69 Sex – Ultimate Guide to The 69 Position (Orgasm Together)

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69 Sex – Ultimate Guide to The 69 Position (Orgasm Together)

The infamous 69 position is one you’re probably quite familiar with, from trying it yourself before and as well as perhaps seeing it in a steamy video online.

In this article, you’re going to learn several hot variations of the position that are guaranteed to give both you and your partner a great time. As you probably know, in this position the man and the woman place their head on their partner’s genitals, so they can perform oral sex at the same time. In fact, both male and female homosexuals can actually perform 69 on their respective partners, but this article will be focused on heterosexual 69’ing.

It’s a classic position that has stood the test of time – you can actually find it mentioned in ancient literature as well as visually depicted in many paintings and sculptures. It can be an intensely overwhelming position, and one that can be quite distracting as you’re trying to please your partner while she’s pleasing you.

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Performing fellatio and cunnilingus (a.k.a blowjobs and eating pussy) results in stimulation of some really sensitive nerve-endings, such as those on the clitoris and head of the penis.

It’s a Mutual Act of Love

When both of you are experiencing oral sex at the same time, it can be a mutually ecstatic moment. (You’ll have to experience it to truly understand it, as with anything sex-related.)

The 69 position is great as it’s mutually beneficial compared to one-sided oral sex, since both of you are receiving and giving pleasure. If you have had trouble doing this position well or have never even tried it, don’t worry.

Although there’s one thing to keep in mind – if you and your partner have a significant height and/or weight difference, it might be difficult to do these all positions successfully and to their full potential. Once you try the positions that we’re going to teach later and find that the 69 position is not a good fit for you and your partner, need not worry – there are many other oral and sex positions that are as fun and can feel as good.

Anyways, by the time you’re finished reading this article you’ll have all the knowledge to start 69’ing like a pro. Most people only know how to do one or two variations of the 69 position, so by having a wide arsenal of variations and little tricks that we’re going to teach you, you’ll be sure you’re giving the woman you’re with something new and exciting.

Every girl you’ll 69 with will be utterly amazed at your skill and prowess when it comes to this position once you learn to apply what we’re about to teach you.

Learn to Eat Pussy

Now, before we proceed with the rest of the article, we assume that you know how to give a woman oral decently well. If not, you should definitely check out our article on eating a woman out here.

The comprehensive guide is going to take you from pussy eating beginner to advanced, given you follow the instructions clearly and apply the techniques properly when eating your girl’s pussy. Learning how to eat pussy properly is one of the best things you can do as a man – you’ll stand out from the hoards of men that have no idea what they’re doing. Anyways, let’s proceed with some basic 69 variations to get you started.

Do women like cunnilingus? Find out in our article here.

Basic 69 Positions

Girl on Top

This one is quite self-explanatory and one of the most basic ways to perform 69. Basically, your girl will be on top of you while you’re lying down flat on your bed. Get her to straddle her legs around your chest, so that her vagina is right above your mouth. When she bends down, she should be able to give you oral in this position as well. You should be able to eat her out now while she’s simultaneously performing oral on you as well.

The advantage of this position is she can control how much you’re getting and she’s receiving. She can also take a break for a moment if things get too intense. Also, usually this position is much more comfortable than the man on top (which we’ll be explaining next), as the woman is usually much lighter.

Make sure both of you are using your hands as well as your mouth as well as you can. Stroking, fingering, licking, sucking, kissing… use all the tricks in your arsenal to maximize the pleasure for your partner.

Man on Top

This is pretty much just the reverse of the girl on top position. With this one, your girl starts lying down on the bed with her legs up and you straddle her chest facing the opposite direction. Your genitals should be able to rest on top of her face, while you should be able to eat her out from the top.

Make sure her legs are raised at an angle where it’s easy for you to reach her pussy with your mouth. With this position, your girl should be able to play with your balls and perineum (the sensitive area between the scrotum and anus) even more as they’re now easier to reach.

As mentioned earlier, if you’re much heavier than your woman, it might be a bit difficult to pull this one off due to the weight difference, as well as the possibility of you crushing or kneeling her.

On Your Sides

For this variation, both you and your girl will start laying down, facing each other, with your heads on opposite ends (so that you can give each other oral). Move in closer so that both of you can start stimulating the others’ genitals. Your head should be in between your girl’s legs, and vice-versa. From a birds-eye view it should kind of look like a yin-yang symbol. When you first try this position, it might feel a bit strange compared to the girl or man on top since you’re both on your sides.

However, it can be as fun and even more advantageous compared to those, especially if there’s a huge weight difference between you two that makes either man or girl on top uncomfortable. In addition, if you plan on going at it for a really long time this is probably the most comfortable variation, as you’re essentially using your partner’s thighs as a pillow as you’re pleasuring them.

Advanced 69 Positions

Standing 69

For this one, you must make sure you’re significantly heavier and stronger than your woman – enough so that you can carry her for a long period of time. What you basically want to do is lift her up by her waist while she’s upside down, so that her pussy is right in your face, and your penis is on her face – while you’re standing.

You can make this process easier by lifting her up while she’s lying down on the bed, since if you lift her while she’s standing she won’t be upside down and you’ll have to flip her around, which can be difficult if you’re not too strong. Once both of you are fairly comfortable, you can start getting to business.

This one takes a bit of time to get used to and master as it requires a good amount of coordination. That being said, this position isn’t for everyone. But don’t worry, the next position will allow you to experience the benefits of this position while being less straining and requiring less coordination and strength.

Sitting 69

With this one, you’ll be starting off sitting down on the edge of the bed, with your feet planted on the floor. Get your girl to come from behind and over you, then bend down so she can perform oral on you.

She should be able to move so that she can rest her legs on your shoulders. You can of course assist her to get into this position. Your hands can support her legs on your shoulders, or if she has good coordination and core strength, you can simply rest your hands on her ass or wherever you please. Her pussy should be right in front of your face at this point – you can go at it like a hungry dog now!

This position might still be a bit challenging, but it’s definitely a lot easier and requires less strength and athleticism than the standing 69. If you want to get into the standing 69 afterwards, you can simply grab her legs and stand up!


The 69 position should undoubtedly be a staple of your sex life. Whatever variation you like the best or is most comfortable for you to do, pleasing each other at the same time orally is extremely satisfying and something you can’t not try with a woman you’re sleeping with.

You can start with the basic 69 positions such as man/woman on top and side 69 – and once you’re comfortable with that you can move on to the advanced ones such as the sitting and standing 69. The advanced ones can get really fun – we guarantee you’ll impress any new girl you sleep with when you manage to pull these off on her.

As I mentioned earlier, being able to give oral like a pro is basically a prerequisite for doing 69 well. It’s no use if you can pull off these positions and have the girl find out your tongue game is weak! You can check out this article that I mentioned earlier if you want to learn how to eat a girl’s pussy like a professional.

Once you can give oral and pull off multiple variations of the 69 position on the girls that you sleep with, you might even find word spreading around and have to fight off unwanted advances from her friends. Whether or not that’s something that you’d like to happen is something for you to decide…

It all depends on your dedication and commitment to learning how to please a girl in the bedroom.

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Laura Rose Halliday

Laura Rose Halliday started The School Of Squirt back in 2012 and has been running the website and digital courses along with Jakob Wulfe since then. She is a full time sex writer, researcher and practicer.

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  1. This is one of my favourite techniques. Feels so good that we’re both pleasuring each other at the same time as getting pleasured.

  2. I agree that the men needs to learn eats pussy, but also the women must learn how to give a blowjob. most still do it wrong. so men and women must learn and keep educate themselves.

  3. one of my girls really likes the sideways 69 but the other can do without it. She prefers it with me on top – says she finds it easier to give me a bj

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