Whether you’re researching squirting for yourself or your partner, you may have one burning question: can all women squirt?
Squirting is such a common occurrence in adult entertainment, it almost makes it seem like most any woman can do it on a whim. The truth is that some women can squirt naturally, while others need to learn.
This post will explain what squirting is and how common it is. It will also address whether anyone can learn to squirt. Spoiler: Yes, it’s possible with the right techniques! I’ll then describe how to encourage yourself or your partner to learn to squirt for the ultimate pleasure.
Squirting Versus Female Ejaculation: What’s the Difference?
First things first, let’s get some terminology out of the way.
You may notice in your research that squirting and female ejaculation are often used interchangeably. They are different phenomena, though.
Before we get into their differences, here are their similarities so you can understand why they’re often confused for the same thing.
Both squirting fluids and female ejaculate come out of the urethra. Both of these fluids originate in the Skene’s glands, also known as the female prostate. And both of these occur before or during climax.
Okay, so now the differences.
The biggest difference between squirting fluid and female ejaculate is the consistency of the fluid itself.
Squirting fluid is odorless and colorless and its volume can vary from 0.3ml to more than 150ml. It often comes out in a spurt or gush, though it’s possible to come out in a trickle in smaller volumes.
Female ejaculation is thick and milky-colored. It often comes out as a trickle and is often overlooked as it will drip down and mix in with lube and vaginal secretions during sex.
Another difference is in how the two fluids exit the urethra.
Squirting fluid originates in the Skene’s glands, just like female ejaculate. However, it first travels through the bladder before exiting the urethra.
Female ejaculate exits the urethra directly from the Skene’s glands. The glands are found internally on both sides of the urethra close to the exit. So female ejaculate enters the urethra via glandular ducts and exits immediately.
So while we’ll be using these terms distinctly, just remember they are often used interchangeably, even in scientific research papers on the topic.
Is Squirt Pee?
Before we move on to the big question, there’s one more thing we need to address: squirt versus pee.
Squirting fluids are often confused for urine, and this has been backed by scientists as the truth for decades. In fact, there have even been studies (small sample sizes) that say that squirting and urinary incontinence are one and the same.
The truth is a bit more nuanced, though.
It’s true that squirting fluids contain elements found in urine, such as urea and uric acid. After all, the fluids do travel through the bladder and pick up fluids along the way, hence the volume.
But squirting fluid is not pee in the sense that it contains other elements too.
As mentioned, squirting fluids originate in the Skene’s gland. As such, it contains elements similar to those found in male ejaculate like “prostate specific antigen, prostatic acidic phosphatase, prostate specific acid phosphatase, and glucose.”
So does squirting contain pee? Yes. Is squirting another term for urinary incontinence, though? The answer is a resounding no and recent scientific findings support this.
Can Every Women Squirt?
Now on to the question that many men and women ponder: how common is squirting? Or really, more specifically, can all women squirt?
Modern studies on the topic, which use overwhelmingly small sample sizes, claim that squirting is a phenomenon that occurs in only 10% to 54% of women.
Setting aside the scientific inaccuracies that such a large variance indicates, let’s say that the percentage of women who squirt does fall into the range. Does that mean that only about half of the female population can squirt? I would argue no.
Studies such as this would have a selection bias. That is, women who squirt naturally and with little effort will make up a large percentage of the population that is being tested. The fact of the matter is that women can learn to squirt later in life. So while 10% to 54% of women may squirt naturally, that’s not to say that more women can’t learn.
Physiologically speaking, there is no reason a woman can’t squirt assuming she has all the parts necessary to do so. She just may need a bit more encouragement and direct stimulation than her naturally squirting counterparts.
How to Encourage Yourself or Your Partner to Squirt
If you or your partner is not someone who squirts with ease, you may be wondering how to do it. Here are a few tips that often prove to be helpful.
For some women, the act of squirting can be considered embarrassing or shameful. After all, women are taught to be embarrassed of many of their body’s natural functions so why would squirting be any different?
This is where open communication comes in. You need to be completely open with your partner – your desire to see her experience pleasure – so she can be completely open with you. For some women, this may mean voicing concerns or shame.
If your partner has shared fears or concerns with you, the best thing you can do is listen and acknowledge them. She has concerns for a reason that’s valid to her even if it may not be valid in your mind.
Once you have validated her, you can then ask her what would make her comfortable or help her to address those concerns. If she’s concerned about making a mess, for example, suggest laying down bath towels or an old sheet. If she’s worried she’ll pee, assure her that it’s rare, but even if she did it wouldn’t be a big deal at all.
Get Her Fully Aroused
Like the clitoris, the g-spot is an organ that engorges with blood during arousal. This makes it easier to target and more sensitive to touch.
To ensure you’re not spending time fumbling around for the g-spot, it’s best to have it engorged and ready to go. You can do so by getting her (or yourself) fully aroused before you begin.
There’s no one-size-fits-all approach to arousal. But chances are, if you’re at a stage in your relationship where squirting has come up, then you probably know a little bit about what she likes and what turns her on.
A few ideas for foreplay to consider are:
- Sex games for couples
- Sensual massage
- Vaginal massage
- Nipple play
- Dirty talk
- Watching adult entertainment
- Sharing dirty fantasies
Whichever activity or activities you choose from the above list, the important thing is that her pussy is dripping wet and she’s begging you for more by the time you’re done. That is how you’ll know she’s ready for the next step.
Target the G-Spot
While g-spot massage isn’t absolutely necessary to squirt, it’s the best way to do so for many women.
So you’re probably asking, what is the g-spot and how do I stimulate it?
The g-spot is a small, fleshy bulb located on the top wall of the vagina. It’s part of the larger organ system including the clitoris and the urethral sponge. It’s actually an internal extension of the clitoris.
Just like the external part of the clitoris, the g-spot is filled with millions of nerve endings. This makes it an incredibly sensitive area to touch, and even more so when aroused.
To find the g-spot, insert your finger into the vagina. If you hook the first knuckle, you can then feel around to find a fleshier spot that feels different from the rest of the vaginal tissue. That’s the g-spot.
To stimulate the g-spot is to apply pressure in varying degrees and patterns. You can tap it, rub it, or just about anything that feels good.
There are also g-spot vibrators that specifically target the g-spot. These are good if your hands are busy elsewhere, such as stimulating the g-spot for double the pleasure.
If you or your partner aren’t natural squirters, you may think that all is lost. While it’s true that natural squirters aren’t the majority of women, the good news is that most women can learn to squirt.
While every woman has their own techniques they enjoy, the below three tips are helpful if you and your partner are looking to squirt for the first time:
- Communicate openly.
- Get her fully aroused.
- Target the g-spot.
Most importantly, remember that it can take time to learn to squirt. There’s no shame in that. Just try your best to enjoy the journey, whether you’re trying to learn yourself or you’re trying to help your partner learn to squirt.