How to Do the Chair Sex Position—Tips for Better Comfort, Deeper Stimulation, and More Spice

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How to Do the Chair Sex Position—Tips for Better Comfort, Deeper Stimulation, and More Spice

Ivy leans back into Marco’s chest in the Chair Sex Position, creating intimate support and allowing deeper stimulation.

You’ve done missionary, doggy style, cowgirl—heck, maybe even tried standing—but have you tried SITTING?

A survey found that 30.3% of American respondents preferred the doggy style position, followed by missionary (28.1%) and cowgirl (20.7%). But sitting? It’s the underdog—different, raw, unforgettable.

Think about it—what sticks with you? It's the unexpected, right? Tonight’s your chance to show her why the chair sex position deserves a standing ovation.

In this article, we'll cover:

  • How to perform the chair sex position
  • Variations, rhythm adjustments, twists, and toy integration.
  • Modifications for comfort and seamless transitions.

Pro’s and Con’s of The Chair Sex Position

Marco and Ivy sitting at a table playfully debating the advantages and challenges of the Chair Sex Position.

Alright, let’s clear this up—it’s called the chair sex position, not because you need a fancy tantra chair or designer furniture. Nope. It’s because YOU ARE THE CHAIR, my guy. You’re her solid, supportive seat, allowing her to take control while you enjoy the view and make her feel like a queen.

This sexual position is a masterclass in comfort, intimacy, and deeper penetration. So, if your sex life needs a bit of extra flavor, this is your go-to move—just keep in mind, even the best chair has its squeaks and wobbles!

Pros

  • Ideal Angles for Deep and Maximum Pleasure: With her perched on your lap, she’s got more control over depth and those sweet different angles that hit all her erogenous zones.
  • Gentlemanly Dominance: She’s in the seat of power, but your role as the solid, supportive base makes her feel safe, cared for, and worshipped. It’s a win-win.
  • Your Pleasure is Her Pleasure: The position screams, "Your pleasure matters more than mine," and nothing is sexier than being the guy who’s all in on her satisfaction.
  • Built-In Access for Extra Fun: Her position gives you perfect access for playful breast and nipple teasing. Want to amp it up? Add a sex toy to the mix, and watch her world shift.
  • Relaxed Comfort: The weight is evenly distributed—her body weight is on your lap, and your body supports her back. It’s intimate practical, and lets you both savor every second without rushing.

Cons

  • Endurance Check for Her: She’ll need some strong knees and solid core strength to keep the momentum going. Help her with some extra support—a hand on her hips or gentle guidance works wonders.
  • Restrictive Movements: If you’re craving fast and furious thrusting, the close alignment in this sexual position might feel limiting.
  • Eye Contact is a Challenge: Sure, deep eye contact is a game-changer, but in this position, your partner will probably be facing the same direction as you. No big deal—lean into the intimacy in other ways.

The chair sex position isn’t just another move in your Kama Sutra playbook—it’s the key feature you didn’t know your sex life needed. Discover the magic of this position tonight, and thank me over coffee (I mean email, or you can also comment below this blog).

How do I do the chair position? Yup, I hear you, brother—read on, take note, and get ready to make that humble chair the MVP of your sex life.

How To Perform The Chair Sex Position?

Ivy leans back into Marco’s chest in the Chair Sex Position, creating intimate support and allowing deeper stimulation.

This is it, man! Let’s get you set up for the chair sex position. This one’s all about letting her take control while you sit back—literally—and focus on making her feel like she’s a royalty.

Here’s how to nail it, step by step.

How to Position Yourself

  • Find your spot: Pick a solid surface—the bed, the sofa or even the ground. Just make sure it can handle both of your combined weights without wobbling. Stability is key, my guy.
  • Lean back like a boss: Use your arms for support, placing them slightly behind you. This keeps you steady and opens up your chest for her to lean against—bonus points for looking relaxed while she’s doing all the work.
  • Spread your legs slightly: This creates a welcoming seat for her to settle into, giving you both the space and angle you need for that smooth entry.
  • Guide yourself in: Once she’s sitting pretty on your lap, use your hand to guide yourself into her. Go slow, match her rhythm, and let her take control of the motion.
  • Stay involved: Don’t just sit there like a statue—use your hands to lift her hips, run them along her thighs, or tease her breasts while she moves.
  • Keep it close: Press your chest to her back, letting her feel your warmth with every grind. That skin-to-skin connection creates an intimacy that goes beyond just the motion—she’ll feel it with every fiber of her being.

How She Is Positioned

  • Slide onto your lap: She’ll straighten her legs and lean back against your chest, fully supported by your arms and legs. No bent knees here—she’s stretched out like she owns the moment.
  • Align for pleasure: She’ll position herself so your body is perfectly angled for G-spot stimulation or deeper penetration. Her slight tilts forward or back are the game-changers here.
  • Set the pace: This is her show. She can rock, grind, or slowly move her hips to find what feels best. Let her experiment with different angles until she hits that perfect rhythm.
  • Play with her hands: She might grab your knees for balance, run her fingers along your thighs, or even tease your chest. If she’s feeling playful, she might lean back just enough to let you kiss her neck or whisper something dirty in her ear.

Here’s a video you can watch to really get a feel for how it’s done (and yeah, pun totally intended). Because let’s face it, brother—sometimes a visual guide beats fumbling around like you’re assembling IKEA furniture.

But why try this position? What’s in it for you? Let’s talk about the spots you’ll be hitting during the chair sex position.

Spots You Hit During The Chair Sex Position

The chair sex position isn’t just about convenience—the upward angle of penetration isn’t random; it’s a calculated setup that aligns perfectly with her internal anatomy to maximize pleasure.

Here’s what’s happening beneath the surface as you hit her key erogenous zones:
Marco and Ivy in an intimate moment, representing the concept of orgasm on command, emphasizing trust and connection in their dynamic.
  • G-Spot: Located on the front vaginal wall about 2-3 inches inside, the G-spot is packed with nerve endings that thrive on firm, rhythmic pressure. The upward angle in this position allows your motion to stroke it consistently, creating those deep, pulsating sensations that sex experts swear by.
  • Pelvic Nerve Activation: The deep, angled thrusts in this position engage the pelvic nerves, which are connected to multiple pleasure centers in her body, amplifying her overall arousal and response.

When done right, the chair sex position becomes a symphony of sensations, making her feel pleasure on multiple levels.

But mind you, brother, chairs aren’t just chairs—there’s rocking chairs, recliners, even those wild massage thrones. The same goes for the chair sex position—it’s time to mix it up with some spicy variations!

Ready to Put a Twist on the Chair Sex Position? Try These Fun Variations!

Remember, in this position, you are the chair. But would you really settle for being that boring chair left in the corner, gathering dust, never being “sat on” again? Hell no.

Let’s turn you into the throne she can’t resist—versatile, exciting, and built for pure pleasure. Time to level up with these spicy twists.

Position I - Sideways Straddle Sex Position

Sideways Straddle Sex Position where Ivy sits sideways on Marco’s lap, leaning on him for deeper intimacy and unique angles.

If you’re looking to bring a sultry twist to your usual moves, the Sideways Straddle Sex Position is here to deliver. This variation keeps things intimate while shifting the dynamics just enough to unlock new sensations for her and full-body engagement for you. Try this, and you'll look like a pro who keeps things fresh and exciting.

Here is The Twist

  • What’s Different: Instead of sitting face-to-face or in the same direction, she slides sideways on your lap, tucking her legs close to her body. This sideways angle not only changes the way you penetrate—hitting her G-spot in a teasing, indirect way—but it also gives you full access to her thighs, breasts, and even her neck for kisses or playful bites. Hold her close for stability, or if you’re feeling bold, give her a light back rub or some sexy, dominant hair pulling to make the moment unforgettable.
  • Who Will Love This Twist: This variation is perfect for couples who thrive on intimacy and want to explore new sensations without complicating the rhythm. It’s great for her if she loves feeling secure but also craves deeper stimulation from unique angles. And for you? It’s all about that full-body contact, the ability to guide her movements, and —the view doesn’t hurt either.

Position II - Emoji Sex Position

Emoji Sex Position where Ivy leans forward on Marco, shifting control and adding playful angles for intimate exploration.

If you’re ready to turn the bedroom into your own personal stage, the Emoji Sex Position delivers all the drama and passion you could ask for. It’s a daring move that blends control, vulnerability, and jaw-dropping intimacy. This is your chance to take her breath away while keeping the energy raw and magnetic.

Here is The Twist

  • What’s Different: She leans forward, knees bent and planting her hands on your knees or her thighs, giving her total control of the rhythm. The forward angle shifts the penetration to directly target her G-spot, while her arched back and raised butt give you a view that will stay burned in your memory. The position also stretches her hips just enough to amplify every sensation.
  • Who Will Love This Twist: This is a great position for the adventurous couple who wants to spice things up with a blend of control and connection. She’ll love the power of setting the pace, while you’ll enjoy being her steady, reliable base—and getting that show-stopping stimulations.

Position III - Urban Dictionary Sex Position

Urban Dictionary Sex Position with Marco supporting Ivy's legs while she leans back, adding intimacy and deeper stimulation.

There’s a reason this is called the Urban Dictionary Sex Position—it’s modern, bold, and leaves a lasting impression. With her seated securely on your lap, it’s a move that mixes intimacy with just the right amount of playfulness to keep things exciting.

Here is The Twist

  • What’s Different: In this position, she sits on your lap, facing the same direction, with her legs extended outward while you hold her thighs for support. The alignment allows for a deeper angle of penetration, focusing on her G-spot and amplifying her pleasure. Plus, her hands are free to explore her clit, thighs, breasts, or any other spot that keeps her completely engaged.
  • Who Will Love This Twist: This position is perfect for couples who value closeness and connection. You’ll enjoy the freedom to control the rhythm while also providing steady support and guidance. And for her? It’s all about the full-body contact and the intimate energy that makes the experience unforgettable.

After reading that, you’re probably ready to be the only sex chair she’ll ever need—exploring these twists like the sex expert you’re becoming. Trust me, brother, you’ll never see a chair the same way again.

But let’s not stop there—why settle for one orgasm when you can aim for two or, heck, make it a marathon? (Think of it as upgrading from a regular chair to a luxury recliner.)

Keep reading for ways to level up your chair sex position game!

Need More Fun with Chair Sex Position? Here's What to Do!

Marco and Ivy take the chair sex position to the bathtub, adding water play for sensual intimacy and heightened sensations.

The chair sex position is already a powerhouse of pleasure, but would you like to make it earth-shattering?

Here’s how to make it an unforgettable session that will have her coming back for seconds (or thirds).

  • Bring It to the Bathtub: Take this position to the bathtub for a steamy, wet twist. The water adds a weightless sensation, letting her glide effortlessly while you stay fully in control. Plus, the warm water heightens sensitivity, especially when paired with slow, deliberate thrusts. Just make sure to keep the surface safe and non-slippery!
  • Play Music and Lap Dance: Set the tone with a sultry playlist and encourage her to give you a slow, teasing lap dance. Let her movements brush against you, building tension until you can’t take it anymore. It’s foreplay that’s as hot to watch as it is to feel.
  • Tease with Clit Play: Add a clitoral vibrator or your fingers to the mix, teasing her as she takes the lead. The combination of rhythmic penetration and focused clitoral stimulation will have her gasping for more.
  • Play with Her Nipples: Her nipples are incredibly sensitive—run warm oil or a Wartenberg wheel over them, or alternate between cupping, squeezing, and firm pinches to keep her on edge.
  • The Spinning Chair: Got a swivel chair? Spin things up by slowly rotating while she teases you or leans forward for some sensual oral sex. The motion adds a fun, playful element to your usual dynamic.
  • Show Dominance: A gentle tug of her hair or a firm grip on her hips lets her know you’re in charge, while keeping the energy playful and passionate.

Think of these tips as the apple to your pie, the creamer to your coffee—because let’s face it, plain pie and black coffee don’t exactly scream “extra special,” do they?

Speaking of unforgettable, let’s talk about sliding out of that chair and into some other hot positions—because even the best chairs aren’t meant to sit in forever!

Easy Transitions From Chair Sex Position Into Other Hot Sex Positions

So, you’ve mastered the chair sex position, and now you’re ready to keep the momentum going. Transitions are your secret weapon—smoothly moving from one position to another not only keeps the rhythm but also cranks up the intimacy and connection. Here’s how to seamlessly shift into some of the hottest follow-up positions.

Position I - Spooning Sex Position

Marco and Ivy transition from the chair sex position into spooning, creating an intimate, relaxed connection with synchronized movement.

Spooning is the ultimate position for when you want intimacy with a side of relaxation. Transitioning from the chair sex position to spooning is all about fluidity and comfort.

How to Transition

  • His Moves: From your seated position, lean back and gently guide her to lay sideways against you. Slide down to the floor or bed, adjusting your legs to align behind hers.
  • Her Moves: The woman shifts her weight to one side, letting you guide her into a lying position while staying close. Tuck one leg forward slightly for stability and openness.

Final Position: Both of you are lying on your sides, her back against your chest. This creates a right angle for shallow, intimate thrusts while your hands are free to explore her thighs, hips, breast or even give her a sensual back rub.

Position II - Sitting Scissor Sex Position

Marco and Ivy explore the Sitting Scissor sex position, enhancing intimacy and connection with unique angles and balance.

The rest of this guide is absolutely useless without this first part. After all, you can’t expect your woman to be in the mood if you can’t even take the time to prepare her body and her mind.

How to Transition

  • His Moves: From the seated chair position, ease her into a side-lying position by gently guiding her hips down. Sit upright to maintain your balance, pushing your feet into the ground for stability while sliding one of her legs under yours for support. Use your hand to stabilize her upper leg, keeping her open to you for smooth, controlled penetration.
  • Her Moves: She moves onto her side, keeping one leg extended and the other slightly bent across your lap. She can prop herself up on her elbow or relax fully, depending on her comfort.

Final Position: You’re both lying in a semi-scissor arrangement, her leg draped over yours for that perfect angle of penetration. This position naturally shifts the depth and pace, allowing for slow, intimate thrusts while keeping both partners completely engaged. Bonus? It’s great for stimulating her G-spot while giving you full access to her thighs for added sensual play.

So, with all that information, you have no excuse not to give her the fuck of her life, yeah? Seriously though, if we take this a little deeper, you’re probably wondering, why bother trying this position? Is it worth it? What if… she decides to leave Yelp reviews afterward?

Well, let me break it down for you—here’s why the chair sex position is one of the best moves you’ll ever add to your bedroom arsenal.

Andrew’s Expert View: Chair Sex Position Sex Position Is Best For...

The chair sex position is a versatile move that caters to every couple’s needs—whether you’re building confidence, breaking barriers, or turning up the heat.


Let’s dive into why this position deserves a top spot in your bedroom repertoire.

Marco and Ivy thoughtfully discuss Andrew’s expert insight on why the Face Off sex position is perfect for emotional connection.

The Go-To for Physical Limitations

Back pain? Height differences? The chair sex position has your back—literally. The chair’s support minimizes strain, and small adjustments with cushions or a swivel chair make it work for almost any body type. It’s comfort and pleasure rolled into one.

For Those Who Love Props, Play, and a Dash of Kink

Ready to spice it up? Add a clit sucker, experiment with a tantra chair, or bring in light bondage for a kinky twist. Hair pulling, whispered dirty secrets, or teasing bites on her shoulder add a bold layer of excitement that makes this position unforgettable.

Perfect for Deep Emotional Connection

Few positions bring you closer than this one. Her back against your chest, your arms wrapped around her—it’s intimacy at its finest. Add soft kisses, whispered affirmations, or gentle touches to turn the moment into a physical and emotional masterpiece.

The chair sex position adapts to whatever vibe you’re going for—intimate, kinky, or somewhere in between. Whether you’re starting out or leveling up, this is the position that keeps giving.

So, now that you’re practically a chair sex position pro, let’s tackle the burning questions—because if you’re thinking it, someone’s probably already asked it (and yes, I'm here to answer).

Frequently Asked Questions

The chair sex position is exciting, versatile, and packed with possibilities, but it’s natural to wonder about the finer details. Let’s dive into some of the most common questions and give you the answers you need.

What Are Common Mistakes to Avoid in the Chair Sex Position?

The biggest mistake? Underestimating the importance of a sturdy chair (and yeah, that’s you, my guy). Trust me, no one wants a wobbly base when things get hot and heavy. Be her solid foundation—steady, supportive, and fully engaged.

Another misstep? Rushing into it without a game plan. This position thrives on communication—talk about what feels good, find the right rhythm, and let her set the depth. Take your time. This isn’t a sprint; it’s an art form. Treat it like a slow dance, not a quickstep.

Can the Chair Sex Position Accommodate Different Body Types?

Absolutely! The beauty of this position is its adaptability. If height differences or body types are a concern, use a cushion under her knees or have the other partner kneel instead of sitting. The angle of penetration is easy to adjust, so you can find what works best for you both.

And for the girl taking the lead? A little adjustment in how she positions her legs—spread wider or placed on the floor—can create more stability and enhance pleasure.

Is the Chair Sex Position Suitable for Anal Play?

Yes, but approach it with care and communication. For anal penetration, having her lean slightly forward changes the angle, giving you easier access while keeping her in control. Use plenty of lube and go slow—comfort is crucial here. This can also be a great way to explore new sensations. Imagine the combination of closeness, dominance, and exploration—it’s a recipe for something unforgettable.

Is the Chair Sex Position Safe During Pregnancy?

It’s always a good idea to consult a healthcare provider, as every pregnancy is unique. That said, the chair sex position can be a safe and enjoyable option during pregnancy, especially with a few thoughtful modifications. In later stages of pregnancy, when the baby bump becomes a factor, adjusting her posture to a semi-reclined position can help avoid unnecessary pressure on the abdomen. As always, communicate openly with your partner and prioritize her comfort above all else.

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Andrew Mioch

Andrew Mioch is a certified sexologist and one of the world’s leading sex coaches and best-selling author after spending 10 years learning from experts all over the world.

Andrew has personally coached over 5,000 men. His expertise is regularly sought in publications such as Men's Health, Medium, and Cosmopolitan Magazine.

These days, Andrew spends most of his time coaching clients privately and also through SQL’s online Mastery Academy.


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