Pillow Humping 101: All You Need to Know (& How to Do It)

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Pillow Humping 101: All You Need to Know (& How to Do It)

Here’s a secret ladies: you don’t need fancy dildos and expensive vibrators to pleasure yourself. You already have an amazing sex toy lying around your home right now – your pillow.

Pillow humping is one of the best-kept solo masturbation secrets. In this article, we’ll be telling you all about it and revealing how you can achieve mind-blowing orgasms using only your pillow.

Even if you’re already a pillow-humping veteran, you still might want to stick around until the end, as we’ll also be revealing some advanced techniques and positions that can help you to take things to the next level.

Ready? Let’s start with the basics.

What is Pillow Humping?

Pillow humping is exactly what the name suggests. It’s the act of humping a pillow to masturbate by stimulating your clitoris. Pillow humping is a solo activity that mostly only women engage in. However, some men also pillow hump when they masturbate.

Although it’s not the most common form of female masturbation, it is surprisingly popular. Pillow humping veterans across the net rave about how stimulating and arousing a pillow can be. Some women even claim that pillow humping orgasms are the best they’ve ever had. Once you’ve tried it once, you’ll be hooked.

Are you interested in giving it a try yourself? Keep reading to find out why it’s so awesome and how to use it to achieve shaking orgasms, again and again.

What are the Benefits?

There are many reasons why humping a pillow is a great masturbation technique to try next time you’re having some alone time, but here are the main benefits.

You Can Chain Up Orgasms

If you’re already aware of the joys of clitoral stimulation, you may have found out how easy it is to chain up mind-blowing orgasms when just stimulating your clit.

Many women find it much easier to climax when they focus on the clitoris, and it’s a well-known fact that you can easily enjoy orgasm after orgasm when grinding or rubbing on your clit. Thankfully, pillow humping isn’t a penetrative masturbating technique, it’s all about the clit, so if you’re enjoying yourself, you can draw out the fun for as long as you like.

In most cases, you will need to give your body a moment or two to reset between orgasms but, once you feel those tingly sensations rising again, you can hump to your heart’s content.

You Don’t Need Any Fancy Sex Toys To Have Fun

Let’s face it, stimulating your clit with your hands every time gets old after a while. Unfortunately, alternative sex toys like vibrators can be expensive and, if you’re strapped for cash, they may simply be out of the question.

That’s what makes pillow humping a great option – it’s free. You don’t need to spend money on a fancy vibrator or clit toy; you can just use your trusty pillow to reach orgasmic bliss.

Almost everyone has a pillow lying around that they can use to make things more exciting, and you won’t need to have any awkward conversations with your partner about where the sex shop transaction on your bank statement came from.

It’s Easy To Pillow Hump Discreetly

Everybody wants their ‘me time’ to be a private orgasmic affair but, if you live in close quarters with other people, it can sometimes be hard to keep your private time private.

Sex toys with motors, such as vibrators, can be noisy. When your roommates hear a low buzzing noise coming from your bedroom, it probably won’t take them long to figure out what it is you’re getting up to.

Pillows, on the other hand, are silent. When using your pillow for stimulation, all you’ll have to do is curb your screams of pleasure when you orgasm, and no-one will have any idea what’s going on.

Also, you don’t have to worry about those awkward situations when you accidentally leave your dildo or vibrator lying around. Pillows are inconspicuous, and to the untrained eye, they just look like – well – a pillow!

It Feels Similar to Sex With a Partner

Vibrating sex toys and dildos are a lot of fun, but when using them, I sometimes find it’s hard to get in the zone because they feel a little impersonal. With pillow humping, the experience is totally different.

You have a large mass that you can grab onto and hold whilst you hump, and this can make it a much more enjoyable experience.

If you like to use your imagination when you’re masturbating, clinging onto your pillow can make it easier to imagine that you are clinging on to a partner. It’s also great for those in long-distance relationships that rely on masturbation to keep the sexual side of their relationship alive.

You Can Do It Anywhere You Find a Pillow

Once you’ve experienced the joys of pillow humping, you can literally stimulate yourself wherever you find a pillow.

You don’t need to worry about the airport security finding your dildo in your hand luggage next time you go on a business trip. You can travel toy-free and rest safe in the knowledge that the super plump hotel pillows will help you relax after a day of mind-numbing meetings.

Why You Rarely Hear About The Joys of Pillow Humping

Although pillow humping is one of the sexiest ways to get yourself off, there really isn’t that much info about it online.

For some reason, it’s rarely talked about as one of the best ways for women to masturbate, but that doesn’t mean that it’s not awesome. Here are the reasons why pillow humping is the female world’s best-kept secret.

A Lot of Women Don’t Like to Talk About Masturbating

It’s 2020. Women are supposedly equal in society, but, unfortunately, lots of women still find it hard to be open and honest about their sexuality.

If the women of the world were forced to tell the truth about their masturbating habits, pillow humping would likely be one of the most popular techniques out there. Like I mentioned above, pillow humping is discrete and doesn’t require any special equipment and, therefore, it’s probably a lot more mainstream than you think.

Why am I saying this? Because I want people to know that humping a pillow is totally normal. No one should be embarrassed by their pillow humping fantasies. Indulge them and get your kicks your way! That’s what self-pleasure is all about.

There’s No Money To Be Made

Most of the reason that vibrators and other masturbation aids are so popular is that there is a lot of money in the sex toy industry. Most of the articles on Google about masturbating are upselling one toy or another, and many people are simply the victim of sex shop marketing strategies.

However, this aggressive marketing makes women forget about the simple things in life. You don’t need a fancy piece of tech to enjoy raw human pleasure; all you need is the soft and erotic stimulation that a simple pillow can provide.

Unfortunately, there isn’t much money in selling pillows for masturbation, so you don’t get to hear that much about how fun humping pillows can be.

How To Hump a Pillow And Experience a Mind-Blowing Orgasm

If you’ve gotten this far, you’re probably sold on the idea of humping your pillow all night long, and I don’t blame you!  However, if you’ve never tried humping a pillow before, you may need a little guidance in order to achieve a truly mind-blowing orgasm (or orgasms). With that in mind, here’s my 10-step guide on how to hump a pillow like a pro.

Wait Until The Mood Strikes You

A pillow is an everyday item, and, therefore, it might be hard to see it as an object that can provide you with pleasure. That’s why it’s important to wait for a time when you’re feeling horny, and you’re ready for some self-pleasure.

If you simply just start rubbing yourself with a pillow at a random time, you’ll probably struggle to get in the zone. Wait until a moment when you’re feeling comfortable and in the mood before you reach for the pillow.

Get Dressed Up In Your Sexiest Underwear

Self-pleasure is all about treating yourself, so you’re likely to have more fun if you’re feeling sexy. And when you look sexy, you feel sexy.

Ladies, you don’t have to banish your sexiest lacy panties to the draw when you don’t have a man in your life, you can enjoy them on your own too. Choose your favorite underwear set and don it with pride.

Also, consider what kind of material you want to wear as you may decide that you don’t even want to take your panties off when you’re humping. Lace and other rough materials are great for clitoral stimulation, and the right pair of panties can really enhance your orgasmic experience when humping. If you have a pair of vibrating panties, even better.

Choose The Right Pillow

Choosing the right pillow is essential for having the most enjoyment possible when pillow humping. There are a lot of different factors that influence the experience, such as texture, firmness, and size. You want a pillow that is going to be comfortable to hump, and that will allow you to get into your preferred humping position easily.

At first, you might want to try a few different pillows to see what works best for you. I’d recommend having a few different options on hand before you get started. This will help you to stay in the moment if you feel you need to switch things up midway through your hump session.

Sexy materials such as silk and lace feel great on your clit when humping, but if you like things a bit rougher, you could also try some more coarse materials.

Enjoy Your Favorite Porn or Naughty Novel

Pillow humping is much more enjoyable when you are already feeling super-horny, so the best thing to do is get yourself turned-on by indulging in whatever activity it is that gets you hot. Load up your favorite porn movie, get comfortable in your bed, and set the scene.

If you’re the literary type, dig out your favorite erotic story and re-read the sexiest chapters. When you feel yourself getting hot and moist down below, it’s time to grab your pillow of choice and get to humping.

Start Slow and Relax

When you first start humping your pillow, things may feel a little awkward, and you might need to take some time to find the right position and rhythm. For women, humping isn’t always an intuitive action, especially for hetero women. As such, you might need some time to adjust and find what works for you.

My advice is to start slow, experiment, and find that humping style that gives you the most pleasure. It may take some time to find your flow, but when you do, it will be more than worth the effort.

Go For Gold

Once you’ve found the right position that provides you with ultimate stimulation, all that’s left to do is hump away until you float off into the pleasure zone.

As soon as you start to feel those waves of pleasure, you can change up your position so that you can hump harder and faster if you want to. Increasing the speed of your thrusting will help to stimulate your clitoris even more rigorously and, once you start doing this, a mind-blowing climax is just around the corner.

If You Need to Go Bare, Go For It

Although I personally believe that wearing panties to hump is really enjoyable, you may find that you need skin contact with your pillow to achieve effective stimulation.

If this is something you experience, don’t be afraid to whip off your panties and have some intimate contact with your pillow. If you decide to go bare, it’s a good idea to choose a pillow that is easy to wash, as it’s likely to absorb some of your vaginal fluids, especially if you’re having a super-steamy time.

Fold The Pillow If Needed

If by this point, you’re still having problems fully stimulating your clitoris with the pillow, you may need a little more rigidity. The easiest way to make a soft pillow firmer is to fold it over. This will compact the fibers and make it feel much more firm.

The firmer your pillow, the easier it will be to get some rigorous rubbing action on your clit. Some women prefer softer stimulation, but if you like it hard, folding is the way to go.

Use Your Hands To Increase Stimulation

After humping for a while, you may feel as though you need some extra stimulation to reach the height of your orgasm. If so, don’t be afraid to use your hands for some super-targeted clitoris stimulation. A little extra stimulation could make your orgasm all the more intense and, if you’re in a rush to get to the finish, a bit of finger action goes a long way.

Go For Round 2 If You’re Still Feeling in The Mood

Had the time of your life on your wild pillow ride? There’s no need to stop at just one orgasm. If you’re lucky, you’ll be able to go for round 2 just a few minutes after your first orgasm, and then round 3, 4, and 5 after that.

If you’re really lucky, you won’t even have to wait a few minutes; the orgasms will just keep on coming in very quick succession. However, this is not that common. Most women need at least a minute or so to get back into the groove, so you can keep your self horny while you wait by continuing to watch your porno or read your erotic novel.

Bonus Tip: Don’t Forget To Clean Your Pillow

An enjoyable humping session may cause you to drip or squirt all over your pillow. Remember to wash your pillow after humping, as you may leave some of your natural womanly scent on it, which might be noticed by visitors.

My advice is to use pillows that have protective covers and removable pillowcases on them; then, you can simply sling them in the washing machine as soon as you’re done humping.

Top Pillow Humping Positions

Pillow humping is a fine art, and to really get the most out of your experience; you need to choose the right position. Here are some of my favorite positions for humping pillows.

Over the Hump

The Over the Hump position is so simple anyone can do it. It’s a great position for creating a lot of friction and gravity that will help you to hump the pillow vigorously enough to achieve that knee-shaking orgasm.

Technique: Lie on your front with the pillow underneath you. Use your elbows and knees to raise your body up and down to thrust the pillow beneath you.

Why It’s Great: It’s perfect for beginners, and it provides ultimate clit to cushion contact.

On Your Knees

This position is great for any girl who loves to grind. The position of the pillow means it won’t move around too much, and you’ll be able to grind on the pillow as hard or as soft as you like.

Technique: Kneel on the bed with the pillow between your legs. Grasp the pillow with your hands and move your pelvis back and forth to rub the pillow on your clit.

Why It’s Great: It’s a great position for working up some speed with your humping, and it isn’t too physically demanding.

Solo Snake

This position is great for those that are using an angled sex pillow or firm pillow. It will allow you to get some serious humping done and it’s a great position for imagining you’re humping a real person

Technique: Lie face down and raise your hips slightly using your knees. Put the pillow directly underneath your clit and hump away.

Why it’s great: This is the perfect position for when you want to get really carried away. It’s comfortable but extremely stimulating.

Surface Straddle

If you want to kick things up a notch when humping, the Surface Straddle is an advanced pillow humping position that you might like to try.

Technique: Place the pillow on the edge of a surface such as the edge of your bed. With one foot on the floor and one knee on the bed, thrust downward or grind along with the pillow.

Why it’s great: This position is perfect if you want to go really hard with your humping.

Pillow on Top

This is the easiest and comfiest pillow humping position. Perfect for those times when you’re chilling in bed, and the mood strikes you.

Technique: Lie on your back with your knees up and place the pillow between your legs. Use one hand to apply pressure to the pillow above your clitoris. Then thrust upwards into the pillow.

Why it’s great: It’s comfy, sexy and relaxing and you’ll be able to see everything that’s going on down there.

Alternatives to Pillow Humping

Just started exploring the joys of masturbation? Welcome, you’re going to have a great time. Pillow humping is just one of the ways you can stimulate yourself in order to have a mind-blowing orgasm.

Don’t wait around for a man to do the dirty work; you can enjoy a lot of intense pleasure on your own. Here are some arousing alternatives to pillow humping.

Use a Vibrator or Dildo

Using a vibrator is a great way to achieve clit stimulation like you would when pillow humping. Dildos, on the other hand, are more suited to internal stimulation, but they can be great for stimulating the clit too.

If you want to imagine you are grinding on a guy’s cock, then a super realistic dildo may be just what you need. Sex toys like vibrators and dildos don’t have to break the bank either; you can buy lots of budget-friendly masturbation aids online on sites like Love Honey.

Use Your Hands

Not everyone will want to invest in a sex toy as soon as they start masturbating, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t have some fun. Using your hands to explore your body is one of the best ways to find out what you’re into.

If humping your pillow didn’t get you hot, it may be because your clit needs more targeted attention to be fully stimulated. Your fingers are the best thing for this, as you can increase or decrease the pressure until you find that perfect sweet spot.

Also, like pillow humping, masturbating with your fingers is super discreet, and you can do it pretty much anytime the mood strikes you. Check out this post for some awesome solo masturbation techniques.

Hump Something Firmer

Humping a pillow doesn’t work for everyone, as pillows are pretty soft, and some people need much firmer friction to reach orgasm. If you still have the urge to hump, but your pillow isn’t quite hitting the spot, try humping something firmer.

The edge of your mattress is a good choice, or maybe even something else in your room, such as a chair or table.

One word of caution when it comes to harsher surfaces, the clitoris is notoriously sensitive, so as soon as going hard no longer feels good, stop what you’re doing and move onto something softer. You don’t want to injure yourself when you’re supposed to be pleasuring yourself.

Use the Shower to Stimulate Your Clitoris

Another great way to achieve a clitoral orgasm is by stimulating your clit using the shower water. If you have a power shower, then you’re sure to really love this. Just turn the showerhead onto the narrow jet mode for targeted pleasure and enjoy.

The hot and steamy water hitting your clit can give you a truly orgasmic experience. An added bonus is that you don’t need to worry about moaning too loud as the sound of the shower water will mask the sounds of your pleasure.

The only problem with masturbating in the shower is that it’s kind of hard to watch porn whilst you’re in there. However, if you’ve got a vivid imagination, and you like being steamy and wet when you orgasm, this could be perfect for you.

How To Enjoy Clitoral Stimulation When You’re Not Going Solo

Once you’ve experienced the joys of pillow humping, it can be hard to replicate the same experience when you are having sex with someone else.

Guys, in particular, can be a bit dense when it comes to clitoral stimulation, and if it’s clit play that gets you going, then you may need to do a little groundwork to ensure that you get some whilst he is humping away. Here are some easy ways to include clitoral stimulation in your sexual encounters.

Get Your Partner to Give You Head

Receiving head is the perfect sexual escapade for someone who loves clitoral stimulation. When your partner goes down on you, tell them how you want them to lick and kiss your vagina.

Some people make the mistake of sticking their tongue inside the vagina – this can be pretty boring, and you may not feel any stimulation at all. Instead, your partner should focus on licking, flicking, sucking, or blowing on your clitoris. I’ve you’ve become a pro pillow humper; this type of stimulation is likely to give you similarly intense orgasms.

Try Dry Humping Positions

Dry humping is another fun way to turn your personal pillow humping fetish into a joint activity. If you’re sleeping with a guy, you can position yourself on top of him and glide your clitoris along his cock to stimulate yourself. You can also hump him to provide clitoral stimulation.

If you go with the humping method, try not to hump too hard since you might hurt his penis or his balls in the process. But, if your man likes it rough, you can hump as hard as you like.

If you’re sleeping with a woman, the principle of dry humping is the same. It works great to stimulate both partners if you lock your legs together in a scissor position and hump so that your clitoris rub on one another.

Related: Lesbian Sex Positions | The Ultimate Guide

Rub Your Clit With Your Hands To Enhance Penetrative Sex

The easiest way to introduce some self-stimulation during sex is to use your fingers to stimulate your clit. Simply slip your hand between yours and your partner’s pelvis, and the thrusting should do the rest of the work for you.

As your man thrusts, your finger will be pushed into your clit, and it will create some pretty rigorous motion that is sure to give you the orgasm of your dreams. And what’s more, your man will be left feeling like he is the king of the world after he sees you screaming with pleasure.

Use Sex Toys To Focus On Your Clit

Even when you’re having penetrative sex, there’s no harm in introducing a sex toy to ensure that your clit gets some loving too. You can just use your fingers to stimulate yourself whilst he humps, but it’s more fun to add a sex toy into the mix.

Vibrators are particularly good in this scenario, as that will give you a completely different sensation that your man’s internal penetration will. Don’t worry too much about getting your sex toy involved; most men won’t take it as an insult, they’ll just think that you’re super horny and that you know how to have a good time.

Use a Sex Pillow

Sex pillows are also a useful tool for the bedroom, and they’re perfect for pillow humpers. The angles of sex pillows will help you and your partner to get in all sorts of kinky positions.

If you pick a position where you are being penetrated from behind whilst lying with your clit to the pillow, the thrusting motion will force your clit straight into the sex pillow. It should feel just like solo humping, with a bit of extra penetration.

Final Thoughts

Whether you’re looking for a new masturbation technique or you have the uncontrollable urge to hump when you’re horny, pillow humping is the way to go.

What are your experiences with pillow humping? Feel free to contact us if you have any questions or comments.

Laura Rose Halliday

Laura Rose Halliday started The School Of Squirt back in 2012 and has been running the website and digital courses along with Jakob Wulfe since then. She is a full time sex writer, researcher and practicer.


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  1. Amazing article, would love to read more on pillow maturation. Could you cover some topics of pillow fetishism among women?

  2. I’ve done this before even knowing there are pillow humping clips in adult hubs. I think it’s in a female’s instincts to find something to stimulate the clit and enjoy herself.

  3. I’ve done this before even knowing there are pillow humping clips in porn sites. I think it’s in a female’s instincts to find something to stimulate the clit and enjoy herself.

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