Female Orgasms 101: What You Need to Know

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Female Orgasms 101: What You Need to Know

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Women are mysterious, ethereal creatures but that doesn’t mean the female orgasm has to be mysterious or intimidating.

If you take just a few minutes to learn about the different types of orgasms, you can bring immeasurably more pleasure to yourself or your partner. And who doesn’t want their partner to be thoroughly satisfied?

In this post, we’ll discuss what a female orgasm is. We’ll then discuss the different types of female orgasms and how to get your partner (or yourself) to climax. Finally, we’ll answer frequently asked questions about the female orgasm to shed more light on this often overwhelming topic.

What is the Female Orgasm?

“Female orgasm” is a misleading term, as there’s not one type of female orgasm. The term simply refers to an orgasm attributed to stimulation of female genitalia.

In reality, the female orgasm can take many shapes and sizes.

The Types of Female Orgasms

Below are the different types of female orgasms.

Clitoral

The clitoris is the fleshy bulb located at the top of the vulva. It’s extremely sensitive thanks to the millions of nerve endings contained within it.

A clitoral orgasm can occur from direct or indirect stimulation.

The most common ways to stimulate the clitoris are with a finger (or two) or a vibrator. There are even clitoris-specific sex toys, like suctioning vibrators, if you’re looking for something with a lot of bang!

The clitoral orgasm is often described as one of the more intense ones. It starts at the clitoris and then explodes sending shockwaves throughout her body.

Vaginal

A vaginal orgasm occurs from penetration, penile or otherwise.

This type of orgasm is felt deeper within the core. It can be challenging to achieve with penile stimulation alone, though stimulation of the A-spot may get you there. The A-spot is at the very back of the vagina near the cervix.

The best sex positions for targeting the a-spot, whether during sex or with sex toys, are those that allow deep penetration. These include doggy style, the horny mantis, and reverse cowgirl.

Do keep in mind that most women cannot achieve orgasm through vaginal stimulation alone. In fact, only 18.4% of women report that intercourse alone (no clitoral stimulation) is sufficient to orgasm! That means 81.6% of women need more than vaginal penetration to reach climax.

Cervical

Another type of orgasm that requires deep penetration is a cervical orgasm.

The cervix is the opening to the uterus and, as such, it’s in the innermost part of the vagina. The cervical orgasm can provide a long-lasting high, but it’s also quite rare. In fact, cervical stimulation can be painful for some women and it may even mimic the cramps they feel during their menstrual cycle.

If you’re going for a cervical orgasm, you’ll want to use lots of lubricant. You may also want to try it out with a sex toy, like a dildo, first as they’re easier to maneuver and manipulate.

Combination

If you achieve two types of orgasms at the same time, typically clitoral and vaginal, then you’ve experienced a combination orgasm. As you can imagine, this is an extremely intense climax that ripples throughout the body and leaves you weak.

There are a few ways for achieving a combination orgasm, including sex, sex toys, and masturbation.

If you’re going it alone, then I’d recommend a sex toy like a rabbit vibrator. This allows vaginal penetration while simultaneously stimulating the clit.

If you’re doing it with a partner, then each of you pick a choice and go to town! You can play around with different techniques, such as varying speeds or stimulation techniques. For example, going flow with vaginal penetration and fast with clitoral stimulation or vice versa.

G-Spot

We can’t talk about female orgasms without talking about g-spot orgasms!

G-spot orgasms can be one of the most intense orgasms, and they can even cause a woman to squirt for the first time.

Here’s a quick anatomy lesson:

The g-spot is the internal extension of the clitoris. It can be found near the opening of the vagina. To find the g-spot, insert one or two fingers and then “hook” them about an inch into the opening. Feel around for an area that feels fleshier than the surrounding tissues. That’s the g-spot!

The g-spot may be stimulated during intercourse, though it usually takes more intentional stimulation to climax. You can do this with fingers or a g-spot vibrator.

Anal

Anal orgasms obviously aren’t exclusive to women, but we thought we’d include them here since women can enjoy them, too.

Women don’t have a prostate, so how do they orgasm from anal stimulation? It’s actually thought that the A-spot plays a role!

Yes, the A-spot is located deep in the vaginal cavity. However, the separation between the vagina and the anus is quite thin. By stimulating the anus, you can simultaneously stimulate the A-spot. Of course, you shouldn’t expect this your first or even fifth time with anal stimulation. It takes time. In fact, if you’re new to anal, I highly recommend anal training.

Combine anal penetration with other stimulations, like clitoral or nipple. This can increase arousal and make anal orgasm easier to achieve.

Erogenous

The erogenous zones are zones throughout the body that, when stimulated, can provide sexual arousal and pleasure. There are some obvious areas, like the lips, neck, and nipples, and some not-so-obvious areas like the inner thighs, lower back, and feet.

If you thought vaginal or clitoral stimulation was required for orgasm, you’d be wrong. It’s actually possible to achieve orgasm through stimulation of the erogenous zones.

Perhaps the most common type of erogenous orgasm comes from nipple stimulation. This can come on quickly and send shockwaves throughout your core and extremities.

When it comes to stimulating the erogenous zones, the build-up is important. You should spend time on different areas and only stimulate one spot exclusively if asked by your partner. Communication is important so you can learn what areas of your partner’s body are most sensitive to stimulation.

How to Give Her Powerful Orgasms

No matter which of the above orgasms you give her, there are always ways to give her bigger and better orgasms. Here’s how.

Spend More Time on Foreplay

Foreplay is an important part of female arousal. Arousal is an important part of the female sexual response cycle. That is, foreplay is critical if you want to get her into the right mood, mentally and physically.

Foreplay is less of a science, and more of an art. There’s no formula that will be right for every woman. Instead, you need to experiment with different things, pick up on your woman’s cues, and then make adjustments as needed.

Here are a few ideas to get you started:

  • Have a steamy makeout session
  • Send her dirty text messages throughout the day
  • Tell her what you want to do to her
  • Caress her curves
  • Tease her by starting at the top (lips, ears, neck) and working your way down
  • Give her a vaginal massage
  • Play sex games for couples

The goal here is to get her to a place where she’s highly aroused and fully ready to go.

Hit All the Right Spots

When it comes to giving her an explosive orgasm, you want to focus on more than just penetrative sex.

As she gets more aroused from the foreplay, you can move on to more intense stimulation techniques, such as:

You don’t want to go in full force (i.e. attempt to give her an orgasm). Instead, you want to get her to a point where she’s begging for more. Then it’s time to try some new moves.

Try New Sex Positions

It’s not uncommon to get into a funk when it comes to sex. You have a few go-to sex positions that get you both there, but you need something more to spice it up. Here are a few sex female-focused sex positions that will be sure to bring her to a shaking orgasm.

The C.A.T.

C.A.T. stands for Coital Alignment Technique and it’s one position that’s sure to provide some of the best clitoral stimulation while also giving vaginal penetration.

While it looks like the missionary position, there are some slight differences. As opposed to being chest-to-chest, the male partner should lift his chest up slightly higher and to the side of his partner. As he does this, the female partner bends one leg at a 45-degree angle. This ensures the base of the shaft is constantly rubbing against the clit.

Since many women don’t come from vaginal penetration alone, this position is perfect for ensuring you both reach climax.

The Horny Mantis

If you want to give your partner more control over depth of your penis, this is the perfect position.

To get into this position, you both lie on your sides facing each other. She spreads her legs and you enter her while she wraps her legs around you. Your legs should be between hers for a relaxing position.

This position does require some core strength from the male partner. If you’re heavier or having trouble holding yourself up, use your lower-most elbow for greater support.

The Pushup

The g-spot is one spot that when you hit it, your partner is sure to squirm with delight. This position is perfect for g-spot stimulation. Here’s how.

She lies on her back and raises her legs. You maneuver between her legs and assume the standard push-up position. You can use your knees for support (think the modified push-up position), but this will change the depth and range of the position.

This position is better than the standard missionary position as it gives you greater depth and range of motion. This is perfect for stimulating the g-spot. It also gives your partner room to stimulate her clit between you two.

The Amazon

If she’s ready to take on some control, this advanced variation of the cowgirl position is a good place to start.

The male partner lies on his back and pulls up his knees to his chest. She stands over you with her feet on either side of your legs. She crouches down and mounts your shaft. As you start to have sex, she kneels down and pushes her feet back and together. You grab her thighs while she supports her weight on your chest.

This position offers great depth, but also gives her control over the depth and speed. It’s the perfect position for stimulating both the g-spot and the a-spot so she can choose her own pleasure. In this position, you also have the chance to stimulate her nipples, ass, or clitoris.

Advanced Technique: The Orgasmic Potential Massage

If you want to increase your partner’s orgasmic potential over a period of time, then the orgasmic potential massage is just what you need. This massage doesn’t work immediately but instead works to increase her future potential for orgasm by reducing stress and tension.

Women hold a lot of tension in their bodies. Even if she feels like she’s in a relaxed state, that tension can cause issues with orgasmic flow. That is, her sexual energy may be repressed.

To release that tension, then, is to make it possible for all of that sexual energy to flow to her pussy (during arousal) and ripple throughout her body (during climax).

So where do women hold the greatest tension? This varies by woman, but consider hitting all of the spots below:

  • Shoulders and neck
  • Under the shoulder blade (as she exhales deeply)
  • Down the back
  • On the top of the buttocks (she will give you feedback about the exact location on her buttocks)
  • Just below the collar bone (as she exhales)
  • At the top of the breast
  • On the bottom of the breast
  • Under the bottom of the rib cage
  • The V at the top of the pubic bone
  • Along the inside of the upper thigh in line with the vagina

There are various massage techniques you can use to target these high-tension areas. The most important thing is that you’re performing this massage regularly (2 to 3 times per week is ideal) and over a period of time. It usually takes anywhere from 10 to 15 2-hour sessions for a woman to reach her full orgasmic potential, so you have to be in this for the long haul.

Frequently Asked Questions About Female Orgasm

Do you have more questions about the female orgasm? Here are the answers to some frequently asked questions on the topic.

1. Why Do Women Orgasm?

Men orgasm to release ejaculatory fluids with a biological end goal of impregnating their partners. Women have no such biological purpose for orgasm, so why do they do it?

While female orgasm isn’t required for procreation at this period in time, it may have once been a prerequisite for ovulation. That is, orgasms would initiate female ovulation (release of the egg) so pregnancy could occur. That’s no longer the case, but fortunately, this evolutionary side effect has remained.

2. What Does Female Orgasm Feel Like?

If you ask 100 women what an orgasm feels like, you’ll get 100 answers. The truth is, there is no one answer to this question that will hit the nail on the head for all women.

Generally speaking, female orgasms feel like a buildup of sexual energy until an explosive release occurs. Depending on the origin of the orgasm (e.g. clitoral vs vaginal), the release may be felt throughout the body or it may be more localized.

3. Are There Health Benefits Associated with the Female Orgasm?

We know that there’s currently no biological reason for the female orgasm. That doesn’t mean it doesn’t have benefits, though.

Orgasm is an excellent way to increase bonding between partners. It can also be a great way to relieve stress and relax pent-up energies.

All in all, orgasm is pleasurable and fun. And that in itself has its own rewards.

4. Why Do Women Experience Multiple Orgasms?

There’s no true understanding of why women experience multiple orgasms. While there’s no reason why women can experience them but men can’t, it may simply have to do with the refractory period that men experience after orgasm.

That is, men experience a period immediately following orgasm and ejaculation where they are unable to reach orgasm again. This likely has to do with replenishing ejaculatory fluids. Women, of course, don’t have that need so there is no refractory period. This means women can orgasm again immediately following an orgasm, though it can be uncomfortable for some.

Conclusion

When it comes to giving yourself or your female partner an orgasm, you have plenty of options to choose from. Female orgasms can come in many different forms. To recap, these include:

  • Clitoral
  • Vaginal
  • Cervical
  • Combination
  • G-spot
  • Anal
  • Erogenous

While you or your partner may have a current favorite type of orgasm, I strongly encourage you to explore the other ones as well. After all, doing so may unlock levels of pleasure never imagined before!

Laura Rose Halliday


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