Best Sex Toys for Couples: Because Vanilla Was Never Your Flavor

Marco and Ivy, using different sex toys to enhance pleasure and intimacy.

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Bringing sex toys into the bedroom as a couple is one of the easiest ways to turn up the heat and deepen intimacy. "Awkward? At first. But fun? Absolutely."

In fact, around 70% of people who use toys with a partner report higher satisfaction in bed. So, if you're curious about what toys you can use together without pulling a hamstring, you're in the right place.

In this article, we'll cover:

The best sex toys for couples, from beginner-friendly to “did we just level up?”
How to use them without killing the mood (and avoiding any learning curves mid-session)
The right combo of sex toys that can seriously blow your mind (and body)

Top Picks: 15 Mind-Blowing Couples Sex Toys To Ignite Shared Pleasure

Using sex toys together isn’t just about one person’s pleasure; it’s about both of you having a blast. Whether you’re just dipping your toes in or already have a personal collection that could stock a small store, these picks will take you from “meh” to “holy hell.”

Toy #1 - We Vibe: Interactive Couples Vibrator

Wearable vibrator that fits inside the vagina, stimulating the G-spot with one end on the clit.

This wearable toy is made for couples to enjoy together during penetration. One arm sits inside the vagina to stimulate her G-spot, while the other rests on her clitoris—all without getting in the way. Every thrust brings extra buzz for both of you, giving your boner a welcome dose of vibration with every move.

Cost

$100–$200 depending on features and tech capabilities.

How To Use It

Apply water-based lube to both toy arms.
Insert the smaller arm vaginally (targets G-spot); let the other rest on the clitoris.
Penetrate gently while keeping the toy in place; control settings via remote or app.
Best used in close-contact positions like missionary or spooning.

Pros

It’s hands-free, waterproof, and has customizable vibration settings.
Great addition to vaginal intercourse
The remote allows playful control and rhythm syncing.

Cons

May shift or fall out during vigorous thrusting.
Takes some adjusting to get a snug, comfortable fit.

If vaginal intercourse is on the menu, this is one of the best toys I recommend, especially Pretty Love is a brand I trust in. Start slow—it’s all about making sure she’s comfortable. Once you’re both in sync, the added stimulation can transform the whole experience.

Andrew

FOUNDER, SQL

Toy #2 - Dual-Motor Vibrating Cock Ring

Adjustable cock ring that fits around the shaft, providing vibrations.

Vibrating cock rings are a total game-changer in bed. Worn around the base of your penis, the ring pulses with vibrations that can hit her clit just right during thrusting. With the motors targeting the shaft and her clitoris, it’s built for more intense and intimate moments.

Cost

$40–$90 depending on design and power.

How To Use It

Lube your shaft and the ring.
Slide the ring to the base of your penis.
Position the motor to align with her clit during sex.
Turn it on and match settings to your rhythm; it works best with slow, controlled thrusts.

Pros

Helps you maintain an erection for longer and pleasurably pulse your penis
Enhances sexual pleasure for both partners.
Simple to use and wear during sex.

Cons

Sometimes they are just too stimulating.
May shift during intense movement.

A lot of men are hesitant about using cock rings, but they can really be a game changer. They’re not just for men dealing with performance issues—cock rings can enhance sensation and bring a whole new level of pleasure to both partners. When used correctly, they help build better connection, boost sensations, and elevate the whole experience for both of you.

Andrew

FOUNDER, SQL

Toy #3 - Powerful Wand Massager

Wand massager with a vibrating head for intense stimulation.

A classic toy that’s been around for ages. This toy brings intense external stimulation via strong, deep vibrations. It can be used solo or as a shared toy in sex for added sensation on the shaft, perineum, or other sensitive zones.

Cost

$80–$150 depending on quality and features.

How To Use It

Apply lube if using around the shaft or perineum.
Turn on the wand and experiment with vibration levels.
Use it externally, don’t insert it.
Have your partner straddle you and position the wand between you for added stimulation.

Pros

Very powerful, ideal for external pleasure zones.
Great for foreplay or edging.
It can help maintain pleasure even post-orgasm.

Cons

It may be too intense for some.
Bulkier than other toys; not ideal for every position.

My personal favorite is the rechargable body wand "Jewel" in black and gold. Most guys sleep on wands, but trust me, they’re not just for her. Use it during masturbation and try adding a little extra pressure along the shaft or under the head. Or let her use it on you while you’re getting oral. Game-changer. Start on the lower end (those three speeds ramp up fast).

Andrew

FOUNDER, SQL

Toy #4 - G-Spot & Clit Duo Stimulator

C-shaped G-spot & clit stimulator, one end goes in for the G-spot, the other on the clitoris.

This C-shaped vibrator delivers targeted stimulation to both the G-spot and clitoris during sex. Designed to be worn comfortably, it offers powerful dual sensations without the premium price, perfect for couples looking to explore together and turn up the intensity.

Cost

$40–$70 depending on model.

How To Use It

Apply lube to both arms of the toy.
Insert the smaller end to stimulate the G-spot.
Rest the larger external side against the clit.
Experiment with vibration modes.

Pros

Affordable intro to dual stimulation.
Worn during sex, simple but effective.
Includes app connectivity for added control.

Cons

May not stay in place with more vigorous thrusting.
Not as powerful as premium models.

This toy’s a sleeper hit—super quiet but seriously effective. The insertable length is just right to tease the G-spot without going too deep, and that unique shape? It’s designed to glide smoothly against the skin and might just be the answer for couples looking to level up their pleasure.

Andrew

FOUNDER, SQL

Toy #5 - Clitoral Suction Stimulator

Silicone clitoral suction stimulator with a rose-like shape and opening in the center.

Rather than vibrating, this toy uses gentle suction and pulses of air to stimulate the clitoris. It’s a different kind of stimulation, ideal for women who find traditional vibration too numbing or intense.

Cost

$40–$100 depending on features.

How To Use It

Apply a bit of lube to help create a seal.
Place the opening directly over the clitoris.
Turn on and explore suction modes.
Use during foreplay or while you're stimulating her elsewhere.

Pros

Focused yet less intense stimulation, depending on the setting.
Great for edging or building an orgasm slowly.
Many find it more satisfying than vibration alone.

Cons

Requires precise positioning and may feel too intense on higher settings.
Not for everyone, some women don’t respond to suction stimulation.

These toys are powerhouses for the right partner. It’s our personal favorite at home, not just for its beautiful rose shape but because it enhances the sensation. The design allows the suction to cover the clit better than other devices, giving you a deeper, more satisfying experience. If your wife is into gentle, yet focused stimulation, this one’s your go-to.

Andrew

FOUNDER, SQL

Toy #6 - G-Spot Vibrator

G-spot vibrator with a slight curve and round, ball-like tip for targeted stimulation

A G-spot vibrator is ergonomically designed to stimulate the internal G-spot. The ball tip is angled perfectly for G-spot stimulation, and the shaft has a unique asymmetrical shape, which adds extra pleasure and stimulation to the whole experience.

Cost

$40–$150 depending on features, design, and brand.

How To Use It

Apply water-based lube for comfortable insertion.
Insert the vibrator with the curved tip aimed toward the front vaginal wall.
Start with low vibration settings and adjust as desired.
Try different angles or use it during squirting sessions for dual stimulation.

Pros

Designed specifically for targeted G-spot stimulation.
Enhances solo and partnered experiences.
Comes in various sizes and shapes to suit different bodies.

Cons

Requires the correct angle to effectively hit the G-spot.
Some may find internal vibration uncomfortable.

The best feature of a quality G-spot vibrator is a firm material and curve that hits the right spot. It’s not too big and not too small, but just right for G-spot stimulation. I recommend my clients to get a sturdy version, especially when using it to make their partners squirt. Start slow, experiment with pressure and angles, and focus on exploration rather than chasing an orgasm.

Andrew

FOUNDER, SQL

Toy #7 - Multi-Purpose Clit Stimulator

This toy simulates the sensation of a flicking tongue, providing intense, rhythmic clitoral stimulation. The unique design also creates a vacuum around her labia and internal clitoral areas when you use the attached funnel-shaped part, delivering double the pleasure.

Cost

$100–$200+ depending on size, features, and brand.

How To Use It

Start with the tongue-flicking motion on the clitoris for gentle stimulation.
Gradually increase the intensity to find the perfect rhythm.
Attach the headpiece for suction and enhanced double stimulation.
Explore the flicking action on the nipples for similar sensations.

Pros

The flicking tongue motion provides deep, rhythmic clitoral stimulation.
The suction attachment delivers double the pleasure by enhancing clitoral sensitivity.
It’s waterproof, making it easy to clean and safe for wet play.

Cons

May take a bit of practice to get used to.
Premium models can be pricey.

This toy isn’t for everyone. I wouldn’t recommend it unless you’re into vacuum and tongue action. It’s a unique, larger toy with a higher price tag, so it’s definitely a more specialized choice. But if that’s what you’re looking for, it’s one of the most versatile options out there.

Andrew

FOUNDER, SQL

Toy #8 - Vibrating Penis Stroker

Wearable vibrating penis stroker with adjustable settings for customized stimulation

This open-ended vibrator features soft silicone wings that wrap around your shaft, delivering deep, rumbly vibrations. The ridged inner texture holds lube for extra sensation, making it perfect for solo play. During partnered sex, place it at the base of your penis to turn yourself into a human vibrator. Everyone wins.

Cost

$40–$150 depending on vibration power and texture.

How To Use It

Apply water-based lube generously.
Slide the stroker over your penis, adjusting for fit.
Turn on vibrations and explore settings.
Use solo or let your partner take control for added intimacy.

Pros

Intense stimulation with minimal effort.
Great for solo or partnered play.
Helpful for building stamina and climax control.

Cons

May not fit slim members.
May feel too tight on girthier penises.

If you’ve never tried a stroker, you're sleeping on one of the most underrated sex toys for men. It’s not just about solo play—use it with a partner, and you open up a whole new dynamic. Let her handle the controls while you just react, that role reversal builds real intimacy.

Andrew

FOUNDER, SQL

Toy #9 - Vibrating Panty Vibe

Vibrating panty vibe with attachment for panties and remote control.

This wearable sex toy slips into a snug pair of panties and offers discreet external clitoral stimulation controlled by remote or app. It’s perfect for playful, semi-public teasing, where anticipation is the name of the game.

Cost

$40–$120 depending on design and features.

How To Use It

Insert into panties or lingerie (some come with a custom fit).
Decide who is in charge of the remote or app.
Explore different settings and patterns discreetly.
Use in public to build tension or at home for subtle teasing.

Pros

Discreet, and fun for teasing and date nights
Encourages communication and power play.
Remote control and app connectivity make it ideal for long-distance fun.

Cons

Some models lack strong vibration.
Fit and comfort vary by body type and clothing.

Probably the best choice if you’re not looking for the intense stimulation of a full-size toy, but still want a whole lot of fun. Vibrating panties are perfect for couples curious about long-distance play, same room teasing, or even public play; a subtle buzz under the table can turn any dinner into a full-on tease fest. The tension, the control, it’s foreplay that lasts all evening.

Andrew

FOUNDER, SQL

Toy #10 - Compact Bullet Vibrators

Compact bullet vibrators, ideal for direct clitoral stimulation.

Small but mighty, bullet vibrators are ideal for direct clitoral stimulation and are one of the most portable, beginner-friendly sex toys. Despite their size, many offer powerful vibrations and are great for adding stimulation during intercourse.

Cost

$15–$50 depending on features and brand.

How To Use It

Apply a bit of lube to the area you’re stimulating.
Hold the bullet against the clit, nipples, or other zones.
Turn it on and experiment with speed or pattern settings.
Use during penetration for added stimulation or as a warm-up tool.

Pros

Super discreet, perfect for travel or first-timers.
Great for external clitoral stimulation.
Easy to integrate into partnered sex.

Cons

Not ideal for internal or full-body play.
May not have enough power for everyone.

I suggest this toy to couples who want something easy to use during sex or foreplay. Try it during missionary or spooning, just a touch on the clit can totally change the experience. And since many are fully waterproof, it’s a great one to bring into the shower too.

Andrew

FOUNDER, SQL

Toy #11 - Nipple Clamps

Nipple clamps with remote control for adjustable pressure.

These classic BDSM tools are all about sensation play. Nipple clamps add a mix of pressure and pleasure, heightening arousal through a controlled pinch. Some versions include vibrations, electric impulses, chains, or weights to add more intensity and erotic stimulation.

Cost

$10–$40 depending on style, material, and added features.

How To Use It

Choose adjustable clamps if you're just starting out.
Place the clamps on the nipples gently, tightening slowly to a comfortable level.
Use during foreplay, oral sex, or even penetration for added arousal.
Try removing them mid-play for a rush of sensation as blood returns to the area, do that a few times.

Pros

Enhances arousal through pressure and light pain.
Great for exploring BDSM and power dynamics.
Some designs include added features (vibration, chains).

Cons

It can be too intense for beginners.
May leave temporary marks.

The best feature of a good nipple clamp is adjustability. You want control over the pressure, and slowly increase it to tailor the experience. I recommend these to clients who love nipple play and want to add some spice to it. Once you find the right tension, it can unlock a new kind of arousal.

Andrew

FOUNDER, SQL

Toy #12 - App-Controlled Anal Plug

Phone-controlled anal plug for remote stimulation.

This tech-savvy plug brings anal play into the modern era. Perfect for beginners and pros alike, it delivers internal stimulation that feels like a one-way ticket to heaven. Even better? These couples' sex toys let you (or your partner) control the vibration, patterns, and intensity from across the room, or the globe.

Cost

$50–$120 depending on features, size, and app quality.

How To Use It

Apply lots of water-based lube and insert the plug slowly, and relax your muscles.
Connect it to your phone or remote.
Explore vibration settings solo or let your partner take the reins.
Ideal for long-distance couples, public teasing, or power play.

Pros

Hands-free anal stimulation.
Remote play adds anticipation and intimacy.
Great for solo or partner use.

Cons

Insertion and removal require care and lube.
Not for beginners without prep.

This is a couples toy I recommend to my clients exploring anal play and power dynamics. My personal favorite are the remote-controlled anal plugs from Pretty Love—they come in different shapes and textures that add extra stimulation during partner play. The best part? When you're penetrating her vagina, you can actually feel the vibrations through your cock too. Use with lots of lube, take it slow, and keep the communication open.

Andrew

FOUNDER, SQL

Toy #13 - Stainless Steel G-Spot/Prostate Massager

Curved stainless steel G-spot/prostate massager with a rounded tip for targeted stimulation

You haven't lived until you've experienced a legit G-spot or prostate orgasm. It's a completely different sensation from a regular orgasm, and this stainless steel sex toy is a precision tool for deep internal stimulation. Whether you’re exploring the G-spot or the prostate, the firmness, pressure, and temperature will get you there, without the help of any vibration.

Cost

$50–$100 depending on size and design.

How To Use It

Warm or cool it before use for added sensation.
Apply lube generously.
Insert slowly, aiming toward the prostate.
Rock or press gently to stimulate sensitive internal zones.

Pros

Heavy, firm pressure = intense orgasms.
Easy to sanitize and maintain.
Great for temperature play.

Cons

Not forgiving if inserted too fast or without enough lube.
The heavier feel might not be for everyone.

Some men are hesitant at first with this toy, it’s heavier, and definitely not soft or cuddly. But once they try it, they rarely go back. This isn’t a thrusting toy, it’s all about pressure, precision, and patience. Go slow, stay focused, and you’ll feel every inch in a whole new way.

Andrew

FOUNDER, SQL

Toy #14 - Vibrating Suction Dong

Vibrating suction dildo with remote control for hands-free stimulation

This hybrid toy delivers the best of both worlds: strong vibration and hands-free use thanks to a suction base. Great for solo sessions or as part of couples' foreplay or penetration.

Cost

$40–$90, depending on material and vibration power.

How To Use It

Stick it to a smooth surface (floor, shower, chair).
Apply lube and mount however you like.
Activate the vibration settings.
Try different angles for G-spot, A-spot, or cervical stimulation.

Pros

Hands-free play.
Combines penetration with vibration.
The suction base makes it versatile.

Cons

Requires a strong surface for suction.
May be bulky or loud.

Don’t knock suction toys until you’ve tried one, especially when vibration’s in the mix. The combo adds a whole new level of creative freedom. Hands-free play lets you focus on rhythm, edging, or staying in character during roleplay. Whether you're taking control or giving it up, this toy keeps the stimulation steady and immersive.

Andrew

FOUNDER, SQL

Toy #15 - Interactive Wearable Egg Vibrator With Remote

Wearable egg vibrator with remote control for limited vibration modes.

This discreet insertable toy is designed for pleasure on the move. Worn inside the vagina, it responds to a remote or app, letting you control your partner's pleasure from anywhere.

Cost

$50–$100 depending on features.

How To Use It

Insert using lube.
Turn on and sync with the remote or phone.
Wear during public outings or at home for teasing.
Great for long-distance fun or dom/sub dynamics.

Pros

Discreet and wearable.
Builds anticipation and playful tension.
It can be used anywhere.

Cons

The signal range varies.
Not all models stay in place during movement.

Interactive egg vibes are sneaky-hot. My favorite are the remote-controlled ones from Pretty Love—they come in different colors, textures, and settings that are perfect for long-distance play or cheeky teasing during dinner. Try slipping one in before your next date night—nothing spices up the menu like a well-timed buzz.

Andrew

FOUNDER, SQL

Alright, now you’ve got the tools to turn things up in the bedroom. But hold on, before you get too carried away, let’s switch gears. In the next section, we’ll explore a woman’s take on the ultimate toy combos that’ll have you both craving more.

A Woman's Perspective..  
On Proven Toy Combinations Every Couple Should Try

from Isabel

SEXUALITY COACH

Isabel, certified sexologist at SQL & SOS, shares a woman’s perspective on toy combinations every couple should try.

When it comes to sex toys, the real magic often isn’t in one toy, it’s in the combo. As a sexologist and woman, I can tell you firsthand: the right pairing can completely transform your bedroom game. One toy? Great. But two working in sync? That’s where things get electric.

Let’s dive in:

Combination #1 – Bullet Vibe & Cock Ring

Marco wears a cock ring while Ivy holds a bullet vibrator to her clit, both ready to enjoy their time together.

This duo is small but mighty. A slim bullet vibrator delivers precise clitoral stimulation while the cock ring helps you stay harder, last longer, and subtly engage your pelvic floor muscles, a total win-win.

Why it works for her

Consistent external stimulation during penetration makes orgasms more intense. The rhythm from the ring, plus the focused buzz of the bullet? Unreal.
Why it works for you

You’re in control of her experience and your own. It’s perfect for mutual masturbation. Bonus points if you go for a vibrating ring with multiple intensity levels to sync things up.

Combination #2 – G-Spot Vibrator & Anal Plug

Marco using a combination of G-spot vibrator and anal plug on Ivy to enhance pleasure.

Double the zones, double the impact. One of the most underrated combos for vaginal and anal play, yet one of the most explosive: Use a vibrating anal plug and a G-Spot vibrator simultaneously and watch her melt into next level orgasmic bliss.

Why it works for her

A G-spot vibrator adds pressure from the front while a plug fills from behind, creating that deep, all-over stimulation. The fuller she feels, the more she lets go, just be generous with the lube.
Why it works for you

You get to explore her reactions and discover what makes her really lose control. And trust me, once you figure it out, you’ll always be remembered.

Combination #3 – We Vibe & Nipple Clamps

Ivy wearing a We-Vibe Sync and nipple clamps, visibly enjoying the sensation.

The We Vibe and Nipple Clamp combo is for couples wanting to go deeper without going full kink. To spice it up even more, use electric nipple clamps instead of normal ones.

Why it works for her

Internal stimulation from a We Vibe or similar C-shaped toy during penetration hits the G-spot, while the nipple clamps build tension and sensitivity. It’s a full-body experience.
Why it works for you

You’re behind the controls, literally. With the app or remote, you control the intensity, adjusting in real time based on her reactions. While she’s lost in sensation, you’re guiding every wave.

At the end of the day, combining toys isn’t just about more sensation, it’s about creating a deeper, more intentional connection, which makes sex more fun, intimate, and unforgettable. And sure, exploring this kind of play can raise a few questions, the kind you’re not exactly asking over brunch. So let’s break it down.

Frequently Asked Questions

Time to clear up your questions. We're talking toys, partners, nerves, and the occasional "wait… is this normal?" Let’s get into it.

Is it normal for couples to use sex toys?

Yes, more couples than ever use sex toys to deepen intimacy, explore new sensations, and build trust. They’re tools for connection, not crutches. They don’t replace chemistry, they amplify it.

Will sex toys replace me in our relationship?

Not at all. The right toy isn’t a replacement—it’s a teammate. When used together, sex toys enhance pleasure, build connection, and help you explore each other in new ways.

How do we introduce toys without feeling awkward?

Start with curiosity, not pressure. Focus on mutual pleasure, and frame it as something you’d like to explore together. Choose simple toys first, and ease in.

Which sex toy should we start with as beginners?

Go for something user-friendly and versatile, like a wand or a G-Spot vibrator. These are intuitive, and they work during intercourse or mutual masturbation, and often have multiple settings to explore at your own pace.

What if one of us feels uncomfortable or nervous with toys?

That’s okay, go slow, talk it out, and don’t force anything. Focus on building trust and comfort first. Remember, this isn’t a performance; it’s about connection, exploration, and fun.

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Andrew Mioch is a certified sexologist and one of the world’s leading sex coaches and best-selling author after spending 10 years learning from experts all over the world.

Andrew has personally coached over 5,000 men. His expertise is regularly sought in publications such as Men's Health, Medium, and Cosmopolitan Magazine.

These days, Andrew spends most of his time coaching clients privately and also through SQL’s online Mastery Academy.

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