Fun Foreplay Ideas To Spice Up Your Sex Life

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Foreplay...We've all heard the word, but how many of you are actually using it to your advantage?

You heard me right. To "your advantage" because foreplay, when done correctly, isn't just about her arousal. It's about yours, too. 

There's a big misconception out there. Foreplay is never just a warm-up.


It's the main event, too, and it sets the stage for mind-blowing sex and orgasms.


Explore how to make foreplay an all-day event that builds up the sexual tension and leaves both of you craving more.

In this article, we'll cover:

  • How to start initiating foreplay outside the bedroom without feeling awkward
  • Foreplay tips, techniques, and ideas for beginners and experienced alike
  • Ways to touch a woman to increase arousal 

Initiating Foreplay: Sex Tips & Strategies

Foreplay isn't just the moments before penetration. Ideally, you start with it long before you even think of the bedroom. Why?

  • It gives her body time to respond
  • It builds excitement, sexual tension, and, of course, arousal

And the longer you do it, the better the results. So, this is how you properly initiate foreplay with a partner. 

"Most women need at least 20-30 minutes to get fully aroused and ready for intercourse. Foreplay is the key ingredient to a satisfying sexual encounter and can add to both partner's pleasure."

Isabel

SEXUALITY COACH

I. Start Outside the Bedroom

Everything you do can be part of foreplay. The way you dress, the way you look at your partner, and how you communicate can all build sexual tension.

Even acts of service, like helping out around the house or cooking a homemade meal for her, can be a form of foreplay.

Show her you care and make her feel special throughout the day.

II. Public Display of Affection

Don't be shy about showing affection in public. A gentle touch, a lingering kiss, holding hands, or a whispered compliment can make her feel sexy and appreciated.

These small gestures go a long way in helping you get her in a positive, light, and playful mood, which you can later use in the bedroom. 

III. Set The Mood

We all know to set the mood before sex. How do you actually do that? Setting the mood is really just a few simple key steps.

  • Slow down. 
  • Light candles.
  • Play soft music.
  • Be intentional with your words.
  • Start moving towards her. 

Each one of these actions ensures she can feel the room shift towards something a bit more intimate.

This step is super important if the mood is anything other than sexual beforehand. The transition from non-sexual to sexual is not dramatic or fast, usually. It typically is a slow shift that builds over time. 

Now that you've got these 3 steps locked down, you're ready to move on to the next phase.

Foreplay Techniques 

Unlike other sexual activities, you don't need to do anything wild or crazy for great foreplay. Simple works time and time again. 

In reality, the only way to go wrong is to choose a technique you know she does not like, rush into things, or choose the wrong moment.

Foreplay techniques that actually work can be divided into 3 main categories, outlined below. 

I. Touch Techniques

Touch is powerful. There is a reason why it is one of everyone's favorite techniques. Touch can mean many different things, but a few that you can try are;

  • Nibbling
  • Biting
  • Kissing
  • Licking
  • Tickling
  • Using your fingernails
  • Caressing
  • Using your breath
  • Sucking
  • Squeezing
  • Rubbing
  • Stroking
  • Pulling
  • Tugging
  • Pinching
  • Scratching
  • Flicking

When done on the right body part, well, the results speak for themselves.

II. Stimulation of Erogenous Zones 

Speaking of body parts — erogenous zones. She has plenty of them; some, you probably did not know, were erogenous zones.

Tip: What are erogenous zones? They are parts of the body that respond more intensely to touch and increase arousal.


Common erogenous zones for her include:

  • Neck
  • Ears
  • Inner thighs
  • Lower back
  • Breasts and nipples
  • Lips
  • Clitoris
  • Buttocks
  • Abdomen
  • Feet
  • Hands and fingers
  • Scalp and hair

Use a combination of touch techniques (listed above) to stimulate these areas.

III. Sexy Foreplay Games 

Sometimes, just touching your partner isn't enough. There are times when you want to go all out, and that's where playful foreplay ideas come in handy.

I created these foreplay games myself, which means I've tried them out and know they work.

Not only that, but my clients' results also have shown that these games can really spice things up in the bedroom

Death by 1,000 Kisses

The goal of 'Death by 1,000 Kisses' is to kiss your partner's body from top to bottom while sharing words of affirmation, appreciation, and sweet nothings with every kiss. 

Watch this YouTube video for inspiration, and cover each other in kisses.

King/Queen for a Day

One gets to be royalty for the day, with the other serving as the devoted subject. Fulfill each other's sexual desires because, well, your queen demands "tribute."

The next day, her king demands tribute.

Egg Under The Table

Place an egg vibrator inside your partner before going on a date. Keep the remote; now, you are in control of her private parts and pleasure.

Randomly turn it on during your date and watch her face.

My favorite moments are, when she is walking, or when she is about to talk to the waiter— be creative and have fun.

Willy Wonka

Dark chocolate is known as an aphrodisiac; opt for a thin bar of your favorite dark chocolate.

Place the block of chocolate between your hot bodies and feel it melt. Take turns licking it off. 

More inspiration for the Willy Wonka experience is here.

Foreplay Ideas To Spice Up Your Sex Life 

Ready to take your foreplay game to the next level? These ideas will help you explore new ways to connect with your partner and add excitement to your sex life.

Mental Foreplay

When a woman feels these three things, she can truly let go, relax, and ease into a sexual experience

  1. 1
    Safe
  2. 2
    Desired
  3. 3
    Seen 

Making her feel that way is a mental game, not a physical one.

The brain is our most important sex organ.

It generates sexual impulses and communicates them to the body through hormones and neurotransmitters. All of our sexual responses and the pleasurable feelings associated with those activities originate here.

To truly unlock her body, you must first engage her mind.

By stimulating her mind, you can redirect her focus from everyday concerns to the sensations in her body, ultimately allowing her to fully experience pleasure and arousal

Isabel

SEXUALITY COACH

Once you have that locked in, you can stimulate her mind with one of these techniques, and her body will follow. 

Sexting

Spice things up with dirty talk and vocal expressions.

Send each other steamy texts throughout the day to build anticipation for the night ahead.

Share Your Desires

Speak up about what you want and share your desires in the moment.

Use prompts like “I want you to…” and “It feels amazing when you…” to guide the conversation.

Engage In Power-Dynamics

Try out a Dom-Sub power play to create a bit of excitement.

Just make sure you establish clear boundaries and have safe words.

Emotional Foreplay 

Creating a deeper emotional bond can make your physical connection even more intense.


Focus on activities that strengthen your emotional intimacy, such as the ones outlined below.

Questions to Deepen Emotional Intimacy

Ask each other questions that encourage vulnerability and honesty. This can help you understand each other better and feel closer.

Reliving Best Moments: Emotional Nostalgia

Reminisce about your best moments together. Sharing these memories can reignite the passion and remind you of your strong connection.

Give It a Personal Touch

Make her feel like the center of the universe. Tell her you care about her and show her that she’s your top priority.

Physical Foreplay 

Physical touch is a powerful way to connect and build arousal.


Here are some ideas to get you started.

Kissing

Start with gentle kisses and gradually increase the intensity. Try different types of kisses and find out what she likes best.

Sensation Play

Incorporate spanking, or other types of sensation play to add variety and excitement.

Temperature Play

Use ice cubes, wax, or a glass dildo to explore temperature play. The contrast of hot and cold sensations can be incredibly arousing.

Introduce Toys

Bring sex toys into your routine. Some of the toys that I swear by are the Hitachi wand, G-Spot wand, and vibrator.

Pussy Massage

Give her a pussy massage to relax and give her an insanely pleasurable experience. Use gentle, slow movements to build arousal.

Eat Her Out

Oral sex can be incredibly pleasurable. Focus on her reactions to find out what she enjoys the most.

Rimming

Rimming can be an intensely intimate and pleasurable experience. If you haven't heard, a rim job is when one partner uses their mouth to stimulate their partner's anus.

Squirting

Help her squirt by focusing on her G-spot. This tutorial will teach you how to make a woman squirt.

5 Senses of Sin Foreplay

Ready to turn up the heat and play with all her senses? Let’s explore how to make foreplay a full-body experience that leaves her craving more.

Touch 

Engage her sense of touch with sensual massages, wearing materials like latex, leather, or silk, and using nipple clamps just to name a few. 

Touch her from head to toe, paying attention to every inch of her body.

Smell

Create an enticing atmosphere with a bath filled with essential oils, fresh flowers, or her favorite scent

Use incense or focus on deep belly breaths together to enhance the mood.

Taste

Indulge her taste buds with strawberries, dark chocolate, and flavored lube. 

Cook together or eat food off each other’s bodies to mix pleasure with play.

Hearing

Stimulate her sense of hearing by reading erotica to each other, playing a sex playlist, or sending sexy voice notes

Sound can be a powerful aphrodisiac.

Sight

Captivate her vision with eye contact, eye-gazing, and playing with light settings or using a blindfold

Walk around the house naked if you’re usually covered up, engage in mutual masturbation, shoot a sexy video together, or watch porn together.

Bonus Tip: Sensory Deprivation

For an extra thrill, try sensory deprivation with a blindfold or headphones. Removing one sense can heighten the others and intensify the experience.

More Exquisite Foreplay Ideas

Who says foreplay has to be predictable? Let’s dive into some unique and fun ways to spice things up and keep your partner on her toes.

Sexy Yoga

Get your zen on with some sexy yoga. Focus on poses that bring you close together and encourage touch.

It’s a perfect mix of relaxation and building anticipation.

Bondage

Add a dash of excitement with some light bondage.

Use silk scarves or a beginner’s bondage kit (handcuffs or velcro cuffs) to bring an edge to your time together. 

Role Play

Ever wanted to be someone else for a night? Try out different scenarios and keep the role play going outside the bedroom. 

Plan a “stranger” date night, where you meet up in a bar pretending not to know each other or go out for dinner without breaking character.

Perfect Day

Get creative with the SQL Journal Exercise. You and your partner write out your perfect sexual day, focusing on depth, details, and dirtiness

I challenge you to then read it out to your partner.

It’s a great way to learn what makes each other tick, open the conversation for new sexual experiences, discuss boundaries, and maybe even plan a date that hits all the right notes.

A Man's Perspective.. What To Do If Your Partner Isn’t Interested in Foreplay?

These foreplay tips are based on what has worked for me in the past and for the clients I’ve worked with.

If your partner isn't interested in foreplay, here are some proven strategies to help.

Get to the Root

Figure out the stressors in your life that are messing with your desire for foreplay and try to eliminate them.

Stress and anxiety can kill the mood, so identifying and addressing these issues can help improve her interest in foreplay.

Voice What It Means To You

Your partner is not a mind reader, and neither are you. Voice your desire and explain why it is important to you.

Clear communication can make a big difference.

Be Curious

Explore what your partner likes. Ask questions like, "What are your turn-ons?"

Make a yes/no/maybe list of things you can explore together.

This can help you both discover new things to do in the bedroom.

A Woman's Perspective..
Sexy Foreplay Ideas for HER..

from Isabel
SEXUALITY COACH


Isabel here. The tips I mention are designed for her to use on you in the bedroom, because what man doesn't like a woman to initiate sex with him?

Give Him a Striptease

Men love it when their partners dress up for them. More importantly, they love it when they dress down.

Ladies, play sexy music, touch yourself, dance, and undress slowly.

It doesn't take much effort to do, either. Just move slowly and give him a good view.

It works wonders on building sexual tension.

Keep Your Coat On

This bold move involves wearing nothing or your hottest lingerie under a coat with high heels the next time you go out for dinner.

When he asks you to remove the coat, give him a bold, flirty look. Chances are, dinner will be quick, and dessert will happen at home.

Kiss Him Like You Mean It

A kiss can drive a man crazy, especially when it's done slowly with good eye contact.

  • Lick and kiss each of his fingers, keeping your eyes locked with his.
  • Give him a passionate kiss and start a make-out session. 
  • Kiss his neck and then work your way down to his chest, lingering there for a little while. Then, move back up towards his neck. 

Wear Those Heels

Another easy-to-do technique that works is this — put on your heels.

Dress up in lingerie and heels, then walk around the house to tease him. The sight of you in sexy lingerie and heels will drive him wild.

It sounds too easy to be true. That's even more reason to give it a try. What do you have to lose? 

Join Him Inside the Shower

When he's in the shower, jump in there and join him. He won't expect it.

Just look him in the eye, give a playful smile, and grab the soap.

Next, you'll want to be slow and playful as you rub him up and down, giving him a sensual massage and allowing the water to flow off his body.

Be intentional with your hands and fingers, ladies.

Organize a Date Night

You can do this anytime and anywhere. Whenever you're heading out for an evening on the town or just going for something quick and easy in a restaurant nearby, keep this tip in mind. 

Dress up and enjoy a beautiful dinner together. Excuse yourself to go to the restroom, but instead, sneak out and go home.

Video call him while lying in sexy lingerie on the bed or send him a picture of you waiting for him. Watch how quickly he gets home, ready to get down and dirty.

There you have it. All of these tips are easy to do yet yield powerful results. The magic speaks for itself when, after using one of these techniques, he can't keep his hands off of you.

Frequently Asked Questions

Feeling the urge to try out these exciting foreplay ideas? Don't go just yet. I have a few more words of advice crafted to give you the sexual experience you crave. 

How do I know what my partner likes? 

Talk to your partner and ask for a direct answer. For a more indirect way, just pay attention to her reactions during sex.

How long do I need to engage in foreplay?

There's no set time for foreplay. Focus on making sure both you and your partner are as aroused and excited as possible, and then go from there.

This can take a few minutes to much longer, depending on what feels right for both of you.

How can we incorporate foreplay into our routine if we're both really busy?

Small moments add up! So, send flirty texts, share a quick kiss, or give a gentle touch.

All of these actions build anticipation. 

Can foreplay activities help improve intimacy in a long-term relationship?

Yes! It helps you stay connected and keeps the relationship exciting. 

Are there any foreplay activities that are particularly good for beginners?

Go for simple things like kissing, touching, and cuddling.

Focus on exploring and touching each other's bodies in ways that feel right for you and her without feeling the need to jump into advanced or new activities every single time.

Sometimes, the simplest things work the best. 

Can a certified sex therapist provide guidance on foreplay techniques?

Yes, a certified sex therapist can give you valuable advice on different techniques. He or she can help you understand your partner's needs and improve your sex life.

How can foreplay techniques enhance female sexual orgasms? 

Foreplay increases arousal. Therefore, orgasms become more intense. 

What are some misconceptions about foreplay that people should be aware of?

Some people think foreplay is just a warm-up, but it can be an enjoyable part of sex itself.

Another common misconception is that it's only for women, but men can benefit and enjoy it, too.  

Foreplay isn't just for one particular gender. It works for everyone who wants to have steamy sex. 

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Andrew Mioch

Andrew Mioch is one of the world’s leading sex coaches and best-selling author after spending 10 years learning from experts all over the world.

Currently pursuing his Master’s Degree in Sexology, Andrew has personally coached over 5,000 men. His expertise is regularly sought in publications such as Men's Health, Medium, and Cosmopolitan Magazine.

These days, Andy spends most of his time coaching clients privately and also through SQL’s online Mastery Academy.


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