Do women actually like giving blowjobs?—is an age-old question whispered in locker rooms and wondered by guys everywhere. Surprisingly, a survey revealed that over 80% of respondents find pleasure in giving blow jobs, and 73.5% feel that it is fun. Keep reading, because knowing exactly what makes her mouth vibrate (in the good way) could turn your sex life from "meh" to "holy hell, do that again!"
In this article, we'll cover:
Do Women Love Giving Blow Jobs? (Based On Research)
Let’s start with the hard data (so to speak). Do women actually enjoy giving blowjobs, or are they just doing it for their partner’s sake? This question gets asked a lot, and luckily, science has nosed its way into the bedroom to find some answers. Here’s what the research tells us:
The Bottom Line—Mixed Feelings: So, do women like giving blowjobs? Some absolutely do, some absolutely don’t, and a whole lot are in the middle. The majority of women seem to tolerate or moderately enjoy it rather than adore it outright.
In short, it’s a wrong move to assume “all women hate BJs” or “all women secretly love it.” Reality is more nuanced. As we move on, we’ll see exactly what women say they love or hate about giving head. Get ready—it’s time for some candid pro/con confessions!
What Women Say About Giving Blowjobs?
Okay, let’s cut the crap—you wanna hear what women actually think about giving blow jobs, right? There is way too much blowjob porn out there, not depicting it correctly let's see what real women feel when they're down there.
I’ve chatted with countless ladies over the past few years, from those who've hated blowjobs to those who've found their new kinkier lover within themselves. And let me tell you, opinions vary—big time. Let’s dive right in:
Why Women Love Giving Head
Why Women Hate Giving Head
As you can see, there’s no one-size-fits-all when it comes to giving blow jobs. But, here’s your motivational takeaway: If you want your woman to feel sexy and genuinely enjoy sucking cock, make sure you’re not treating it like an entitlement or a personal distraction. When done right, blowjobs can become one of your best sex acts together—something she might even insist on doing because she loves it that much.
Context is everything. Next, we’ll zoom in on those turn-offs—specifically, common mistakes guys make that can turn a woman from willing to “hell no.” To answer this, my wife and certified sexologist, Isabel will give you an insider scoop on what not to do if you ever want a BJ again.
A Woman's Perspective..
On What Men Do Wrong, So Women Refuse Giving Head
Here are the big mistakes men make that can make a woman slam the brakes on ever putting her mouth on it. If you’ve ever had a partner who avoids or outright bans blowjobs, chances are one (or more) of these mood-killing mistakes played a role. Pay attention, and you might recognize a thing or two… Buckle up, fellas—a little tough love never hurt.
Mistake #1 – Poor Hygiene
Let's be blunt: if you want her to actually love giving blow jobs, make sure you're fresh down there. Expecting her to dive in after you've just finished your workout—or worse, after a long day and you haven't showered—isn't exactly the way to encourage enthusiasm.
Why It Matters?
What Should You Do?
Keep it clean and groomed. Good hygiene is the easiest step to getting her to genuinely love giving blow jobs.
Mistake #2 – Not Showing You Enjoy It
Here's the thing—women genuinely get turned on by your pleasure. If you're silent, lying stiff as a board, or looking like you’d rather watch blowjob porn or YouTube, she's probably thinking, "Am I terrible at this or what?"
Why It Matters?
What Should You Do?
Show your appreciation—moan a little, breathe heavier, say things like, "Wow, that feels incredible." Trust me, your excitement fuels hers.
Mistake #3 – Overstepping Her Boundaries
Maybe you’ve seen guys in blowjob porn aggressively grabbing heads and assuming it’s hot. In reality? That move rarely flies. Overstepping—forcing her head down, pushing too deep, or surprising her when you finish—is guaranteed to backfire.
Why It Matters?
What Should You Do?
Let her lead the way. Gently guide with words (not hands) and communicate clearly about finishing. Keep it consensual and fun—she’ll be far more willing (and eager) next time.
Mistake #4 – Taking Her Blowjobs for Granted
She’s down there, focused solely on your pleasure, and you just roll over afterward without acknowledging her effort. Come on, dude—no wonder she's not eager for round two!
Why It Matters?
What Should You Do?
Say thanks. Tell her it was amazing. Kiss her, cuddle her—make it clear that you value her and her efforts. When she feels genuinely appreciated, she'll be much more likely to love performing oral regularly.
The good news? All of the above is fixable with a little consideration, communication, and respect. If you avoid these blunders you’ll dramatically increase the odds that she’ll not only be willing to give head, but maybe even be enthusiastic about it.
And that, my man, sets us up perfectly for the next part: expert tips on how to encourage more oral action, the right way.
Andrew’s Expert Tips On How To Get More Blowjobs From Her
Guys, by now you might be thinking, “Alright, I get what not to do. But how do I actually encourage my woman to want to give me more blowjobs (or enjoy the ones she already gives)?” Great question. Let’s get into the golden advice:
Tip #1 – Always Get Enthusiastic Consent
This tip comes first for a reason: nothing else matters if you skip this step. Always ensure you have her enthusiastic consent before initiating a blowjob. This might sound obvious, but it’s worth emphasizing. Consent isn’t just the absence of a “no”; it’s the presence of a joyful “yes!” She should feel 100% free to say no at any point. If her heart’s not in it, a blowjob isn’t going to be enjoyable (for either of you).
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The key is, to ask in a way that makes it clear it’s completely her choice. And if she hesitates or seems unsure, back off gracefully. Sometimes just knowing that you respect her right to say no will make her more comfortable saying yes. When a woman gives consent enthusiastically, you know she’s mentally on board – which means a much better experience.
Consent = sexy
Pressure = unsexy.
Always remember that.
Tip #2 – Reciprocation Keeps Things Fair
We touched on this earlier, and it can’t be stressed enough: if you want more blowjobs, start by giving more oral to her (if she enjoys receiving it). Reciprocity is huge. Women are far more likely to be excited about pleasuring you if they feel their pleasure is important to you, too. It creates a cycle of goodwill and arousal.
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Tip #3 – Let Her Set The Pace & Take Control
One of the biggest turn-ons for women who enjoy giving head is being in control of the act. Conversely, one of the biggest turn-offs is feeling out of control (remember the boundaries thing). So, make a conscious effort to let her set the pace, depth, and rhythm when she’s going down on you. Essentially, follow her lead, not the other way around.
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You can even explicitly tell her, “You’re in charge – do whatever you want, it all feels incredible.” This can be very empowering for her. If she knows you’re surrendering to her technique, she can relax and do it at a speed and method that’s comfortable for her. You might be eager for faster or deeper, but patience, grasshopper – if she’s comfortable, she’s likely to build up intensity over time. And if not, that’s okay too.
Tip #4 – Use Dirty Talk To Build Excitement
You might be surprised how much words can amp up a sexual scenario. A little well-placed dirty talk or sexy encouragement can do wonders to make her feel excited about what she’s doing.
Many women (and men) find that erotic talk heightens arousal and makes the whole experience more fun and playful. It sets a steamy mood that can get her more into it.
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For example, during the act, praise and sexy commentary are great: “God, you look so sexy right now,” or “I love how you do that,” or “You’re making me feel amazing.” You can also guide her with turn-ons: “Yeah, suck it just like that, baby,” if she’s into explicit language. Gauge her comfort – start mild, and if she seems to respond positively, you can ramp it up a bit.
Hearing you talk about how much it turns you on can reinforce her enjoyment. Just keep it positive and focused on how good she is making you feel. Done right, dirty talk can be the whispering wind that fans the flames of her enthusiasm.
Tip #5 – Pay Attention To Their Comfort & Cues
This tip is about awareness. If you want her to not just give you more blowjobs but actually enjoy giving them, you must stay attuned to her comfort level at all times. As the receiver, it’s easy to just lay back and focus on your own pleasure, but don’t go on autopilot.
Tune in to her breathing, her body language, little sounds she makes (or doesn’t make). Is she pausing because her jaw is tired? Is she avoiding a certain angle because it’s uncomfortable? Being mindful of these cues lets you respond in ways that keep her comfortable and willing to continue.
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Encourage her to do what feels good for her too. Some women like it when the guy takes over for a bit, stroke yourself for a few seconds while she catches her breath—who says you can’t tag-team pleasure?
Also, notice her enthusiasm level—if at any point it seems like she’s not into it anymore, don’t ignore that. Switch gears by paying attention and being responsive, you show her that her comfort is a priority. That builds trust—she knows you’re not going to push her past what she’s okay with, which means she’ll be more likely to want to do it again next time.
Tip #6 – Ask Before You Finish—Don’t Assume
We hinted at this earlier under mistakes, but it bears repeating as a formal tip because it’s so important: always ask (or at least warn) before you cum during oral. Even if she’s happily bobbing away, don’t just assume it’s cool to finish in her mouth or on her without checking in. This tiny act of courtesy can make a huge difference in how she feels about the whole experience.
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If you’re not sure of her preference, it’s perfectly fine (even appreciated) to ask beforehand, “Where do you want me to finish?” It may feel a bit awkward to ask, but it’s far better than doing something that upsets her.
Many women who don’t mind cum in the mouth still hate not being warned—nobody likes a surprise they weren’t ready for. My favorite is counting down “3, 2, 1" and then cum this gives her the chance to get excited and to decide how to handle it, and shows you respect her involvement. As one humorous female writer put it, “We need more than just a flinch. Two words, ‘I’m close,’ should do the trick.”
Remember, a blowjob is a two-person activity even if only one person is on the receiving end. Your behavior, before, during, and after, strongly influences her willingness to put her lips on your bits. Follow these tips, and you’ll not only get more blowjobs, you’ll get blowjobs from a partner who is genuinely into it—and trust us, you can feel the difference!
Now that we’ve covered the dos and don’ts in-depth, let’s answer some specific frequently asked questions guys often have about women and blowjobs. You asked, we answer – rapid-fire style.
Frequently Asked Questions
From deep-throating dilemmas to decoding her moans, we’re diving headfirst into the stuff you really wanna know. Let’s clear the air (and maybe your mind) about all things oral.
She'll initiate blow jobs, maintain playful eye contact, moan while giving pleasure, and genuinely enjoy making her man moan. Expect enthusiasm—not hesitation. A "good girl" who loves sucking will often tease your cock, maintain sexy eye contact, and openly tell you how amazing you taste.
She’s confident, combines mouth and hand motions smoothly, and pays attention to sensitive areas like your tip, balls, and shaft. She’ll naturally alternate rhythm, pressure, and depth—possibly even love deep-throating. If she makes you moan uncontrollably, she's a woman who definitely knows her way around oral.
Men absolutely love enthusiasm and variety. Moisture, rhythmic strokes, tongue teasing, and playful sounds (like moaning or sucking noises) turn most guys on. Eye contact, attention to sensitive spots, and confident handling of their guy's junk make blowjobs deeply satisfying. Finally allowing relief through oral is such a turn-on and if she then also says your cum tastes amazing—jackpot.
It varies widely. Some women easily enjoy deep-throating and handle a guy's junk with minimal effort. Others have limits due to gag reflex or comfort level. Deep doesn’t always equal better. Let her set the depth, especially if you’ve recently started dating, and she'll feel confident, sexy, and more eager.
It definitely can! For many women, oral sex feels even more intimate than penetrative sex, because it involves complete trust, vulnerability, and focused attention on their partner’s pleasure. Women often love insisting on oral as a way to deepen emotional bonds, strengthen intimacy, and help stress fall away. But remember—this heightened intimacy means negative experiences can cause hell reactions, so always respect boundaries and communicate openly.
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