The Complete Guide to Giving Good Head (How to Do It Right)

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Men love blowjobs. There’s no doubt about it. Any woman who knows how to give good head will have the key to a man’s heart, mind, and balls.

But there’s more to sucking him off than just pretending he’s a lollipop. In this article, I’ll be revealing some of my best secret techniques and methods to give him the ‘best blowjob ever‘. I’ve interviewed pornstars, talked to hundreds of men, and learned from the very best oral experts out there, so if you think you’re ready to make your man addicted to oral sex then stay tuned.

At the end of this article, I’ll also be sharing some of my favorite (and little known) accessories that take the oral experience to the next level, so make sure you stick around for the whole thing.

What Does ‘Giving Head’ Mean?

‘Giving head’ refers to the act of performing oral sex on another person. Although the phrase giving head can be used to refer to oral performed on a male or a female, it’s more commonly used to describe performing oral on a man, which most people refer to as a blowjob.

Oral sex is a staple part of sexual play for many couples, and if you’re just starting out in a new relationship, knowing how to give good head could really help to ramp things up in the bedroom.

Giving head is a broad term that really refers to any sort of oral stimulation, and in this article, we’ll cover everything from general tips to advanced techniques that are sure to blow your man’s mind. But first, let’s start with the basics.

Let’s Talk About Cocks…

To truly know how to pleasure a man with your mouth, you’ll first need to know a little bit about male anatomy. Penises and the surrounding genitalia are intricately designed, and there are a plethora of different ways you can stimulate them in order to make your man’s knees quiver.

Below is a breakdown of the different parts of the penis, testicles, scrotum, and anus, and how you can use them to give head that will make his head explode with pleasure.

The Shaft

The shaft of a man’s penis has the least nerve endings in all the genital region.


Despite this, many people focus mainly on the shaft when giving head, and this is a rookie mistake. Although the up-down sucking motion will help you to eventually bring your man to orgasm, it won’t provide as much sensational stimulation as focusing on other parts of the cock would.

I’m not saying you should neglect to stimulate the shaft completely, but you should try to focus on areas that have more nerve endings, and this will increase the amount of pleasure your man gets from the experience.

The Head (Glans)

The head of the penis, or the glans, is one of the most sensitive spots on a man’s body. Many people compare the glans to the female clitoris due to the number of nerve endings that it has and how sensitive it is.

When going down on him, focusing on the glans with your tongue and lips is a gentle yet extremely erotic way to stimulate him, and it should play a big role in your blowjob technique. Although stimulating only the glans might not bring him to orgasm, it’s likely to provide some of the most enjoyable sensations.

The Scrotum and Testicles

Just like the glans, the scrotum and testicles are extremely sensitive, and although many men will enjoy some gentle scrotum stimulation, you should check with your partner that they’re enjoying it before you continue.

Since the testicles and scrotum are so sensitive, your man may feel uncomfortable having them stimulated, and being too rough in this area can even cause some pain. When it comes to the scrotum and testicles, my advice is to include them in your head giving routine, but be gentle and look for non-verbal cues that might signify that your man is uncomfortable.

However, if you’ve had the go-ahead from your man ahead of time that he loves having his testicles and scrotum stimulated, then go to town and let him enjoy the ride.

The Perineum

The perineum – often referred to as the taint – is the spot between the scrotum and the anus. This is the external gateway to your man’s prostate gland, and massaging this area can stimulate the gland without you having to penetrate the anus.

Since a lot of guys are uncomfortable with anal penetration, perineum play is a great way to utilize the prostate without overstepping any of your man’s boundaries. You can stimulate the prostate via the perineum by tickling or firmly massaging the area. You can also use a sex toy or vibrator to intensify the sensations.

The Frenulum

The frenulum is located just under the head of the penis. The V-shaped spot is similar in sensitivity to the glans, and it’s great for giving some extra stimulation when you’re giving head.

It’s not quite as sensitive as the head of the penis, but it’s a close second, and switching your focus between the two when sucking him will give your man some pretty magnificent sensations.

Other Pleasure Spots

Men also have erogenous zones all over their bodies that help to make sexual play more pleasurable, and it’s pretty easy to include them when giving head.

Like women, many men are suckers for nipple stimulation and can also enjoy zones like their ears, armpits, and inner thighs being kissed and tickled. If you’re keen to drive your man wild before you go down on him, all of these are good options.

Other than those listed above, the anus and prostate are also great spots to stimulate during oral play. I’ve gone into more detail about this below, so if you think it’s something your man would be into, be sure to read on.

How to Give Good Head – A 10 Step Guide

Ok, so now you know about all the different parts of the cock, you’re well prepared to orally pleasure your man. Here’s a 10 Step Guide to follow in order to give your man the ultimate blow job.

1. Get Him In The Mood

If you’re thinking of giving head, it’s a good idea to get your man a little revved up before you get down to business. Any type of foreplay is sure to get him in the mood. Some simple kissing and undressing one another is a good place to start.

Try not to rush into things and slowly get each other in the mood, and you man is likely to enjoy his blowjob that much more once you finally reach his cock. Plus, things will be more fun and sexy for you if his cock is already hard when you start giving him head.

2. Explore His Body

Before dropping to your knees and getting to work on pleasuring his cock, it’s a good idea to give your man a little taste of what he can expect from the blowjob. Try using your mouth to explore his body, focusing on areas that might get him revved up, such as his nipples, ears, and neck.

The more you build up the anticipation, the more appreciative your man will be when you finally move down to his cock. Some guys have a tendency to rush towards orgasms, but if you drag out the foreplay for longer, giving head is likely to be more exciting for both partners.

3. Tease Him

Once you do decide to move down to his cock, it’s a good time to incorporate a little teasing. By this point, your man is sure to want you to put his whole cock in your mouth and start stimulating him so that he can reach an orgasmic point.

However, with giving head, slow and steady wins the race, so be sure to tease him a little with your actions. You don’t need to stimulate him straight away, simply get close to his cock, without actually sucking on it. To make things extra sexy, try drooling on his cock, blowing on it, or kissing the areas around it.

4. Choose a Comfortable Position

Before getting fully started on sucking his cock, it’s a good idea to find a position that is comfortable for both partners. Giving head can be physically demanding for the giver, so make sure you’re fully comfortable, so you don’t have to keep readjusting your position.

You should also try and find a position where the receiver is comfortable too so that he can fully focus on what the giver is doing, and the amazing feelings that he’s experiencing.

5. Explore His Genitals

Once you start performing oral, you should make sure that no stone is left unturned. The main pleasure point on the cock is the head, but guys also enjoy having other parts of their penis and testicles stimulated too. Using your mouth and tongue, explore your man’s cock and balls, and be sure to focus on the spots that he finds particularly thrilling.

As I mentioned above, areas such as the taint (the skin between the scrotum and the anus) can also be very stimulating for men, so think outside the box and have a little fun finding out what you guy enjoys.

6. Don’t Ignore His Balls

Some guys don’t like their balls being sucked, but for most, it’s just as enjoyable as having their cock sucked, so make sure to include a little bit of ball sucking in your routine. Remember that the testicle area is a little sensitive, so try not to be too rough.

Gentle sucking, kissing, and licking are all good ideas, and these actions are sure to leave your guy wanting more. Also, focusing on his balls is a good way to prolong the process, as just sucking his cock is likely to lead to a speedy orgasm.

7. Get Into the Rhythm

Once you’re both feeling super horny, you can then start to stimulate his cock using your mouth. The most common and easy way to do this is to move your mouth up and down the shaft of the penis with your lips closed around it.

If your man likes rough play, he may enjoy things more if you get toothy, but most guys will enjoy the soft pressure from your lips. Try to find a rhythm with your sucking, as this will help your man to reach his climax. You can also consider deepthroating his cock so that the tip of his penis is stimulated by the texture and tightness of the back of your throat.

If you need a break from sucking, you can always use your tongue to continue the fun, whilst you give your jaw a break.

8. Don’t Be Afraid to Use Your Hands

Although giving head is mostly about what you do with your mouth, your hands are also a powerful sexual tool that should be utilized. Oral is extremely arousing for guys, but a lot of guys simply can’t climax with just oral stimulation alone.

Since many guys are used to the vigorous friction experienced when masturbating or having penetrative sex, they need a little extra force to really push them into the orgasm zone.

If it seems like you man is enjoying himself, but he needs a little more, incorporate some hand action as well. You can continue to use your mouth to stimulate the tip of his penis whilst jerking him off with your hand.

9. Show Your Enthusiasm

Giving head can be just as enjoyable for the giver as it is for the receiver, and if your man can see that you’re enjoying yourself, he’s likely to enjoy it more too. Whilst giving oral, don’t be afraid to moan, pant, or exclaim your pleasure and arousal. A lot of guys love it when you worship their cock and tell them how much you love having it in your mouth.

If you want things to be extra fun for you, you can also consider using a sex toy to stimulate yourself whilst you perform oral, or you can use your hands, or his, to do this too. Mutual pleasure is hot, and your man is sure to love watching you have your own fun whilst sucking his cock.

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10. Prepare For The Climax

If you’ve done everything in this list, your man is likely to be super turned on, and an awesome orgasm is basically inevitable. If you want to see the experience through and make his climax just as enjoyable as the build-up, try to think about how you will react when he’s ready to blow.

There are many different options to choose from that are all as erotic as each other, and what you choose will depend on what you and your man will find the sexiest. Keep reading to find out more about what sort of things you can do to make your man’s orgasm more enjoyable.

Advanced Head Giving Techniques

Giving and receiving head is always fun, but if you and your partner are keen to take things up a notch in the oral department, there are a few different advanced head-giving techniques that you could try. Here are some of my favorites.

Butt Play

Want to know the secret of how to give good head? The answer is simple; Anal stimulation. Anal play is super fun, and it’s easily incorporated when giving head.

Anal penetration stimulates the prostate gland, which is often referred to as the male G-Spot. If you stimulate his prostate whilst you give him head, there’s a good chance that he will experience a Super-O as a result of the dual stimulation.

If you’re not keen on the idea of stimulating your man’s anus with your mouth or hands, you can use dildo or butt plug to reach his prostate gland. When penetrating your man, be sure to tread lightly and use a lot of lube, especially if it’s the first time you’ve tried anal play.

It may take your man a little time to come around to the idea, but once he’s experienced the allures of the Super-O, he’ll be wanting you to give him head with the help of a butt plug every time.


Deepthroating is one of the best ways to give your guy a truly orgasmic blowjob experience. If you’re not that used to giving head, then deepthroating can be quite daunting at first, but don’t worry about it too much. Once you give it a try, you’ll realize that it’s actually just as simple as it sounds.

To deepthroat your man, all you need to do is stuff as much of his love length into your mouth as possible. Once his penis reaches the back of your throat, it’s common to feel the urge to gag, but it’s no reason to panic. This is your body’s natural reaction to having something touching the back of your throat. Gagging can be super sexy, and it helps you to produce more saliva, which will make the blowjob even more arousing.

You can also train yourself not to gag as hard when deepthroating, and it’s likely that you’ll get used to it the more often you do it. Check out this guide to learn everything you need to know about deepthroating.

Face Fucking

If you and your partner like things a little rough and your man likes to be in control, then face fucking might be a good way to improve a regular blowjob.

Face fucking is exactly what it sounds like. Your man will literally fuck your face by inserting his penis into your mouth and thrusting. He is in charge of how deep his penis goes into your mouth and what parts of his penis gets stimulated the most.

If your man likes to go super deep, then this would cross over into the throat fucking realm, and although it’s a done thing, it can be dangerous, so be sure that you’ve covered all of your safe signals before you attempt this. I’ve also written a full guide about face fucking if you’re intrigued to learn more.


Edging is a fun way to add a new element to oral play, and it’s sure to leave your man feeling aroused, and maybe a little frustrated.

Edging is the practice of bringing the receiver close to orgasm, only to halt the stimulation, and start the process all over again. Edging can really prolong an oral session and make it a lot more kinky and erotic.

It’s low-level orgasm denial, and it can be fun for couples that are trialing dominance play in the bedroom. Denying your man’s orgasm over and over again will not only show him who’s in control, but it will make his orgasm that much more intense once you finally finish him off.

What To Do When He Comes

If you’ve followed any of the tips above, the likelihood is that your guy will have the time of his life, and this sort of thing usually ends with ejaculation. When giving head, most people simply let their guy cum in their mouths and either swallow the semen or spit it out.

Swallowing is easy, clean, and sexy if that’s what you’re into, which is why most people choose to do it. If you’re thinking about swallowing, there’s nothing to worry about. Swallowing semen is safe to do unless you have an extremely rare semen allergy.

In fact, many people believe there are even some health benefits to swallowing semen.

If you don’t think it’s for you, keep reading for some tips on how to make his climax sexy, without swallowing.

What to Do If You Don’t Want To Swallow

If you don’t particularly like the idea of having your man cum into your mouth, then that’s totally fine.

Not everybody is comfortable with this, and many people hate the idea of swallowing cum. If you fall into this camp, there are lots of things you can do in order to make his climax super-sexy, without swallowing.

If you don’t want to ruin the moment by reaching for the tissues when you’re guys about to cum, here are some other things to try.

Catch It With Your Hands

If you don’t want to swallow his cum, that doesn’t mean you have to completely back off whilst your guy finishes off. Stick around and enjoy the moment with him, but switch to some hand action instead.

Hands are much stronger than mouths, so some hand action right at the end can really push him over the edge. In addition to this, letting him cum into your hands can be just as sexy as having his semen in your mouth.

Let Him Finish On Your Face

It’s no secret that lots of guys absolutely love being able to cum on their partner’s face. In fact, it’s probably a more popular fetish than cum swallowing is.

If you’re ok with having his cum on your body, but you just don’t want it in your mouth, then letting him cum on your face is a great alternative. Remember, cum is a safe bodily fluid.

Aside from it being a little salty, and maybe a little gross to some people, it really is harmless, so you don’t have to fear getting it on your skin.

Let Him Choose His Favorite Body Part

If the thought of him finishing on your face doesn’t float your boat, you could consider letting him finish on another part of your body instead. If your man really loves your ass or your breasts, position yourself so that he can shoot his load whilst enjoying his favorite view.

Your man is sure to enjoy this just as much as coming in your mouth, and it’s an easy way to keep things sexy and erotic without swallowing.

Give Him Your Underwear

All the options above involve letting your man cum on your body in some way, and if you’re not comfortable with that, then this option may be right for you.

Just as your man is about to reach his climax, grab your panties or underwear to catch his cum in.

With this option, you don’t actually have to touch the cum, but you can still be involved in your guy’s orgasm, and he’s sure to find finishing into your underwear super sexy.

Accessories That Make Giving Head More Fun and Erotic

Giving head is always fun, but if your man is getting bored of the same old routine and you want to spice things up a little, the accessories below can help you to do just that.

Flavored Lube

Sucking cock can be fun and sexy, but if you’re not keen on the way your man’s cock tastes, flavored lube is just what you need. It can make it more enjoyable for you to give head, and it can also make it easier.

The added lubrication makes it easier to smoothly glide your mouth along his shaft, and you don’t need to worry about your mouth becoming dry whilst you’re giving head.


In the same way as flavored lube, food items can make giving head more erotic and enjoyable for the giver and the receiver. If you’re keen to draw out the teasing section of the blowjob, eating your favorite foods off of his member can be just the ticket.

Common items that are used when giving head are whipped cream and chocolate sauce. But you don’t have to stop there. Whatever foods make you or your man hot under the collar can be used for a bit of food play during a blowjob. Just remember to make sure that the food you are using isn’t too hot! 


A little bit of roleplay can really spice up a regular blow job, and this fun can be enhanced by using costumes to satisfy your man’s deepest desires. Maybe he has a thing for teachers, leather-clad women, or a certain movie character.

Whatever he is into, try dressing up like his fantasy partner when you go down on him, and it’s sure to give him an out of this world experience. It’s easy to incorporate costumes in oral play, as you don’t need to be naked to provide pleasure and stimulation.


If you want to add a little more kink factor to your oral play, and you enjoy taking on a dominant role in the bedroom, restraints can help to make giving head more exciting for everyone. Tying your man up, or restraining him using handcuffs prevents him from having any control over what happens to his precious penis.

The only choice he has is to sit back and submit to whatever you decide to do to him. For some people, this may sound a little risque, but if you and your partner are fans of BDSM play, this could really make things more exciting. You can buy regular handcuffs or restraints at most sex shops, or you can buy kinkier stuff on sites like


Vibrators are an absolute must-have sex toy, and they are great for providing extra pleasure for both parties when you’re giving head. You can use vibrators to stimulate your man’s perineum to give him dual pleasure whilst you suck his cock.

Also, you can use the vibrator to give yourself a little buzz whilst you’re pleasing your man. Remember, oral play doesn’t have to be all about giving, you can get yours whilst giving good head at the same time, and it’ll only make things more enjoyable for your man too.

Dildos and Butt Plugs

Dildos and butt plugs are a must if you want to stimulate your man’s anus whilst giving him head. Although you can penetrate him with your fingers, it’s much easier to use a specially designed toy as it’s more likely to comfortably reach his prostate.

Any type of dildo or butt plug will do, but be sure to use lots of lube, and make sure your toy is clean before and after use!

Final Thoughts

So there you have it. You’re armed with all the knowledge you need to make your man tremble with joy next time you give him head. Have you got any tips about giving head that you’d love to share? If so, feel free to leave them down in the comments for everyone to enjoy.

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