Squirting. Female ejaculation. Gushing. Whatever you call it, it’s only natural to have lots of questions on the topic. After all, squirting has been seen as a myth or unnatural phenomenon for centuries.
We know squirting isn’t a myth, and it’s actually much more common than previously thought. But truly how common is it?
In this article, we’ll introduce squirting. This includes what squirting is and what it’s not. We’ll then discuss how common squirting is (much more common than you think!) and whether it’s normal. Then we’ll delve into a few tips on how to squirt whether for yourself or your partner.
What is Squirting?
Squirting, sometimes mistakenly referred to as female ejaculation, is the flow of colorless, odorless fluid from the urethra. It can come out as a trickle or a gush, but it’s usually preceded by, or during, orgasm.
What Does Squirting Fluid Contain?
There’s a common misconception that squirting fluid consists purely of urine. While there are trace amounts of urine in the fluid, there are other contents as well.
Squirting fluid comes from the skene’s glands which are located internally on either side of the urethra. Prior to orgasm, the fluids flow up and through the bladder and then come down the urethra to be ejected.
The travel through the bladder is why the fluid often contains trace amounts of urine. However, the fluids are actually similar to male ejaculatory fluid without semen.
How Common Is Squirting?
There seems to be a dichotomy between those who believe that every woman squirts and those who believe that squirting is a myth. The truth is much closer to the middle.
So how common is squirting really?
The truth is we don’t know exactly how common squirting is. Current studies estimate that anywhere from 10% to 54% of women experience squirting.
Why such a large gap?
The number of studies on female squirting are few. Even smaller are the sample sizes within the studies. This significantly limits results. Until more in-depth studies are performed with greater sample sizes, the large percentage range is all we have to go on.
Is Squirting Normal?
Even if the percentage of women who squirt is closer to 10% than 54%, there is one thing that’s for certain: squirting is 100% normal.
Squirting is a natural phenomenon that occurs when a woman is highly aroused. Some women are more likely to squirt than others, though most women should be able to squirt with a bit of additional work.
If that’s not enough for you, consider that there’s no true concept of “normal” when it comes to sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Every person is different, every body is different. How you and your body respond to sex and pleasure may not be “normal” for the next person, but it’s normal for you.
So whether you’re a natural-born squirter or someone who learned to squirt later in life, squirting is normal and even something to be celebrated.
How to Squirt?
With all of this talk of squirting, you may be wondering how to squirt. While this isn’t an in-depth tutorial, here are a few tips.
Whether it’s your first time or 100th time, it’s important to
This will look different for everyone, but a few ideas include:
- Take an epsom salt bath
- Mist the room with a lavender or equally calming scent
- Light candles to set the scene
- Play calming music
- Ask your partner for a massage
It’s not just physical comfort but mental comfort, too. Ensure that both you and your partner have left any stress from the day outside of the bedroom. You should also have any talks with your partner about your personal comfort levels and any concerns you have.
The goal is to be able to let go fully and completely. You need to be at your most comfortable so you can be your most vulnerable self.
One issue that any woman has is the fear that they’ll make a mess. It’s important to address this issue before you begin so it doesn’t hold you back later. You could easily prepare the area by laying down towels on the bed or floor. If you’re really worried, you could even do it in the bathtub! That way cleanup is as minimized as possible.
As you and your partner work to get you comfortable, you’ll likely begin to become aroused. However, in order to squirt you must be beyond the usual levels of arousal.
To stimulate the skene’s gland to release, you must be extremely aroused. Arousal will make g-spot stimulation easy as blood flow will both make the g-spot easier to find and more sensitive to touch. Just like getting comfortable, getting aroused will vary from person to person.
Foreplay is one way to begin the process. You or your partner shouldn’t go straight for the g-spot or clitoris, but instead spend time on other sensitive areas. This will build up anticipation which in itself can be arousing.
How can you get her properly aroused?
Start early with your foreplay. Tell her in the morning what you want to do to her that night. Send her racy texts or dirty voice messages being descriptive.
Then when you’re finally in the bedroom, take your time.
Kiss her lips, her neck, her stomach, her thighs. Caress her curves, her butt, her nipples. You want to build up her anticipation and leave her begging you for more.
Hit the Right Spots
Ultimately, when it comes to squirting, it will typically come down to one of two stimulation techniques: g-spot stimulation or g-spot plus clitoral stimulation.
Similar to squirting, the g-spot has long been considered a myth. However, this piece of female anatomy is very real and very important to the process of squirting.
The g-spot is an internal extension of the clitoris. As it’s an extension of the clit, it contains thousands of nerve endings. It resides at the very top of the vagina.
Stimulation of the g-spot can produce powerful orgasms, even those more powerful than clitoral stimulation. And when stimulated just right, both a combination of high arousal and sustained pressure, it can produce a squirting orgasm even for women who have never experienced one.
To find the g-spot, insert your finger or fingers (index and middle work best) into her vagina. With the pads of your fingers facing up, curl the top of the fingers into the “come hither” movement. You’ll notice there’s a fleshy bulb that feels slightly different than the surrounding tissue. That’s the g-spot.
Your partner may feel at first as if she has to urinate. This is completely normal. As you continue, the urge to pee will go away as the pleasure builds.
If you can manage it, you can also stimulate both the g-spot and the clit simultaneously. You can use a clit vibrator or a g-spot stimulator to help.
Squirting can be a fun and beautiful experience. It’s normal, natural, and even common. And while just how common it is is still in question, just know that squirting is nothing to be ashamed of.
Have you never squirt before? Perhaps you think you simply can’t. The good news is that the majority of women have the ability to squirt. With good mental headspace and the right moves, you too can experience the fun and pleasure of squirting.