There are many (many!) ways to use a sex toy to spice up your sex life. From nipple clamps to dildos to anal plugs, sex toys offer much in the way of satisfaction and pleasure.
When it comes to clitoral and g-spot stimulation and, ultimately squirting, nothing compares to vibrators.
This guide will explain what squirting is and basic tips for how to do it. We’ll then dive into how to squirt using a vibrator, whether it’s your first time squirting or not.
What is Squirting?
Squirting is the expulsion (often forceful) of colorless, odorless fluid from the urethra during arousal or climax.
Can Everyone Squirt?
The official numbers are small – studies range from 10% to 54% of women. However, I believe unofficial numbers to be greater and include both women who squirt naturally and those who learned to squirt.
The answer isn’t who can squirt, though, but can every woman learn to squirt? And I say, yes.
Assuming there is no physical inability (lack of Skene’s glands, for example), then every woman should be able to learn how to do it.
It may take overcoming some mental roadblocks, but that comes with time and getting comfortable with your body.
Best Tips for How to Squirt
Before we get into squirting using a vibrator, specifically, let’s cover some basic squirting how-tos.
1. Hydrate, Hydrate, Hydrate!
I know what you’re thinking… If I hydrate, that will only make me have to pee more and that’s not what I want when I’m trying to squirt.
I get it but hear me out.
The body can’t function properly without hydration. And with such busy schedules, most people aren’t as hydrated as they should be.
So while you don’t need to drown yourself in gallons of water, two or three cups a few hours before your session should be enough to get you nice and hydrated.
Hydration serves another purpose here, and that’s to ensure you aren’t completely drained following a squirting session. You’d be surprised just how much energy squirting can take out of you, and if you’re less hydrated then all the more so.
So think of hydrating as an act of self-care, both before and after your session.
2. Get Aroused
When it comes to squirting, there’s perhaps no step that’s more important than arousal. Without arousal, there’s likely to be no climax and certainly no squirting.
So really take the time to focus on the foreplay, on building up arousal.
You can do so alone or with a partner. Here are a few tips on new things to try in bed and make her horny, fast:
- Take a bubble bath and slowly feel up your body
- Read erotic literature
- Watch adult entertainment
- Get into nipple play
- Create a sexual fantasy in your mind
- Feel yourself up, stopping to tease yourself in sensitive areas
- Get acquainted with your newest sex toys, but don’t go to town just yet
The goal is to have your pussy dripping wet and pulsating just waiting for more.
3. Find Your G-Spot
Once you’re fully aroused (or at least on your way there), it’s time to get acquainted with the g-spot. Where can you find it, and how do you stimulate it?
The g-spot is the internal extension of the clitoris. It rests on the top side of the vaginal wall where it can be stimulated.
It helps to think of the g-spot as part of a larger system. The g-spot and the clitoris belong to a system known as the urethral sponge. As the name implies, the system wraps around the urethra which also includes the Skene’s glands and the g-spot.
As you get more aroused, the g-spot will fill with more fluid courtesy of the Skene’s glands. As the g-spot is stimulated, this can lead to the release of the fluid, or squirting.
As mentioned, the g-spot can be found in the upper vaginal wall. To find it, insert one or two fingers into the vagina. Just an inch or two past the opening, begin to feel along the top wall for an area that feels different from the surrounding tissue. The area that feels different – spongier – is the g-spot.
Once you’ve found the g-spot, it’s time to experiment with stimulation. Rubbing, tapping, circular motions – all of these will apply pressure to the g-spot and stimulate it. You want to find the method that feels the best for you.
4. Let It Go
A big part of squirting is the ability to let go, both mentally and physically. What do I mean?
For women who don’t squirt naturally, squirting can feel foreign and even “dangerous.” The thought of letting go, of gushing when there’s a chance it could be pee, is scary and shameful for many women.
But there are two things I’ll say on the matter:
One, the odds of you losing control of your bladder and peeing when you’ve never suffered from urinary incontinence before are slim to none.
Two, if you do pee instead of squirt or if your squirting fluids contain more than just trace amounts of urine, that’s okay. Place towels below you or practice in the bathtub. This will reduce any cleanup.
It may take some time to get used to the sensation. Yes, it feels like the urge to pee. But if you let it go and ride it out, you’ll experience something primal and freeing.
How to Squirt Using a Vibrator
There are many stimulation techniques you can use to squirt. From manual to penile to dildo to vibrator. And while everyone has their preferences, learning how to squirt using a vibrator can be one of the most fun ways to get it done.
Here are some tips for beginners, whether you’re new to squirting or a regular.
Choose the Right Vibrator
Vibrators come in many different shapes, sizes, and configurations. You’ll want to choose the right vibrator for your needs.
Type and Size
From small and easy-to-disguise “bullet” vibrators to the classic magic wand style, there is a wide variety of vibrator types and sizes to choose from.
What are the most common vibrator types?
We’ve already mentioned the bullet and massage wand which are perhaps the two most common. There are also clitoral vibrators, g-spot vibrators, suction vibrators, rabbit vibrators, and even wearable vibrators.
A rabbit vibrator is a great option if you’re looking for blended orgasms as it targets the clitoris while also inserting into the pussy. However, if you’re new to squirting, you may want to work your way to this as you may find yourself cumming from the clitoral stimulation before you can squirt.
Of course, the g-spot vibrator is an obvious choice. It’s great for beginners who can use it while simultaneously stimulating their clit manually.
Shape
Yes, just like dildos, vibrators now come in a variety of shapes. From long and titled to short and girthy, you have a lot of options for choosing the right shape for your needs. In fact, there are even g-spot-specific vibrators with a unique shape for hitting the g-spot.
Power
Are you not sure which power mode is best for you? I recommend a vibrator that offers multiple power settings. This will enable you to adjust as needed, which is good for both g-spot massage and even just foreplay.
Modes and Settings
If you need fancy modes, like pulsation and vibration variations, then definitely consider the number of modes the vibrator has. There are basic vibrators, of course, that offer anywhere from one to three modes.
Use Foreplay and Teasing
The biggest mistake you can make while using a vibrator – whether trying to squirt or just orgasm – is to go in too hard, too fast. You need to slow down and take your time which you can do with foreplay and teasing.
Sure, you can use the arousal tips mentioned above to get started. But you can also use your vibrator to tickle and tease your body.
If you have a vibrator with different power levels and modes, set it to the lowest level and the most erratic pulse mode. Then touch it lightly to sensitive areas – the nipples, the clit, the pussy opening, the anus – and let it do its thing.
If your vibrator just has one setting, that’s fine too.
Use it over a layer or two of clothing, or even wrap it in a towel to lessen the intensity. Of course, you can use it against bare skin and just avoid touching the more sensitive areas. For example, use it on your inner thigh or pubic mound. This will deliver the vibrations indirectly to warm you up but not bring you to climax.
As you get more into it, you can also tease yourself while getting close to climax. That is, place the vibrator on the clit or g-spot and just as it’s getting to the edge, pull back. This takes practice to get it just right!
Hit the Right Spot
Clit, clitoral hood, vaginal opening, g-spot
Now that you’re aroused and acquainted with your vibrator, it’s time to get to work.
When it comes to squirting, the g-spot is often mentioned as the only option. While the g-spot is the gold standard, it’s not the only spot that can trigger squirting in some women.
So, where should you start?
I would suggest you first start at the vaginal opening. Place the vibrator against it, or even place the vibrator against the length of the vulva from clit to vaginal opening. This will give you a world-class vaginal massage. You can then use the vibrator to enter the vagina and gently push it in the direction of the g-spot.
If you have a g-spot vibrator, that will be the most ideal way. If not, you can use your regular vibrator in the vagina (which will indirectly hit the g-spot), or you can use the vibrator externally while you use your fingers internally.
Use the vibrator on a low to medium power setting with a varied vibration pattern when using it on the clitoris. We don’t want you to orgasm before you have the chance to squirt!
As you work both the g-spot and the clitoris, you should soon begin to feel the urge to pee. Keep doing exactly what you’re doing!
As the urge builds, you can also begin to use the vibrator more intensely on the clitoris. While it’s not necessary to orgasm to squirt, you can do both simultaneously which is, of course, more fun.
Experiment
The above routine isn’t the only way to squirt with a vibrator. In fact, it may not even work for some women. That’s why experimentation, both with the vibrator and your stimulation techniques, is important.
Play around with different vibrator settings and different body positions. If you don’t have a g-spot vibrator in particular, then see what positions work best for hitting the g-spot while the vibrator is inserted in your pussy.
G-spot sex positions are a great place to start. You can do most of them alone or with a partner’s help.
You can also experiment with the timing. That is, learning how far you can take it with your vibrator either pressed against your clit or in your pussy before you cum. This is useful information during your next squirt sesh, as it can help you to better time a squirting-orgasm combination.
Remember that there’s no right or wrong when it comes to using a vibrator to squirt. You’ll find techniques you like and others that just don’t do it for you. Focus on what works and what you enjoy.
Conclusion
There are many ways to squirt, whether you’re just learning or you’ve been doing it for years. Squirting with a vibrator can be one of the most intense, most fun ways to do it.
With a vibrator that meets your needs – the right type and size, shape, power, and modes – you’ll have a lot of fun learning new ways to get you aroused and bring you to climax. And with the right techniques, you’ll be squirting in no time.
