30 Kinky Sex Positions for Experimental Partners

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30 Kinky Sex Positions for Experimental Partners

Tired of the same old vanilla sex positions that you’ve done a thousand times? If so, it’s time to spice things up with some kinky sex positions.

Kinky sex is sex that pushes the boundaries. It’s not polite, or politically correct, or ‘normal’. It’s about departing from those sexual norms and exploring new things – and that’s what makes it so exciting.

You get to explore your sexual fantasies, whether that involves experimenting with role play, getting rough, inserting props like handcuffs into the mix, or whatever else floats your boat!

For inspiration, we’ve put together this guide of sex positions to help you get started. We’ve made sure to include both beginner stuff as well as more advanced maneuvers. Just try out some of the positions in this article next time you’re feeling a little experimental – they’re guaranteed to drive your partner wild!

Kinky Sex Tips

Before we begin, here are some expert tips and tricks for better kinky sex!

Share Your Fantasies

Everyone has his or her own personal brand of kink. Some people might be into BDSM. For others, the idea of threesomes or sex with multiple partners might get them going. To get the most out of your kinky sex sessions, it’s important to share your own personal sexual fantasies with your partner.

This can be intimidating, as you might be a little embarrassed, but rest assured that whatever you’re into, there are probably thousands of people out there who are interested in the same thing, so just go for it! And you never know, the stars may align and it might just turn out that your partner is into the same stuff, in which case you’re really in for a wild night.

Grab Some Props

A lot of the positions we’ll talk about here can be made even kinkier if you throw some props into the mix. I’m talking about things like whips, costumes, handcuffs, rope ties, and other restraints. Restraints open up a whole new world of kinky sex possibilities.

Bring in Different Sensations

Sex is all about touch, but a great way to make it a little more adventurous is to bring in some other sensations too, like heat and taste. For example, you could pour melted chocolate or whipped cream on your partner and then lick it off them to spice things up. You can also experiment with hot and cold sensations by using things like ice cubes on each other’s bodies.

Eye Contact

Good sex revolves around power play and power reversals. In fact, studies show that 60% of women fantasies about being ‘dominated’ by their partner, and eye contact is how you communicate this domination or submission. That’s why maintaining eye contact is so important to kinky sex.

Of course, sex positions are important too when it comes to power play. If your kink involves being submissive, choose a position that puts you in that role, or vice-versa.

Ease Into It

Part of the reason a lot of couples avoid kinky sex is that they think they have to jump right into the deep end. On the contrary, it’s much better to ease yourself into it.

If you go straight from vanilla stuff to nipple clamps and choking, you’re probably not going to enjoy it. Start with some beginner kinky positions and work your way up. We’ve separated the positions suitable for beginners up from the more advanced stuff for exactly that reason.

Use a Safe Word

Kinky sex often veers into the realms of BDSM, role play, and bondage. If you go down this route, it’s very important to agree on a ‘safe word’ before you start.

If either of you gets uncomfortable with what’s happening, say the safe word and your partner will know that you actually want to stop and that you’re not still roleplaying.

Ideally, you don’t want anyone to feel uncomfortable enough to use their safe word in the first place, which is why you should also make sure that both you and your partner are on the same page about how far you’re willing to take things before you begin.

Kinky Oral Sex Positions

Now that’s covered, let’s jump into the sex positions. Here are some kinky oral sex positions to get you started.

1. 69


Technique: He lies down flat on his back. She lies down on top of him upside-down, so that her head is at his crotch and his head is between her legs. Both of you give oral to the other at the same time. You can make it even kinkier by bringing in some restraints. For example, his hands could be tied to the bedposts with Velcro restraints.

Why it’s great: The classic 69. Everyone’s heard of it, but few couples are adventurous enough to try it. Why not give it a shot now as part of your foray into kinky sex? It’s a great, easy way to inject a little bit of kink into your usual oral sex sessions. Plus, you both get to get yours at the same time as you’ll be both giving and receiving.

2. Sideway 69

Technique: Lie down on your side on a bed or a couch facing towards your partner. Your heads should be at opposite ends of the bed/couch so that your head is towards your partner’s feet. Bend your legs at the knees and open your legs to give your partner access so that your top knee is pointing at the ceiling while using your elbow to support yourself. You can rest your head on the other’s thigh while you give oral.

Why it’s great: The biggest problem with the standard 69 is that it can get a little uncomfortable after a while. By turning the 69 on its side, it’s more comfortable for both of you, which means you can keep going long enough to give your partner the best orgasm of their life without having to worry about neck ache. You’ll also be freeing up your hands, which you can use to explore your partner’s body.

3. Face Sitter

Technique: He lies down on his back; she sits on top of his face and straddles his head, making sure to leave a couple of inches for him to breathe. He eats her out while holding onto her hips to support her while she gyrates her hips to control his efforts. I’d recommend doing this position on a bed with a bedpost or wall within reach to help with balance.

Why it’s great: Face-sitting is a comfortable, ergonomic way to go down on your lady – not that you need an excuse! It puts the focus on her pleasure – which I’m sure she’ll appreciate – while giving you a short break. You don’t have to move a muscle except for your tongue. It’s kinky because it’s not a common position for many couples and it puts her in control. She can move her body to dictate the position and the intensity of the tongue action.

4. Face Fuck

Technique: She lies down on her back with her head resting on top of a couple of pillows. He straddles her so that his knees are near her shoulders, on either side of her chest, and his penis is close to her mouth. She takes his penis into her mouth while he grabs her head and leans forward. He starts thrusting and ‘fucking’ her face – hence the name!. To make this position even kinkier, try using some restraints so that she feels even more submissive and dominated – get my best bondage tips here!

Why it’s great: This kinky face fuck position puts the man in a really dominant position and her in a totally submissive one. It’s a rough, carnal position that’s easy to carry out. If your kink is rough sex, this one is sure to impress. It’s also a great position for facials. He’ll be in the perfect spot to pull out and ejaculate on her face when he finishes. If that’s something that you’re into, you’ll love it!

5. The Butterball

Technique: This is a rim job anal sex position so start by making sure you’re both showered up. The receiver lies back on the bed with their knees bent towards their chest. They then grab hold of their own ankles for stability to remain in that position. The giver lies down on their front and goes down on them.

Why it’s great: Experimenting with anal sex and rimming is a great way to bring a little kink into the bedroom, and the butterball is the perfect kinky sex position for a rim job. He can eat her ass while still having easy access to her clit and breasts. It’s also a fun, creative sex position that you might not have tried before, so it’s sure to shake things up.

Beginner Kinky Positions For Dominant Men

Next, we’re going to show you 10 kinky positions that are suitable for beginners. The following positions put the man in the dominant role and the woman in a submissive role. If those are the kind of power roles that get you going, these positions are a great place to start.

6. Rough Doggy

Technique: This technique is just like the regular doggy style but with a few extra movements thrown in to rough things up. She gets down on all fours while he kneels on the bed behind her and enters from the rear. He grabs ahold of her hair and gently pulls on it while he thrusts. He can also tweak her nipples, smack her ass, or even grab her neck lightly if you want to get really rough.

Why it’s great: Rough doggy style is the perfect kinky sex position for beginners to try. Doggy style should already be familiar to most of us as one of the most basic positions, but it still feels a little more animalistic and carnal. It lends itself really well to rough sex and can easily be tweaked to make it even rougher by following the technique above. You can also make it even kinkier by adding in some props like butt plugs or restraints.

7. Stand and Deliver

Technique: This is a variation of doggy style which has you both standing up. She stands in front and bends over at the waist, while he stands behind her and thrusts. He can grab her wrists and hold her arms at her side. Alternatively, use restraints like cuffs to tie her hands behind her back if you’re ready to experiment with bondage.

Variation: Have her bend over a table or the side of a couch instead.

Why it’s great: Standing sex is always kinky, and the Stand and Deliver sex position is one of the best standing sex positions. Having the giver grab your hands puts them in control and gives them something to pull on for extra leverage so that they can get a more powerful thrust and deeper penetration. Her stance, which creates a tighter squeeze on her vagina, will add to the intensity, as will all the blood rushing to her head!

8. Flatiron

Technique: She lies face down on the bed with her legs stretched out straight behind her and raises her hips slightly. He lies on top, using his arms to lift his chest up off her, and thrusts down into her with his hips. Your heads should be close together, so you can try whispering dirty talk to each other while you’re screwing to make things even kinkier. Make sure to establish a safeword beforehand.

Why it’s great: I don’t know what it is, but something about taking your partner from behind while they’re lying face down, entirely submissive, is insanely kinky. If she fantasizes about being dominated by her man, she’ll probably be anointing you a saint after this one.

9. Up Against the Wall

Technique: You’ll need to be next to a wall for this position. Both of you standing facing each other while her back is facing the wall. He lifts her up and she wraps her legs around his hips. He leans her against the wall for support and enters from the front.

Variation: He can pin her arms against the wall to make it kinkier. As the wall puts extra pleasure against her pelvis, you can easily add in a vibrating couples massager

Why it’s great: There are a lot of reasons to love this position. First off, it’s awesome because it allows you and your partner to get down to it right there, right then, whenever the urge takes you. You don’t need a bed, just push your partner up against the wall and get to it. The raw, immediate passion of impromptu standing sex is super kinky, super romantic, and super enjoyable.

Secondly, It’s dominant for him because he’s picking you up and supporting your body completely, which makes him feel more macho, and puts him in control.

Thirdly, it’s more intimate than other positions as you and your partner will be standing face to face.

And finally, it’s a great sex position for kinky sex is that it allows you to experiment with locations to indulge your fantasies. Always wanted to join the mile-high club? Or try out shower sex? Book a flight, head to the bathroom, and try this one out. You won’t regret it!

10. Divide and Conquer

 

Technique: She lies down on her back on a surface so that her ass is at crotch-height (a table works really well). You can place pillows under her butt to prop her up a little higher. He stands in front while she spreads her legs and raises them in the air, keeping them straight. He can hold onto them and pull her up into his lap while he thrusts into her.

Variation: This position requires flexibility on her part for her to keep her legs straight. If it’s too difficult, she can rest them on his shoulders instead.

Why it’s great: This puts him in a dominant position while placing her in a more vulnerable one. He can easily see her reaction to his movements and maintain that all-important eye contact to make it even more intense and power her towards an orgasm!

Propping up her butt allows for deeper access while holding onto her legs also allows him to get a more powerful thrust and make things rougher. If you’re up for it, he can use silk BOA ties to tie her wrists to her legs, which will allow him to use his hands to rove around her body instead.

11. Seated Wheelbarrow

Technique: He perches on the edge of the bed or another surface and positions her so that she’s on his lap with the tops of her thighs pressed against his, while her legs are stretched out behind her. She leans forward so that she’s basically lying face down, while stretching out her arms and using them to lift her chest off the floor. If you’re into anal play, he can insert a finger into her butt while he enters her, or alternatively use anal beads or butt plugs to up the kink-factor.

Why it’s great: This is a fun and easy kinky sex position that’s great for couples that enjoy a little light spanking or anal play. It’s not too hard so it’s suitable for beginners, while still being interesting enough to bring a lot of excitement to the bedroom… or living room… or kitchen!

12. Standing Wheelbarrow

Technique: Start in a standing doggy style position, with her on all fours and him kneeling behind her. He lifts her up by her hips and she grips his waist with her legs. You should be in the same position you’d be in if you were in a wheelbarrow race. He thrusts to enter from behind.

Why it’s great: This is a variation on the seated wheelbarrow that takes away the need for the couch and instead has him standing up. It’s also sometimes hilariously known as the hoover maneuver. It might look a little silly, but it provides a great angle for penetration that she’s sure to love.

Her pose means her PC muscles will be in a tight squeeze, which feels great for both of you. Again, it’s a dominant pose for him as he gets to use his strength to hold her up while getting a great view of her behind.

13. Pinball Wizard

Technique: She lies down with her back flat against the bed, and her hands tied to the bedpost with something like a silk scarf or other restraint. He kneels down in front of her, between her legs, lifts her hips up off the floor, and pulls her butt towards him to enter her.

Variation: Use pillows to prop her hips up, or have her wrap her legs around his hips to take some of the load off him.

Why it’s great: This kinky sex position makes great use of restraints and is perfect for when you’re ready to start experimenting with a little light bondage. He gets to be dominant and gets a full view of her body. As her hands will be tied up, he’s in full control and free to explore her body. It’s a great angle for g-spot stimulation.

14. Conquistador

Technique: This one’s easy. She lies on her back with her arms above her head and spreads her legs. He then binds her wrists (and ankles, if you like) to the bed frame. I’d recommend using velcro cuffs that are easily removable, in case she has second thoughts about being bound. He lies on top, positioning himself correctly so he can enter from the front.

Why it’s great: This is a twist on good ol’ missionary, which makes it one of the easiest possible kinky positions for those new to bondage. Again, it’s a great angle for her, as his penis will be really hitting her g-spot.

15. Knees To Chest

Technique: She lies on her back, raising her knees to her chest, and he binds her ankles and calves together. He then positions himself to enter from the front and she drapes her legs over his shoulders while he thrusts. If you have a pair of velcro cuffs handy, you can try using them to bind her wrists above her head too.

Why it’s great: This is another basic bondage position that’s easy enough to be suitable for beginners. Her ankles and calves being bound together keep her vagina tight to up the pleasure for both of you. It’s a little more dominant than the Conquistador position we talked about above.

Beginner Kinky Positions For Dominant Women

If you’re into dominatrix stuff and prefer to flip the script and put her in control, we’ve got you covered. Here are 5 more beginner positions that put the woman in the dominant position.

16. Cowgirl

Technique: He lies down on his back on the bed, bending his knees slightly. She climbs on top and ‘rides him’ by rotating her hips and moving up and down to control the angle and depth of penetration.

Variation: To make this sex position even kinkier, you can try blindfolding him or her using something like a tie or a silk scarf.

Why it’s great: The Cowgirl is one of the most basic woman-on-top sex positions. It allows her to really take the reins and dominate him without moving too far out of your comfort zones. She’s in charge and gets to dictate how things go down.

As I said earlier, eye contact is hugely important to establishing power roles and in this position, he’ll be looking up at her, which puts him in a really submissive role. If you want to get really kinky, try experimenting with a little nipple tweaking.

17. Cross buttocks

 

Technique: She lies down on her back with her head propped up against a pillow. He lies across her lap, positioned in such a way that he can enter her from the front. She smacks his butt with her hand or using a toy like a paddle

Why it’s great: This kinky position – sometimes called ‘X marks the spot’ – is great if he likes to be spanked, or if she likes to be really dominant. She’s in the perfect position to give his ass a little smack while she looks at him from behind. Meanwhile, the angle of entry will be perfectly hitting her g-spot.

18. Driver’s Seat

Technique: He sits on a straight chair and puts his hand behind his back. She ties his hands theirs with something like a scarf or other restraint. With his hands out of the way, she uses the opportunity to play with him. She might want to tease him, fondle him, or fake torture him. Experiment with building sexual tension through different strategies before you really start getting to it once his hands are freed.

Why it’s great: This kinky sex position is all about building sexual tension. By putting her in control and leaving him helpless to her whims, she can tease him and build up that sexual desire and frustration, which makes the ultimate pay-off when you do start screwing all that much more satisfying. Prepare for mind-blowing orgasms.

19. The Lap Dance

Technique: He sits down on a chair or a sofa. She straddles him, lowHow to Do It: Have your partner sit on a sofa. Straddle them, facing away, and lowers herself onto his crotch. She grinds her hips, moves up and down, and teases her partner. She can turn around if you’d prefer face-to-face contact

Technique: This is a very sexy pose that puts her in the driver seat. She’ll be channeling that stripper energy to drive him wild with anticipation and good sex is all about anticipation.

20. Sideways Saddle

Technique: He lies on the bed, bending one knee so that his foot is flat against the floor. She straddles his bent leg, facing towards his inner thigh rather than his head. One of her legs should be on either side of his. She then grinds up against his thigh, rocking back and forth and raising and lowering herself onto his penis.

Why it’s great: This kinky sex position is unbelievably satisfying for her. The position and grinding action put all the pressure on her clitoris to help her get off. She’s also the dominant one here as she’s on top and in charge, using him for her pleasure. He’s hopeless to do anything but lit down and enjoy it, but I’m sure he won’t be complaining about it!

Seriously Kinky Positions (Advanced)

Now that we’ve covered the beginner stuff, let’s kick things up a notch. It’s time to get a little crazy and try some wilder stuff. These next set of positions are seriously kinky and outlandish, but if you’re looking for something new and exciting, they’re just the ticket.

Warning: these positions are not for the faint of heart. Many of them are advanced and require more flexibility, experience, or at least a more open mind. If you’re up for the challenge, read on!

21. Kneeling V

 

Technique: You’ll need plenty of strength and stamina for this one. He kneels down and lifts her up by her waist, while she lifts up her legs and rests them on his shoulders so that she’s roughly in a ‘V’ shape. She wraps her arms around his neck for stability while he uses his hands to pull her onto him, or thrusts into her.

Why it’s great: This position showcases two of the pillars of sexual dominance: strength and support. It puts the man in charge, allows him to really show off that manliness and takes full control of her body. If she crosses her ankles behind his head, it creates a tighter squeeze and increases the pleasure. It’s pretty intimate too due to the close face-to-face contact.

22. Bend Over Backwards

Technique: This one’s a little difficult to line up, but it’s worth it. She lies face down against the floor with her legs stretched out straight, her ankles close together, and her chest raised slightly off the floor. She can lean on her elbows for support. He squats down on top, lining his penis up for rear entry, and leans back, resting on his outstretched arms. He uses his arms for support as he thrusts downwards or grinds into her.

Why it’s great: This is somewhat like an even-more-intense version of the Stand and Deliver. The fact that she’s pressed against the floor, facing away, oblivious to what’s going on, while he gets a full view of her body, is extra kinky and reminds him that he’s in charge. He can lean forward to whisper dirty words in her ears or bite her neck. Plus, because she’s flat against the floor, you can easily pop a clit vibrator underneath her for extra pleasure.

23. Butter Churner

Technique: She lies on her back, raising her legs and core off the floor and raising them so that her ankles are on either side of her head. He stands in front, grabs ahold of her ankles or lower legs to keep them in position, and squats down to penetrate her from above, like an old fashioned butter churner.

Variation: Make it extra kinky by grabbing some honey or chocolate and dribbling it on her from above

Why it’s great: This is a personal favorite kinky sex position of mine. It’s a really dominating pose for him and great for her too. Because her chest is raised above her head, the blood can rush to her head which can help induce more intense orgasms, but make sure not to maintain the position for too long to avoid injury. Also, be careful not to thrust too hard to avoid hurting her neck.

24. Footsie

Technique: Start by giving your partner a foot massage with both of you in a seated position. After a while, start to occasionally brush your feet against their crotch. When you’re ready to turn the heat up, she can grab his shaft in between the arches of her feet and start to move them up and down, while he can circle her clit with either the ball of his foot or his big toe.

Why it’s great: As I said, everyone has their own personal kinks. If yours is feet, this is a great way to bring that fetish into the bedroom. Just remember that hygiene is important, so clean those toes and maybe use a foot pumice before you get started.

25. Spider

Technique: Sit facing each other, leaning back on your hands for support. Shuffle forward so that her legs are behind his hands and you’re sitting crotch to crotch. He can thrust into her or she can raise and lower herself onto his shaft.

Variation: Throw in a motorized butt plug to amp up the kink.

Why it’s great: While still very exotic and interesting, this advanced kinky sex position isn’t as intimidating as some of the others. It feels more natural and romantic. You’re both sitting face to face and neither of you is really ‘dominant’, it’s more of a mutual experience, which makes it super intimate and romantic.

26. Restroom Attendant

Technique: This is basically a standing doggy sex position, except she’ll be leaning over the bathroom sink. Head to a bathroom and have her look into the mirror and bend over at the waist. He positions himself behind her and enters her from the rear while maintaining that all-important eye contact with her in the mirror.

Why it’s great: Physically speaking, this one’s not actually that challenging and is suitable for beginners. However, the reason it’s seriously kinky is that you can do it anywhere: the airport bathroom, the club toilet, or wherever you want. If sex in risky places gets you going, this one’s worth trying.

27. H2Ohh Yeah

Technique: This technique requires water, so jump in the pool or ocean. He stands up straight while she jumps into his arms, wrapping her legs around his waist while he holds her butt. He slides her bathing suit out of the way and enters from the front.

Why it’s great: I had to include something for all the voyeurs out there. The H2Ohh yeah is the perfect kinky sex position for a quicky outdoors, while still discreet enough that you won’t be seen as long as you’re up to your waists in water and at least a few meters from the nearest swimmers – and out of sight of any lifeguards! You’ll also be using the buoyancy the water offers to experiment with an otherwise-challenging sex position. Try it next time you’re at the beach and in the mood for a quickie!

28. The Double Cowgirl

Technique: You’ll need a willing buddy for this one! He lies on his back on the bed, while lady number one straddles him in a missionary position, and lady number two sits on his face. He gives oral and penetrates his sexual partners at the same time.

Why it’s great: This kinky sex position is great for really experimental couples that are into the idea of sex with multiple partners. If you want to try a threesome, and you’d prefer two women than two men, this is a great position to start out with.

29. The High Five

Technique: This sex position requires two men and one woman. Start by getting into the standard kneeling doggy style position. Man number one kneels and penetrates her from behind while man number two kneels in front to receive oral.

Why it’s great: Unlike the threesome-position above, this puts the focus on the woman. It should be your go-to position if you’re trying out a threesome with two dudes. It makes her totally submissive to not one, but two dominant men. As I said, it’s only great for very open-minded and experimental couples, but if that’s you, give it a shot!

30. Hogtie Bondage Position

Warning: This is a bondage position that restricts her movements very much, so safety should be a primary concern. It can be dangerous if you don’t know what you’re doing. Make sure to establish a safeword or safety signal, and make sure both of you are comfortable with the position. Avoid tight restrictions that restrict breathing or circulation.

Technique: There are many variations of this position, but the most basic Hogtie has the receiver’s wrists and ankles joined together behind their back. Leave an appropriate amount of space between the wrists and the ankles; the closer they are together, the more strenuous it is.

Why it’s great: I figured why not go out on a bang? As far as sex positions go, this is about as kinky as it gets. The Hogtie is a classic, fairly extreme bondage position that very effectively limits mobility if you and your partner are really into BDSM. Just remember to be careful and discuss your comfort levels beforehand.

Final Thoughts

That should be plenty of kinky positions to keep you busy for a while! For the new year, why not set a goal to try out one new one per week?

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  1. Dear Laura, we are Linh and Oliver . Linh is Vietnamese. Oliver is German. we are married couple. we want for Linh to learn squirting. can we come to your course in Florida? how much are the costs. when do courses take place? thank you very much.

  2. the restroom attendance is my fav – do that all the time with my girl – on the kitchen countertop is best. Makes her pussy super tight and I come in a few minutes.

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