Nipple Sucking: The Ultimate Guide to Doing It Right

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Nipple Sucking: The Ultimate Guide to Doing It Right

If you’re a frequent reader of this website (or if you’ve found us through a Google search), then one thing’s for sure: You take pride in being able to please your woman.

You know things that some men (and women) will never know, and that’s because you take the time to research, learn, and upgrade your sexual skills.

There may be one thing that’s lacking from your arsenal, though. And that’s nipple play.

How can you know if you’re up to par? Ask yourself this one simple question:

How often have you taken the time to really focus on your partner’s nipples?

If you’re like most other men, the answer is not as often as you should be.

The nipples are a particularly sensitive erogenous zone. And with nipple play, you can bring your partner’s pleasure to new heights. One particular aspect of nipple play is sucking, and that’s exactly what this guide will cover.

Foremost, this guide will offer a how-to on nipple sucking. It will also include a more in-depth look at nipple play, as well as how you can make your girl climax just from nipple stimulation alone.

So if you’re ready to drive your girl wild, then be sure to continue reading.

The Anatomy of the Breast and the Nipple

To please her, you’ll need to know exactly how the nipple works. To know how the nipple works, though, you’ll need to understand its anatomy.

The breast is an external organ with the main function of providing food (lactation) to a woman’s offspring. But as you very likely know, the breast has its own “functions” outside of breastfeeding. In particular, the breast can be used in erotic play to arouse your partner.

It’s not really the breast itself that’s sensitive to touch, however, but more so the areola and the nipple.

The areola is the area of pigmented skin that encircles the nipples. The areola is particularly sensitive to touch, and you can incorporate it into your nipple play escapades with explosive results.

At the center of the areola is the crowning jewel of the breast: the nipple.

Medically speaking, the nipple is “a small projection of skin containing the outlets for 15–20 lactiferous ducts arranged cylindrically around the tip.” In other words, its main function is in lactation.

As mentioned above, that’s not its only use. Thanks to the nerve endings that are present, the skin of the nipple is also very sensitive to touch. These nerve endings are quite similar to those in the clitoris or glans of the penis and, therefore, they can be stimulated sexually.

One way to know that a nipple has been stimulated is the hardening it experiences. But what is it that makes a nipple hard? That’s a function of the sympathetic nervous system.

The sympathetic nervous system is responsible for many involuntary functions, such as increased heart rate and blood pressure. And this system is also responsible for the hardening of the nipples.

When the sympathetic nervous system is activated by adrenaline, the neurons in the breast tissue will react by contracting. This causes the nipples to become erect and the surrounding hairs (even the light-colored, short ones which cover the body) to stand on end.

As mentioned, we don’t have control over this process. There are a few situations in which this reaction may occur, though, including exposure to cold temperatures or sexual arousal.

Why Should You Focus on the Nipple?

You know that female breasts and nipples are sensitive to touch. They can be used quite successfully for sexual arousal. But beyond that, why should you focus in on the nipple specifically?

The nipple is actually one of the female body’s erogenous zones. Erogenous zones are areas of the body which have been linked to arousal. There are seven of them in total, and they are:

  1. Lips
  2. Ears
  3. Neck
  4. Lower back/buttocks
  5. Breasts/nipples
  6. Inner thighs
  7. Clitoris

When stimulated just right, these spots can bring your partner unimaginable pleasure.

You should definitely spend some time with your partner’s other erogenous zones. But the nipples are particularly sensitive and, as such, are an area to focus on if you want to quickly bring your woman to her knees.

How to Begin

Before you even get started, it’s important that you have a solid foundation.

Set the Mood

If you want your partner to have a truly explosive experience, you need her to feel relaxed. And if you want her to feel relaxed, you need to create a relaxing environment.

This is what I mean by “set the mood.” So, how can you do so effectively?

The “mood” you set will differ based on your partner’s likes. A few notes to consider, though:

  • Dim the lights
  • Add a few spritzes of her favorite perfume to the room
  • Make a comfortable spot for her to lounge
  • Add ambiance with string lights, lit candles, and flower petals

These all seem really cheesy, right? Maybe so, but these ideas can help to create an experience that will both relax and arouse her.

Take It Slow

As much as you may want to, it’s never a good idea to dive right in. This is especially true when the area you’ll be focusing on is particularly sensitive, such as the nipples.

There are different ways to ease into sucking, but here are just a few that I’d suggest.

Use a Fan

Use a fan to direct cool air towards her nipples. This is an easy (and hands free) way to get her nipples hard.

You can blow with your tongue, but a fan enables you to spend time on other areas of her body. The fan’s air will also be cooler, which adds another dimension to the pleasure.

Start From the Top

Just as with sex, you should use foreplay to get your partner in the mood for sucking.

A trail of kisses from her lips to her neck to her areola and finally her nipple is a great way to wind her up and prepare her for the pleasure to come. You can always backtrack to a previous spot, too, to further build her anticipation.

Use a Light Touch

When you’re first getting started with nipple play, it’s a good idea to start with a light touch. This is especially important if you aren’t sure how sensitive her nipples are.

You can start with just a gentle glide of your fingers over her areola and nipples. Use your lips to softly caress the area, and blow a bit of hot air across the nipple’s peaks.

It’s better to start light and increase intensity than to turn her off from the experience altogether by coming in too heavy.

Nipple Sucking: How To for Beginners

Now, you’re ready to dive in. Here’s how.

Use Your Tongue

Your tongue will be your greatest tool, so be sure to use it well. How? Here are a few techniques I recommend.


Using the tip of your tongue, circle the outside rim of her nipple.

To add some unpredictability to your encounter, you can make your circles larger to incorporate her areola.

The areola is still sensitive, though not as sensitive as the nipple. The wider circles will give her a bit of a breather, but they’ll also build up her anticipation as you get closer and closer to the nipple.

You can use this technique to vary the size of the circles, as well as the speed at which you complete it.


As your partner’s moans and sighs intensify, it’s time to kick it up a notch. You can do this by using your tongue for quicker, more tense movements.

You can do this using either just the tip of your tongue, or using more of your tongue’s surface area by placing your lips around her nipple.

The nipple flick is a surefire way to send pleasurable sensations throughout her core. It’s also a good technique to incorporate if you want to bring her to a full-on nipple orgasm. We’ll take more about that later.

To prolong her pleasure, you can combine tongue flicks with circular motions. You can also alternate flicks of the tongue with flicks of the finger. The changes in temperature will intensify the sensations while also keeping her on edge.

Get Into a Rhythm

There’s nothing too complex about sucking. It can be easy, actually, if you get into a rhythmic pattern. How?

Place your lips around her nipple and begin to suck in a slow, rhythmic motion. Increase the speed of the rhythm until you’re at a comfortable pace. You can then increase the intensity of the sucking once you’re at a good pace.

As you suck one nipple, you can use your hands to explore her body further. Use one hand to pinch and play with her other nipple, and use the other hand to trail down to her pussy.

Be sure to also pay attention to your partner to ensure that you aren’t going too fast or too slow. It’s very easy to adjust your rhythm accordingly, and she’ll appreciate your ability to sense her pleasure.

Alternate Frequently

Too much of a good thing can become overstimulating. That’s why you should be sure that you don’t focus your attention on one nipple for too long, but that instead you alternate between the two.

How often should you alternate?

This will depend on your partner’s responses.

If she seems to become overstimulated, or if she seems to grow bored, then it may be time to make the switch.

You can still play with the other nipple while sucking on one. This can also help to stave off overstimulation as you’re not focusing all of your efforts on one nipple.

You don’t need to ensure that each nipple gets the exact same amount of time. Just remember to spread the love.

Experiment with Intensity

You wouldn’t do anything with 100% intensity all the way through.

That doesn’t mean that you need to start light and stay light throughout the entire session, though.

Start with light kisses and gentle sucks. Then switch it up by increasing the intensity of your suction, or moving away from the center of the nipple to decrease the intensity.

The varying levels of intensity will add a fun level of surprise to your session. Your partner may also find that she rather enjoys the more intense techniques, and this can lead to a more pleasurable experience.

Of course, you should always be aware of your partner’s reaction and stop if the intensity has become too much for her.

It’s always best to start light and get progressively more intense. This will give her the chance to acclimate, and her increased arousal will also make it possible for her to ‘handle’ the more intense moments.

Are you not sure just how intense is too intense for her? Then ask! Your partner is your best source of information on anything that relates to her body.

Add in Some Light Nibbling

Teeth + sucking doesn’t often conjure feelings of pleasure.

If your partner is one who likes to combine pain with pleasure, though, then adding just a bit of teeth can be just what she needs.

Use your teeth to gently scrape from the base of the nipple to the tip. Or nibble around the edges of her areola.

Try Different Temperatures

You’ve experimented with intensity, but have you thought about different temperatures?

To add a colder touch to your nipple play:

Place an ice cube in your mouth and slowly introduce the cold by blowing softly on her nipple. You can then place the ice cube between your teeth, and bring it to her nipple.

If she’s interested in playing with temperatures but an ice cube directly to the nipple is too much, you can also wait until the ice cube has melted (or almost fully so). You can then use your chilled tongue to circle and flick her areolas and nipples.

Do you want to heat things up, instead?

Place an ice cube or other cold object directly against her nipple. Then remove the cold object and place your mouth in its place. The change from cold to hot will send shivers down her spine.

Other ways to add some heat to your nipple play is with candle wax, by taking a sip of a heated drink right before sucking, or with a warm towel.

Add New Sensations

Aside from pleasure, there are many sensations you may want to add to your session.

What sensations do I mean?

One sensation in particular is tingling. And how can you stimulate tingling? With food.

The foods that cause a tingle on your tongue will have the same effect (if not more pronounced) on her nipples. It doesn’t have to be an intense tingle, but just enough to add a bit more depth to the session.

What foods do I recommend?

One that’s easy to start with is mint.

Chew some gum, suck on a mint, or even drink some mint tea right before you begin to suck. The menthol in the mint will bring a cooling tingle which will transfer to her nipple once licked. This can stimulate blood flow to the area, which will further sensitize the area.

If you’re feeling adventurous, you can even try this with spices or even hot sauce. You should only do so as your own risk.

Nipple Play: Advanced Tips and Tricks

Have you exhausted the ideas above? Or perhaps you know your lady is a bit more adventurous. Whatever it may be, these advanced tips and tricks below are for you.

Nipple Clamps

If your partner is a bit more adventurous, you can add nipple clamps to your list of “must try” sex toys.

But what exactly are nipple clamps?

Nipple clamps are a sex toy with one main purpose: to trap blood within the tissues to enhance sensitivity.

There are many varieties of nipple clamps, and they can be made from many materials. The most common variety are known as ‘alligator clamps.’ They often consist of adjustable screw which enable you to change the amount of pressure on the nipple.

There are also nipple clamps which can be attached to collars or other bondage accessories. These clamps will increase the pressure based on the wearer’s movements, and they’re a great toy for solo or couples play.

The great thing about nipple clamps is they offer a hands-free way to pleasure your partner so you can focus on other activities.

Use nipple clamps to keep your partner’s nipples sensitive as you move from sucking to other activities. Or use them alongside sucking for an extra intense experience.

Nipple Vibrators

If your partner is sensitive to pressure on her nipples, then a nipple vibrator can be a great way to tease her without causing overstimulation.

Just as they sound, nipple vibrators are vibrators specially made with nipples in mind. They often attach to the nipples like a suction cup, and their vibrations travel from the breast tissue to the areola to the nipple.

You can also use a classic vibrator, however. A small handheld vibrator will get the job done just fine.

Begin by sucking one of your partner’s nipples. As you do so, bring the vibrator to the other nipple and turn it on. You can then alternate which nipple is being sucked and which one is being stimulated by the vibrator.

The constant change in sensations will bring her to a new level of pleasure.

Lubricants and Oils

If you’re looking to up the intensity, then lubricants and oils can help.

Lubricants, like KY Jelly, and oils, like coconut or mineral, can make your movements more fluid. You can then glide your fingers or sex toys over the nipples for a pleasant sensation.

Nipple Pumps

Are your partner’s nipples not particularly sensitive? This can make it difficult to incorporate nipple play into your routine. But it’s not impossible.

In fact, there’s an easy way to increase the sensitivity of her nipples. How? With a nipple pump.

A nipple pump is a small tool that’s placed around the nipple. The pump mechanism, which can be manual or electric, is either at the tip of the pump or connected to a tube.

By activating the pump, a vacuum is created. This vacuum will pull on the nipples and increase pressure. As a result, blood flow to the nipples will increase. This causes engorgement, as well as increased sensitivity.

You can then implement the sucking and play tips above to bring her immense pleasure.

How to Bring Her to Climax With Nipple Play

Nipple sucking is often used in foreplay, or during intercourse.

But what if I told you that sucking and other forms of nipple play can bring your partner to climax all on its own?

What is a Nipple Orgasm?

There are many types of orgasms that a woman can experience. These include clitoral, vaginal, or anal.

But another type of orgasm – and one that’s not often discussed – is the nipple orgasm.

As the name suggests, a nipple orgasm is an orgasm that originates at the nipple. It’s similar in intensity to a clitoral orgasm in that the majority of throbs will occur at the nipple.

How to Give Her a Nipple Orgasm

If you want to give your partner a nipple orgasm, you’ve come to the right place.

It’s possible to bring most any woman to orgasm through nipple stimulation alone. You have to be patient, attentive, and even creative.

A few tips to get you started on the right track…

Minimize Distractions

It’s possible for simple distractions to make it difficult for your partner to climax. If you want to start off right, then, you should minimize distractions as best as possible.

Shut off all phones, lock the doors, and draw the curtains. You should also shut off any televisions, radios, etc. This will help you to close yourself off from the busy world outside.

Your partner may have some unconventional distractions, as well. For example, she may be unable to focus with the light from the cable box flickering. These distractions are easy to minimize or remove entirely.

Practice Patience

If you want her to truly feel comfortable and, therefore, in a mental space to orgasm, then you need to let her know that you have all the time in the world.

How long it takes her to climax shouldn’t matter.

It could take her five minutes, or it could take an hour. But as long as you let her know that she can take as long as she needs, she won’t feel pressured to perform.

This is why it’s also important that you “schedule” this sexual encounter for a time when you do have all the time in the world. If you have plans to go out in an hour or so, then you should delay this type of encounter until a later day.

Listen to Her Feedback

You may think of feedback as a conversation between two (or more) parties. But feedback doesn’t need to be coherent to be understood.

Moans, sighs, gasps, and groans are all ways that your partner communicates with you during sexual encounters. That includes during nipple play.

Use those verbal cues to know when to continue on with your current actions, or when to change your technique.

There are non-verbal cues to keep an eye out for, too.

Is your partner pulling away, or otherwise shrinking into herself? The particular technique you’re using may be painful or overstimulating. Is she pushing herself towards you, or wriggling in delight? Then you should continue your current course if you hope to bring her closer to climax.

Mix It Up

Even something that feels good can get old after awhile. So be sure to mix it up during your nipple play sessions.

Do you often use your tongue to flick her nipple? Then try to incorporate longer, more purposeful circular motions.

Has she gotten used to your routine and can anticipate your next move? Surprise her by changing up your techniques and the order in which you use them.

A bit of surprise can really bring her over the edge.

Can Everyone Have a Nipple Orgasm?

Just like with other types of orgasms, there are some people who are more prone to orgasming from nipple stimulation. The truth is, though, that almost anyone can experience a nipple orgasm.

There’s nothing inherently special about being able to have a nipple orgasm. After all, the anatomy of the nipple is the same from person to person.

4 Things to Do While Sucking Her Nipples

Are you looking to add even more fun? Here are just a few ideas of what you can do while also sucking her nipples.

Stimulate Her Clitoris

If you really want to push her over the edge, you can combine your sucking technique with clitoral stimulation.

Just add a dab of lube to your finger and start slow. You can increase the intensity of your finger’s movements as she becomes more aroused, and this will pair well with the work you’re doing on her nipples.

Shower Her in Kisses

You may think of sucking as one long session of licks, flicks, and nibbles.

However, it’s okay to take a break every now and again to deliver a trail of kisses up and down her body. The intensity of sucking, alternated with the gentle tingle of kisses, will heighten her senses. She won’t know what to expect from one second to the next, and this anticipation will only build her arousal.

Are you looking to add a bit of extra surprise? Don’t forget to give her clitoris a kiss (or two!).

Introduce Sex Toys

Vibrators, dildos, butt plugs, and more. With the help of sex toys, you can please your woman in multiple places at once while still focusing mainly on her nipples.

Don’t have enough hands to do all you want to her? Encourage her to join in on the fun. Her pleasing herself will be a turn on for you, and it can even help you to learn more about what she likes.

Practice Light Bondage

“Bondage” can be intimidating at first. There are ways to lightly introduce the practice, though. For example:

Place a blindfold over her eyes. Use handcuffs or a silk tie to restrict her hands. Use a feather to tease her nipples.

These can add a new sense of “danger” to the session while not taking away from the main experience.


Have you spent less time focusing on your partner’s nipples than you’d like to admit? Do you need to make up for lost time (and pleasure)?

Then be sure to implement the expert tips outlined above.

With the right licks, kisses, nibbles, and strokes, you can leave your partner squirming, panting, and begging for more!

Of course, you don’t need to (and you shouldn’t!) implement all of the above tips into your practice. Instead, you need to focus on finding what works for your partner. Only when you truly listen to her verbal and physical cues can you bring her the immense pleasure she craves.

Next Level – Video Lessons

If you’re serious about giving your partner the best orgasm of her life, and more sexual pleasure than she can handle, I recommend video lessons rather than reading articles.

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Remember, most men will never know these secrets, so if you want to move beyond nipple pleasure into giving your girlfriend or wife the most pleasure she’s ever had, then this course is for you.

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Laura Rose Halliday

Laura Rose Halliday started The School Of Squirt back in 2012 and has been running the website and digital courses along with Jakob Wulfe since then. She is a full time sex writer, researcher and practicer.

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  1. My wife really likes nipple play but I usually stick to the same moves – this article has given me some new ideas that I’ll definitely try soon!

  2. Oh my goodness your nipple sucking tips and tricks work AMAZINGLY WELL! I used to just suck my chick’s nipples because I knew how much she enjoyed it. But now I think she likes it better than sex haha. The two things she absolutely loves are when I use a little mouth wash before I suck her tits because of the cooling sensation. The other thing is blowing on them and comfortably look at her. She doesn’t orgasm from it, but she loves it. Thanks so much! We both really appreciate it!

    1. The sensual connection as you blow on them and look into her eyes is likely a huge turn on for her (as it is for so many women!). I’m glad you’ve found these tips helpful!

  3. my boyfriend has the best technique for a mind blowing nipple sucking sess. he holds my nipple between his finger and thumb and pulls it up, then flicks his tongue across. Feels like my tit is going to explode in his mouth lol

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