If you didn’t know this before, I’m telling you now: going down on her is the key to getting her off.

The fact is that most women cannot climax from penetration alone. While clitoral fingering can get the job done, it’s just not the same as cunnilingus.

So what do women like about cunnilingus? How can you ensure you’re giving her the best cunnilingus she’s ever had? These questions, and more, will be answered below.

What is Cunnilingus?

Cunnilingus is an oral sex act performed on a person with a vulva. It involves the licking, sucking, and other oral stimulation of the labia, clitoris, and vaginal opening.

Do Women Like Cunnilingus?

Would it surprise you to know that 9 out of 10 women enjoy having a partner that goes down on them?

Ask yourself this question: “Do men like blowjobs?”

You probably thought to yourself, “duh!” Well, the same goes for women and cunnilingus.

While you may find some women who don’t like cunnilingus, just like you may find some men who don’t like blowjobs, that’s rare. And the reason they don’t like it is more so to do with the techniques and skills of their partner than anything else.

What Women Love Most About Cunnilingus

If you ask a dozen women what they love most about oral sex, you’ll get a dozen different answers. Here are some answers that most women can agree with, though.

When It’s About Them

When is the last time you gave your girl head without expecting anything in return?

While you shouldn’t give and give and give without ever receiving, you should want to give your partner pleasure with no expectations.

This does a few things.

First, it enables her to fully and completely relax while you go down on her. She’s not laying there thinking about what she’ll have to do in return, or even dreading it if she’s had an otherwise long or difficult day.

Second, it discourages the common tit-for-tat that often occurs in sexual relationships. By removing this expectation, you may inadvertently open yourself up to getting more from her at other points.

So focus on her. Lay her down, get her hot and bothered, and go to town. Let her know ahead of time that there’s no expectation beyond her to enjoy herself.

When It’s a Surprise

There’s nothing wrong with tried-and-true oral sex techniques. After all, they’ve gotten her off many times before.

But there’s something exhilarating about your partner using a new technique while going down on you.

First and foremost, learning new techniques shows your partner that you still care about pleasuring her. You put the time in to learn something new, and that says a lot about who you are as a partner.

Second, new techniques may unlock new sensations for your partner. These techniques may focus on new areas (the taint, for example) or tactics (like pressure).

Not every new technique will be a winner, and that’s okay! So take some time to learn some new techniques and wow her in the bedroom tonight.

When It Turns You On

How can your partner properly let go and enjoy herself if she knows you’re not also enjoying yourself?

I get it, oral sex isn’t exactly your favorite activity. But it’s easy to fake it until you make it. And usually, the more you act like you’re enjoying it, the more you will enjoy it.

So eat her out like you’ve never eaten before. Moan, grunt, and slurp. In the brief moments when you’re mouth isn’t busy, tell her how hot this is making you feel and how much you want her to cum.

When It’s a Sexual Intermission

It’s true that women can have difficulty orgasming with vaginal penetration alone. While partners can use their fingers or a sex toy to stimulate the clit simultaneously, one thing that’s sure to get your partner off is to stop sex to go down on her.

Obviously, you shouldn’t stop if your partner is well on her way to climax.

But just like you’d stop to switch sex positions, stop sex and turn your partner on to her back. Then go down on her with the goal of making her orgasm.

This is a great way to spice things up in the bedroom. It also ensures she climaxes before you do so you’re both sure to have a good time.

How to Give Her the Best Cunnilingus of Her Life

Now that you know what women love most about cunnilingus, it’s time to learn how to give it to her right.

Get Her Fully Aroused

You can’t expect to come home, lay her down, and start going to town. You need to spend time building up her anticipation, getting her wet, and begging for more.

This looks different for every woman. If you’re not usually one for foreplay (I highly recommend you start!), then here are a few techniques to try.

• Have a makeout session
• Caress her body from head to toe
• Give her an erotic massage
• Tell her exactly what you want to do to her
• Leave a trail of kisses down her body

As she gets more and more aroused, you’ll notice her breathing rate increases. She may also get flushed. Now you know it’s time to take it further. Just be sure to take it slow and listen to her body.

Avoid the Clit… At First

The head of the penis is the most sensitive part. You wouldn’t ask your partner to stimulate that directly without any previous warm up, so why would you do the same to the clitoris?

The clitoris is just as sensitive as the head of the penis, if not more so. While the clitoris should be part of oral sex, you want to work your way there.

So now that she’s aroused and ready to go, it’s time to travel down to her mound. But before you go straight for the clitoris, spend time elsewhere.

Start first with the inner thighs. Caress and kiss her thighs while purposely avoiding her genitals. As she gets more fidgety, slowly move towards her mound. Brush your fingertips across the lips and slowly part them with your fingers.

As you open her lips, be sure to avoid her clitoris. Work your way towards it slowly, pull back, and then work your way back up. You can even start with the licking and eating out by starting at the vaginal opening and licking upwards toward the clitoris but stopping just short.

Once you’re sure she’s had enough, touch the clit with your finger and then go in with your tongue.

Apply Pressure

Licking and flicking your way around the clitoris isn’t the only way to pleasure your woman. You should also work on applying pressure in different spots and in various amounts.

Pressure is necessary for most women to climax. While light flicks of the clitoris certainly feel good, they may be a bit too light to get her there.

So what does this look like?

Place your tongue on the clit like you’re going to flick it but then lean in so as to put some force behind it. Now flick it while using the pressure you’ve applied.

You can use this technique at the vaginal opening, too, or really anywhere from the taint to the clitoris.

Practice with varying levels of pressure. Don’t be afraid to ask her if she likes it as this is the only way you can learn how to pleasure her.

Use Your Hands

You don’t have to do everything with your mouth. Actually, I recommend you bring your hands into the mix to double her pleasure.

A simple technique, if you’re just getting started, is to place the palm of your dominant hand on her mound. Your thumb will naturally hang over the clitoris. As you’re licking and sucking, use your thumb to gently tap her clitoris. As you get into a rhythm, you can try different movements like flicking or continuous rubbing.

The hands don’t have to be limited to the clit, though. You can also use your hands to:

• Explore her body
• Grope her breasts
• Tweak her nipples
• Grab her buttocks
• Massage her thighs
• Penetrate her pussy
• Penetrate her anus (if she’s into that)

If you’re not sure where to start, tell your partner to grab your hands during oral sex and move them wherever she pleases. This is a fun way to learn more about what she likes and prefers.

Switch It Up

You may have some favorite moves to perform, and your partner may have some moves she really enjoys. You don’t want your moves to get stale, though, which is why you should aim to switch it up.

The clitoris can become overly sensitive quickly. So you want to be sure to vary your position and the pressure you’re applying. You should also move away from the clitoris at times to give it a short break. However, don’t stay away for too long!

A simple move that helps you to switch it up is to place your tongue at the base of the vulva just over the vaginal opening. Lick your way up the vulva all the way to the clitoris.

Repeat this move multiple times ensuring that you stop and flick the clitoris vigorously each time. Eventually, you’ll want to return to the clitoris full time as she gets closer and closer to climax.

Introduce Some Toys

If you really want to get things going, then don’t be afraid to bring some sex toys into the mix.

There’s this common misconception that using sex toys during sex or oral sex is lazy. Sex toys can add another dimension of pleasure, and they also take the pressure off of you. So ask your partner what she likes and have fun introducing them.

A few options include vibrators, dildos, g-spot massagers, anal dildos, and clitoral stimulators.

Don’t Stop!

As your partner gets closer to climax (and trust me, you’ll know when), you don’t want to stop whatever it’s you’re doing. If you stop, she may lose her momentum which is frustrating for both her and you.

Conclusion

Women like cunnilingus as much as men like blow jobs. Unfortunately, there are a lot of expectations around cunnilingus, especially relating to reciprocity. This can make it seem like women don’t like it or are hesitant to engage in it.

There are ways to work around this though, including going down on her without expecting anything in return and surprising her with oral sex when she least expects it.

Once you understand more about what your partner enjoys most about cunnilingus, you can incorporate that plus our techniques for giving her the best cunnilingus of her life.