Making your partner gush during sex (using your dick) is considered much harder than making her squirt using your fingers, so the first step is to make sure you can do it with your fingers first and that you’re comfortable with your partner before you go on to squirting with intercourse.
If you have a long term partner that that want to make ejaculate through intercourse I would recommend reading up about the ‘orgasmic potential massage’ because you will want to stack the odds in your favor.
The orgasmic potential massage will help your partner become more easily orgasmic and squirt more quickly, with larger volumes, more often.
If you’re trying to make her squirt (with your penis) who you’re not very familiar with then you’ve got your work cut out, but don’t worry, you’re about to learn everything you need to know, alternatively you may learn faster with our instructional video lessons.
Us men have much less control using our penises rather than our fingers to stimulate the perfect spot. If you have problems with ‘getting it up,’ ‘keeping it up’ or premature ejaculation then take it one step at a time and fix those problems first.
So, without further ado…
Quickly before we get started… if you want my step by step video program to becoming incredible in bed (a certified sex god) then check out Squirting Triggers 2.0 further down this article.
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Foreplay and Psychology
I can’t overemphasize how important the psychological/ emotional realm is when helping a woman have explosive orgasms.
As men we always like to simplify things down to the physical technique and this is usually why most guys who have a made a girl squirt can only do so inconsistently.
Real mastery in learning how to make a girl squirt comes from how well you can build trust, be non-judgmental, hold space and be her guiding masculine energy without being pushy.
There’s already as much information as you need about this on the School Of Squirt website so I won’t go through it again here. Just let me reiterate not to underestimate how important it can be, and this is equally so for female ejaculation during intercourse.
Stimulating Her Clitoris
It’s important to choose a position where you can stimulate her clit whilst you thrust, if not you will have to get her to do it, or hold a vibrator against it during intercourse.
Using a vibrator against the clit will probably give you the highest success rate. Alternatively learn how to eat pussy like a King, that will probably work a treat as well.
If you don’t have a vibrator use a wet thumb or finger and ping it back and forth lightly across the clit, building up to maximum speed as she reaches her climax. You will want to continue the clit stimulation even/especially when you pull out.
Pulling Out At The Right Time
It’s funny when men complain to me that they can’t make their girlfriends squirt during intercourse and I find out that they had their dicks inside the vagina the whole time.
Of course, just like the finger squirting technique, you will need to remove your penis as the pressure grows and she is about to explode.
Timing is everything at this point, you can read more about squirting timing here. The feeling of release and the vacuum that creates is what usually triggers the rhythmic squirting to take place, especially when used alongside vigorous clitoral stimulation.
As you pull your penis out of her vagina try rubbing it quickly across her vaginal opening (with vibrator still placed in her clit) and watch those lovely female juices come gushing out.
We want to make girls squirt, especially with women we’ve just met it can be an exhilarating and noble challenge. However there is a problem.
Often times articulating that this is your aim can be off-putting for the woman, it can make her tense-up and become outcome dependent, thereby reducing the likelihood of such an event happening.
This isn’t always the case because some women already know how to squirt and just need a bit of communication from you so there is some mutual understanding that you know what’s going on.
With longer term partners making your mission clear won’t be such a problem. However a lot of the time it’s better to leave some things inarticulated whilst promoting an unspoken feeling of understanding.
In light of this, many men have found it particularly effective to make women squirt during intercourse without that being their spoken intention.
The woman may feel more comfortable and actually less able to control herself from holding back, which is a common problem when using the fingering technique if you don’t put her in a logical frame of mind.
This is one of the downsides of the finger technique because if you’re working hard with your fingers that can sometimes leave her isolated which will reduce her horniness and engage her logical (the opposite of emotional/sexual) frame of mind reducing the chances of her squirting.
What I am saying in simple terms is that an effective way to make a new or short-term partner squirt is to do so during sex. This has proved especially effective with Tinder dates for some reason.
So how in the world do we go about making this happen? It’s a good question especially because in general making girls bust during sex is considerably harder than using the finger technique.
The first point is that you’ll need her to be highly aroused. This is essential because it will fill her Skene’s gland with the liquid that will become the female ejaculate.
To make this technique consistent you will need at least 30-60 minutes of foreplay, or more if you have the time, up to the point where she is becoming highly frustrated that you’re not entering into intercourse with her.
When she is finally aching to be filled up with your penis then you will want to continue to build arousal and make her horny during intercourse.
Pulling out is crucial and although it’s so obvious (your penis is stopping her coming) it is often missed out or mis-timed. Timing is absolutely critical and you get better at timing it right with experience. Although that’s not to say she won’t squirt on the first time.
One of the keys is to build up a steady rhythm, if it looks like she is enjoying it and it’s building to a climax try to simply maintain this pace.
Sometimes disrupting the pattern can make her fall out-of-state so it’s better to keep it steady then try to increase it too fast and then lose control by cumming too soon or become fatigued.
Maintain a steadily growing pace and let the climax build over time. When you feel she is coming close to orgasm then increase the rate at which you rub her clit. Don’t peak too early with the clit rubbing otherwise it may become desensitized just as you need it most.
The stimulation of her clitoris is like the final rockets getting her into outer space once your foreplay and penis have done the hard work of lift off. If you time the clit stimulation right she will be ready to blow.
All you need to do now is rapidly remove your penis. Often it will work best if she doesn’t know you’re going to do this. That means she won’t have time to contract her PC muscles and stop her Skene’s gland from squirting her lovely female ejaculate.
Because many women find it embarrassing to squirt on the first time you are more likely to make it work if it’s done involuntarily.
As you pull out continue rubbing her clit, either with your finger or dick. Do this all quickly and without her realising what is happening.
Please be emotionally sensitive when you do this. After all this is about giving her intense pleasure in a way that she may not have felt before.
She may be emotionally vulnerable if she squirts everywhere without knowing what has really happened or that it was even possible.
She may be embarrassed so this is a good point to build a strong emotional connection and help her become more of a sexually confident and self expressive woman.
Okay, so, what are the best positions to make her squirt during sex?
Length of the penis is considered unimportant in this respect because the g-spot is only a few inches inside the vagina.
However penis girth can be important because it helps maintain good contact with the g-spot, and also helps to ‘seal’ the vagina creating alternating pressure and vacuum that’s helps turn the woman on and bring her to orgasm.
This is a common question and rightly so because it is very important and can make a difference between normal sex and squirting sex. There are two main reasons for this. The first is that the angle of the penis must be right in order to stimulate the g-spot.
This is why the finger technique is so useful because it allows us precision in the pressure, angle, position and rhythm that we use to stimulate her g-spot – which then leads to the female ejaculation.
The second point is that in most cases you will need an extra hand to be rubbing her clit whilst you penetrate her. This adds a second degree of stimulation that is essential for squirting.
Of course if your partner is willing you can have her stimulate her own clit, either with a finger or a vibrator with plenty of lube, but this is unlikely to happen with a short-term partner and we are therefore limited in the positions that can be used.
1. The best position by far is doggy-style. Although the angle of the penis in this case is not ideal, because it’s easy to reach over and stimulate her clit with one hand whilst thrusting this has proved the most effective position.
Doggystyle certainly ‘hits the spot’ when it comes to making your wife or girlfriend squirt during intercourse, despite the angle of penetration being less than ideal.
In some cases, for those of us who aren’t highly dexterous it can be enough just to apply a light pressure to the clit without rubbing it whilst thrusting.
However when you remove your penis – which we’ll get to in a bit then it will require something more vigorous.
2. The second best position is almost the opposite of doggy-style, in that the angle of the penis is much better because it will be hitting the g-spot but it’s a harder angle to rub her clit from.
Missionary, with the man’s penis tilted upwards to hit the woman’s g-spot provides the best angle for squirting.
This also has the added advantage in that you will be able to read her facial expressions and body language much more clearly and therefore make your ‘pull out’ timing much more in sync.
If you’ve ever wanted to know a load of weird and wonderful facts about orgasm, sex, squirting and ejaculation then here they are, all collected together and formed into this lovely infographic for your viewing pleasure.
School of Squirt presents: Why We Love Orgasms
- Sexologists estimate that at any given moment 1,400 people in the US and 31,000 worldwide are experiencing an orgasm15-20% of female horse riders and 5-10% of women who do yoga have had an orgasm during their respective activities.
- The record for most orgasms enjoyed by a woman in 1 hour: 134
- The record for most ejaculations enjoyed by a man in 1 hour: 161
- It takes 116 muscles to climax and only 17 muscles to smile
- 1% of women have allergic reactions to semen
- 3% of women are capable of ‘sense memory orgasms,’ meaning they can give themselves an orgasm just by thinking about it
- Only 15% of women have had a squirting orgasm
Male semen is made up of roughly 15% cerebral spinal fluid, giving weight to the old wives tale that excessive masturbation can lead to a ‘weak back.’ Taoists believe that male sexual energy tends to stagnate in the genitals where it is ‘wasted’ via ejaculation.
Hence Taoists practice the ‘microcosmic orbit’ where sexual energy is circulated around the body providing youthful vim, vigor and longevity. Some people even claim the microcosmic orbit and can help men cure their hair loss, but that’s another topic entirely.
For women, regular orgasm was shown to decrease the stress hormone cortisol by 14% in the blood when measured over a period of 2 weeks.
Woman with lower back dimples, also known as the ‘dimples of Venus’ or simply ‘squirter dimples’ are 60% more likely to be able to have squirting orgasms.
Women who regularly wear high heels may experience diminished intensity orgasms because of the unnatural rotation of the pelvic muscle and arching of the feet, along with a host of other health problems.
The pulsations a woman feels during orgasm are actually her uterus trying to ‘gather sperm,’ says a Dr. Eden Fromberg . So giving you partner an orgasm makes it more likely that she will get pregnant.
What we’ve learned from collecting this information: The female orgasm is much more interesting than the male orgasm.
The French Squirting Study
A new study undertaken by a group of French researchers (it would be French wouldn’t it) and published on Christmas Eve has come to the conclusion that the liquid emitted during squirting is in fact, mostly urine.
(BTW, this point is seriously up for debate!!)
In “The Nature and Origin of “Squirting” in Female Sexuality” published by The Journal of Sexual Medicine, Dr Salama and his team from Hopital Privé de Parly II in France conclude that “squirting is essentially the involuntary emission of urine during sexual activity.”
Something that many ‘advanced’ squirters, myself included, (Hi, I’m Laura) have believed to be incorrect for a long time; (both the urine part and the involuntary part to a large extent.)
A little background to the experiment
The study took place with the help of 7 experienced squirters, French women aged 19-52 all of whom had experienced squirting for the first time within the past 5 years. The aim of the study was to analyse the “biochemical nature of squirting.”
“They basically wanted to scientifically find out; what the hell is squirting?”
In the introduction the author notes; “Although the prevalence of this phenomenon is difficult to evaluate, authors estimate that 10-40% of women may experience regularly or sporadically an emission of fluid during orgasm”
They note the controversial nature of the debate as to where the fluid comes from, listing the following, in no particular order, as possible sources;
The experiment went as follows:
The 7 participants were asked to empty their bladders completely with the samples being collected for further analysis. Immediately after, each participant had an ultrasound examination to confirm their bladders were completely empty.
They were then left alone in the examination room to start the process of sexual stimulation, with or without a partner and with or without a sex toy.
I love how the author later refers to the use of a sex toy as “digital stimulation,” it makes using a vibrator sound so futuristic.
When the participant was sufficiently aroused a second ultrasound scan was taken to see if the bladder had refilled at all. Sexual stimulation then continued again until squirting occurred.
The fluid was collected for further analysis. A third ultrasound was taken immediately after squirting had occurred, followed by a further collection of urine.
The Results Of The Experiment
Sexual stimulation for the seven participants lasted anywhere from 25-60 minutes and the recovered fluid ranged from 15 to 110ml, all 7 women said they had orgasmed before squirting.
The ultrasound scans showed that after sexual stimulation (but before orgasm) there had been ‘significant bladder filling,’ with the final scan showing that the ‘bladder had been totally emptied,’ suggesting that the squirting had emptied their bladders. (See figure 1)
Analysis of the 3 following fluids, specifically levels of urea, creatinine, uric acid, and PSA (prostate-specific antigen) was performed;
- the urine before sexual stimulation
- the squirting fluid itself
- the urine after sexual stimulation
The results showed very similar quantities of urea, uric acid and creatinine in the urine and in the squirting fluid, with the squirting fluid containing additional small amounts of PSA. (See figure 2)
The researchers concluded that “paraurethral glands cannot account themselves for the whole massive fluid emission” and that “squirting essentially is an involuntary emission of urine.”
In fact the researchers went so far as to say that this kind of squirting could be assimilated to a form of “orgasmic urinary incontinence.”
This is interesting since we often preach the use of Kegels to enhance the ability to squirt, an exercise that was originally designed specifically to treat urinary incontinence for women who had recently given birth.
The researchers go on to say “It is also noteworthy that squirting often results from the combination of direct mechanical stimulation of the anterior vaginal wall (around the so-called G-spot) and a facilitating emotional status, with extreme conﬁdence and relaxation.”
The extreme confidence and relaxation are emotional states we definitely teach to those who are trying to squirt for the first time.
I like how the G-spot is referred to as “the so-called G-spot” even this little-clump-of-nerve-ending’s existence is yet to be conclusively proved in the medical literature.
Interestingly though “In six of seven women, this fluid emission was only possible during or after digital stimulation of the anterior vaginal wall”
The women also reported that squirting was “partner dependent” meaning that it wasn’t possible with just anyone, they essentially had to know what they were doing.
Salama doesn’t comment on whether the squirting phenomenon was something the women enjoyed or not but in a similar study 4 out 5 women said that squirting represented an ‘enrichment’ of their sexual life.
The UK Ban On Squirting In Adult Videos
The study is interesting considering the recent ban of squirting in British p*rn by the BBFC, since squirting is considered “urolagnia” or sexual pleasure associated with urination and is considered an obscene act under the UK Obscene Publications Act.
To some extend this study shows there may be a distinct difference between female ejaculation and squirting. The former representing a small discharge of liquid from the paraurethral glands, the latter a larger discharge from the bladder.
As mentioned before though, we find this confusing that the researchers find squirting an “orgasmic urinary incontinence” since Kegels help both incontinence and squirting.
Advanced squirters who regularly practice the kegel are on the opposite end of the spectrum of being incontinent. Perhaps involuntary should have been used more carefully by the author here?
The Asparagus Test
The study goes against our current wisdom that is backed up by the ‘Asparagus Test.’ Asparagus is known to give urine a strong and distinct smell between 2-10 hours after it is consumed.
Our own personal experiment showed that although the urine clearly smelled strongly of asparagus, the squirting liquid did not. Though this was not a rigorous scientific study by any means.
The Future Of The Science Of Squirting
Here at School Of Squirt we’re looking forward to many more studies like this, especially if, like this this one, they disprove many of our current thoughts on the topic of sexuality.
On a personal note, many fellow squirters still hold that squirting is not pee, and that the small sample of women used in the study does not represent most women.
Dr Salama now plans to conduct trials to test his thesis that the kidneys may work faster during sexual stimulation to produce urine, than at other times. And if so, why.
We’re certainly in agreement with Dr. Salama over one point though as he states that he believes that every woman is capable of squirting “if their partner knows what they are doing.”
To the French Gynaecologists of Le Chesnay – we salute you.