You're a greenhorn, or you have tried eating her pussy, and let's just say...she's unimpressed. That's a buzzkill, man, coz 95% of women say they love it when men are dining at the Y (you know what I mean). So it probably is not that she does not like it; you just need to learn how to eat her pussy right. Keep reading, and I'll run you through the steps from A to Z.
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Your Step-By-Step Guide On How To Eat Pussy
You mean all good and well in eating her pussy during sex. Besides, it's the best way to build stronger arousal before the main event. But mind you, man, all it takes is one bad experience, and she'll have all the excuses in the world to avoid oral sex every time you go intimate. Follow this guide to make sure that doesn't happen.
Step #1 – Know The Parts So You Know Where To Put Your Tongue
Parts Of The Vulva
Step #2 – Give Her The Death by 1,000 Kisses
Do This
Step #3 – Courtesy Call To Her Pussy
Do This
Step #4 - Bon Appétit – Dig In
Do This
Step #5 - Give Her Clit The VIP Treatment
Go extra slow on her clit, as too much pressure can feel too sharp and intense.
Do This
Step #6 - Do Something With Your Hands
Your hands are no fancy vase you can put some red roses on when your mouth is busy with her pussy.
Do This
Step #7 - Slow & Steady Wins
When she's close to orgasm, do not change your rhythm or speed.
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Step #8 - Ease Off For Sex Or Round Two
After her release, the clit would be extra sensitive, so do not touch that part.
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Sure, some would say you don't need a guide; that's BS. Just play by ear and cross the bridge when you get there. But you're not most men. You're the man who leads and knows what he's doing. Yeah, treat her responses as your manual, but know what to do next, how to do it right, and where to lick and not to lick if your goal is making her feel you're the best she ever had.
And to upgrade the experience even further, here are the pussy-eating moves that'll make your tongue impossible to forget.
Sexologist-Approved Pussy-Eating Moves For Mind-Blowing Oral Sex
Knowing the basic steps gets you through the door. These pussy-eating moves are what make her remember exactly who was between her thighs.
Move #1 - Flat Tongue Foundation
Tongue out, say "eeehhh" and flatten your tongue like you were licking melting ice cream. Begin at her vaginal opening and work your way slowly up to the clitoral hood. Push your entire tongue against her pussy, not just the tip. Dude. One long wet lick. That's the game.
Move #2 – Full Mouth Seal (Pussy Sucking)
Open your mouth, cover as much of her vulva as you can, then close your lips around her outer lips and gently suck them into your mouth. You can slide your tongue between her lips while you're doing it. Just don't suck like you're trying to pull her soul out through her pussy. Gentle and controlled, brother.
Move #3 – Flat Tongue Reverse
This is basically the Flat Tongue Foundation in reverse. Start at the edge of her clitoral hood, flatten your tongue against her pussy, and slowly lick down to the vaginal opening using the back of your tongue. When you get to the bottom, go back up and start over. Don't flick your tongue back and forth like you're wiping a dirty window.
Move #4 – Curling Tongue
Curl the tip of your tongue upwards, then place it against her clitoral hood and make short scooping motions. You can also curl your tongue slightly inside the vaginal opening and pull it back out. This creates a firmer stroke without you having to poke her with a stiff tongue.
Move #5 – Flicking Tongue
Place the tip of your tongue below the clit and start flicking it gently from side to side. Begin slowly, and if she's pushing her hips closer to your face, pick up the speed. Keep the flicks small and focused. Don't let your tongue fly around her entire pussy like it has no clue where it's going.
Move #6 – Slow Tongue Circles
First, circle your tongue around the clit, but don't touch the nub directly. Begin with large circles around the clitoral hood, then decrease their size until you are right around the clit. Find one that gets a reaction and stick with it. This is not the time to show her how many tongue tricks you have.
Move #7 – Pussy Edging
Lick or suck her clit until you can feel she's getting close. Her thighs may tighten, her breathing gets heavier, or she starts grinding herself against your mouth. When that happens, slow down and move your tongue beside the clit for a few seconds. Then return to the same move and edge her close again. Don't completely stop and make her arousal fall off a cliff.
Move #8 – Precision Pen-Point Focus
Your tongue tip should be narrow and pointed like the tip of a pen. Use it to draw little circles or short lines on one spot around the clit. This is not a warming-up move, as the direct pressure of a pointed tongue may feel too intense. Save it when she's already turned on and basically directing your tongue to the spot.
Move #9 – Hot Air On Vulva
Get her pussy wet using your tongue, then pull your mouth back slightly and breathe warm air over her vulva. The air hitting the wet skin creates a warm tingling feeling. Lick her again, then repeat. Breathe, man, don't blow like you're trying to put out birthday candles between her legs.
Move #10 – Rhythmic Sucks
Take her clitoral hood or inner lips gently between your lips, suck for a second, then let go. Repeat it using the same rhythm: suck, release, suck, release. You can slide your tongue over her clit between each suck. Keep each pull soft because her pussy is not a juice box and you don't need to squeeze the last drop out.
Move #11 – Pulsing Sucks
Close your lips over her clitoral hood, and instead of letting go all at once, take short sucking pulses. Tighten your lips. Loosen them. Tighten again. Keep your mouth in the same position. Imagine giving her clit some little pulls instead of one long suck.
Move #12 – Pressure & Release
Press your tongue hard against her clit and flatten it for a moment. Just keep the pressure there. Then soften your tongue but don't take it all the way off, then press again. It's the change between firm and soft that does it here, so there's no need to lick like your tongue's got to get to work.
Move #13 – Flutter Sucks
Gently suck her clitoral hood into your mouth and keep it there. While applying the suction, rapidly flutter the tip of your tongue against the clit. Your lips hold steady while your tongue does the fast work. If you can't keep both movements together, slow down first. This isn't a coordination exam; you are eating pussy.
Move #14 – Motorboating
Place your relaxed lips against her pussy and hum through them until your lips start vibrating against her vulva. Do it in short bursts, stop, then follow it with a long flat lick. This move looks a bit ridiculous, sure, but we're not here to win a beauty pageant. We're here to make her feel good.
These pussy-eating moves are not dance moves you need to perform one after another, man. Try one, watch how her body reacts, then stay there when you find the move that hits. Now let's put her in positions where your mouth can do its best work without your neck breaking.
Andrew's Recommended Pussy Eating Positions For Faster Turn-On, Stronger Reactions, & Way More "Don't Stop" Moments
You can't find these cheat sheets anywhere else, as these are my personal go-to positions, which I personally tried and tested whenever I eat a woman's flower. I'll hand it over to you, and please, for the love of sex, put it to good use.
Position #1 – Leg-Up Missionary
You know this one dude. Have her lie on her back, pull one leg up and keep it there. Crouch down between her thighs and eat her pussy. Place a pillow beneath her butt to create a more comfortable angle, so she can relax and you have better access.
Position #2 – On All Fours
Get her into doggy style, put a pillow under her chest, ask her to lower herself a bit so her pussy elevates into a better angle. Crouch behind her, enjoy the food, I mean pussy, and add some spice with your fingers or a sex toy while your mouth is busy.
Position #3 – Standing & Bent Over
Who says oral should be for the bed only? Have her take an A-stance, then lean forward against the wall with her hands supporting her. Kneel behind her, pull her hips back toward your face, spread her pussy open, and dig in, man.
Position #4 – The Inquisitor
Position her like you’re questioning every part of her body. Lay her back, spread her legs, lay both hands on her breasts, then question her pussy with your tongue till every groan gives you the whole confession.
Position #5 – Flat On Her Tummy
Have her lie on her tummy, hike one knee up, and slide in behind her. Hold that thigh open and enjoy the rear-view buffet, man. With her consent, you can even add a light butt spank using your hand, a flogger, or a tawse and let that sharp little sting crank up the whole experience.
Position #6 – On Her Side
Not every side of the story is meant to be seen from the front, man. Have her lie back, swing both legs to one side, bring her pussy to the edge of the bed, then kneel beside her and enjoy the side entrance. Let out a low, sensual moan while you lick her flower so she can feel just how much you’re enjoying her.
Position #7 – Face Sitting
You’re not looking like a chair, but let her have a seat. Lie back, put her hips over your lips, hold her thighs steady, let her regulate the pressure and enjoy the greatest seat in the house.
Position #8 – Reverse Face Sitting
Like reversing into the best parking spot in town, have her face your feet and lower her pussy onto your mouth. This angle also leaves both breasts right within reach, so cup them, give a soft squeeze, pinch her nipples, or circle her areolas while she rides your tongue.
Position #9 – The OG 69
There’s no oral sex pose that shouts teamwork quite like the old-school 69, dude. You go on your back, have her lower herself over you. Add another naughty layer by squeezing her butt, running you hands up her back or with permission teasing her anus as you both stay busy.
Position #10 – Reverse 69 (69's Older Brother)
Mate, turn the 69 upside down, and oral sex is now in first class with complimentary beverages. Get her to lie back, bring her knees up to her chest and then get over her and get sunk in. Tight, messy, primal and yeah…personal space has definitely left the building.
Position #11 – Table Top
And our parents always used to say, “Eat at the table,” so who are we to argue? Get her right on the edge of the table, spread her legs, get down on your knees and dive in like dinner's just been served. When she goes back for seconds, get ahold of her by both thighs and pull her even tighter.
Position #12 – Side Exploration
And no this isn’t a side dish…well from this angle you could definitely call it one. Make her lay down with her legs apart. Come in from the side and hold on to her thigh and enjoy it like you found the hidden menu .
Position #13 – Supported Doggy
Wipe the table, wipe the plates, clean the whole fucking restaurant, mate. Hang her off that ball, aim the all you can eat buffet right at your face and eat her out from behind. Grab her hips and let every bounce spoon feed your tongue like room service has completely lost the plot.
Position #14 – The Suspended Pussy Feast
This one's for the brave and imaginative man. Put her in a sex swing, spread her legs apart and you got easy access to her pussy while the gently swinging provides some more thrill, movement and a little “holy crap we’re actually doing this” enthusiasm.
What matters is you're both comfortable, and the position is helping you do what needs to be done. More importantly, I don't want you to do it one and done, brother; I'm on your side, so here is the female point of view on the common mistakes men make when eating pussies. Take note and avoid these mistakes at all costs.
A Woman's Perspective..
On Mistakes Men Make When Eating Pussy That Instantly Kill The Mood
As someone who is on the receiving end of all these, there are many things that guys do that make women cringe instead of moan while eating pussies. So I am going to stop you from becoming one of those tales women tell their girlfriends. Here are the common mistakes guys make, and what to do instead so oral feels hotter, simpler, and a lot more orgasmic for us.
Mistake #1 – Using Food Or Whipped Cream Like It’s Sexy (It’s Usually Just Uncomfortable)
I know it appears amusing in movies, but generally placing whipped cream, chocolate syrup, honey, or anything sweet on her vulva is more sticky than attractive. It may hurt sensitive tissue, disrupt the natural balance down there, and have her thinking about the shower instead of your tongue.
Solution
Mistake #2 – Letting Your Teeth RSVP Who Were Not Invited
Your tongue and lips were welcomed. Your teeth weren't totally. And not in a pleasant way. The slightest inadvertent scratch may have her body tighten up all over.
Solution
Mistake #3 – Copying Porn Moves (You're Not Johnny Sins)
Porn is shot from a camera position to seem hot and interesting. That's not to say it feels wonderful on a real body. The frenzied head shaking, forceful licking, tongue slapping, and theatrical face smashing sometimes seem filthy, unpleasant, or just plain stupid.
Solution
Mistake #4 – Rushing Because You Think Oral Is Just "Warm-Up"
We know when you're using oral as a five-minute waiting room before getting to penetration. You start fast, race to the clit, like the whole thing had a deadline. That pressure's messing up the build-up. And then there's the guy who changes his beat every five seconds, because he's undecided. Lick, lick, suck, flick, tongue in, lick.
Solution
Mistake #5 – Tongue ≠ Penis
Going in and out of her vaginal hole with your tongue like a little penis, over and over again, is not the masterpiece some guys think it is. Most of the nerve-rich pleasure occurs on the outside, around the vulva and clitoris.
Solution
Mistake #6 – Wrong Goal
Nothing spoils pleasure quicker than the feeling that you're on the clock. When a guy continues asking, "Are you close?" Or he begins trying harder because he needs confirmation that he did a good job, we start performing instead of experiencing. Our orgasm is not your badge of honor, gentleman.
Solution
Mistake #7 – Wrong Target
Sometimes you guys shoot too high and end up kissing the pubic bone or pubic mound, rather than the clitoris or the soft vulva below. We feel the pleasure, definitely, but not always where we want to be pleasured.
Solution
Mistake #8 – Pussy Eating As Spelling Bee
Ah, the classic alphabet approach. The guys like this one since it sounds smart and catchy. But to us it frequently seems like 26 entirely separate motions, without a long enough rhythm for the enjoyment to grow. By the time you get to the letter G, our body is still trying to figure out what happened to A.
Solution
But the king of all these mistakes is eating our pussy to impress us, instead of paying attention to what we actually feel. We don't need a carnival down our pants. We need you to be there, patient, present and secure enough to stay with what feels good.
So before we wrap this up let's address the questions still running laps in your thoughts.
Frequently Asked Questions
Here are the straight answers to the things most men want to know when learning how to eat pussy.
How do I know what my partner likes and how to read her cues?
Is it safe to swallow vaginal fluids during oral sex?
How do I start eating pussy for the first time?
Dig in the outer lips first, short but sweet, then the inner lips. When the inner lips look and feel swollen, that's your cue; she's ready for the main event. With your tongue, trace the clitoral hood and from the base of the vagina up to the small hidden nub, 12 o'clock of the pussy.
Using your fingers, expose the clit by pulling the clitoral hood, or you can use your tongue and kind of flip it out of the hood. Move your tongue on her clit and pay attention to her body. Continue if she's moaning, breathing deep, stretching her back, or telling you "right there babe, don't stop".
How can I make her cum or reach orgasm during oral sex?
How can I incorporate fingers or toys while eating pussy?
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