You squirted for the first time? Congratulations! Squirting is a sexual experience like no other, and breaking the barrier initially can be one of the toughest things you do within your sexuality.
So, now what?
Squirting for the first time doesn’t always mean you’ll be able to squirt so easily the next time or the time after that.
This post will introduce squirting and answer the question “who can squirt?” We’ll then discuss what it means to squirt for the first time, and tips to keep it up in the future.
So if you’re ready for this newest chapter of sexual exploration, read on!
What is Squirting?
So, what is squirting?
Squirting is often mistakenly referred to as female ejaculation, but the two are different. While both involve fluid from the urethra, squirting fluids are colorless and odorless. The volume of squirting fluid also tends to be more than with female ejaculation.
Perhaps the most important point to mention is that squirting fluid is not urine.
While trace amounts of urine can be found in squirting fluid, it’s largely made up of fluids from the Skene’s glands. The fluid travels through the bladder (hence the urine) and then out of the urethra.
How do we know this? Because we know the composition of squirting fluid contains “prostate specific antigen, prostatic acidic phosphatase, prostate specific acid phosphatase, and glucose.”
Who Can Squirt?
The answer to the question of “who can squirt?” isn’t so straightforward.
Physically speaking, as long as the woman has Skene’s glands and a g-spot, she should be able to squirt. But squirting is more than just a physical experience, but a mental and emotional one, too.
As with most things pleasure and sex, the experience varies widely by person. One woman may find it easy to squirt while another may find it difficult, if not impossible. The threshold will vary for each woman, so your experience may vary.
I Squirted for the First Time, Now What?
Whether you’ve been trying for a while or it came out of nowhere, squirting for the first time is a big accomplishment. So, congrats!
So now you may be wondering, what now?
First and foremost, nothing fundamental about your sexuality and your sex life has changed. Squirting is an extra fun part of sex for sure, but it doesn’t have to change how you do things going forward.
Second, you may have conflicting feelings about the experience. Perhaps you were shocked and embarrassed. Or maybe you were exhilarated. Were you worried about your partner’s reaction?
With the decades of conditioning that women receive about their bodies and sexuality, it’s no wonder that the experience of squirting can be conflicting. Just know that all of your emotions about the experience are valid.
Lastly, while you may have felt shame at the outset, squirting is normal and natural. There is nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about as it’s a natural expression of pleasure.
How to Squirt Again and Again
Do you want to keep the fun going? Here are some tips to get you to squirt again in the future.
The greatest difficulty for women when it comes to squirting is an emotional or mental block. This can happen if there is underlying stress, unresolved intimacy problems, or even shame about female sexuality.
If those are a blocker for you or your partner, then it’s important to address those at the root. Yes, that can take time and it’s a rather unsexy answer, but it’s the truth.
So what if mental and emotional blocks aren’t the problem? Then it may be physical comfort.
Ensure you or your partner is in a comfortable position with favorable conditions (i.e. not too hot or too cold, not too quiet or too loud). If the “mess” of squirting is something you or your partner is concerned with, then even keep a towel on hand.
Become Acquainted with the G-Spot
Is it possible to squirt through clitoral stimulation or vaginal insertion alone? Sure! However, direct g-spot stimulation is a surefire way to squirting.
The g-spot, much like squirting, was thought to be a myth for decades. We now know that the g-spot in fact exists, and that’s it actually an internal extension of the clitoris. It extends all the way to the top of the vaginal wall.
So first, how can you find the g-spot?
Insert your finger into your or your partner’s vagina and curl the finger slightly upward into a hook. You’ll notice there’s a patch that’s slightly fleshier and more sensitive than the surrounding tissue. That’s the g-spot!
Now, there are various techniques you can use to stimulate the g-spot. It’s all about the pressure you apply. Constant pressure on the g-spot is good if you’re also stimulating the clitoris simultaneously. Varied pressure (pressing down, releasing, pressing down again) is an option and is a good choice if your partner is new to g-spot play.
Just as important as pressure is knowing your or your partner’s cues.
When it comes to knowing your own cues, that means knowing when you’re on the brink of climax. With g-spot stimulation, that can feel a bit different than clitoral stimulation. For most women, they have an intense urge to pee. You must push past that feeling in order to climax.
If you’re stimulating a partner’s g-spot, then let them know that the urge to pee is normal and not to focus on it. As you play with the g-spot, respond to your partner’s verbal and nonverbal cues. You can do this by changing the stimulation technique, applying firmer pressure when she’s close, or even pulling back if it’s too intense.
Take Your Time
Even if you have squirted before, a squirting orgasm isn’t always a guarantee. So take your time, whether alone or with a partner, and enjoy the experience.
There are lots of reasons one squirting session may take longer than a previous one. You or your partner could be less emotionally vulnerable or less physically comfortable. You could be anticipating it which is one surefire way to keep climax, and squirting, at bay.
What’s important is that you reframe the experience from one of needing to accomplish something (e.g. climax, squirting) to one where you simply enjoy yourself.
As you become more accustomed to squirting, you’ll learn more about your cues and what works best for you.
While it can seem mysterious or even mythical to so many men and women, squirting is a sexual function that more and more women are learning to experience. And if you’ve just squirted for the first time, it’s certainly a time to celebrate!
Just remember that whether you’ve squirted one time, four times, or even one hundred times, no two experiences will be alike. That’s why I’ve included some tips above to ensure that even if you’re squirted before you can continue to do so now and in the future.