating sex like a task on a checklist, she’s already planning her life without you in it.
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Urgency = hot.
Impatience = not.
#6 - "I usually last longer."
Why it’s a turn-off: Oh, so now she’s thinking about someone else you lasted longer with? Great. The only point you’ve proven is that you need to read the room better.
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#7 - "You should work out more."
Why it’s a turn-off: She’s naked. She’s vulnerable. She’s trusting you. And you choose this moment to comment on her body? Hope you enjoyed it—because you won’t be seeing it again.
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#8 - "I thought you’d be louder."
Why it’s a turn-off: Orgasm isn’t a Broadway show. Some women are naturally quiet, some are loud—it doesn’t mean she’s not having fun.
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#9 - "I wish your tits were bigger/smaller."
Why it’s a turn-off: She’s giving you full access to her body, her fantasy, her sexual experience—and you decide now is the time to critique her boobs? Confidence is sexy. Self-consciousness? Not so much. No woman is waiting to be told she’s the wrong size, especially when she’s literally wrapped around your cock trying to turn you on.
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#10 - "How many people have you been with?"
Why it’s a turn-off: The only thing she’s thinking about now? Lying. And not in the good, “spread your legs and take this” kind of way. This question yanks her out of the moment, makes her second-guess what you’re really after, and turns sex into an interrogation. Sexual experience isn’t a competition, and you’re not here to tally up her past partners like some insecure accountant.
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#11 - "That wasn’t a fart."
Why it’s a turn-off: Whether it was or wasn’t—why are we talking about it? Sex is sweaty, messy, and full of weird noises. Pointing them out like a 12-year-old kills the mood instantly. The only sound she wants to hear is your moan in her ear, not some awkward commentary on bodily functions.
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#12 - "This reminds me of my mom’s bed."
Why it’s a turn-off: Sir. No. This is sex, not a family reunion. If you ever wanted to see a woman mentally leave the room, congratulations—you just did it. Mentioning your mother at any point during a sexual experience is the fastest way to make her rethink all of her life choices up to this moment.
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#13 - "I should probably warn you..."
Why it’s a turn-off: If you need to issue a warning mid-sex, it’s already too late. Her mind is now running a million miles a minute, and none of those thoughts are sexy. Is this about your cock size? Your stamina? A hidden tattoo of your ex’s name? Nothing good starts with "I should probably warn you..."
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#14 - "Oops, sorry."
Why it’s a turn-off: Confidence is hot. Apologizing for every little fumble makes it seem like you’d rather be anywhere else. She doesn’t want to feel like she’s part of some awkward learning experience—she wants you in the moment, taking control, and making her feel good.
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#15 - "I think I need a snack."
Why it’s a turn-off: Do you need a break, or are you just bad at sex? If she’s naked, sweaty, and giving you her full attention, and you’re thinking about food, you’ve got bigger problems than low blood sugar.
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#16 - "Let’s record this."
Why it’s a turn-off: If you haven’t already discussed consent, this is a HARD NO. No woman wants to hear this request when she’s already half-fucked and fully vulnerable. It’s not sexy, it’s sketchy.
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#17 - "You can if you want."
Why it’s a turn-off: Indecision is the opposite of sexy. Saying this about anything—kissing, a new position, sex toys—makes it sound like you don’t care. And if you don’t care, why should she?
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#18 - "Are you done yet?"
Why it’s a turn-off: Do I even need to explain? If you don’t care about her pleasure, you don’t deserve access to it. Asking this makes it sound like you’re waiting for her to finish so you can move on with your day.
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#19 - "You feel different than the last time."
Why it’s a turn-off: Oh, great. Now she’s overthinking everything. What exactly feels different? Is that a good thing or a bad thing? Is she looser? Tighter? Wetter? Less wet? Did she do something wrong? Nothing kills the mood faster than making her question her own body while she’s literally wrapped around your cock. Instead of enjoying the moment, she’s now mentally comparing herself to every past version of herself—and that’s the quickest way to pull her out of the experience.
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#20 - "I need to pee."
Why it’s a turn-off: Look, biology happens, but maybe don’t announce it mid-thrust. Nothing takes her out of the moment faster than realizing your cock is one thrust away from a bathroom break.
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Sex is about connection, pleasure, and confidence. Your words should build her up, turn her on, and keep her in the moment. If it makes her self-conscious, annoyed, or pressured? Don’t say it.
Instead, focus on sexy things that make her feel desired, worshipped, and uninhibited. Because when she feels safe and turned on? That’s when the real magic happens.
Clearly, words matter in bed—so before you accidentally talk yourself out of a second round, let’s tackle some burning questions.
Frequently Asked Questions
Got more questions? Whether you’re teasing your bad girl, figuring out how to introduce sex toys, or wondering if you’re in the right place to drop a filthy line, the sense of timing is everything—so keep learning, keep playing, and, of course, keep making it hotter.
Women love words that make them feel desired, sexy, and completely in control of your pleasure. Telling her how amazing she feels, how hot she looks, and exactly what you want to do to her takes her arousal to a deeper level. Explicit language works when it’s backed by genuine desire. A simple “You feel so fucking good” or “I can’t get enough of your body” will drive her wild. The key? Say it like you mean it. Your tone, your partner's reactions, and how you play with context will make or break the moment.
Listen. Her body will tell you everything. If she’s moaning louder, pulling you closer, grinding harder—she’s into it. If she hesitates, stiffens up, or suddenly stops responding, you need to adjust. Talking dirty is about understanding your partner’s preferences and reading the room. If she talks back, she’s engaged. If she whimpers, gasps, or whispers “yes”—she wants more. Pay attention to how her erogenous zones react when you combine dirty words with touch.
Absolutely. Sexual intimacy isn’t just about explicit language and saying dirty things—it’s about deepening your connection. The right words, said in the right way, create a space where both of you feel uninhibited. Whispering “I love the way your body feels under me” or “You’re mine tonight” blends intimacy with eroticism. It’s why so many couples use role play to explore a hotter, more connected dynamic. Words shape desire, create anticipation, and make your relationship stronger inside and outside the bedroom.
Then start simple. You don’t have to go full porn script on the first try. A well-timed “Fuck, you feel amazing” or a breathy “I need you” is enough to get things going. Dirty talk is about confidence, not vocabulary. If you hesitate, it kills the moment. If you commit, even a basic “You’re so sexy” lands perfectly.
If you get stuck, describe what you feel, taste, or want to do to her. The more you talk, the more natural it becomes. Think of it like learning how to tease—most people overthink it, but in reality, it’s all about being present and creating the right mood.
One hundred percent. Some words take a hot way straight to orgasm. Others make her mentally check out. If you kill the vibe, own it, shift the energy, and keep playing. A simple “Fuck, where were we?” followed by a deep kiss can reset everything.
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