Not every night is a flip-her-like-a-pancake, acrobat-in-the-bedroom type of night. Sometimes, it’s just a solid, go-to missionary—but that doesn’t mean it has to be snooze-worthy.
While the average couple uses 2.5 positions per session, 45% stick to just two, and 17% go for just one (yep, that’s a lot of vanilla). So, if you’re in that crowd, why not make that one position a showstopper?
Read on, and I’ll show you how to make missionary anything but boring.
In this article, we'll cover:
Is Missionary Overrated?—The Pro’s and Con’s You Need to Know
The missionary position—good ol' face-to-face action, courtesy of 19th-century Christian missionaries who thought it was the “righteous” way to get busy. It’s all about intimacy, sure, but sometimes it’s less “hallelujah” and more “same old sermon.”
Let’s break down why it works (and when it doesn’t).
Pro's
Con's
Missionary’s got its pros and cons—like any other position—but here’s the thing: it’s all about how you make her feel in that moment. Get it right, and you’ll turn ‘basic’ into a thigh-clenching, toe-curling ride she won’t forget.
Now, mate, let's put the ‘mission’ in missionary (and trust me, it’s not about saving souls). Let’s break down how to make this classic a showstopper!
Missionary 101: Here’s How to Do It Right
Missionary sex—seems simple, right? But with the correct angles, body mechanics, and connection, it’s a whole new level. Assuming that foreplay is done and she’s all hot and ready for you, here’s what you (and your lady) should do.
How to Position Yourself
How She Is Positioned
What Sweet Spots Will You Hit While Playing Missionary?
When you go down in missionary, you aren't just having a good time but also trying to hit some seriously pleasurable areas. Here's a rundown of what you'll stimulate in this exhilarating position.
Yeah, yeah, I hear you—it's still vanilla. Don't sweat it; we're just getting started! Have you ever found yourself in missionary mode, and she's just not vibing? (Spill the tea—share your story in the comments!)
Get ready to shake things up—let's dive into some exciting twists that'll take regular missionaries from blah to "oh wow!"
Ready to Put a Twist on Missionary? Try These Exciting Variations!
Sometimes, the classic missionary just doesn’t cut it. If you want to spice things up, these exciting variations will elevate your intimate game and open up new worlds of pleasure!
The Anvil position takes missionary to new heights. Here, the receiving partner lies on their back with legs resting on the penetrating partner’s shoulders. This angle allows for deeper penetration and direct G-spot stimulation. It’s perfect for couples wanting more intimacy and intensity, plus it can enhance clitoral stimulation for double the pleasure.
In this variation, you are kneeling. Lift her legs and hold them securely in a V position, thereby controlling depth and angle to have that extra intense experience with maximum access to deeper areas. She is on her back, totally open, which adds intensity and closeness to the position. The position suits couples who want equal parts of control and deep connection.
Position III - Spread Eagle Sex Position
The Spread Eagle position requires the receiving partner to lie back with their legs spread wide, giving the penetrating partner full access. This open posture heightens intimacy and allows for greater stimulation all over the body. It’s perfect for couples exploring and incorporating more depth or restraints for an electrifying experience.
Have you taken notes, brother? These variations are your ticket to turning up the heat—because life’s too short for boring sex! So crank that AC a little colder because it’s getting steamy here. Don’t be afraid to experiment—variety is key, and a little creativity can lead to explosive pleasure!
Need More Fun with Missionary? Here's What to Do!
You wouldn’t want your next sex session to be the last, would you? So pay attention! Follow these tips to transform your missionary game into something so mind-blowing that she won’t even realize you’re already in the fifth round. Keep it spicy enough, and she might just forget her own name!
With these tips, it's easy to turn missionary into an exhilarating experience that engages both of you.
But we’re not stopping just yet. Gather up your energy because things are starting to go uphill. Here are some easy transitions from missionary into other hot sex positions that will keep the fire burning!
Easy Transitions From Missionary Into Other Hot Sex Positions
If you’ve had pizza yesterday, how excited would you be if it’s back on your plate today?
Exactly, my friend. Same old, same old gets old fast, and she might just choose laundry over another “meh” round.
So, why not make a mess worth cleaning up and get her craving the next move? Switch up these positions and watch her bite her lip every time you lock eyes.
Position I - Butterfly Sex Position
To transition from missionary into the Butterfly position, guide her to lie back and lift her legs vertically along your torso, with her legs resting against your chest.
It would be best if you kneeled upright, supporting her thighs with your hands.
This positioning allows for deep penetration and gives you full control over depth and rhythm while maintaining close physical contact.
- Your Movement:
Start from the missionary position, then shift to an upright kneel as you gently guide her legs upward along your torso. This slight lift lets you angle deeper, maximizing both control and connection. - Her Movement:
As you move into a kneeling position, she can relax into the stretch with her legs raised and supported. This posture keeps her open to deeper access and aligns her hips for an intense, close-contact experience.
Position II - Cowboy Sex Position
Moving from missionary to Cowboy, she starts by lowering down her legs.
You’re on top, moving one leg over hers to place them on each side of her hips.
With her body open to you, you’re in control of the depth and rhythm, making it easy to set a slow, steady pace that keeps her comfortably engaged.
- Your Movement:
Wait until her legs are straight, then slowly elevate your hips just enough to create space for you to move one leg over hers and place it next to her hip. As soon as you've found a stable kneeling position continue to move over your other leg. From this position, keep a strong but gentle hold on her hips or thighs, adjusting the angle to find the best depth. Your upright stance gives you the leverage to guide each movement with intention, creating a deep, connected experience. - Her Movement:
Gently move her legs into a straight and extended position, you want her to fully relax while lying on her back, letting you take the lead. Her hands can rest on your arms, shoulders, or thighs as you begin to re-position yourself and set the rhythm, allowing her to enjoy the sensation without needing to adjust any further.
Transitioning positions is just like moving from a comfortable sedan to a sporty convertible; they both take you there, but one is so much more fun! So go ahead, mix things up, and enjoy the ride—who said sex couldn't be an adventure?
And speaking of driving, let's take your missionary game from a Sunday cruise to a joyride! Buckle up, because it’s time to explore how to add some serious fun and flair to this classic position—and drive her straight to that big O!
So are you ready to get the inside scoop? Let's dive in on why missionary is the ultimate MVP of the bedroom. It's not just for beginners, and I have the goods to prove it!
Andrew’s Expert View—The Missionary Sex Position Is Best For …
Missionary is boring—it's the reputation attached to the act. Not really; instead, it's just a Swiss Army knife for intimacy: versatile, dependable, and full of unmarked features.
Here's why regular missionaries should always be in your go-to position in various scenarios that exist far beyond the surface.
Beginners & Virgins
The simplicity of this position encourages exploration of nerve-rich areas like the clitoris and nipples, which can turn the experience into a full-blown sensual adventure. Trust me, she will never forget her first time for all the right reasons!
Increasing Stamina & Decreasing Performance Issues
Overcoming Physical Limitations
Emotional Depth & Connection
The “basic” tag doesn't tell the whole story—missionary is an intimacy-boosting powerhouse that can transform your connection into a mind-blowing experience!
Oh, you have questions? Fire away and check out the FAQ section! Don't hesitate to ask because who better to help a bro in need than those who have been through the trenches?
Frequently Asked Questions
Let's dispel a few of the myths, answer some of the most common questions, and get to know this versatile position even better.
While not universally the best position, missionary is a romantic position that offers many women emotional and physical comfort due to its ability to maintain eye contact and provide face-to-face intimacy. It’s a go-to in a lot of sexual health resources because of its simplicity, versatility, and effectiveness in fostering emotional connection.
For most women, missionary is a slow burn. Your weight pressing down on her warm and steady is the most exquisite surrender she has ever known, with every inch of skin alive from closeness. Your body rolls against hers, creating perfect friction along her clit; the gentle but relentless tease builds with each thrust. The warmth, the pressure, and that lush mix of vulnerability and control—it feels like being utterly claimed and fully wanted: a feeling both intensely arousing as it is intimate.
Incorporate a few fun spins like placing a pillow under the person receiving to elevate her hips, allowing for deeper penetration and different sensations. You can also try variations like the Viennese oyster position for deeper access. Adding oral stimulation before or during the act and experimenting with different missionary positions can maximize pleasure and keep the excitement alive.
Many women are more comfortable in this position because it’s adaptable, allowing them to relax while the dominant position is maintained by the male partner. This setup provides ease of movement for the person receiving, giving them control over pace and depth, which is essential for ensuring comfort and pleasure.
Absolutely! Proper techniques, such as the inclusion of clitoral stimulation or a better angle for penetration, help most women reach orgasm through the missionary position. The fact that women can be so intimate with their partner's face and maintain eye contact with each other heightens the sense of arousal and can more easily lead to orgasms. For others, this can be supplemented by further stimulation, whether by using toys or hands.
According to a sexual health resource, the missionary position enables men to control pace, angle, and depth—making it perfect for performance management and building stamina. The control over such matters allows men to focus on their partner's pleasure and build confidence, which is vital for sexual satisfaction and well-being.
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