This guide is aimed at women who want to better understand their bodies.
With my guidance as a seasoned sexuality coach—and as someone who’s been there and done that—you’ll learn how to first understand your body and then teach your partner how to help you squirt.
I have worked with many clients — both male and female — who want to either learn how to squirt or give their partners powerful and meaningful sexual experiences with squirting.
In this article, we'll cover:
What is Squirting?
Squirting describes the explosive release of clear fluid from a woman's urethra during sexual stimulation.
This powerful and intense experience often accompanies feelings of pleasure and release.
This rapid ejection of fluid highlights the incredible capabilities of the female body and brings immense joy and satisfaction.
How to Squirt?
From my experience as a woman, squirting can only be accomplished by focusing on all three important aspects: your physical sensations and technique, mindset, and emotional needs.
It's not always a walk in the park, but with patience and communication, you can DIY or guide your partner to help you reach this amazing experience.
Curious to learn more? Read on to discover how to make yourself squirt and bring your partner along for the ride.
Squirting Foundations: Anatomy, Techniques & Stimulation
To squirt, it's helpful to know where the fluid comes from.
Key Facts
To get you started let's look into the most pressing questions and topics regarding the physical aspects of squirting. We'll also explore how your body and mindset contribute to an incredible sexual experience, including reaching an intense orgasm and feeling pleasure during squirting.
I. Is Squirting Equal To Female Ejaculation?
Squirting and female ejaculation are often confused but are distinct occurrences.
Therefore, while related, squirting and female ejaculation are not the same.
Now that we've cleared up the squirting vs. female ejaculation debate, let's dive into the fun part: getting your body ready for the main event!
II. Physical Preparation
Before trying to squirt, go to the bathroom to empty your bladder.
This makes you more comfortable and helps you focus on the pleasure without overthinking whether or not squirt fluid is pee.
Technically, it is not, even tho it gets produced in the kidneys and comes from your bladder. Research shows that squirt fluid contains components from the bladder and secretions from the Skene's gland, including glucose and prostate-specific antigens (PSAs). So, while there may be traces of urine, squirt fluid is primarily a unique mixture related to sexual stimulation.
Stepping out before can help to ensure urine does not accidentally end up in the fluid.
III. How to Warm Up Your Body for Squirting?
Next, get your body ready and relaxed.
Focus on areas that feel good when touched, like your thighs, breasts, and pelvic area.
This helps increase blood flow and makes these areas more sensitive.
The more aroused you are, the easier it is for your body to respond to the stimulation and possibly squirt. Warming up also means relaxing and getting in the right mood.
IV. Where To Stimulate?
Experiment with different types of stimulation to see what feels best for you.
There is no right or wrong way to do it.
This could include using your fingers, a sex toy, or a partner's touch.
Pay attention to how your body responds and adjust accordingly.
To squirt, you'll need to stimulate the G-Spot.
The G-spot is located a knuckle and a half inside the front wall of the vagina.
It feels a bit rougher than the other areas.
V. How To Stimulate?
One position that I recommend, partnered or solo, is on your back since it allows the deepest level of surrender and relaxation. Other sex positions that you may like are variances on your back where you bent your knees, pulling them towards your upper body, or when solo sitting in a squat position.
Many women enjoy how it feels when the G spot is touched and find that it plays a big part in trying to squirt.
Solo Stimulation Techniques
#1 - Use your fingers and pull towards the front wall of your vagina during masturbation.
#2 - Insert your longest finger and try to reach your G-Spot.
#3 - Using a sex toy, like a G-Spot vibrator a glass, or a metal G-Spot wand, can help, especially for reaching and stimulating the G-spot.
#4 - G-spot sex toys are usually curved to help press the right spot. Just make sure the toy is sturdy and specifically designed for intense G-Spot stimulation.
#5 - Vibrators or suction devices can also be great for adding extra sensation, especially on the clitoris, to help build up the arousal you might need to squirt.
Couple Stimulation Techniques
#1 - If you have a partner, try the "Spiderman” technique for touching the G-spot.
#2 - Your partner inserts first one and then two fingers, forming his hand like Spiderman shooting his webs.
#3 - After locating the G-Spot and start massaging it against the front wall of the vagina.
#4 - Many men use the "come-hither" motion—no surprise, as it's all over the internet—but I don't recommend this as it can be uncomfortable and less effective.
#5 - Instead, he should lock his arm in place and pull upward against the front wall of your vagina. This will give him a lot more power and endurance and, overall, a higher success rate in making you wet—and eventually—squirt.
#6 - A more advanced technique is using his cock to stimulate your G-spot.
However you decide, give him feedback and adjust his movements based on what feels best.
VI. How To Release The Fluid?
When you're ready to squirt, you need to bear down, use your pelvic floor and vaginal muscles to let the fluid out, like when using the bathroom.
It might initially feel strange, but it helps.
With your anatomy aced, let’s get into the ultimate playground: your mind.
Journey To Bliss: Unlock Your Mind For Full Ecstasy
Worrying too much about whether you will squirt can prevent it from happening. In fact, a study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that high levels of stress can significantly reduce sexual arousal and satisfaction, making it harder to achieve orgasm or squirting.
So, relax your mind and enjoy the experience—your body will follow.
Here's what you can do:
For Solo Squirting Experiences
In a partnered situation, it's good to have a conversation and agree beforehand that there's no pressure to squirt. This can sound like;
"Hey babe, tonight I want this experience to be about us. It's just you and me. You can take your time, relax, and just be. Know that I've got you. There is nothing to do and nowhere to be. Let's just have some fun and explore. If you squirt, you squirt; if you don't, you don't. I care about you regardless."
Andrew
FOUNDER, SQL
Two down, one to go! Now that your mindset is on point, let's hop on the emotional rollercoaster and see what to expect and how to get the most out of squirting.
The Grand Finale: Emotional Release - What to Expect?
Touching the G-spot and the clitoris can give different feelings.
G-spot stimulation often feels like a deep, strong pressure inside, while clitoral stimulation is more focused. Everyone feels sexual stimulation and touches in their own way, however.
When it comes to squirting, the feeling also varies.
Some say it feels like a release of pressure like a build-up of pleasure being let out all at once. Others describe it as a warm, gushing sensation that can be intense but pleasurable.
I. Intense Emotional Release
Squirting isn't just about physical sensations; it can trigger a powerful emotional release too.
You Might Feel
According to a study published in the Journal of Sex Research, many women report that squirting feels like an emotional floodgate opening, bringing a deep sense of relief and satisfaction.
So what should you do when this happens? This is where aftercare comes into play.
II. Aftercare
Taking care of your physical and emotional needs after an intense session is called aftercare.
You might feel exhausted, overly sensitive, or emotionally spent, which is completely normal.
Aftercare helps bring you back and deepen the connection within yourself or between you both.
Solo aftercare can look like...
Having things that comfort you nearby, like your favorite blanket or soothing music, some soy candles, or your favorite incense, can help you manage the emotions that might come after squirting.
In a partnered experience, open communication with your partner and understanding that this is a natural part of reaching orgasm can make the experience even more rewarding.
Also, be ready to talk about what happened, what you liked, and what you did not to bring you closer to your partner.
Let him know how he can support you during and after the experience. It's okay to show vulnerability and have him take care of you.
Andrew
FOUNDER, SQL
Partnered aftercare can look like...
So, embrace the intensity and let those emotions flow!
But what if you’ve tried everything—from A to Z—and still nothing happens? Don't worry, let's explore the reasons why squirting might not be happening and how to overcome them!
Common Reasons You Can't Squirt
There are many reasons why someone may have difficulty squirting.
Yet, there isn't enough scientific research to definitively determine if all women can squirt. Studies indicate that anywhere from 10 to 54% of women experience some form of female ejaculation, based on a 2013 literature review.
However, some sex experts believe—including myself—that with the right technique and conditions, anyone with a vagina can learn to squirt.
The most common reasons why you probably are not squirting are anatomical or mental.
I. Anatomical Reasons
Some women's bodies may not be naturally inclined to squirt.
This ability depends on...
Bodies respond differently to stimulation, and if you've had injuries, surgeries, or chronic pain in your pelvic area, squirting might not be possible for you.
However, this does not affect your ability to experience pleasure and intimacy in other fulfilling ways. A sound and healthy body does not guarantee squirting. Sometimes, the mind plays tricks that hinder this ability.
II. Mental Reasons
Feelings and thoughts can also affect squirting.
What can lock you up mentally...
Your emotional and mental states are important because squirting needs both the body and mind to be ready and connected.
Best Squirting Experience from a Female Perspective
I've squirted many times before, but there is one time I will never forget. In a fancy Portuguese suite that smelled amazing, my partner led me to a big window with a city view. I stood with my hands against the glass and my legs apart.
As he touched me, I noticed everything from the soft music to how our breathing matched. Then, when he made me squirt for the first time that night, the feelings and sensations rushing through my body got strong, so much so that my knees almost gave out, but he held me up.
My partner kept encouraging me to squirt over and over again.
He didn’t just stop there. Every time I thought I couldn't keep going, he showed me I could.
We had fun with it, he was playing and even tasting the liquid at one point, saying, "Damn you taste so fucking good."
Being with him in that room, I felt a strong connection and trust. It wasn't just about squirting, which felt amazing; it was that I felt emotionally connected to him.
I could squirt only because...
When you and your partner aren't in sync the experience is hollow and not as satisfying. So make sure to listen to your body and intuition before you agree to experience any sexual activities with someone else.
Frequently Asked Questions
As a female sexuality coach, I often get asked about squirting by the partners of the men we work with. It's a topic that many people are curious about but may not fully understand. These are a few of the most commonly asked questions I receive.
No, squirting does not necessarily mean she came. Squirting and orgasm are separate events, and one can happen without the other. While squirting involves fluid release, an orgasm is characterized by intense pleasure and muscle contractions. Both can occur together, but not always do.
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