The Ultimate Guide To Sucking Dick (How To Do It Right)

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As any guy will tell you, there’s a big difference between a good blowjob and a bad one. Sucking dick is an art and, like any art form, it takes talent, discipline, and creativity to truly master it.

The good news is you can start learning right now by reading this post. To help you to master the art of fellatio and give your man the best blowjob of his life, we’ve put together this ultimate guide to sucking dick.

We’ll be telling everything you need to know to become an oral expert. We’ll start with the basics, then move on to some advanced techniques that will drive your partner wild. By the end of this guide, you’ll be able to suck dick like a true pornstar.

The Basics of Sucking Dick

Let’s start with some real talk. I don’t mean to patronize you, but just in case you’re completely new at this, I think it’s important to clarify something: sucking dick isn’t about literally sucking the cum out of your partner like some kind of human vacuum.

Your mouth and lips stimulate the nerve endings in his penis, and this is what causes him to reach orgasm and ejaculate, rather than pure suction power.

You are supposed to actually use your breath to suck your cheeks in a little bit, but don’t go overboard. It’s more about gentle sucking combined with a little licking, kissing, and rubbing your lips back and forth over his shaft and glans.

Those are the basics. It isn’t rocket science. But, of course, there’s a lot more to it than that if you want to really master it. The difference between sucking dick like a pro and an amateur is in the details.

There are five key components of a good blowjob:

  • Enthusiasm
  • Eye Contact
  • Dirty Talk
  • Build Up
  • Technique

Let’s take a look at each of them.


A lot of women get too hung up on the technicalities. How fast/slow do you suck? How much pressure do you apply? How far do you take it in your mouth? The truth is, none of that matters all that much as long as you go at it with the right attitude.


Enthusiasm covers a whole world of sins. The more enthusiastic you are, the better. If you’re going at it like a wild animal, he’s going to love it.

Don’t get me wrong, the technique makes a difference too, but we can apply the 80/20 rule here. Your attitude and energy make 80% of the difference between a good blowjob and a bad blowjob; your technique only accounts for the other 20%.

So channel your inner pornstar and let go of your inhibitions. Show him how much you want to suck his dick. Talk dirty and take the initiative.

A great way to do that is to surprise him with a blowjob when he’s least suspecting it, as though you just can’t contain yourself. For example, if you’re watching TV together, slowly move your hand across his crotch and unzip his trousers, then give him a blowjob.

Being the one to initiate it makes you seem totally into it, and guys love that.

Eye Contact

Every man is different when it comes to what they like when their partner goes down on them, but one thing EVERY dude enjoys is eye contact.

Eye contact makes the experience more intimate for both of you. It’s passionate, it’s intense, and it puts you in a more submissive role.

I’ve said before how power play is important to great sex, and the same holds true here. By meeting his gaze while you’re kneeling in front of him, he’ll feel more dominant and have a great view of the action.

Conversely, averting his gaze can potentially make you look a little uncomfortable and like you’re not super into it. We communicate a lot through our eyes and, when you meet someone’s gaze, you come across more confident.

That being said, don’t be too intense about it, and don’t force it if it doesn’t feel natural. If you’ve not been dating for a long time and you maintain unbroken eye contact throughout the whole blowjob, it might come across a little weird. It’s okay to just hold his gaze for a few seconds from time to time before looking away.

Dirty Talk

Dirty talk kind of links backs up with the whole ‘enthusiasm’ thing. He wants to know how much you want to suck his dick, and by talking dirty to him, you can tell him.

The thought of talking dirty can be intimidating, and a lot of people feel too embarrassed to even try out of fear that they’ll come across lame or awkward. This is a shame because dirty talk is a powerful technique to make you better in bed. It makes us feel more liberated and supercharges our sexual polarity.

If you don’t know what to say, don’t worry, it’s simple. All you need to do is either:

  • Say what you want
  • Say what you like

Simple, right? For example, while you’re sucking his dick, tell him how good it tastes or how much you like it, or tell him you want him to cum for you.

Naturally, some couples won’t feel comfortable with dirty talk – and that’s okay. If it feels too awkward, it’s not essential, but if you feel brave enough, give it a go and see how he responds. I bet he’ll love it.

Build Up

It’s not just about the blowjob; it’s about what comes before it as well. Building up his desire and anticipation beforehand is as important as the main event.

That’s why it’s important to start with some teasing and foreplay before you go down on him. We’ll take a look at some ideas for different ways you can do this later on in this guide.


The first thing to know about the technique is that every man is different. Some guys like deepthroating, others don’t. Some guys like you to suck and stroke their shaft or play with their balls at the same time, whereas others prefer your hands out of the way. Some guys like more pressure, others prefer a lighter touch. It totally depends.

There are lots of great cocksucking techniques (which we’ll cover later on) that you can try out, but he’s sure to prefer some of them over others.

The only way you’re going to know what your partner likes best is to experiment and try out different things, or to ask him. Figuring out what works best is part of the fun, you’re not meant to get it right the first time.

How To Suck Dick Like a Pornstar: A Step-by-step Guide

Ok, now you know the fundamentals, let’s put it all together. Here’s a step-by-step guide to sucking dick like a pro.

Step 1: The Preliminaries

As I said, the build-up is an important part of the experience, so you’ll want to start with some foreplay to tease him and get him hard.

Here are a few ideas for different build-up techniques you might want to try.

Kiss Trail

Start by making out with your partner and then slowly start moving your lips south. Kiss his lips, then his neck, then his chest, stomach, and so on, until you reach the target area. You can draw this out for as long as you like to really get him excited.

As he realizes the direction your mouth’s heading in, he’ll get excited, so that by the time you put your mouth around his dick, he’ll already be hard and horny as hell.

This strategy might work better if you’re already in bed together naked, as it’ll give your lips easier access to his body.

Close, But Not Close Enough

Another great way to build up to it is to use your mouth and tongue to tease your man by working around his dick. Rather than taking his cock into your mouth straight away, kiss around his crotch or use your tongue to lick his balls. You can even lick the tip gently, before pulling away again, to really tease him.

All the anticipation will leave him really desperate for it, and when you do finally get to the main event, he’ll enjoy it all the more.

Make Him Ask For It

The build-up is a great time to incorporate some dirty talk. For example, you could try unzipping his pants slowly and taking his dick into your hands first, then getting down on your knees and asking him what he wants you to do next.

You already know what he wants you to do, but by making him ask for it, you’re bringing some dirty talk into the bedroom, which heightens the sexual energy.

You’re also putting yourself in a submissive role. By giving him the option of telling you what to do, you’re putting him in charge. If those are the kind of power roles you like to work with, you should definitely try this technique out.

Step 2: Blowing him

Once you’re done with the foreplay, it’s time to move onto the main event. You’re going to take his dick in your mouth and start blowing him.

The most basic way to blow him is with the standard ‘up and down’ (see further below) technique, but you can experiment with different techniques to see what he likes best.

I’m not going to get into specific techniques right now as there are too many options to cover, but we WILL cover them later on in this guide. Once you’ve read the whole thing, you’ll have some ideas to try out.

However, there are some general rules and guidelines you should always stick to. Let’s explore them.

Keep It Wet

When it comes to sucking dick, the wetter, the better. Nobody likes a dry blowjob, so make sure to have a drink of water beforehand so that you’re well-hydrated and use lots of salivae.

Apply The Right Amount Of Pressure

Secondly, be aware of the pressure. Your dude’s penis is sensitive, especially underneath the head (glans), as it’s filled with thousands of nerve endings. Don’t go overboard and apply too much pressure, and don’t be too rough with it.

Don’t Use Your Teeth

Thirdly, try and keep your teeth out of the way. You don’t want them to catch on his skin painfully while you’re sucking his dick, trust me – it’s a total mood killer.

If he’s particularly well-endowed, keeping your teeth out of the way can be a little difficult, as it might barely fit in your mouth. In that case, wrap your lips back around your teeth (like a kind of reverse-pout). This will put your lips between your teeth and his dick to act as a kind of barrier.

Keep It Varied

And finally, think about variety. Doing the same thing over and over again can get a little boring for both of you, not to mention tiring for your mouth muscles. Keep him on his toes by changing it up once in a while. For example, if you’ve been sucking up and down his dick for a minute and your mouth needs a break, take it out, spit on it, and stroke it for a few moments.

Not only does this provide a break for you, but it’ll also change up the pressure for him, which is great.

That being said, don’t make the mistake of changing things up too often. Repetition is important too. If you’ve found something that seems to be working, try to get into a rhythm and stick with it for a while. Don’t bounce from one thing to the next every few seconds.

Step 3: Finish In Style

Alright, now let’s talk about the finish. This is actually probably the most important stage of the whole process, as it’s what this has all been working up too. You want his orgasm to be as powerful and satisfying as possible so that all your hard work doesn’t go to waste.

You’ll know when he’s close to finishing as his breathing should pick up, his body might start tensing up, and he might get a little more vocal.

When this happens, keep doing whatever it is you’re doing. Now isn’t the time to try new things as that can throw him off and ruin it.

His penis will also get hypersensitive when he’s about to come. So sensitive, in fact, that too much stimulation can actually be painful. On the other hand, if you stop stimulating it completely, he might not be able to finish.

That’s why you need to strike a balance here. You still need to give him a bit of simulation, but when he’s on the verge of cumming, you need to slow it down. Stop rubbing vigorously and start licking, sucking, and stroking very slowly and gently to drag that final blissful moment out as long as powerful. The upshot of this is that his orgasm will last longer and be incredibly powerful.

Another important thing to think about here is where you want him to cum. Thanks to porn, a lot of guys also fantasize about how they finish. Some guys really enjoy facials; others might prefer body-shots, etc.

You can ask your partner what he likes or, if you want to be really naughty, ask him to cum somewhere. Shouting “cum on my face, baby” when you’re sucking his dick is super hot.

Here are a few different ideas worth considering.

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A lot of guys love to see their partners swallow their loads, so it can be a great way to finish if you’re willing to give it a go.

However, it isn’t for everyone. Some women don’t like the taste, texture, or sensation, and that’s perfectly okay. Don’t beat yourself up if it just isn’t for you.

That being said, if you’d like to swallow cum, but you can’t deal with the taste, there are some things you can do to make it go down easier. For example, you can put something like chocolate or whipped cream on your partner’s manhood to make it taste better.

If you do swallow his load, do it with attitude. Act like it’s the most delicious thing you’ve ever had in your mouth. Maybe lick your lips or open your mouth to show him it’s all gone. Again, this links back to the point we made about enthusiasm earlier. Making it seem like you want nothing more than to swallow his come is sure to drive him wild.


If you don’t want him to come in your mouth, try and finish with a handjob instead. That way, it’ll go over your hand (or into a tissue/condom if you don’t want to make a mess) rather than in your mouth.

Many guys find it easier to finish with a handjob anyway as you can deliver more pressure and speed in the run-up to his orgasm.


Facials can be an incredibly hot and submissive way to finish. At the last second, pull your man’s dick out of your mouth and rub it so that he ejaculates over your face. If you want to take it up a notch, after he’s finished, you can use your fingers to wipe it off and lick them clean.

A lot of men (and women) are really turned on by the idea of a facial but, if you’re not, don’t feel compelled to try it out. Many women feel the same, and it certainly isn’t for everyone.

Body Shots

Body shots are like facials except instead of ejaculating on your face; he shoots his load somewhere else on your body. This might be your neck or breasts (we call this a ‘pearl necklace’), back, butt, or even your feet (especially if you have a foot fetish).

Again, if you want to turn up the heat, you can rub his cum into your breasts/body when he’s finished.

Cock Sucking Techniques

Now that you know how to suck dick like a pro, let’s look at some different cock sucking techniques you might want to experiment with and incorporate into your blowjobs.

The Up and Down

The ‘Up and Down’ is the most standard, basic dick sucking technique there is. If there was a dick sucking manual out there, this would be on page one.

All you have to do is make your lips into a tight ‘O’ shape around his penis to apply pressure, then bob your head up and down. As you move your head up and down, his penis goes in and out of your mouth. You’re essentially simulating a handjob with your mouth. You can take it as deep as you feel comfortable with.

This should be the bread and butter of your blowjobs. You’ll be using this technique probably 70-80% of the time you’re sucking his dick, but throwing in a few other techniques here and there for variety.

If you’re a complete newbie and you’re not feeling very confident, I’d stick to this technique the first few times you give your partner oral before you try more advanced stuff.

Slow Licking

Licking is another staple technique to add to your dick-sucking arsenal. A lot of guys love it when their partners lick their shaft or head.

Try incorporating some long, slow licks up and down his shaft the next time you’re giving head to build up the sexual tension and change up the sensation for your man.

Frenulum Flicking

Frenulum flicking has you using your tongue again but in a different way. This time, you’ll be using the very tip of your tongue to gently ‘flick’ the underside of his penis, where the shaft joins the glans. This part of his penis is called the frenulum, and it’s one of the most sensitive parts.

You can move the tip of your tongue up-and-down or side-to-side, or ‘draw’ small circles. It all does the same job.

Throw in a little frenulum flicking in between sucking his dick with the up and down technique and slow long slow licks up his shaft, and you’ll blow his mind.

Focus On The Head

The head is another sensitive pleasure spot for men, so give it some love. Focus on licking and sucking just the head of the penis using a small amount of pressure. A lot of guys go crazy for this technique because of the added sensitivity, just make sure you don’t apply too much pressure as the sensation can be overwhelming.


One way to focus on the head is to use a technique we’re calling ‘The Twister’. To try it out, hold his penis steady in your hand and move your tongue in a circle round the head. Play around with the speed and direction to keep him on his toes.

Deep Throating

Deep-throating is an advanced technique that I wouldn’t recommend trying until you’re comfortable with your partner and ready to experiment. You’ve probably heard of it already as it’s often used in porn and is something that a lot of men fantasize about.

As the name suggests, you’ll be taking his penis right down deep into the back of your throat. When his dick comes into contact with your throat, it can trigger your gag reflex. This causes your throat to spasm, which provides extra stimulation for your man right the way up and down his dick.

What makes this technique so appealing is how submissive it is. You’re literally gagging on his dick, which makes him feel all-powerful. If you like to be in a submissive role, and your partner likes to be dominant, you’ll probably love deepthroating.

That being said, it can be intimidating if you’ve not done it before. It also takes a while to get used to, and the feeling of ‘choking’ or ‘gagging’ isn’t something that every woman is ok with. If you don’t want to try it, that’s cool. If you do give it a shot, maybe establish a safeword beforehand so you can call it off if things get too intense.

Penis to Cheek

Another easy technique to try out is to press/rub the tip of his penis against the inside of your cheek. This has the advantage of providing added pressure and stimulation to the glans while leaving your tongue and lips free to explore the shaft.

Spit and Stroke

A blowjob isn’t just about the mouth. Your hands can and should play an important role in the experience too. Not only because switching to your hands will give your mouth and jaw a break, but also because it feels good for him.

One technique worth trying out is the ‘Spit and Stroke.’ Here, you pull his cock out of your mouth and spit or dribble saliva on it. Then, you use one or both hands to rub back and forth along the shaft and/or tip.

Jerk and Suck

The ‘Jerk and Suck’ is a slight variation of the above. Again, you’ll be giving him a handjob, but this time, you’ll be doing it while sucking him at the same time.

Take the tip of his penis into your mouth and use one or both hands to grab his shaft. Then, start licking and sucking on the tip (the ‘Twister’ might work well here) while running your hands up and down his shaft.

Bonus Dick Sucking Tips

Before we wrap up, here are a few bonus dick sucking tips worth mentioning.

Play With His Balls

It’s not all about his dick; his balls need love too – so don’t forget about them. There are plenty of ways to work his testicles. You can lick them, suck them, kiss them, or play with them with your hand.

Whatever you do, just remember the golden rule: be gentle. A man’s testicles are a lot more sensitive than his penis, and not necessarily in a good way. You’ve heard dudes complain about how bad a kick in the nuts feels, right? Well, that should tell you something about this part of the body – it needs to be treated with care.

You’re unlikely to hurt him with kissing or licking, but if you suck them, be extra careful. Likewise, if you use your hands to cup or play with his balls while you’re sucking his dick, don’t for the love of god grab them too hard. He won’t thank you for that.

Also bear in mind that every guy is different. A lot of men won’t like you touching their balls at all. If you try it out and get the impression that your partner is one of them, cease and desist.

Throw In Some Anilingus

Aside from his penis and testicles, his perineum is another erogenous spot that you can include to heighten the pleasure. His perineum is the patch of skin in between his testicles and his anus. You might know it by one of it’s more colloquial names, like the ‘gooch,’ ‘taint,’ ‘choad,’ or ‘Biffin’s bridge.’

Some guys really like it when you lick these areas; others hate it. If your partner is in the former camp, you can mix things up by tonguing the area while you’re giving him a blowjob. Of course, if your mouth is going near his butt, you need to make sure you’re following good safety and hygiene practices.

Add Some Sauce

Another great tip to take your blowjobs to the next level is to add some sauce. By that, I mean things like maple syrup, cream, champagne, or ice cubes.

I’ve mentioned already how this can be a great way to drown out the taste of his semen, but that’s not the only benefit.

If you use warm or cold extras, like ice cubes or warm chocolate syrup, it can introduce new sensations for him. A lot of guys say that blowjobs with a cold mouth are their favorite, so you could try leaving an ice cube in there while you go down on him.

Final Thoughts

That concludes this ultimate guide to sucking dick; we hope you learned something! All that’s left to do now is to put the knowledge you’ve learned today into practice and try some of these techniques out with your partner.

Have fun!

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