Let’s be real—your hands have been doing overtime. Loyal? Absolutely. Elite? Not quite. It’s 2025, and your coffee machine has better tech than your orgasm.
The truth? 63% of men who try their first sex toy report more confidence, better well-being, and a deeper connection with their body parts. So if you’re ready to upgrade, here are the top sex toys for men that’ll give your hand the break it deserves—and maybe even early retirement.
In this article, we'll cover:
- The top-rated sex toys for men (with real talk about how each one actually feels)
- How to use these toys for maximum pleasure—whether you’re flying solo or inviting someone to watch
- What women really think when guys use sex toys (hint: it’s not what you expect)
Andrew’s Expert Reviews Of The Top Sex Toys For Men
Look man, I’ve tried a lot of toys—some winners, some total flops. And here’s the raw rundown on what feels good, what’s worth the money, and which ones might just change your life for good.
Toy #1 – Fleshlight (Sex Simulator Masturbator)
- Realistic internal textures designed for a lifelike feel—think ribs, nubs, and varying patterns to maximize pleasure.
- Sturdy outer shell for better grip and control during use, ensuring it won’t slip away mid-session.
How To Use For Maximum Pleasure
Start by running warm water through the Fleshlight to achieve a body-temperature feel. Always use lube (water-based works best). Experiment with different grips, stroke speeds, or even hands-free play by wedging it between cushions or adjusting positions to find what works best for you.
Pros
- Realistic sensation that mimics the real deal.
- Versatile; perfect for solo play or spicing things up with a partner.
- Reusable and easy to clean, making it a great long-term investment.
Cons
- Bulky to hide: It’s not exactly pocket-sized, so storage can be tricky.
- Requires plenty of lube for that smooth, frictionless experience.
Most of my clients kick things off with the Fleshlight—and, they’re obsessed. It’s the go-to classic for a reason, especially if you’re feeling like your solo time’s gotten a little... meh. Total game changer.
Toy #2 – High-End Textured Stroker
- Intricate textures designed to deliver heightened sensations, ensuring every stroke feels unique and intense.
- Soft, skin-like material that closely mimics the real thing, enhancing comfort during use.
How To Use For Maximum Pleasure
Lubricate generously before inserting, then slowly explore the textured sleeve. Squeeze the toy to adjust the pressure, or try edging for a longer, intense build-up. You can experiment with different grip strengths to find the perfect rhythm and intensity.
Pros
- Incredible textures that provide an immersive experience.
- Great for tuning into pleasure points, helping you learn what feels best.
- Discreet and reusable, perfect for long-term use and easy storage.
Cons
- Some can be tricky to clean due to the intricate textures.
- Can get loud if you're using a lot of messy lube—be mindful of the noise!
Toy #3 – Dual-Motor App-Controlled Masturbator
- Dual motor design creates stimulation from multiple angles—more than just standard up-and-down.
- Syncs with interactive adult content, responding to the action in synced videos or VR for immersive play
How To Use For Maximum Pleasure
Charge the toy and apply lube. Open the app to control the vibration settings or connect it to compatible adult content. As the video or VR scene progresses, the toy responds in real-time, adding a layer of realism to your experience.
Pros
- Immersive interactivity with synced video or VR adds a unique visual-physical connection
- Highly customizable through app controls—adjust everything from rhythm to motor zones
- Dual stimulation zones provide a deeper, fuller sensation.
Cons
- On the pricey side, which may be a consideration for some.
- Needs regular charging, which can be a bit of a hassle if you forget.
Toy #4 – Handy Automatic Stroking Machine
- Automatic stroking action with adjustable speeds, allowing you to fine-tune your experience for maximum pleasure.
- Realistic textures inside the sleeve, designed to enhance sensations and mimic real-life experiences.
How To Use For Maximum Pleasure
Apply a generous amount of water-based lube, set it up, and let the stroker do the work. You can adjust the speed and stroke length for your ideal rhythm.
Pros
- Easy to use, making it perfect for men who want a low-effort experience with high rewards.
- Adjustable speed
and stroke lengths to customize the experience.
Cons
- Bulky and hard to hide, which might be a consideration for discreet storage.
- Expensive investment, which may put it out of reach for some.
Toy #5 – Air Stroker For Frenulum
- Targets the frenulum using pulsating airwaves—designed to focus stimulation on one of the most nerve-rich parts of the penis.
- Non-contact pleasure means the sensation comes from air, not friction—perfect for guys who are sensitive or want something totally different.
How To Use For Maximum Pleasure
Lubricate well, then insert and position it so the air pulses target your frenulum. Experiment with the intensity of the airwaves for a soft, teasing sensation or a more intense experience. The waterproof design means you can take it into the shower for even more fun.
Pros
- Feels like nothing else—the airwaves offer a sensation that’s light, focused, and totally unique.
- Helps break the routine if you’re bored with stroking.
- Portable and waterproof—fun to use anywhere from the shower to the nightstand.
Cons
- Not for everyone—some may prefer the traditional stroking sensation.
- Takes time to adjust to the airwaves, so be patient when trying it out.
The first time I tried this style of toy, I thought it was broken—it felt like a ghost was flirting with me. But once it locked onto the frenulum? Game over. It's like a tiny, invisible mouth gently blowing your mind—literally. If you’ve ever thought, ‘I wish someone would just lightly tease me into oblivion,’ this is that toy.
Toy #6 – Hands-Free Vibrating Guybrator
- Hands-free vibrating pleasure that takes all the work off you, allowing for a totally relaxed experience.
- Universal fit that accommodates most sizes, ensuring a comfortable, tailored experience for everyone.
How To Use For Maximum Pleasure
Lube up, slide it on, and let the toy do the heavy lifting. Once you're strapped in, grab the remote and explore the vibration strength—start low and ramp it up as things heat up. Try lying back with your favorite on-screen action or just let your mind wander. Hands-free means you can focus entirely on the sensation and enjoy some seriously intense pleasure without lifting a finger.
Pros
- Remote control makes it easy to adjust settings without interruption.
- Great for solo or partnered play, offering flexibility.
- Adjustable vibration intensity allows you to fine-tune your experience.
Cons
- Not discreet, making it difficult to hide when not in use.
- Pricey, but the experience might be worth the investment.
Toy #7 – Perineum Vibrating Cock Ring
- Dual stimulation for the shaft and perineum, offering unique pleasure from two angles at once.
- Customizable experience with adjustable vibration intensity, letting you easily shift between light and powerful stimulation.
How To Use For Maximum Pleasure
Place the cock ring on, adjusting it to sit comfortably on your perineum. Experiment with different vibration patterns to find the one that gives you the most pleasure. This toy is ideal for solo use or with a partner, adding extra sensations during sex.
Pros
- Enhanced pleasure through the targeted dual stimulation.
- Adjustable fit allows for a customizable experience.
- Waterproof, so you can use it in the shower or tub.
Cons
- Can be uncomfortable at first, especially if you're not used to the fit.
- Not discreet under tight clothing.
This is one of those toys that adds a little spark to your routine. It’s perfect if you want to amp things up without much effort. And if you want to wear it during the day, it’s great for loose-fitting clothes, though I wouldn’t try squeezing it under anything tight—trust me, comfort matters!
Toy #8 – Hands-Free Prostate Massager
- Designed specifically to stimulate the prostate with precision
- Waterproof and ergonomically shaped for comfort and versatility
How To Use For Maximum Pleasure
Lubricate generously, then gently insert the massager. Once it’s in place, use the remote to adjust the vibration settings, experimenting to find your ideal intensity. Take your time, especially if you're new to prostate play. The ergonomic design ensures the massager stays in place as you relax and enjoy the sensations.
Pros
- Delivers deep, focused prostate pleasure.
- Remote makes adjustments effortless mid-session.
- Comfortable enough for beginners and advanced users alike.
Cons
- Takes time to get used to if you’re new to anal play
- High price tag may not suit everyone’s budget
Prostate massagers are a game-changer. Prostate orgasms offer a whole new level of satisfaction. One of my clients was amazed, saying, ‘It’s like finding a hidden pleasure zone I never knew existed.’ Highly recommend this for anyone ready to take their pleasure to the next level.
Toy #9 – Rotating Rimming Anal Plug
- Internal rotating beads mimic the sensation of rimming
- Dual stimulation: rotation + vibration for maximum pleasure
How To Use For Maximum Pleasure
Generously lubricate, insert the plug slowly, and adjust for a snug fit. Activate the rotating beads and vibrations, and use the remote to tailor the experience. Experiment with different rotation speeds and vibration settings to find what feels best. You can also let your partner take control of the remote for extra fun.
Pros
- Feels like a rim job with added intensity.
- Remote makes switching modes easy mid-session.
- Great for both solo and partner play
Cons
- May feel intimidating for first-timers.
- Slight noise at higher settings can reduce discretion.
This toy is a must-try for guys who enjoy anal play but want something extra. One client described it as ‘getting rimmed but in the best way possible.’ It’s perfect for couples looking to spice things up, too.
Toy #10 – Stainless Steel Prostate Massager
- Solid stainless steel construction for intense, targeted pressure.
- Safe, non-porous material that’s easy to clean and ideal for temperature play.
How To Use For Maximum Pleasure
Lubricate well, then gently insert the massager, allowing it to apply targeted pressure to your prostate. Experiment with temperature play by heating or cooling the steel to add extra sensations. The precise, firm pressure helps guide you toward a more intense orgasm.
Pros
- Deep, controlled prostate stimulation.
- Great for advanced users who enjoy pressure over vibration.
- Ideal for heat or cold play to mix up sensations.
Cons
- Can feel too intense for beginners.
- Heavier and more rigid than silicone-based toys
These massagers are classic. The precision it offers is unmatched. It's ‘the perfect balance of pressure and pleasure.’ For those who prefer pressure over vibration, this is a must-have.
Toy #11 – Squeezing Vibrating Stroker
- Textured inner sleeve mimics a dynamic, squeezing sensation for lifelike stimulation.
- Built-in vibrations amplify every stroke for deeper, more intense pleasure.
How To Use For Maximum Pleasure
Lubricate generously, then insert and let the stroker do the work. The internal textures squeeze around your shaft while vibrations intensify with each stroke. Adjust the settings to find the perfect combination of squeeze and vibration for ultimate pleasure.
Pros
- Mimics the sensation of a firm, rhythmic grip of the vagina.
- Combines motion and vibration for a more intense experience.
- Waterproof for shower or bath play.
Cons
- Bulky size makes it hard to store discreetly.
- May not hit as hard as some higher-end vibrators.
Toy #12 – Vibrating Head Massager
- Designed with pinpoint precision to specifically target the head of the penis.
- Offers a variety of vibration modes, allowing you to control and adjust the intensity for a personalized experience.
How To Use For Maximum Pleasure
Place the massager over the head of your penis and explore the different vibration settings. Start with gentler vibrations, gradually increasing the intensity to see what works best for you. This toy is perfect for men who want to focus on the head of their penis for powerful sensations.
Pros
- Focused stimulation for head-sensitive pleasure.
- Compact, easy to handle, and simple to clean.
- Customizable with a wide range of intensities.
Cons
- Limited to tip stimulation only.
- Not ideal for full-shaft or partner play.
Toy #13 – Automated Oral Simulator
- Simulates oral sex with a combo of suction and stroking motion.
- Fully hands-free operation so you can relax.
- Waterproof design for versatile use and easy cleanup.
How To Use For Maximum Pleasure
Lubricate and slide your penis into the opening. Activate the automated stroking and suction functions, adjusting the speed and intensity to suit you. Relax as the toy mimics the sensation of oral sex, leaving you free to focus purely on pleasure.
Pros
- Oral-like suction with stroking for realism.
- Hands-free pleasure lets you fully relax.
- Customizable settings for intensity and rhythm.
Cons
- Too intense for some, especially on higher settings
- Takes effort to clean properly after each use
Toy #14 – Adjustable Pressure Masturbator
- Customizable pressure settings for a tailored, responsive experience.
- Multiple stroking speeds allow you to find the rhythm that delivers the best intense pleasure.
How To Use For Maximum Pleasure
Lubricate generously, then insert your penis and adjust the pressure, and stroking speed to your liking. Experiment with the different settings to find your perfect rhythm. You can control the intensity to tailor the experience exactly how you want it.
Pros
- Pressure adjustability offers a personalized, custom feel, perfect for varying levels of pleasure
- Portable and discreet—easy to store and take on the go, without sacrificing performance
- Quieter than most motorized toys, making it ideal for private moments
Cons
- It can take some trial and error to find your ideal settings.
- Cleaning can be a bit tedious due to the internal mechanics.
If you're the kind of guy who likes to fine-tune his fantasy like he's dialing in the perfect espresso shot—this one’s for you. It’s like a pocket pussy with a control panel. You can crank up the pressure, slow it down, speed it up—whatever your body’s in the mood for. It’s like getting the perfect handjob from a robot that actually listens.
Well, there you have it. Whether you’re after a bit of extra sexual pleasure, a hands-free thrill, or just something to spice up your routine, these toys will level up your solo game. From prostate stimulators to high-tech interactive content, there’s something for every guy. No shame in treating yourself, right?
But what do women think about men using sex toys? Are they a turn-on or a turn-off? Let’s take a look from their perspective.
A Woman's Perspective..
On Men Using Sex Toys
Alright, gents, we’ve heard the inside scoop from you, but let’s flip the script for a sec. As a woman, I’ve got a few thoughts on the whole sex toy situation for men.
I believe men using sex toys isn’t just normal—it’s healthy. Sexual self-exploration isn’t gendered. If women can enjoy vibrators and dildos without shame, why should men feel guilty about sleeves, strokers, or prostate massagers? Toys aren’t replacements for partners; they’re tools to enhance pleasure, reduce performance pressure, and help you connect with your body more deeply.
I applaud men who embrace sex toys. It takes confidence, curiosity, and a rejection of outdated stereotypes.
Now, as much as I stand by that, you might be thinking, “Okay, but that’s just your take—what do most women actually think?” Let’s break down some of the most common (and, pretty surprising) reactions women have to men using sex toys.
A lot of women find it sexy when a guy’s confident enough to use a toy. One woman said, “My boyfriend bought a vibrating stroker—I asked to watch. Now it’s part of our foreplay.” Using toys shows you’re open, self-aware, and into exploring pleasure.
Believe it or not, some women would rather their partner use a toy than watch porn. “At least it’s about his body, not other women,” said one. It feels more personal, less distant—and well, a bit healthier.
"Wait, You're Insecure About That?"
Lots of guys feel awkward about toys, but most women are surprised by that. One woman found her partner’s prostate massager and felt sad that he hid it. Women are used to having toys—it’s no big deal to us, and it shouldn’t be to you.
For many women, toys that help with stamina or pleasure are just smart tools.
“If his Tenga helps him last longer, great,” said one woman. It’s
not a threat—it’s a bonus.
"Okay... Maybe Not the Robot Girlfriend."
The only time women tend to raise an eyebrow? Hyper-realistic dolls, or AI toys that feel like substitutes for actual connection. But cock rings, strokers, prostate massagers? All good.
"I'd Use It With Him—If He Let Me."
Lots of women want to be part of the fun. Many say they’d love to explore toys together, especially if it turns into something intimate, playful, and shared.
So, what’s the verdict? Most women are all about male sex toys as a way to enhance pleasure and keep things exciting.
Sex toys are not a competition—they’re a tool for connection and fun. So, go ahead, don’t be shy—embrace it! And if you’re still feeling a little confused or hesitant? Don’t worry, we’ve got the answers to clear up any questions you’ve got.
Frequently Asked Questions
Now let’s dive into all the awkward, curious, and ‘wait, is this normal?’ questions.
Are male sex toys safe for regular use?
Yes, men’s sex toys are safe for regular use—when made from body-safe, non-toxic materials and cleaned properly. Whether you’re using butt plugs, a male masturbator, or the best prostate massager, prioritize quality and always follow the manufacturer’s instructions. Regular use can even support improved sexual function and body awareness.
Can using sex toys solo affect partnered sex performance?
Solo use of sex toys for men doesn't harm your partnered sex life—in fact, it can enhance it. Devices like penis pumps, the best cock ring, or anal beads can help with stamina, arousal, and pleasure control. Many men experience better erections and more confidence in bed, thanks to more mindful masturbation and exploration.
What’s the best way to clean male sex toys?
Clean up is key to staying safe and prolonging the life of your best sex toys. Use warm water and fragrance-free, antibacterial toy cleaner (or mild soap if recommended). Pay extra attention to toys that go inside the butt or stimulate the prostate gland, like p-spot massagers. Always let your toys dry completely before storing them—preferably in discreet packaging for hygiene and privacy.
Can solo sex toys help with premature ejaculation?
Absolutely. Regular use of male sex toys—especially automatic strokers, vibration modes-enabled toys, or cock rings—can improve control and reduce sensitivity over time. Some men also benefit from anal toys like butt plugs or prostate massagers, which promote sexual exploration and better body control, often resulting in improved sexual function.
Should I tell my partner about my solo toy use?
Yes, being open about your use of male sex toys can lead to better intimacy and even fun, new experiences. Many couples enjoy incorporating sex toys into their routine—think couple’s play with a vibrator, p-spot toy, or a smaller-size stimulator. Open conversations can help both of you feel confident, curious, and more connected.
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