What is Squirting? Everything You Need to Know

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What is Squirting? Everything You Need to Know

Let’s talk about squirting. Everyone’s heard of it, but surprisingly few people know what it actually is. Is it urine? Is it semen? Is it even real, or is it all just one big myth?

Today, we’re going to be clearing all that up for you and more. For now, all you need to know is this: it isn’t a myth. It’s very, very real, and one of the most intense forms of pleasure a woman can have. It’s not the same as an orgasm, it’s better.

If you want to give your girl a squirting orgasm next time you hit the sheets, you’re in the right place to learn how. Just keep reading, and we’ll answer all your squirting questions.

What is Squirting?

Squirting, or ‘female ejaculation’, is the act of releasing fluid through the urethra during sex. It’s something you often see in porn, but, in real life, it’s not all that common.

Most women don’t regularly squirt during sex, and this rarity has led to squirting gaining a sort of mythical status. It’s seen as the ultimate sign of a woman’s pleasure, and some guys even question whether it’s actually possible (pssst… it is).

One of the biggest misconceptions about squirting is that it’s just women losing control of their bladder and peeing during sex. Even scientists thought that this might indeed be the case for many years, but we now know it isn’t.

While the fluid released when squirting can contain traces of urine, it’s actually more similar to the fluid that men produce during a prostate orgasm, but without the sperm. It’s made up of a combination of urea, uric acid, and creatinine.

I should also say right off the bat that not all women can squirt. If your partner has never squirted during sex, don’t worry – there might be any number of reasons why this is the case.

For example, she might need to do some muscle training in order to control her squirting, or she may be holding back without even knowing she’s doing it. We’ll talk more about how you can ‘learn’ to squirt later on in this article.

What Makes Girls Squirt?

Alright, time for a quick anatomy lesson. The naughty little culprit responsible for squirting is known as the Skene’s gland. This lesser-known sweet spot is found in the vaginal wall, just next to her G-spot.

It’s thought that the Skene’s gland produces the watery substance that’s emitted when women squirt, much like the prostate helps to produce seminal fluid in men. When women are aroused, the tissue near their Skene’s gland swells, which helps to stimulate the nerves in the area and eventually leads to squirting. The squirting fluid builds up during sex and is released at the point of orgasm.

It’s also thought to produce a different kind of orgasm than clitoral or G-spot orgasms, one that is more intense and feels to some women like an ‘extreme release’. That’s why women who squirt always look like they’re having super-powerful, knee-trembling orgasms.

The question is: how do you coax the Skene’s glands into doing their thing? Easy, the same way you make her orgasm – through stimulation. Although it is possible for women to squirt at any time during sex, it happens mostly when a woman is experiencing an intense full-body orgasm.

The best way to achieve full-body orgasms is through simultaneous stimulation of the clitoris and G-spot. This can cause the vaginal muscles to contract in such a way that sends pleasurable sensations all around the body, and that sends fluid from the Skene’s gland squirting out of the urethra.

Can All Girls Squirt?

The short answer to this is that nobody really knows. Estimations about how many women have actually experienced squirting range from 10% to 50%. However, just because you haven’t experienced it before doesn’t mean you can’t.

A lot of experts believe that all women can ejaculate, but some of them don’t know it because, in the past, the ejaculation fluid might have always gone into the bladder instead of out of the urethra.

So the more likely answer is that yes, most women should be able to squirt if they are relaxed, aroused, and their bodies are prepared for the act of squirting.

For many women, the urge to squirt can feel very similar to the urge to pee, and this might mean that they panic during sex, thinking that they’re about to wet themselves when they squirt for the first time. However, it’s more likely that they are about to squirt. As a result of this, many women will hold back their squirting and, therefore, they have never had an opportunity to experience a squirting orgasm.

Getting over this sensation is something that many women find difficult, which is why you may find that the woman that you’re sleeping with just won’t squirt no matter how hard you try. In this case, it’s best to talk openly about squirting and do some research into muscle training and squirting so that she knows what to expect when she feels the urge to squirt.

Hopefully, this will help her to overcome the mental block she has against squirting and release her love juice for you.

If you’re having trouble getting your girl to squirt, keep reading to find out some tips and techniques for giving girls squirting orgasms.

5 Reasons Why Squirting is Awesome

Squirting is more than just a bodily function. It’s a powerfully-erotic sex act that can help you to spice up your sex life and bring some kink to the bedroom. Here are some of the many reasons why you might want to make your girl squirt next time you have sex.

She’ll Experience A More Intense Orgasm

Squirting orgasms are known to be far more intense than regular orgasms, and they are usually regarded as ‘full-body orgasms.’ When experiencing a squirting orgasm, the woman is likely to feel pleasurable sensations across more parts of her body than is usual with regular orgasms, such as up her spine and neck.

With regular vaginal or clitoral orgasms, you don’t get the same kind of experience. Although these orgasms are still pleasurable, they feel localized to the vaginal area and are less intense and more short-lived.

If you use the tips in this article to make your woman squirt, the orgasms she experiences will be more intense than anything she’s experienced before.

It’s Super Sexy

A squirting woman is one of the sexiest things you will ever see. If you love the idea of giving your partner a knee-shaking orgasm, then seeing your woman squirt is sure to turn you on.

If you think squirting is something that is going to get you going, let your partner know that you want to make them squirt. Some women will actively try not to squirt so that they don’t shock you, but if they know that their immense squirting pleasure will turn you on, they will be able to get more into it, and hopefully, release their love juice for you.

It Helps to Relieve Stress

A stressed woman having trouble orgasming in the bedroom

Squirting is more than just a side effect of a mind-blowing orgasm; it can actually have positive effects on a woman’s health and wellbeing.

Orgasms are known to be great stress relievers, but squirting can actually intensify this relief. It will help to increase the number of endorphins that are released into the body, and this, in turn, can help women to feel more relaxed and a lot happier.

If your partner has a stressful job and struggles to fully let go in the bedroom, squirting could be just what she needs. If you’re struggling to convince her of the joys of squirting, just show her this article.

It Can Boost Immune Function

Squirting is also thought to have a positive effect on the body’s immune function. Many studies into orgasms have supported the idea that orgasming regularly can help to improve your immune system, and have an overall positive effect on your physical wellbeing.

Squirting and orgasming are also thought to help prevent breakouts and even strengthen hair and bone structure. This is due to the chemicals and endorphins that are released when a woman orgasms. When a woman squirts, the orgasms they experience are often more intense than usual, and this means that more chemicals and endorphins are released in the process.

It Shows That A Girl Truly Feels Comfortable With Their Partner

Unlike men, most women are not accustomed to releasing fluid during sex, and many women worry that their partners will find squirting gross.

This is because many people mistake squirting for peeing, and women are unsure of how their partners will react to squirting. In a sexual situation, women can hold the urge to squirt in, much like they would when holding in pee and, if a woman doesn’t feel comfortable, it’s more likely that she will do this.

If you can make the woman you’re with feel comfortable, relaxed, and satisfied, it’s much more likely that she will let loose and squirt.

How to Make a Girl Squirt Tonight – In 10 Simple Steps

So if you’ve gotten this far, you’re probably feeling pretty fired up and ready to give your girl the squirting orgasm she deserves. Here are 10 steps that will show you how to do just that.

1. Get Her in the Mood

Arousal is critical to successful squirting. Women are much more sensitive and intimate than men when it comes to sex, and, therefore, it’s important to make sure that she is in the right mood before you begin. Just following the same old bedroom routine, as usual, won’t get her to the levels of arousal that are required to make her squirt.

If you want her to squirt, you’re going to have to lay some groundwork first. A nice date at a fancy restaurant is always a good place to start. Try eating some foods that are known aphrodisiacs and set the scene for a hot night.

You can start to get her in the mood before the date by sending her some saucy texts or even some photos if you’re into that sort of thing. If you’re feeling really kinky, you could even have her wear a pair of vibrating panties while you’re on the date.

2. Start With Some Foreplay

Once you do get to the bedroom, try not to rush into things. Although you may be feeling pretty turned on already, try to draw out the foreplay to allow her to get really aroused. Foreplay is massively important if you want your woman to squirt for you, so don’t slack.

Massages, dirty talk, and exploring each other’s bodies are all great ways to get started. You could even try some roleplay. If you jump straight into penetrative sex, she might lose interest and settle for a less satisfying but quicker orgasm that doesn’t involve squirting.

3. Make the Experience All About Her

If you want your woman to squirt, she needs to feel relaxed, comfortable, and, most importantly, not rushed. Make sure that you focus on her as much as possible and find out what she wants and what she needs from you.

Squirting shows that she’s experiencing a really intense orgasm, so you need to make sure that everything is perfect for her in order to release her love juice. When you start to stimulate her G-spot and her clit, ask her what she wants you to do and what feels good. Be willing to change positions if necessary and go faster or slower, depending on her preferences.

4. Use Lube

As I’ve already mentioned above, getting a girl to squirt sometimes takes a little time. The longer it takes to bring your woman to orgasm, the drier her vagina may become. This is natural and doesn’t always mean that she is any less aroused than she usually is.

To combat this, use lube to keep everything nice and wet down there. It will make things a lot more comfortable for her when using toys, and it will also mean that you can keep going for longer even if she starts to get a little dry.

5. Choose the Right Position

Choosing the right position is really important when trying to get a girl to squirt, as you need to be hitting her G-spot and stimulating her clitoris if possible. It’s not always easy to reach a girl’s G-spot due to its location within the vagina, so be sure to try out a few different positions until you find one that is really working for her.

Sometimes, choosing a position where the girl is on top is really helpful, as this gives her control over the intensity of movement and how her G-spot is stimulated. It also makes it a lot easier for you to stimulate her clit with your hands or a vibrator.

6. Stimulate the G-spot

Once you think that your partner is getting close to orgasm, try your best to do what you can to continue to stimulate her G-spot. This is where the right position comes in really handy. If you can find a position that is comfortable and that works for her, stick with it and try to maintain a good rhythm. Check in to see if she is still feeling good in the position that you’re in and adjust if necessary.

If you’re finding it hard to reach her G-spot with your penis, use a vibrator, dildo, or your fingers to help bring her to orgasm.

7. Stimulate the Clitoris

Focusing on her clitoris as well as her G-spot will help to give her the type of full-body orgasm that will really make her squirt. See our article on the different types of orgasms here. The clitoris and G-spot are closely linked (some experts even think they’re the same thing), and when they’re stimulated in tandem, that’s when things really start to get interesting.

If you’re penetrating her, it can be hard to maintain focus on her clitoris as well, but it can be done. Try using your fingers to gently rub her clit, or you can use a vibrator to provide a different sort of stimulation. Whatever you choose to do, don’t neglect the clit. With this sort of dual stimulation, your woman will experience a mind-blowing orgasm that is sure to make her squirt.

8. Focus On Other Erogenous Zones

Stimulating other erogenous zones on the body can help to make her orgasm that much more intense, and this will increase the likelihood that she will let go of her inhibitions and squirt. Stimulating erogenous zones like the neck, ears, and inner thighs are all great in foreplay, but when it comes to bringing her to orgasm, the best place to focus your attention is the nipples.

Splitting your resources between the nipples, clitoris, and G-spot with the help of your body and sex toys will make for the most intense orgasm that she has ever experienced.

9. Help Her to Relax Into the Orgasm

When your woman looks like she is about to orgasm, you want to try your best to make her feel relaxed and comfortable enough to squirt. Remind her that you want her to squirt for you, and maintain consistent stimulation on the different spots we mentioned above.

Show your enthusiasm for her and invite her to cum as hard as she likes. If she feels as though she can really let go, she will be able to squirt harder and with more intensity. Try your best to encourage her to really lean into the orgasm instead of trying to hold back.

10. See Her Squirt

If you’ve done everything right, your girl will be squirting like there’s no tomorrow, and all that’s left for you to do is sit back and enjoy it. Keep thrusting or stimulating her clit as she orgasms, and this will make it last longer and be more enjoyable for her.

If her squirting left you feeling super turned on and horny, don’t be afraid to go in for round two. After all, it is possible for girls to orgasm and squirt multiple times in one session.

Top 3 Positions for Making a Girl Squirt

Targeted G-spot stimulation is essential to making a girl squirt, and a combination of G-spot and clitoral stimulation is even better. With that in mind, let’s talk a look at some amazing sex positions to help you hit these pleasure zones and make her squirt.

1. Missionary

Technique: She lies on her back on the bed with her legs spread comfortably, and her knees slightly bent. He kneels between her legs, leaning forward and holding his torso up on his arms so that his penis is level with her vagina, then enters from the thrust. He can control the force, depth, and angle of the thrust to target her G-spot.

Why it’s great: Let’s start with an old classic. The missionary position might be vanilla, but there’s a reason it’s one of the most well-known sex positions around – it’s ideal for G-spot stimulation. Entering from this position directs the pressure against the anterior wall of her vagina and makes it easy to hit her G-spot.

If you find the right angle, the base of your shaft or your pelvis will be pressed up against her clit too for blended stimulation. Aside from all that, the missionary position has the benefits of being extra intimate and romantic. You’ll be face-to-face for easy eye contact and in a comfortable position for lovemaking.

2. Soft Serve

Technique: Start off spooning with your partner, with the penetrating partner acting like the big spoon and her as the little spoon. She brings her knees up slightly while he thrusts to enter from behind. He can reach around with one of his free hands to rub her clit or use a toy on her.

Why it’s great: The Soft Serve position offers the perfect angle for him to hit that front wall where her G-spot is located. However, what makes this even better is that it leaves her clit open for easy access and his hands free. He can reach around and stimulate her clit at the same time as thrusting for double stimulation. Plus, all that blood flow to her clit will help her Skene’s glands to swell and make squirting more likely.

3. Doggy Style

Technique: She bends over on all fours on a bed or couch, or lies flat on her stomach. He kneels or stands behind her, grabs her waist, and thrusts to enter her from the rear.

Why it’s great: Another classic position, Doggy Style, is nothing if not a crowd-pleaser. Besides being great for deep penetration and squirting, it’s also very versatile. You can experiment with the Flat Doggy, Lazy Doggy, or any other number of variations to find your perfect angle.

What to Do If You Can’t Get a Girl to Squirt

Even if you follow all the tips above, you may find that you’re still having trouble getting your girl to squirt. If this is the case, there are some things you can do as a couple to make squirting more likely. Below are some ideas that you might want to try.

Get Her to Train Her Kegel Muscles

Kegel exercises are exercises designed to help women build strength in their pelvic floor. Whilst they are not strictly designed for helping women to squirt, they can provide women with much more control over what goes on in their pelvic region.

For this reason, performing kegel exercises can help your woman to have more control of her muscles, making it more likely that she will be able to squirt in bed. Not only will the exercises help her to become familiar with the sensation of using the different muscles in the pelvic region, but it will also help her to build strength in the muscles that she can use to actively squirt during sex. The diagram below shows how to do daily kegel exercises.

If you want a more sexy alternative to these exercises, you can also try using Kegel or Ben Wa Balls. These are balls that are designed to be held inside the vagina to help train the muscles and to stimulate the wearer. If you want your woman to build up her muscles whilst also being turned on, Ben Wa Balls are a good choice. You can get all different types, from standard Kegel balls to vibrating love eggs.

Give Her an OP Massage

If you’re really struggling to get your woman to let loose and squirt when she orgasms, then she may need some help from you to unlock her orgasmic potential. That’s where an OP massage comes in. An OP or Orgasmic Potential massage is designed to help people to relax and experience more intense and satisfying orgasms.

Some people have very stressful lives, and this means that they find it hard to really let go, even when they are in the bedroom. A good OP massage can help them to let go of the stresses of the day and really sink into the sexual setting.

By focusing on the different erogenous zones in the body, the masseur can help their partner understand the orgasmic potential of their own body so that they can experience more intense orgasms going forward. Think of it like rewiring their body so that they can get more pleasure from sex.

Some of the zones you should focus on in the massage include:

  • Shoulders and neck
  • The back and Spine
  • The top of the buttocks
  • The breasts
  • The upper thighs

This might not get your girl to enjoy a squirting orgasm right away, but when done on a regular basis, it should help her to become more relaxed in the bedroom, and more likely to squirt in the future.

4 Accessories That Will Help You Make a Girl Squirt

If you want to make sure your girl is screaming and squirting with pleasure tonight, then you may want to arm yourself with some bedroom accessories that will make it more likely. Below are some of the best things to have on hand when you’re trying to make her squirt.

G-Spot Vibrators

Reaching the G-spot is super important if you want to give your girl squirting orgasms. If you’re having trouble stimulating her G-spot with your fingers or your penis, then a G-spot massager may be just what you need.

G-spot massagers are designed to easily target the G-Spot when inserted into the vagina, and the vibrating action will mean that her G-spot gets the stimulation it needs to help her to squirt. Also, using a vibrator can help to free up your body so that you can stimulate her clitoris or other erogenous zones with your mouth, hands, or penis.

Clitoral Vibrators

Clitoral vibrators are also useful if you want to give your girl a full-body squirting orgasm. Stimulating the clitoris with your hands or mouth is usually quite easy, but if you’re trying to reach her G-spot with your penis, then using a vibrator to stimulate the clitoris can make things a lot easier.

Clitoral vibrators are often small, which makes them easy to handle, even when things get hot and heavy. You can even get vibrators that are attached to cock rings or hook onto your fingers. Finger vibrators are also good for foreplay when you are trying to turn her on. You can use them to give her nipples a little buzz, or any of her other erogenous zones.

Fetish Accessories

Women need to be mentally and physically stimulated during sex if you want her to have the best chance of squirting. For this reason, appealing to her darkest fantasies or fetishes might help you to get her to squirt. During foreplay, consider roleplaying, wearing costumes, or using kinky accessories like restraints or ball gags.

Whatever your partner is into, try to incorporate it into the foreplay where you can. It will help to get her really horny, and this will make the odds of her having a satisfying squirting orgasm much higher.


If you want to get your girl fully into the squirt zone, then a blindfold can be a good accessory to have on hand. When blindfolded, she’ll be able to focus fully on every touch, lick, and kiss, and this will really help to get here in the mood for a full-body orgasm.

Blindfolds are also great if you’re looking to hit all of her erogenous zones before she orgasms.

Final Thoughts

Alright, that about covers it. Hopefully, you now know the answer to the question ‘what is squirting’ and understand female ejaculation a little bit better. If you have any more questions about squirting that we didn’t cover here, you might find the answer on in our squirting FAQ.

And if you want to unlock even more secrets to making her squirt, check out our complete guide on how to make a girl squirt effortlessly.

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Laura Rose Halliday

Laura Rose Halliday started The School Of Squirt back in 2012 and has been running the website and digital courses along with Jakob Wulfe since then. She is a full time sex writer, researcher and practicer.

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  1. Thanks for the tips. My girlfriend hasn’t squirted for me yet but I’m hoping she will! I’ll definitely be trying these tips.

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