How to Make a Girl Squirt Without Even Trying

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How to Make a Girl Squirt Without Even Trying

Squirting can be an intense and exciting experience for both of you and knowing how to encourage it can really improve your sex life.

We'll show you the essential techniques, positions, and advanced tips to increase the chances of her squirting, making sure both of you enjoy the process and the outcome.

In this article, we'll cover:

  • Squirting basics (What is it?)
  • How to make her squirt using fingers, toys, and penetration
  • Physical, emotional, and mental aspects of making her squirt

What Is Squirting?

Squirting is the release of fluid from a woman's urethra during sexual stimulation or orgasm.

Squirting can be a powerful and intense experience for women, often accompanied by feelings of pleasure and release.

The fluid released during squirting is different from urine, but more on that a bit later.

Let's first uncover the best and most significant techniques you need to swimmingly make a girl squirt —no pun intended.

Techniques to Make Her Squirt

To successfully make a woman squirt, there are three main aspects you should focus on: physical stimulation, mental preparation, and emotional connection. 

Let's start with the most commonly known aspect: the physical stimulation.

Technique 1: Use the Spiderman Grip

The Spiderman grip is a specific hand position that mimics Spiderman shooting his webs.

And yes, you can make a woman squirt using it, let me explain to you how.

To use this grip for G-spot stimulation, insert one or two fingers into the vagina with your palm facing up.

Common Myth

Although it is widely spread on the internet, you don't want to curl your fingers in a 'come hither' motion, the reason being that your fingers will get tired quickly.

Instead, use your arm to pull upward after inserting your fingers inside.

When using the Spiderman grip, you should aim to apply pressure to the front wall of the vagina.

This is where the G-spot is typically located, about 2-3 inches inside.

The G-spot can often be recognized by a slightly rougher texture compared to the rest of the vaginal wall.

Applying pressure here can help lead to squirting.

When pulling up, you want to lock your arm in so that you can create enough pressure to stimulate the G-Spot accordingly.

How much pressure you need to use will vary from woman to woman.

Start gently and gradually increase the pressure until you find the level that she responds to positively.



Some women may prefer a firmer touch, while others may find lighter pressure more pleasurable. Listen and adjust based on her comfort and pleasure to make the experience enjoyable and successful.

Lastly, pay attention to the squishy noise that will occur when she is close to squirting.

Technique 2: Get Her on Board Mentally

Turn on her mind, and her body will follow, as they say.

Squirting like great sex starts in the mind. I know it's not what you wanted to hear, but it's true.

If she's somewhere else mentally, she will not be there with you, in her body, feeling all the good emotions that she wants and needs to feel.


Therefore, before rushing to the physical techniques, her mind needs to be on board.
  • She needs permission to relax, get out of her head, and get into her body. 
  • She needs permission, most importantly, to surrender herself to you.

While she's up in la-la land in her head, she's probably worried about these two big questions, which could be the reason why she cannot squirt.

Female Concern #1 - Is it pee?

Many women worry that the fluid released during squirting might be pee.

Research isn't 100% clear whether or not it is pee. Technically, it is produced by the kidneys, comes from the bladder, and gets released through the urethra, which is similar to pee.

But the liquid released while squirting is usually odorless and clear. This leads to the assumption it is not pee.

In the heat of the moment, you don't want to get too scientific.

  • Explain to her that this fluid is not urine and encourage her to empty her bladder beforehand. This can help her feel more comfortable.
  • It’s also good to share that squirting is a normal part of female sexuality, which might make her more open to the experience.

Female Concern #2 - What if I don't squirt?

Some women may feel anxious about not being able to squirt.

You should reassure her that squirting isn't necessary for a great sexual experience and that it doesn't happen for everyone during every sexual experience.

Make sure she understands the goal is to have fun and feel good together, whether or not she squirts.

Encourage her to tell you what feels good and what doesn’t, and reassure her that there’s no need to meet any expectations.

Words You Can Say

"Babe, tonight I want this experience to just be about us; there is no one else here; it's just me and you. You can take your time, you can relax, and you can just be here.

Know that I've got you, and I want you to be in this moment. You don't have to worry about anything; I will look after you.

Let's just have some fun and explore. If you squirt, you squirt; if you don't, you don't. I care about you regardless. And, damn, you are so sexy, and I appreciate the woman you are."

Technique 3: Allow Her To Feel Safe

Masculinity and masculine are words that get tossed around, but what do they actually mean?

It's a serious question. Think about it.

  • When I use those terms I do not mean how much weight you can lift at the gym or how nice your beard is looking these days.
  • Although, sure those are masculine traits, it isn't helping her to feel safe. 
  • Safety is created with masculine presence, which means being there (fully) for your partner: emotionally, physically, and even spiritually.
  • It's more important than you could have imagined for not only squirting but for the relationship. 

Masculine Presence

A strong and healthy masculine presence lets her feel a few important emotions that trigger dopamine and oxytocin to be released in her brain. Emotions such as;
  • Happiness
  • Love
  • Devotion
  • Security

Aside from the obvious reasons why these emotions are important, they also make squirting possible.

So how do you allow her feel safe using your masculine presence? Our female sexuality coach Isabel has some first-hand advice for you.

A Woman's Perspective..
On Allowing Her To Feel Safe So That She Squirts

from Isabel

Feeling safe as a woman, especially inside the bedroom, has two main elements to it: 

Allowing her to relax and welcoming all her emotions. Here is how your masculine presence can facilitate both easily.

Step 1: Allow Her To Relax

There are a few things you can do as a man to help your partner to feel completely relaxed and get in the right mood to squirt.

Here is the secret trick: Show up as the man that you are, lead the situation, and guide her through the experience. See below what that could look like...

Practical Tips

  • Set the mood: Clean the space, light some candles, give her a full-body and yoni (pussy) massage, the better you know your lady the easier this is.
  • Maintain the mood: Be present and fully engaged with her, put your hand on her chest, speak affirmations such as "I got you," or "I care about you"
  • Say the magic words: Last, when she is about to squirt, encourage her by saying: "Let go!"

You want her to stay in her body focusing on sensation and not stepping back into her head.

Step 2: Welcome Her Emotions

  • Be open to whatever emotions she might show when you’re together.
  • Encourage her to let out her feelings, whether that’s through sounds, words, laughter, animalistic moans, screams, or even tears.
  • Let her know it’s okay to express herself and that you’re there to support her. React positively to whatever she shares.

Words You Can Say

"Babe, you have full permission to express all emotions that may come up. It's just you and me, and I want to see all of you. You are so sexy, and I don't want you to hold anything back. Do you understand?"

This kind of acceptance helps build trust and strengthens your connection, making her feel valued and safe to be herself with you.

Hot Tip

If you like to learn more in-depth details on those 3 techniques mentioned above of how to make a girl squirt, consider looking into our course Squirting Triggers which provides
  • video demonstrations,
  • practical advice from female and male perspectives,
  • more about the psychology behind squirting,
  • an advanced section,
  • trouble-shooting and so much more.

2 Easy Positions to Make Her Squirt

These sex positions are designed to help you more quickly and effortlessly stimulate the G-spot and increase the chances of her squirting.

Position 1: On Her Back

In this position, the woman lies on her back with her legs either bent at the knees or resting.

This position allows for easy access to the G-spot.

  • You can use your fingers or a toy to stimulate the front wall of the vagina where the G-spot is located from this position. 
  • Add a pillow under her lower back, which can help tilt her pelvis upward, making the G-spot more accessible.

You have easy control over the intensity and angle of stimulation.

Laying on her back is comfortable and relaxing, allowing her to focus more on the sensations and less on physical effort.

It makes it easier for her to relax her pelvic floor muscles, which is important for achieving squirting.

It also has plenty of opportunities for deep, controlled stimulation, increasing the likelihood of a squirting orgasm.



Position 2: Standing

In the standing position, the woman can either stand facing her partner or turn away with the partner behind her.

  1. 1
    If facing away, she can lean forward slightly, perhaps with her hands resting on a wall, piece of furniture, or her partner for support.
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    If facing her partner she can hold onto his shoulders or just rest her arms next to her body on each side. While stimulating her, he can now also hold her up more easily, pushing his flat hand or forearm against her chest, using the wall in her back as support.

Don't be afraid if she sinks down after a while and ends up on the ground shaking in a puddle of her own squirt.

I even turned one of my ex-partners into a living mop by grabbing her by her hips, lifting her up, and "mopping" the floor with her hair after she squirted multiple times.

I am not saying this is the ultimate goal, but remember, sex is fun, messy, and explorative.

Andrew's Advanced Squirting Tips

After coaching 1,000s of men and spending over a decade of my life learning from the best mentors worldwide, I've learned a thing or two.

I don't want to brag, but these tips will, without a doubt, help you make any girl squirt.

I. Use Sex Toys

Some of my favorite sex toys for making women squirt are a standard metal G-Spot wand, a vibrating G-Spot wand, and sometimes a few other toys to help her get in the mood and stay there.

The standard metal G-Spot wand is a firm, straight tool designed specifically to press firmly against the G-Spot, an area inside the front vaginal walls.

Especially with women who don't like vibration, I had huge success with the metal G-Spot wand.

The vibrating G-Spot wand works similarly to the metal wand but has the added feature of vibrations.

It’s shaped to hit the G-Spot easily, and the vibrations can offer different intensities and patterns.

This is especially good for women who like more intense sensations and might need a bit more stimulation to squirt. My #1 toy I recommend to my clients.

Besides these specific G-Spot tools, I also like to use other toys to help her relax and get in the mood.

These can include vibrators or suction devices for clitoral stimulation during foreplay or sensory items like feathers and massage oils.


Toys can benefit both partners.

For men, introducing these toys into play can add variety. It's an opportunity to explore and understand her responses better, which can be exciting and rewarding. Seeing your partner enjoying these toys can also be a big turn-on.

For women, these toys can make squirting more achievable. The steady vibrations from a vibrator or the firm pressure from a metal stimulator help in building arousal and pressure needed for squirting.

II. The Full Experience

To allow her to surrender to you fully combine squirting with an extended pussy massage.

Yes, you heard correctly - SQL is renowned for its infamous pussy massage.

Here is How

  • Start by gently massaging the vulva without jumping straight to the clitoris.
  • Stay on the labia and thighs, and explore without focusing on any particular area.
  • This helps increase blood flow and arousal, setting a relaxed and sensual mood.
  • After, move to more focused stimulation of the G-spot (inside the vagina on the front wall).

This type of massage helps women relax completely and become very aroused, which is important for squirting.

The gentle start with a pussy massage followed by more intense G-spot stimulation can make the whole experience enjoyable and empowering. It focuses entirely on her pleasure and response.

III. Penetrative Sex 

Sometimes penetrative sex can allow a woman to squirt or even just experience an intense orgasm but I have to warn you, especially for beginners penetrating her with your cock to make her squirt isn't the easiest.

Here is How

To make her squirt during penetrative sex, focus on a good buildup with lots of foreplay to get her aroused.

Then, during sex, use positions that hit the G-spot, like doggy style or missionary, with a pillow under her hips. The elevation of her hips will allow you, depending on the bend and size of your weapon, to stimulate her G-Spot more easily.

Try hitting her G-Spot with your cock while playing with her clitoris manually or with a toy for extra stimulation.

When you start hearing the squishing noise, you are almost there; don't change anything!

Then pull out and allow her juices to splash out.

There might just be a little bit of fluid, but it depends on the intensity of her experience, the level of relaxation, and the hydration of her body.

Frequently Asked Questions

As a sex and relationship coach, I often receive questions about how to make a girl squirt. Here are some common questions I receive about squirting from men like you.

When do I pull out?

You should pull out or release when your partner feels a strong sensation and pressure in the pelvic area; she might say something like, "I feel like I need to pee," and you might hear the squishy noise that occurs when squirting is about to happen. Get her to pay attention to how her body feels, read her body language, and communicate.

Do all women squirt?

No, not all women squirt. Whether a woman can squirt varies. Some women might squirt naturally during sex, while others might never experience it. It’s a unique part of sexual experiences that depends on many different factors, including mental blockages, pain, or past traumas.

What is squirting?

Squirting occurs when a clear, odorless fluid comes out from around the vaginal area during sexual excitement or orgasm. The squirt fluid is not urine; it is produced by the kidneys and released through the urethra.

Methods like fingering her, using sex toys, and sometimes penetrative sex can all help a woman to squirt since they are all allowing G Spot stimulation. Whereas oral sex without internal stimulation, for example, is less likely to get the job done.

Are squirting and female ejaculation the same?

No, squirting and female ejaculation are not the same. Both terms describe the release of fluid during intense sexual excitement, but they refer to two different processes. 

Can a woman squirt and orgasm at the same time?

Yes, a woman can squirt and have an orgasm at the same time, but they don't always happen together. Squirting can happen with or without an orgasm. Both are very pleasurable and depend on how the G-spot and other areas are touched and stimulated during sex.

Ready to take your skills to the next level? Join our exclusive online course “Squirting Triggers” and gain in-depth knowledge with expert guidance, easy-to-follow step-by-step explanations, live demonstrations, and two female perspectives. Don’t just read about it – master it! Enroll today and start transforming your life. Get Started Now!

Andrew Mioch

Andrew Mioch is one of the world’s leading sex coaches and best-selling author after spending 10 years learning from experts all over the world.

Currently pursuing his Master’s Degree in Sexology, Andrew has personally coached over 5,000 men. His expertise is regularly sought in publications such as Men's Health, Medium, and Cosmopolitan Magazine.

These days, Andy spends most of his time coaching clients privately and also through SQL’s online Mastery Academy.

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