If you feel like you missed out on some part of sexual education, you’re not alone. Many of us learn the basics of sex but we’re often left to figure out the details through trial and error.
While that’s fine for some people, others of us need a bit more guidance, especially as we get older and inexperience becomes a handicap.
After all, no one expects a young man to have a lot of game when it comes to sex, but once you hit a certain age, partners expect you to know what you’re doing.
That’s why we’ve put together this useful sex tutorial. It covers all the basics plus gives you some tips on how to take things up a notch and improve your confidence in and out of the bedroom.
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Foreplay – The Lesson Everyone Knows But Always Forgets
Sex is, by its very nature, pretty intense. As a result, many people overlook the importance of foreplay. But, without a bit of a buildup, your sex game will always fall flat.
So what is foreplay exactly? It’s more than making out and not quite full on sex, which is why many guys skip it entirely, even if they don’t realize it. Foreplay is all about getting you both worked up and ready.
For women the best approach is to go slowly, building tension and sexual arousal over a long period of time. Here’s my ultimate guide to making any woman dripping wet.
By going slowly and savoring this part of sex, men gain a few advantages. First, it prolongs the sex act, making it more satisfying overall for both partners.
Secondly, it gets your woman truly aroused so that she is more likely to experience a great orgasm – potentially more than one.
Getting a woman off during foreplay isn’t the objective, but it’s likely to happen. Don’t set out trying to make her orgasm, but if she’s building up to it and can’t stop, encourage her and make it a good one.
Most women can have more than one orgasm in a session, so if she gets off while you’re playing with her clit that won’t keep her from climaxing during penetrative sex.
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Forget Your Penis For a Minute
As you begin, forget about yourself for a while. Focus all of your attention on her.
Not only will this make her happy, it makes you look good. Men who put their partner’s needs before their own are worth their weight in gold. Not sure exactly how to do that?
These simple techniques should get the ball rolling.
Let Your Fingers Do the Walking
Your hands are one of the most overlooked sexual organs on your body. Learn how to use your fingers, thumb and even the heel of your palm to drive your partner wild. Run your hands all over her body, giving her a squeeze every now and again.
Don’t just focus on her breasts either – give those thighs a quick squeeze, let your hands massage the muscles that make her strong. Show her just how much you love her body.
Kiss, Lick and Bite
You can use your mouth to tell her how much you love her, or you can use it to show her. Kiss the inside of her wrists, the backs of her knees, the gentle curve of her hip.
Let your lips graze over her neck, down her shoulder and take a nip at her upper arm. The mixed sensations will turn her on and have her begging for more.
Don’t Be Shy
Don’t be shy about telling her exactly what you’re thinking. Share with her how much you love the way she feels and what you want to do with her. If you’re new to talking dirty in bed, take things easy.
Use whatever language comes naturally and speak from the heart (and the pants) to get connected with that raw feeling she brings out in you.
Women love multi-sensational sexual contact. So use everything you can to show her just how much you love her as well as how much you WANT her. By using a mixture of tactile and auditory techniques you’ll be pressing all her buttons.
At this point you have two options: You can go ahead and give her an orgasm while you eat her pussy out, or while you finger her, or you can move on to the next step, which is penetrative sex.
Of course, if you want to give her an orgasm first before moving on to intercourse then this is the ideal option – She will be just as much in the mood after an orgasm as before, (perhaps even more so.)
Your Position Library
Just as you can work on your spoken vocabulary, you can also work on your sexual position library of options. Of course you’ll want some tried and true positions you’re comfortable with.
Most men have no problems with traditional missionary position as well as having their woman on top, facing him, cowgirl style. But don’t be afraid to mix things up a bit.
These positions are simple but improve your range of motion, flexibility and your sexual self-confidence. Mastering them is the first step in learning which advanced positions you’re more likely to enjoy.
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This is like the more traditional version of having the woman on top. Instead of facing you, she faces away. This gives her a better position to adjust for depth and the angle of your thrust, making it easier for you to stimulate her G-Spot.
This is one of those classic positions that some people shy away from, presumably because of the name.
Call it anything you want, but entering her from behind boosts her orgasm power while reducing the stimulation for the man just enough to prevent premature ejaculation.
Start in the missionary position then kneel back and pick her legs up. Raise them 90-degrees and cross her legs at the ankle.
You can uncross her legs and spread them wide then bring them back together and cross them to alter the intensity for each of you.
Better Than a Lap Dance
For this position, you’ll need a simple straight back chair – a kitchen or dining room table chair is perfect. Have a seat and then invite your partner to lower herself onto you, either facing you or facing away.
If she faces away she’ll have the ability to control the angle which is helpful for that G-Spot orgasm. If she faces you, however, she can use the back of the chair to get better depth and grind down more while you’re free to tease her nipples and pepper her with kisses, licks and the occasional light bite.
Learn How To Give Her Squirting Orgasms
One of the best things you can do to be amazing in bed is learn the technique to give her what is known as a ‘squirting orgasm’ for the first time in her life.
Not only is this one of the most amazing and pleasurable orgasms for a woman to experience, but very few men know how to do it properly. That’s why we have an entire course called Squirting Triggers dedicated to it.
Revel in the Afterglow
When people have sex, their bodies release a ton of feel good hormones. Endorphins and dopamine flood your system, giving you that warm, fuzzy glow that comes after sex. Even if you know you need to get up and clean off a bit, don’t rush off right away.
Take a minute to revel in that feeling with your partner. Let your hands continue to caress her body lightly, slowly and in a way that makes you feel connected to her. For many women, this is the best part about an orgasm – that warm glow that leaves them happily recovering.
Human sexuality is meant to feel good – so don’t let concerns about inexperience keep you from enjoying it. This simple blueprint gives you a foundation for a positive and satisfying sexual experience, but it shouldn’t be the end of your journey.
Use what you learn from exploring these options to learn more about specific sex acts and different games and toys you can use to make it even better.
Once you get comfortable with these techniques, broaden your horizons by using our training videos, ebooks and tutorials to take your game to the next level.
How to go to the NEXT LEVEL?
You’re reading this article now, but probably wondering how to improve your sex life even more, and give your woman the highest level of sexual satisfaction and female pleasure possible.
After all, if you love and care for your woman, you would want to give to her as a gift. It’s your responsibility as a man to make sure she’s happy.
With that in mind, I recommend trying our video program where our resident sex expert teaches you in step by step detail the best techniques for female pleasure. Learning from a video program is such more faster and more effective than learning from reading. Especially with this topic. So consider joining our video programs, Triggers 2.0 and learning all our best secrets.