Anal dildo. Yeah, I know, you're curious about anal sex toys. The thing is, your anus is packed with over 8,000 nerve endings, and studies have found that 36% of women and 42% of men have tried anal play at least once, with over 70% of those reporting pleasure when done correctly. Keep reading, and I’ll show you how to choose, prep, and use one safely.
In this article, we'll cover:
What Is An Anal Dildo?
An anal dildo is a sex toy specifically designed for insertion into the anus and rectum. Unlike random dildos that people wrongly repurpose for anal play, a proper anal dildo is built with anal safety in mind, especially a secure base, body-safe material, and a shape that helps the body open gradually instead of tensing up.
Anal Dildos Vs. Vaginal Dildos
Anal dildos aren’t just regular dildos in a different hole; they’re built for your anal comfort, safety, and serious anal pleasure, whether you’re exploring solo or with a partner.
The next step is breaking down the different types and finding the one that matches the kind of play you’re into.
What Are The Different Types Of Anal Dildos?
Not every dildo belongs near your butt. Here are the most common types you will find.
Type #1 – Small Anal Dildo For Beginners
If you’re new to anal, start small and work your way up, mate. A small anal dildo gives your anal sphincters time to relax without making your anal tissues feel ambushed.
Type #2 – Curved Prostate Anal Dildo
This one is designed to stimulate the prostate, also called the P-spot, by pressing forward inside the anal canal. For toys for men and women, this is one of the most pleasurable types of anal toys when the angle is right.
Type #3 – Silicone Anal Dildo
A silicone anal dildo is soft, body-safe, and built for controlled anal penetration. Just remember, if the toy is silicone-based, use water-based lube, not silicone-based lube, because silicone-based lube can damage some silicone toys.
Type #4 – Suction-Cup Anal Dildo
This is the hands-free beast in the selection of anal toys. Stick it to the shower wall or floor, then explore anal play at your own pace without your hand doing all the hard work.
Type #5 – Vibrating Anal Dildo
A vibrating anal dildo adds deep rumble while your body adjusts to fullness. There are also vibrating anal plugs if you want steadier pressure, but either way, choose anal vibrators with a flared base.
Type #6 – Thrusting Anal Dildo
This one moves for you, so don’t treat it like a beginner toy. It is best for people already experimenting with anal who understand rhythm, depth, and when the body says, “easy, mate.”
Type #7 – Inflatable Anal Dildo
Inflatable anal dildos go in smaller, then get larger slowly once your body is ready. This is advanced stretch play, and the golden rule is simple: comfort first, ego never.
Type #8 – Anal Training Dildo Set
A training set gives you a smart selection of anal sizes so you can start small and work your way up safely. This is perfect for beginners who want a safe and pleasurable path instead of forcing size too fast.
Type #9 – Rectal Dilator Anal Dildo
Rectal dilators are less “sexy fantasy” and more expert-level body prep. They teach the anal sphincters to soften, open, and relax before using sex toys for longer periods of time.
Type #10 – Bulb-Tip Anal Dildo
A bulb-tip anal dildo gives that pop-in, pop-out feeling as the widest point passes the entrance. Watch the width of the toy here, because too much too soon turns pleasure into panic.
Type #11 – Beaded Anal Dildo
This is not the same as a set of anal beads where you insert the beads one by one. A beaded anal dildo is one solid toy with raised bumps that massage the anal canal during slow movement.
Type #12 – Rippled Anal Dildo
Rippled anal dildos add soft waves along the shaft for extra feeling without going full beast mode. For people exploring anal play, this is a nice middle ground between smooth and intense.
Type #13 – Glass Anal Dildo
Glass toys feel firm, slick, and precise, which makes every angle more obvious. Use anal toys like this only when they have a proper flared base, because anything without one can slip inside, and no one wants that ER story.
Type #14 – Stainless Steel Anal Dildo
Steel dildos are heavy, cold, and brutally honest. They’re advanced because the pressure is intense, especially for people with vaginas using them during partnered anal play or solo exploration.
Type #15 – Large Anal Dildo
Large anal dildos are for trained bodies, not brave egos. They can be pleasurable, but only after you’ve used smaller types of anal toys and built comfort with slow anal penetration.
Type #16 – Anal Plug Dildo Hybrid
An anal dildo or butt plug hybrid gives you the shape of a dildo with the staying power of anal plugs. It works well when you want fullness for longer periods of time without constant thrusting.
Type #17 – Partner-Friendly Strap-On Anal Dildo
A partner-friendly strap-on anal dildo is designed for anal play, with controlled fit for shared movement. These toys are designed to stimulate deeper fullness and make them one of the best sex toy options for couples exploring anal together.
Look, from slim and simple to extreme and kinky, there’s an anal dildo out there for everybody and every mood: the real trick isn’t just knowing what’s on the shelf, it’s knowing which one actually fits you.
And that’s where we go next: how to choose the right anal dildo for your body, your sex life, and the kind of play you’re craving.
How To Choose The Right Anal Dildo For Safe, Pleasurable Play
Choosing the right anal dildo is not about grabbing the biggest toy and hoping your body “figures it out.” Nope. Here are the expert tips to help you choose the right one.
Tip #1 – Start With Beginner Anal Toys Before Chasing Size
If you’re new, go small, smooth, and tapered. Beginner anal toys teach your body the feeling first, because comfort always beats ego.
Tip #2 – Choose A Flared Base Every Single Time
Anything going into the butt needs a wide base that stays outside the body. No flared base means no anal play, mate, because the anus can pull toys inward fast.
Tip #3 – Pick The Right Material For Your Body
Body-safe silicone is the easy winner for most people because it feels soft, bends slightly, and cleans well. Glass and steel are firmer, but they’re better once you already know what pressure your body enjoys.
Tip #4 – Match Your Lubricant To The Toy Material
Never buy an anal dildo and forget the lube. The anus does not self-lubricate, so a good lubricant is not optional. Also, use water-based lubricant with silicone toys, because silicone lube can damage some silicone surfaces. Use silicone lube on glass or steel for a longer-lasting glide.
Tip #5 – Choose A Curved Shape For Prostate Play
A straight toy usually slides past the good spot. A curved prostate massager or anal massager is designed to press into the prostate, which can build toward a deeper, fuller orgasm.
Tip #6 – Use A Suction Cup If You Want Hands-Free Control
A strong suction cup lets you stick the toy to tile, the shower wall, or the floor. That gives you better control over angle, depth, and rhythm without wrestling the toy like an idiot. Weak suction ruins the mood fast. Test the base first, because if it slips when dry, it’ll definitely misbehave once lube enters the chat.
Tip #7 – Watch The Width More Than The Length
Length looks exciting, but width is what your anal muscles actually feel. A slim toy with gentle girth is safer and more pleasurable than a huge toy your body is not ready for.
Tip #8 – Choose Smooth Shapes Before Textured Ones
Ridges, bumps, and beads feel amazing later, but they can be too much at the start. Smooth toys let your anal sphincters relax before you add extra stimulation.
Tip #9 – Pick A Toy That Matches Your Goal
For warm-up, choose small and smooth. For prostate play, choose curved. For hands-free riding, choose a suction cup anal dildo. Different goals need different toys.
Tip #10 – Avoid Jelly & Cheap Porous Toys
Jelly toys can trap bacteria and degrade more quickly. Your butt deserves better than mystery material from the bargain bin, mate.
Tip #11 – Choose Quiet Vibes For Discreet Play
If you’re buying a vibrating anal dildo, check reviews for noise. A toy can feel amazing, but if it sounds like a lawn mower under the blanket, the magic dies quickly.
Tip #12 – Think About Cleaning Before Buying
Smooth, non-porous toys are easier to clean and safer to reuse. If the toy has weird seams, cracks, or rough spots, leave it alone.
Picking the right anal dildo is half the battle, it’s what makes the difference between frustration and mind-blowing pleasure. But even the perfect toy won’t do much if your body isn’t ready for it. That’s why the next step matters just as much: learning how to prep so every touch, thrust, and push feels as good as it should.
How To Get Ready To Use An Anal Dildo?
Prep is what separates painful mistakes from smooth, stupid-good pleasure. Here’s how to get yourself set before sliding in that first inch.
Step #1 – Help Her Relax First
Do not touch her anus while she’s tense. Warm bath, low lights, soft music, then massage her lower back, hips, and thighs until her body stops guarding.
Step #2 – Handle Hygiene Without Making It Awkward
Ask her to use the bathroom first, then rinse in the shower if she wants. Keep it chill, because making hygiene weird will kill the mood faster than a cold toilet seat.
Step #3 – Clean The Toy Before It Touches Her
Wash the anal dildo with warm water and toy cleaner before every use. Clean toys show her you’re not just horny, you’re actually safe.
Step #4 – Choose A Small Toy First
Start with a slim, smooth anal dildo around 1 inch wide or less. Big toys are for trained bodies, not first-time bravery. A small butt plug helps her body get used to fullness before thrusting. Let it sit for a few minutes while you keep touching her elsewhere.
Step #5 – Use More Lube Than You Think
The anus does not self-lubricate, so lube is non-negotiable. Coat the toy, the entrance, and reapply the second anything feels dry or draggy.
Step #6 – Warm Her Up Before Insertion
Start with kisses, touch, and one lubed finger before the toy. Her anal sphincters need time to soften, not a surprise attack.
Step #7 – Let Her Control The First Inch
Hold the toy still and let her breathe, push back, or guide your hand. That first inch decides whether her body trusts you or fights you.
Anal play is safe when you follow the rules. Break them, and you risk pain, injury, or infection.
Safety Tips
Do these steps, and she will feel safe, comfortable, and maybe even eager. Skip them, and you will be the guy who ruined anal play for her forever. Now, let us talk about the best positions to use with your partner.
Best Positions To Use An Anal Dildo (Solo Or With A Partner)
You’ve got the toy, you’ve got the prep, now it’s all about how you position her. Here are the best moves for both solo exploration and partner play.
Position #1 – Doggy Style With A Dildo
For solo play, enjoy anal by getting on your hands and knees, reaching back, and guiding the dildo at your own pace. With a partner, she gets on all fours; you kneel behind her, steady her hips, and let her push back when her body says yes.
Positions #2 – Lying On Your Side (Fetal Style)
Lie on your side, bend your knees toward your chest, and guide the dildo in slowly from the front or behind. This one is best for solo play because your body stays relaxed and you control every tiny movement.
Positions #3 – Squatting Over A Suction-Cup Dildo
Stick the suction-cup dildo to a smooth floor or sturdy surface, then squat over it with your feet planted wide. This one is also great for solo play because your legs control the depth, speed, and angle.
Positions #4 – Missionary With Legs Pulled Back
Have her lie on her back and pull her knees toward her chest while you kneel between her legs. Watch her face, hold her hand, and move only when her body relaxes.
Positions #5 – Sideways With Deep, Slow Strokes
Lie on your side with your knees bent while she positions herself behind you with a strap-on. The angle stays relaxed, controlled, and perfect for slow prostate play.
The position makes all the difference in how an anal dildo feels. In the end, anal dildos are all about exploring new layers of pleasure, whether it’s just you, with a partner, or both of you pushing boundaries together.
Knowing where to put it is one thing, but how you move once you are inside is what makes her see stars, so here are three expert anal dildo moves that are not in any manual.
Andrew's Expert Anal Dildo Moves For Maximum Pleasure (From Years Of Trial & Error)
These three moves are not in any manual. They come from years of trial, error, and partners who told me exactly what worked. Here they are.
Move #1 – The "Come Here & Stay"
The anus needs pauses between strokes to let the sphincter relax, unlike vaginal penetration, where continuous motion often works better.
Do This
Move #2 – The "Rock & Roll"
Straight thrusting misses the natural curve of the rectum. A rocking motion follows that curve and hits spots deep thrusting never reaches.
Do This
Move #3 – The "Pull & Push" (a.k.a The False Finish)
Predictable rhythms kill intensity, but speed is not the answer. The magic comes from pulling almost all the way out, pausing, and sliding back in with slow, controlled pressure so her body has time to open instead of brace.
Do This
Now go put these moves to work. She will not know what hit her. But she will definitely want more. Okay, now it's time for your “but what about…” questions buzzing in your head.
Frequently Asked Questions
Here are the questions most guys ask once anal dildos are on the table.
Nope and you really shouldn’t. Anal dildos are designed for play, not for hours of pressure while you’re asleep. Leaving it in too long can irritate tissue, numb your ass, or even cause damage. If you want an all-night option, look at toys made specifically for safe wear, like certain butt plugs, not dildos.
Think of it like this: a dildo is built to thrust in and out, while a plug is built to stay put. Plugs are designed for long-term wear, with tapered bodies that hold comfortably. Anal dildos are usually longer and designed to stimulate more deeply. Both can be fun for men and women, but they’re not interchangeable.
Your body will tell you. If insertion feels smooth, you’re comfortable taking it to the base, and you’re craving more stretch, that’s a good sign you can size up. Don’t rush it, though; forcing size is how guys get sore or turned off. Start small, breathe, and only move up when your body feels ready to be stimulated by more.
Yes, if you’re smart about it. Daily play is fine as long as you use plenty of lube, clean your toys, and give your body a break if you ever feel sore. What’s not safe? Using random other objects not built for anal play. Stick with body-safe toys designed for penetration, and your routine will stay both hot and healthy.
Absolutely. Using them helps you learn how your body relaxes, builds up your tolerance for penetration, and teaches you what angles feel best. That way, when it’s time for anal with a partner, you’re more confident, more relaxed, and ready to enjoy it instead of worrying about the basics.
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