What Is Pegging? Your Go-To Guide For Safe, Comfortable & Insanely Good Pleasure

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What Is Pegging? Your Go-To Guide For Safe, Comfortable & Insanely Good Pleasure

Marco on all fours while Ivy gently pegs him from behind, exploring pegging for intense male pleasure.
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“Wait—she wants to put what, WHERE!?” Believe it or not, pegging is now on 1 in 3 couples’ sexual bucket lists. Stick around if you're curious why pegging might be the best thing to happen to your sex life.

In this article, we'll cover:

  • Understand exactly what pegging is (& clear up those myths holding you back).
  • Discover practical tips & safety hacks to confidently try pegging for the first time.
  • Learn how pegging boosts pleasure, intimacy, and your sex life—fast.

What Is Pegging & Its Benefits

Marco smiles in bed as Ivy playfully shows him a strap-on dildo, introducing pegging & its benefits.

Pegging is pretty simple: it’s when a partner, usually a woman (or person with a vagina) uses a strap-on dildo to anally penetrate another partner, usually a man. In other words, the guy gets “pegged”. The term pegging was famously coined by sex columnist Dan Savage in 2001 after a reader contest to name this act.

But don’t get hung up on jargon – pegging is basically role-reversed anal sex focused on male pleasure. It’s not about “emasculating” anyone; it’s about a new way for men to experience intense pleasure.

What Does Pegging Feel Like For A Guy?

In one word? Different.

  • Instead of outer stimulation, pegging hits internal pleasure zones.
  • The main player here is the prostate—also called the P-spot or male G-spot.
  • When stimulated, the prostate can create uniquely deep, toe-curling, powerful, full-body orgasms.

In plain speak: a pegging orgasm can hit different (in an awesome way). And guess what – it’s anatomy, not “orientation” (more on that later).

And once you feel it for yourself, you’ll understand why the benefits go way beyond just the orgasm.

The Life-Changing Benefits Of Pegging

Alright, let’s get serious for a sec. Pegging isn’t just some wild sexual practice you saw once on Broad City (though yeah, they nailed it). It’s legitimately life-changing, and I’m about to show you exactly why.

Benefit #1 – Intensified Orgasms Through Prostate Stimulation

Hmm, the prostate. If you’re not familiar, think of it as the orgasm button hidden deep inside your butt—and yeah, it's as epic as it sounds.
  • It’s packed with nerve endings—way more sensitive than your average penis stimulation.
  • Prostate orgasms are deeper, more full-bodied, and intense. Picture the difference between a sparkler and fireworks—yeah, it’s that noticeable.
  • As one sex educator (and friend) of mine often says, “Regular orgasms are like decent pizza. Prostate orgasms? That’s gourmet stuff right there.”

Benefit #2 – Expanding Erotic Exploration & Sensory Awareness

Listen, guys tend to stick with the classics—penetrative sex, oral, maybe a hand job. But pegging? It kicks open new doors.
  • Anal play expands your sexual menu. It’s like finally upgrading from basic cable to Netflix—suddenly you have endless new options (and no commercials).
  • It boosts your comfort with other sexual acts like anal fingering or using a sex toy.
  • Over time, your sensitivity cranks way up. You become more aroused, responsive, and tuned into subtle sensations. Think wine tasting, but for pleasure: you're learning to pick up notes you didn't even know existed.

Benefit #3 – Strengthening Trust & Vulnerability In Relationships

This one’s big. Pegging is a trust fall for couples. It demands vulnerability, open communication, and total honesty—no hiding allowed.
  • It deepens emotional connection, because, hey, letting someone else strap into an underwear-style harness and go to town on your anus? Takes guts and trust.
  • Couples who engage in pegging often report better communication overall—if you can talk openly about being penetrated anally, you can talk about damn near anything.
  • Pegging says, “I trust you with my pleasure.” That kind of vulnerability can be hot, and incredibly bonding.

Benefit #4 – Breaking Free From Traditional Masculinity Norms

Alright, let’s kick outdated ideas of masculinity right in the butt. Literally.
  • Being pegged isn’t emasculating—it’s empowering. It says you own your pleasure, regardless of silly societal expectations about who should do what.
  • It’s 2025, my dudes. Pleasure isn’t gendered. If it feels good, you’re doing it right.
  • Or, as I once said while recording episodes of a podcast with a wellness journalist friend: "True masculinity is being secure enough to let a woman take charge—in bed, out of bed, wherever."

Benefit #5 – Exploring New Power Dynamics In A Safe Space

Pegging flips typical roles upside down—on purpose. It’s role-reversed anal intercourse, and that can be incredibly fun and sexy.
  • It lets you play with power dynamics safely. You’re not stuck in fixed roles; you get to swap them freely, exploring dominance and submission on your own terms.
  • Maybe you usually lead in bed. Pegging gives you permission to relax, surrender, and enjoy being taken care of. Trust me—it’s liberating, not weak.
  • Plus, you can always swap back later. It’s play, not a permanent commitment to a new lifestyle.

Benefit #6 – Unlocking Full-Body Pleasure & New Arousal Pathways

Here’s a secret most first-time peggers don’t expect: pegging rewires your brain’s pleasure pathways—literally.
  • When your prostate and anal canal get stimulated regularly, your brain learns new routes to pleasure. Think of it like adding lanes to your sexual highway—more lanes, smoother traffic, way better rides.
  • It trains your body to experience arousal beyond your penis. Full-body orgasms? Not just a fantasy anymore.
  • Expert tip (sorry, coaching habit): think of pegging like CrossFit for your sex life—you're building stamina, flexibility, and intensity. (And no, I didn’t just say that because I once found myself coaching CrossFit in my free time.)

Pegging is not just a kinky buzzword; it’s a legit pathway to greater pleasure and intimacy. If all that doesn’t intrigue you, I don’t know what will!

Now that you're sold on the why, let's dive straight into the how—starting with positions that'll make your first pegging experience easy, fun, and ridiculously hot.

Best Pegging Positions Every Beginner Should Try

Alright, fellas, knowing pegging is awesome is step one—but nailing the right position is how you make this sex act mind-blowingly good. So here are five beginner-friendly positions that'll make your first anal penetration experience easy, sexy, and actually fun (yep, fun).

Position #1 – The Classic Doggy Style

Marco comfortably enjoys pegging in classic doggy style as Ivy gently penetrates him from behind.

Doggy's a classic for a reason. It gives her full control of depth and rhythm, plus your prostate gets all the love.

How To Get Into This Position

  • Get on your hands & knees (like you’re about to do yoga, but way hotter).
  • She straps into her favorite silicone toys, grabs the lube, and kneels behind you.
  • Relax, breathe deep—then let her gently ease into your rectum. And hey, having her start slow keeps the ER trips strictly to Grey’s Anatomy.

Position #2 – Adjusted Missionary (Elevated Legs)

Marco lies back comfortably with legs elevated as Ivy pegs him in adjusted missionary for deeper prostate stimulation.

Missionary just upgraded from romantic vanilla to "holy crap, that's intense vanilla." Eye contact included—catching feelings optional.

How To Get Into This Position

  • Lie flat on your back, lift your legs, and rest your ankles on her shoulders or grab them by your thighs.
  • She positions herself between your legs, entering slowly for deeper, direct prostate stimulation.
  • Keep a firm pillow handy beneath your hips. This simple tweak puts you in prime sexual pleasure territory (and saves your lower back from unnecessary gymnastics).

Position #3 – Adjusted Missionary (Bent Legs)

Marco relaxes on his back with bent legs as Ivy confidently pegs him in adjusted missionary, ideal for beginners.

Same missionary vibe, just easier on your hamstrings. Great if you’re still warming up to a woman penetrating you.

How To Get Into This Position

  • Lie on your back, feet flat, knees comfortably bent.
  • Your partner moves between your thighs and gently penetrates you, using a steady rhythm.
  • Pro tip: This position’s perfect if you’re new or nervous. You control depth easily—think of it as pegging with training wheels. Less risk, more reward.

Position #4 – Lazy Dog Pegging

Marco lies relaxed on his stomach as Ivy intimately pegs him from behind in lazy dog style—perfect for comfort and closeness.

Doggy-style, but make it chill—think "Sunday morning sex," just swap your usual vaginal intercourse with this relaxed, cozy sexual act.

How To Get Into This Position

  • Lie face-down on the bed, totally relaxed—pretend you're a sleepy border collie after chasing tennis balls all day (minus the drooling).
  • She gently lies on top of you, penetrating from behind with controlled, steady thrusts.
  • Perfect if your cardio is more “dog park stroll” and less “Gabrielle Kassel found coaching CrossFit.” It's comfy pegging at its finest.

Position #5 – Sideways Explorations

Marco & Ivy share an intimate pegging moment, spooning sideways for relaxed, sensual prostate stimulation.

It’s spooning—but with benefits. Perfect for newbies or lazy afternoons spent reviewing pleasure products.

How To Get Into This Position

  • Lie on your side in a classic spooning position; your partner spoons you from behind.
  • She slides in gently, using plenty of lube to make entry smooth and ultra-pleasurable.
  • Bonus: Her hands are free for extra stimulation, so your penis isn’t left out of the fun. It's multitasking at its sexiest (shoutout to my fave women’s health sex expert co-hosts called this “the Netflix-and-thrill” position).

Pegging isn’t about acrobatics or looking Instagram-ready—it’s about real sexual health, real intimacy, and real good orgasms.

Choose a position that feels easy, fun, and right for you both. Keep your latex condoms handy, apply lube generously, and don’t stress about doing everything perfectly.

And hey, speaking of keeping things pleasurable (and laughably good)—let’s dive into my personal pro tips for making pegging even more amazing.

Andrew’s Practical Pegging Tips To Make Pegging More Pleasurable

Marco bends forward comfortably as Ivy pegs him standing up, showcasing practical tips for pleasurable pegging.

Here's the deal: Great pegging isn’t just penetration—it’s a neurovascular experience. That means your nervous system and blood flow team up for maximum pleasure. Think less mechanics, more mindful connection with your deeper sexual needs.

Time for actionable tips (and cheeky challenges) that actually work.

Tip #1 – Breathe Deep & Engage Your Pelvic Floor To Reduce Tension

Your breath is your secret pegging superpower. Deep breathing helps relax tight muscles, while gentle pelvic-floor squeezes let tension melt away. Remember: A tense butt equals a tense experience—so breathe, my dude.

Here’s Your Challenge

Practice 5 slow, deep breaths before any sexual act involving pegging. On each exhale, consciously relax your butt muscles. (Bonus points if you giggle—it's allowed.)

Tip #2 – Use A Dilator Or Small Plug To Gradually Desensitize The Anorectal Angle

Don't rush your butt—it doesn't like surprises. Gradually warming up your anus with a small plug or dilator gets your body ready comfortably, so entry is smooth and pleasurable, not shocking.

Here’s Your Challenge

Next time you shower, gently insert a small silicone plug or dilator (with plenty of lube). Leave it in for a minute or two to let your body adapt. Congrats—your butt just learned patience.

Tip #3 – Use A Slick, Skin-Friendly Lube For Better Glide & Comfort

Repeat after me: "Lube isn't optional, it's mandatory." High-quality, silicone-based lube makes everything slick, smooth, and way better. Dry friction is nobody's kink.

Here’s Your Challenge

Grab yourself a quality silicone-based lube and apply more generously than you think you need—then add some more. Seriously, you can't have too much. If your sheets survive, you probably didn't use enough.

Tip #4 – Start With Shallow Thrusts Before Transitioning To Full-Length Strokes

Going from zero to a hundred isn't a race worth winning. Shallow thrusts first, letting your partner ease you into deeper sensations gradually.

Here’s Your Challenge

Start with super slow, shallow strokes—just the first inch or two—until your body says, "Okay, gimme more." Consider it sexual negotiation: your body will tell you clearly when it's ready.

Tip #5 – Communicate In Real Time Using The Sensation Scale (1–10) for Feedback

Guesswork in pegging? That's risky. Open up communication by rating sensations from 1 (barely feel it) to 10 ("holy hell, right there!").

Here’s Your Challenge

Tell your partner upfront about the 1–10 sensation scale. Check in regularly during the act—this ensures your sexual pleasure stays high and your hospital visits remain zero. "On a scale from 'meh' to 'I'm seeing stars,' how does this feel?"

Tip #6 – Post-Pegging: Engage In Aftercare, Hydration & Oxytocin-Boosting Touch

Aftercare isn't optional, guys—it's the difference between "great sex" and "holy shit, my life just got better." Hydration, cuddling, and gentle touch boost oxytocin, enhancing connection long after the act ends.

Here’s Your Challenge

After pegging, drink a full glass of water and spend 10 minutes cuddling or gently touching each other. Talk, laugh, or simply relax—your body will reward you big-time tomorrow. Trust me, skipping aftercare is like skipping leg day—you’ll regret it later.

These practical, actionable tips aren’t just to make pegging smoother—they’re about elevating your entire experience. Follow these simple challenges, and you’ll quickly go from a curious beginner to a pegging pro who’s confidently tuned into their deepest sexual needs.

You've mastered pleasure—awesome—but let's talk safety, because the ER nurses really don't need another "you won't believe what happened" story tonight.

Safety & Hygiene Hacks For Pegging Beginners

Ivy wears a strap-on dildo, holding a condom & lube, demonstrating hygiene essentials for safe pegging.

Alright, pegging’s amazing—until you skip hygiene and safety. Nothing tanks your fun faster than unwanted bacteria (or an awkward itch). Here’s how to keep your pegging sessions safe, clean, and hassle-free.

Hack #1 – Clean Yourself Properly Without Overdoing It

Clean is good, squeaky-clean…not so much. Overdoing anal prep irritates your rectum, causing discomfort instead of pleasure.

Your Move

  • Quick warm-water rinse or gentle wipe-down.
  • Skip harsh soaps or aggressive douching.
  • If it feels like you're power-washing a deck, you've gone too far.

Hack #2 – Use A Body-Safe, Non-Porous Dildo (Clean It Before & After)

Cheap toys? Big nope. Body-safe, non-porous silicone toys are your butt’s best friend—fewer bacteria, infections, and zero regrets.

Your Move

  • Go body-safe—always choose medical-grade silicone (no jelly, no sketchy plastics).
  • Wash thoroughly pre- & post-play with warm water and gentle soap.
  • Weird smell? Toss it immediately. Your butt deserves only the best—body-safe, every time.

Hack #3 – Trim Nails To Avoid Microtears & Bacteria Transfer

Want sexy scratches? Stick to backs. Sharp nails in your butt? Hard pass.

Your Move

  • Trim nails short, file smoothly—think doctor’s-office neat.
  • Sharp edges cause tiny cuts, and that’s an infection party nobody RSVP’d for.
  • If your nails look like Wolverine’s, you're doing it wrong.

Hack #4 – Pee & Wash Up After To Reduce The Risk Of Infections

Always pee and clean up after pegging—no excuses. Your future self thanks you.

Your Move

  • Quick trip to pee post-peg flushes out bacteria.
  • Gentle rinse or baby wipe keeps everything fresh downstairs.
  • Think of it like brushing your teeth—non-negotiable.

Good hygiene is sexy as hell. Follow these hacks to dodge unwanted complications—leaving plenty of room for pleasure, laughter, and no awkward "what happened was..." conversations.

Speaking of awkward conversations—let's tackle the myths women constantly hear that stop men from having mind-blowing orgasms.

A Woman's Perspective.. 

On Pegging Myths That Hold Men Back From Mind-Blowing Orgasms

from Isabel
SEXUALITY COACH
Isabel, certified sexologist at SQL & SOS, shares a woman's perspective on pegging myths limiting men's pleasure.

Pegging myths aren’t just silly—they’re cockblocking you from some next-level pleasure. Seriously, I've lost count of how often these come up over coffee with girlfriends (and guys brave enough to admit curiosity).

Let’s finally put these myths to bed—so you can actually, enjoy it.

Myth #1 – “If A Man Likes Pegging, He Must Be Gay”

Ah, the old classic. It’s amazing how often this one pops up, usually from guys who secretly wonder if they'll suddenly wake up craving brunch and musicals.
  • The Truth
    Enjoying pegging means you like pleasure, not men. Attraction defines sexuality, not what feels good in bed.

Myth #2 – “Men Only Try Pegging To Please Their Partner”

Sure, pleasing your partner is great, but let’s not pretend this is charity work. You’re allowed to admit you’re in it for yourself, you know?
  • The Truth
    Listen—men love pegging because prostate orgasms feel incredible. Sure, pleasing your partner’s cool, but pegging’s usually about chasing your amazing orgasm. Believe me, we notice—and it's hot.

Myth #3 – “Anal Play Is Unhygienic & Risky”

Ah yes, because sex never involves bodily fluids otherwise, right? Spoiler alert: hygiene is easier than you think.
  • The Truth
    Anal play is as clean and safe as you make it. Good hygiene, high-quality toys, and quality lube eliminate the drama. If you brush your teeth daily, you can handle basic anal hygiene—trust me.

Myth #4 – “Pegging Means The Woman Is In Control”

Control freaks rejoice—or panic—depending on your perspective. Truth is, pegging's about partnership, not a power grab.
  • The Truth
    Control isn’t mandatory. Pegging’s a shared experience. Sometimes it’s playful, sometimes intimate, but always collaborative. Control is sexy—but trust? Even sexier. You can still lead her through the experience by asking for what you want, that's bedroom leadership.

Myth #5 – “Men Can’t Orgasm From Pegging Alone”

Who started this lie? Clearly someone who's never seen a man gripping the sheets and speaking fluent gibberish.
  • The Truth
    Um, yes they absolutely can—and do. The prostate orgasm is real, powerful, and doesn’t need traditional stimulation to happen. Guys, your prostate’s your body's hidden 'easy button'—don’t waste it.

Myth #6 – “Pegging Is Just A Kinky Trend, Not A Real Source of Pleasure”

Yeah, just like pizza was a "trend," right? Good things stick around because, shocker, they actually feel good.
  • The Truth
    It’s not a trend nor is it a kink—it’s anatomy. Pegging delivers pleasure through the prostate, unlocking sensations regular sex simply can’t. Trends fade. Toe-curling orgasms? Never.

Myth #7 – “Once A Man Tries Pegging, He Won’t Want Traditional Sex”

If only discovering one new awesome thing erased all others—then we'd never eat tacos again after tasting sushi. Ridiculous, hmm?
  • The Truth
    Pegging doesn’t cancel regular sex—it enhances it. Variety’s the spice of life, and trust me, pegging just spices things up beautifully. You can love pizza and still enjoy sushi, right? Exactly.

Guys, ditch these myths—they’re stealing orgasms from you. So, loosen up, open your minds (and, well, other areas), and discover what you’ve been missing.

Still curious? Good—time for rapid-fire answers to the questions you’re too shy (or smart) to ask your buddies over beers.

Frequently Asked Questions

Time to answer the pegging questions you definitely aren't asking your buddy Steve (he's clueless anyway). No BS, just quick hits from your friendly neighborhood sexologist.

Is Pegging Safe?

Pegging’s about as safe as driving—totally fine if you follow basic rules. But shortcuts? They bite you in the ass. Safety’s simple: use quality toys, generous lube, and never push past pain.
Rectal tissue heals slower, so tiny tears from rough play lead to more risk. Slow, steady, and smart is the mantra.

How Do I Bring Up Pegging With My Partner?

Don’t overthink it. Just say it—open, playful, zero awkwardness. Something like, “I heard pegging can feel amazing for guys, wanna try it?” is direct, easy, and confident. Normalize curiosity. If you frame it as normal, she’ll see it that way too.

How Common Is Pegging?

Way more common than you think—trust me, I’ve heard from thousands. You probably know at least a couple pegging enthusiasts (though they’re probably not posting it on LinkedIn). It’s mainstream enough to have made it onto sitcoms—so yeah, pretty damn common. I speak at retreats; at least half the room always perks up at the pegging topic (pun intended).

Will Pegging Change The Way I Orgasm Or Feel Pleasure?

Hell yes—and that’s exactly the point. Prostate stimulation rewires your brain’s pleasure pathways over time. Regular pegging sessions amplify your sensitivity, intensify your orgasms, and unlock deeper sensations. Your nervous system learns new orgasmic patterns—like adding entirely new rooms to your sexual house.

Can Pegging Strengthen My Relationship, Or Will It Make Things Weird?

Only if you let it get weird. Great relationships thrive on shared adventure—pegging included. It demands vulnerability and communication, which massively boosts connection. It won’t just improve your sex; it upgrades your entire emotional bond.

How Do I Mentally Overcome The Stigma Around Enjoying Pegging?

Short answer? Quit giving a damn. Seriously—other people’s hang-ups aren’t your business. Pegging is pleasure, period. Own your desires confidently, and stigma evaporates. It’s your life, your body, your orgasms—embrace it fully. Sexual freedom starts when you stop seeking approval. Period.

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Andrew Mioch is a certified sexologist and one of the world’s leading sex coaches and best-selling author after spending 10 years learning from experts all over the world.

Andrew has personally coached over 5,000 men. His expertise is regularly sought in publications such as Men's Health, Medium, and Cosmopolitan Magazine.

These days, Andrew spends most of his time coaching clients privately and also through SQL’s online Mastery Academy.

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