How To Finger A Girl – The Ultimate Guide

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How To Finger A Girl – The Ultimate Guide

If there were one sure way to become a master of female orgasms then that way would be learning how to finger a girl in just the right way… until she explodes with pleasure.

Unlike penetrative sex, your fingers can give you complete control over how you stimulate her…

The result?

Orgasms that send waves of orgasmic pleasure through her body.

Pleasure that makes her toes curl. And causes her to have feelings of love, admiration, and attraction towards you as the only man (or woman) who knows how to unlock her pleasure code.

In this guide, I’m going to teach you how, using just your fingers, you can give any woman the best orgasm of her life.

Clitoral orgasms…

G-spot orgasms…

Fully body orgasms…

Squirting orgasms… (now we’re really talking!!)

And even anal orgasms.

And when you’re finished reading this entire guide, I’m going to show you how you can become a true master of female pleasure using our educational training course.

I made a step-by-step video program to show you how to give her the best orgasms ever – Squirting Triggers 2.0. You can check it out further down this article.

An Introduction to Female Anatomy

To get good at fingering, you must first understand the landscape. This is why knowing female anatomy is vital.


While the entirety of the external female sex organ is often referred to as the vagina, this is inaccurate.

The outermost organ is the vulva, and this contains the labia majora and labia minora (aka the lips), the clitoris, and the opening of the vagina. The vagina is actually the beginning of the internal part of the female sex organ which leads to the cervix.

When fingering, a good rule is to work from the outside-in.

If you go straight for the vagina, it is unlikely to be a pleasant experience for your partner as sexual arousal takes time. Not to mention, the outside contains some of the most sensitive parts of the female sex organ (namely, the clitoris).

Staying Safe: The Potential Risks of Fingering

While the potential for transmission of STIs via fingering is low, there is still a risk.

If you or your partner have an STI such as chlamydia, gonorrhea, or HPV, or if you do not know your status, it is important to practice safe sex. This means using prophylactics like finger cots, and avoiding specific types of contact (mouth to genital, genital to genital). Both partners should also wash their hands between activities.

It is also important to prevent injury to the vulva or vagina during fingering. You can do this by cutting your nails prior to the session, and ensuring your partner is properly aroused before entering the vagina.

The Art Of Sexual Foreplay

Foreplay is important.

Foreplay is important for fingering herYou’re going to need her pussy to be wet before you insert a finger, build her arousal up to its highest possible level before slipping a finger in.

Rub the outside of her pussy with her panties still on. Suck on her ear whilst you do it.

Slowly slip your hand under her panties – touch, tease, and escalate is the perfect formula. Two steps forward, one step back.

As her arousal builds and her pussy gets wet, now you can begin gently rubbing her clit from side to side. Now take one step back and kiss her body.

Tell her how sexy she looks – how wet her pussy feels, how turned on you are. Women love passion in the bedroom. The more passionate, confident, and enjoying the moment you are – the more this rubs off on her and she starts to feel the same way.

When you finger her – you must enjoy it.

At this point, you don’t want to feel rushed. The main reason women have trouble coming (having an orgasm) is that they feel rushed and under pressure. They feel like if they didn’t come they would disappoint you.

Giving a woman an orgasm takes time, lots of it. It’s like bringing a huge bowl of water to boil.

If the woman feels any pressure to have an orgasm, this will stop it from happening.

If you’re wondering how long it take a woman to orgasm you can find out the answer here.

Fingering Technique: The Basics

Orgasmic ways to finger a woman

Preparing Your Fingers

It may sound obvious, but it’s important that your fingers are properly groomed before you use them to finger her. Most of all this means trimmed, neat fingernails that are not sharp in any way.

Of course, her pussy is an extremely sensitive place with more nerve endings than any other part of her body, so if you scratch her then it’s pretty much going to be GAME OVER.

Trim your fingernails, keep them clean, and avoid having any cuts or lesions on your fingers.

Should You Use Lube?

Whether you use synthetic lube or not is up to you. Some women can become extremely wet very easily. In which case it’s fine to start using your fingers.

Others may not get wet so easily, in which case you may need to make her hornier first. Or if she is definitely turned on already you can use some saliva or a synthetic lube.

Grapeseed oil also works well for a lube.

You can use some of her own pussy juices before inserting a finger and suck on your finger first to make sure it’s perfectly lubricated.

Wet hands before fingering

The point here is that friction, caused by dryness, will kill your chances of her having an orgasm because it will hurt more than it feels good. So, whatever you do make sure she’s nicely lubricated before fingering her.

Pro tip: If you want your partner to squirt, then lube is even more crucial. Learn more about the best lubes for squirting before you get started.

Getting Her Pussy Dripping Wet

There’s one way to make her pussy drip so much that she practically begs you to finger her.

Sexual Teasing!!

Giving her a taste of what she wants and then taking it away.

The art of sexual teasing is the quickest and most effective way to get her dripping wet and begging to be penetrated.

Let me give you one specific technique right now, and then you can find out about the other advanced ways to make her crazy horny and ready for sex inside our video training program.

Learn How Women Finger Themselves

When girls masturbate they often take hours. Once the mood is set they enjoy the process of getting turned on and pleasuring themselves.

If a guy (you) knows how to do it right (and takes his time) it can be 10x better for her.

The trick is to build her arousal as high as possible, getting her turned on, gently rubbing her clit, kissing her entire body, talking dirty – that when it comes to inserting your fingers – she’s practically ready to explode with pleasure.

It’s best to insert just one finger first. Do it slowly, go in then pull back. Kiss and suck on her ear as you go in and whisper something naughty to her.

Do You Know How To Stimulate Her G-Spot?

At first, you may want to use just one finger slowly inserted inside her with your palm facing the roof.

Make sure the finger is well lubed and the lube is at body temperature. A cold hand will sharply reduce her arousal, and you will have to build her arousal back up again.

There are three basic motions that can be used to stimulate her g-spot with your finger(s).

The first motion (and the most important one) is the come hither motion. The fingers are curled upwards and moved in and out towards your palm.

This is what can quite often make her have a squirting orgasm.

The second motion is the windscreen wiper motion.

The curled fingers are moved from side to side across the g-spot, essentially wiping her g-spot.

The tips of your fingers will be pointing towards her left hip and then her right hip. The third motion is the barrel roll inside her. Use the tips of your fingers to make a circular motion inside the vagina.

Use the three motions with either one or two fingers to stimulate her g-spot.

The Ultimate Double Stimulation

Double stimulation means stimulating the clitoris at the same time as the g-spot.

This can bring about more powerful and pleasurable orgasms, and help her reach orgasm more quickly.

Many women who have had the double stimulation orgasm purport that is their favorite kind of orgasm.

When you have a rhythm that she enjoys, keep with that rhythm.

Speed up as she gets more turned on, when you feel her g-spot start swelling up it will put more pressure on your fingers. This is the sign she is really turned on and almost ready to start cumming. Maintain the rhythm or increase the speed and pressure slightly, with the come hither motion hooking around the g-spot.

You can also use a vibrator on her clit if you find it hard to make different motions with both hands.

Advanced Fingering Techniques

Here’s an advanced fingering technique you can use tonight.

With her lying on her back, slide your hand under her bum, just far enough so that your thumb can reach into her pussy.

Gently insert your thumb into her pussy whilst at the same time erotically massaging her clit with your tongue.

The thumb is slightly thicker and stronger than a finger, and the downward pressure can be a new sensation for her. When combined with the tongue, this is something she’ll really enjoy and keep asking you to do to her again.

Fingering Her While You Eat Her Pussy

So, you’re starting to understand a few of the simple ways you can use your fingers to give her the ultimate sexual pleasure…

But she’d be missing out if you only used your hands.

Woman fingering herself to orgasm

Because your mouth, and specifically your tongue, can be an incredibly effective instrument of female orgasms.

To take your fingering game to the next level you’ll need to learn how to stimulate her clit with your mouth whilst using your fingers. Enter the butterfly…

The Butterfly

The butterfly is an advanced fingering technique, and one of my personal favorites because most women have never had this type of stimulation before.

With the woman lying on her back, slowly start massaging her clit with your tongue until she’s dripping wet and begging for a finger.

Lift one hand up to her pussy and slowly insert your index finger. As your first finger goes in, slowly take your other hand and use your index finger to circle around her butt hole.

With your two fingers and tongue, this is essentially a form of triple stimulation and sometimes the pleasure can be overwhelming for women…

But we’re not done yet!

With one finger circling her butt hole, now start to properly tease her by inserting just the tip into her bum. If you want you can use a condom wrapped around your finger and some lube for easy entry.

It’s super important to take this part slowly, you really want to tease her now. Because most women have never been anally stimulated they will find the sensation quite unusual.

So take it slooow…

All this time, remember to keep sucking and licking her clit, and using your other finger to stimulate her g-spot.

This can be quite tricky to pull off which is why we’ve added a detailed video section inside our training program.

With your finger in her bum, there’s no need to move it in and out much at all. Just the sensation of having a digit in her bum will sometimes trigger her to orgasm much more easily.

You can slowly start to slide your finger in and out of her bum if you sense that she is enjoying the sensation.

It’s rare for a woman to have an orgasm from this kind of anal stimulation alone, but when combined with the tongue on clit stimulation + the finger on g-spot stimulation, the results can be explosive.

Because most women have never experienced this kind of deeply pleasurable feeling before, they’ll anchor that feeling with you – so now anytime she gets horny, she’ll think of you.

If you like this one then you’re going to love the additional advanced techniques that we show you in our training program – Squirting Triggers.

How To Finger Her To Squirt

Alie warms up with her hose pipe.
Some girls just know how to do it right

Okay, now we’re really talking…


Because a female squirting orgasm is one of the most intense and satisfying orgasms a woman can possibly have.

And it’s something she’ll never forget, especially if it’s her first time squirting.

Perhaps you’re asking, what is squirting? Squirting is simply the term for female ejaculation.

The women who are lucky enough to have a partner who knows how to make them squirt report that the actual ejaculation process is like a massive physical and emotional release.

After all, imagine if you had sex and didn’t ejaculate. So it’s something worth taking your time to learn how to do.

In fact, fingering is only one of the ways you can make her juices flow and you can find out more about the others in our training course, but for now, let’s focus on using your fingers.

The most basic way to make her ejaculate is to take your two middle fingers and gently insert them inside her, palm facing upwards. With the other hand, take your first two fingers (make sure they’re wet with saliva) start to rub them back and forth gently against her clit.

With two middle fingers inside of her, start moving them up and down (not in and out) with the tips curled upwards towards her belly. This should be directly stimulating her g-spot.

If this sounds hard to recreate then I recommend watching our training videos where you’ll see the technique (and more advanced techniques) demonstrated live with a beautiful girl.

How To Use Props When You Finger Her

Interested in making your fingering techniques even more fun, naughty, and pleasurable for her?

Good! Well listen up…

Props can be simple but effective ways to bring out her naughtiest side.

For example, have you ever used a blindfold?

A man arousing a woman

Covering her eyes so that she can’t see a thing will do a couple of things.

Firstly it will massively heighten her sensations.

Think about it – if you can’t see a damn thing then all your attention will flow to the part of your body that is being stimulated.

The result?

A doubling or tripling of pleasurable sensations being sent straight from her pussy to her brain.

Secondly: many women are insecure about their body image.

And who can blame them with all the photoshopped perfect models and Instagram girls these days?

But when she can’t see herself, she simply stops worrying and starts enjoying the intense sensation of a well-placed finger on her g-spot.

Additionally, it’s just super naughty and kinky – just look at how popular 50 Shades Of Grey is – women love this stuff and secretly fantasize about having it done to them.


Handcuffs are another prop that can be very effectively used to make a girl orgasm using just your fingers.


It’s a control thing.

handcuff her before fingering her pussy
There’s a reason women are obsessed with the 50 Shades Of Grey books and films

She wants to give over control to you. So when you handcuff both of her hands to the bedpost, blindfold her so she can’t see a thing, and then use these amazing fingering techniques to stimulate her like never before she going to practically pass out from pleasure overload.

Handcuffs are a symbolic way of you saying

“Baby, this is all about you”

“You’re all mine, and I don’t want you to do anything but lie there and enjoy what’s about to happen.”

There is something that women find extremely kinky and exciting about being handcuffed and ‘taken care of’ by a man who knows what he’s doing.

And this causes a surge of adrenaline that adds to the neurochemicals being released when your finger her – the result is a cocktail of pleasurable chemicals flowing through her body.

(And yes, those natural chemicals being released by her own body can be highly addictive – don’t say I didn’t warn you when she comes begging for more and starts initiating sex at every opportunity.)

And by the way, you don’t need to use actual handcuffs for this to work.

A belt…

A tie…

Her own panties…

all work great to tie up her hands and give up control to you.

The Female State Of Mind

So, you’ve learned the basics of how to finger a girl. You’ve learned about preparation, techniques, and positions, but there’s still one very important piece of the puzzle that’s missing…

And that is the ‘female state of mind.’

Don’t Be Goal-Oriented To Her Orgasm

It’s very important at this point to remember not to be goal-oriented. If she feels in the slightest that you will be disappointed with yourself or with her if she doesn’t cum it will make it much harder for her to do it.

Sometimes you can even tell her ‘don’t come now,’ with a smile. This completely removes any psychological pressure to ejaculate but also has the hidden command of ‘squirt now,’ however you must have a relationship where she knows you’re just being cheeky and not serious.

As you continue with the g-spot stimulation, you will want to transition into a stronger up and down motion, with your fingers curled upwards (palm towards the roof).

As she gets ready to squirt the pressure on your fingers inside her vagina will increase as the skene’s gland fills and the PC muscles contract. The pressure is an indicator that she is about to squirt and if you remove your fingers now she may do so.


There is an art to giving a woman the best fingering of her life. This requires that you understand the physical and emotional landscape of female arousal. Are you ready to learn more? Then check out Squirting Triggers 2.0 to learn how to bring any woman to an intense, mind-blowing, squirting orgasm every time.

Laura Rose Halliday

Laura Rose Halliday started The School Of Squirt back in 2012 and has been running the website and digital courses along with Jakob Wulfe since then. She is a full time sex writer, researcher and practicer.

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    1. Couldn’t agree more..Just keep in mind that fingering is really important to women, as it’s the first step in serious foreplay, after kissing and touching of her breasts.

  1. I seriously can’t wait to try the butterfly fingering method on my girlfriend tonight. I never thought about using a finger in the bum to push her over the ‘orgasmic edge’ – damn sometimes I wish I was a woman so I could experience that kind of pleasure haha. Great tips, thank you:)

    1. Thanks Carl, yes the butterfly technique works great, but remember, it’s just the beginning. If you like that then I’m sure you’ll love the even more advanced (and spectacular) fingering techniques that we teach inside our Squirting Triggers program.

  2. My girlfriend has trouble coming from penetrative sex so these tips are extremely useful. Practically the only way she has ever come with me is when I finger her, although I definitely wouldn’t say I’m a pro at it. But advice will help me. Now I want to see if I can give her a full body orgasm using just my fingers.

  3. As a woman there is nothing that makes me orgasm faster than g-spot stimulation from a man who knows what he’s doing + a tongue on my clit. It works a treat hehe.

  4. Sheesh, I can barely keep myself satisfied with up to 10 hours a day masturbation slavery. You can have all the cute girls and supermodels and what have you, who needs all that extra work. Instead tell me how to stop masturbating forever and not have to face any consequences like being horny etc… Not how to add more carpel tunnel pain – A tired wanker

    1. Hi James, its a tough question about how to quit masturbation. I would recommend you try something…
      Every time you do masturbate, go straight to your wallet, take out a $10 note and give it to a friend (or simply dispose of it).
      Make this agreement with yourself that you’ll do it each time. This puts a real, tangible forfeit for each time you do wank. It might help you stop.

  5. I haven’t heard these techniques before,but I need to apply these techniques to my partner. Maybe you can make and show a video tutorial about all these techniques we can learn better that way. I mean a real sex video that teaching these techniques.

    1. Thanks Michal, we appreciate the comment. Yep the new class is going to be next level. Can’t wait for you to see it.

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