Want to get better at sex and be the best lover you can be? If yes, you're in the right place.
Every man should want mind-blowing sex that's not only fulfilling but makes him feel like THE man in the bedroom.
Moreover, every guy should want to give his partner the experience of her life every time they're together.
This no-nonsense guide, created by compiling my years of experience as a sexuality coach onto a single page, will give you tips and tricks to improve your sex life.
In this article, we'll cover:
Tip 1: Sexual Self-Assessment
The better you know yourself sexually, the better you can connect with someone else sexually.
Understanding Your Sexual Behaviour
Take some time to reflect on what turns you on, what makes you feel comfortable, and what you're willing to explore in the bedroom.
Ask yourself the following questions.
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Tip 2: Must Know Practical Techniques To Improve Sexual Experiences
Once you understand yourself, you can better focus on your partner's needs using these 11 techniques.
#1 - Foreplay
Spend time warming her up with foreplay. This builds anticipation and makes sex more enjoyable.
Focus on her entire body and create the right mood for sex by getting candles and good music.
#2 - Kissing
Don’t underestimate the power of a good kiss.
A kiss is usually a great indicator of how the rest of the experience will go.
Kiss her passionately, firmly, and deeply.
Match her rhythm and synchronize your breath.
#3 - Sex Positions
Experiment with different positions to find what works by hitting different angles and keeping things exciting.
#4 - Oral Sex
#5 - Pussy Massage
Massaging that area increases blood flow and as a result, arousal.
A pussy massage isn't hard but it does take practice.
You can learn how to give a proper pussy massage.
Most women can squirt with the right stimulation.
Focus on the G-spot and use firm, rhythmic motions.
If you like to dive deeper into the secrets of squirting orgasms, we got you covered: Squirting Triggers.
#7 - Anal Sex
This can be highly pleasurable if done right.
Start with a booty massage, try rimming, and add toys gradually to the mix.
Always use plenty of water-based lubricants, go slow, and talk throughout.
#8 - Rough Sex
With consent, rough sex can lead to mind-blowing sex.
Choking, hair pulling, and other rough activities give women a sense of freedom from having to think about what comes next.
Instead, she can relax and give in to sexual pleasure.
#9 - Toys
Using sex toys adds variety.
Not only that, but most women orgasm easily with the help of vibrators, dildos, wands, or clit suckers.
#10 - Role-Play
Spice things up by acting out fantasies.
Pretend to be a nurse/doctor, teacher/student, or boss/employee.
Find something that excites you both and give it a try.
#11 - Aftercare
After sexual intercourse, take time to cuddle, get a snack, hydrate, and talk.
Aftercare makes sure she feels cared for and valued.
Tip 3: Actionable Steps To Overcome Sexual Challenges
Men face various challenges that affect their confidence and performance, from E.D. to losing the spark in a relationship.
These steps will address those issues so you can focus on having fun instead.
Erectile Dysfunction
Not getting it up can be frustrating and embarrassing, but it's a common issue.
It can be caused by stress, anxiety, or health problems.
What To Do
Premature Ejaculation
Cumming too quickly can leave both you and her feeling unsatisfied.
In addition, many men feel embarrassed about losing control. It often happens due to anxiety or lack of control.
What To Do
Delayed Ejaculation
Not being able to cum, even when you want to, can also be a point of frustration.
What To Do
She Is Not Getting Wet
When she’s not getting wet, it makes sex uncomfortable, especially for her.
Women sometimes do not get wet. It happens, and sometimes it has nothing to do with you. However, if it does happen, try this.
What To Do
She Doesn’t Come
When she doesn't come, it can be disappointing for both of you.
She might feel embarrassed or awkward because of the misconception that an orgasm = great sex.
Although it's not true, this puts a lot of pressure on you both.
What To Do
We Lost The Spark
Losing the spark in your relationship can make sex feel routine or boring.
Typically, when the spark goes out the door, great sex flies out the window.
Rekindling that spark takes and finding your way back to a healthy sex life effort from both partners.
What To Do
Tip 4: Andrew’s Expert Insights to Enhance And Deepen Intimacy
Men should focus on building deeper connections with their partners.
It's not just about being close to her physically but also about emotional and mental bonding.
If you feel like your relationship is lacking in one of these areas, you might want to try one or more of these methods.
I. Communication
Good communication is the foundation of any strong relationship. It helps you understand each other’s needs.
Be honest and clear. Avoid assumptions, and ask questions if you’re unsure about something.
Ongoing dialogue can help prevent misunderstandings and bring you closer together.
II. Start Outside The Bedroom
Build intimacy long before getting to the bedroom.
Take care of yourself by exercising, eating, and grooming regularly. This shows you care about your appearance and health.
Spend time with her doing things you enjoy, like walking, cooking together, or watching movies.
Building a strong emotional and mental connection outside the bedroom leads to better experiences inside.
Connect with her on a deeper level, and you'll see the difference in your intimate moments.
III. Breath - Sound - Movement - Vocal Expression
Focus on breath, sound, movement, and vocal expression to make sex more enjoyable.
Breathe deeply and match her rhythm. This syncs you up and creates a strong bond.
Use sounds to enhance sexual pleasure and excitement, as well as to show just how much you're enjoying your time with her. Don't be shy; let her hear you.
Move with purpose and pay attention to her reactions. Adjust as needed to keep her in the moment with you.
Vocal expressions add to the mood and make everything more intense.
Being present and expressive can make a huge difference in your intimate moments.
IV. Perfect Day
This exercise can bring you closer together and help you better understand each other’s needs.
Here’s how to do the "Perfect Day" exercise with your partner.
- 1Get a journal to start this exercise.
- 2Write down your perfect sexual day from start to finish. Make sure you include all those naughty details about what exactly you and her are doing inside and outside the bedroom. Focus on what you want and don't contemplate whether or not she might like it—this is about you.
- 3Describe your sexual fantasies and desires, in as much depth, detail and dirtiness as you imagine them in your head—even those you've never shared with anyone before. This is your chance to be bold and create your perfect sexual day.
- 4If you agreed on doing it as a couples exercise encourage her to do the same in a separate journal. When you are both done with writing, find a comfortable space and read it out loud to your partner.
- 5Take turns sharing your writings. Focus on understanding each other, not on whether you like the same things. This isn't a isn't a restaurant menu from which you order what you want, it is meant to open up the conversation for both of you to explore each others depth of sexuality— not all fantasies have to be lived out.
V. Seven Nights Of Sin
If you need inspiration or a way to incorporate the tips above into a practical, fun evening, try the Seven Nights of Sin couple’s exercise.
Warning! You might be superhuman if you both make it to the end of the week.
Night 1: The Suited Gentleman
Dress to the nines, allowing her to wear that beautiful dress buried in the back of her closet.
You, too, must wear your best clothing and bring your partner out for a night on the town.
Go to the bar, an expensive restaurant, and finish the evening in a fancy hotel room.
Night 2: Nature
If you live near nature, you’re already halfway to fiking with your partner.
Fiking, as in fucking + hiking, involves going out in nature and having sex under the moonlight while camping.
Near a waterfall, in a beautiful flower-covered valley, or anywhere else that is scenic and far away from the crowds of suburbia and the city.
Night 3: Five Senses
Here, you shall stimulate the five senses in an evening of pleasure.
Afterward, it’s only fair if she does the same to you.
Night 4: Sensual Massage
You don’t need to be a masterful physical therapist to give an amazing, sensual, and erotic massage.
If you have the training, feel free to use your skills with your partner; if not, don’t be too harsh with yourself.
Grab high-quality coconut (cooling) or sesame oil (warming), and slide it up and down her body while she lies naked on something soft and comfortable.
Night 5: Fantasy
The goal of the fifth evening is to live out your wildest or darkest fantasy with your partner.
Here it comes in handy, if you both have done the SQL Perfect Day Exercise mentioned above.
Might we suggest inviting her to wear makeup and her sexiest lingerie, booking a hotel room, and asking her to wait patiently for you?
Night 6: Master Chef
Put on your chef’s hat and prepare to get busy in the kitchen — Cooking, we mean. What did you have in mind?
Prepare a fine meal of aphrodisiac food such as oysters and prawn salad with leafy greens, and finish with strawberries covered in chocolate.
Night 7: Surprise
The surprise is that the seventh day is a rest day.
Spend the day cuddling and discussing your experience throughout the six days of sin.
On Increasing HER Pleasure
Tip 5: Do’s & Don’ts Inside The Bedroom
Being a woman, and sexuality coach I am well equipped to provide you with some insights on how to increase HER pleasure.
Why you should listen? Understanding how a woman thinks will give you a more nuanced understanding of how to be a better lover for your girlfriend, wife or lover.
I. Understand Her Anatomy & Cycle
Knowing a woman’s body and how her cycle affects her can make a big difference. Different phases of her cycle can change her sensitivity and how much she wants sex.
For example, during ovulation, she might be hornier than normal. This is because her body is preparing for potential pregnancy, so her libido naturally increases.
On the other hand, during menstruation, she might be more sensitive and uncomfortable.
Therefore, knowing where she is in her cycle (or having at least a small idea) can help you predict how she might respond to you and your touch.
Do’s
Ask her how she's feeling.
Become familiar with her cycle by paying attention.
Don’ts
Don’t assume she feels the same every day.
Don’t ignore her comfort or pain signals.
Don’t rush foreplay.
II. Presence Over Performance
For any woman, presence matters. It does not matter the nature of your relationship, its length, her age, or anything of the sort — presence is more important than performance.
What's presence?
Presence means you are there, mentally and physically. It's a lot harder than it sounds. Trust me, the number of clients I've spoken to who were so focused on making her orgasm that they were experiencing sex 100% in their head (and not in their body!) is a very large percentage of our clients.
Why is presence important?
Women appreciate partners who are mentally and emotionally there with them, responding to their cues, and above all, looking like their interested and invested in the experience as much as she is.
Do’s
Focus on her body, expressions, and voice.
Make eye contact.
Give her lots of affectionate touches.
Don’ts
Don’t worry about lasting longer.
Don’t compare yourself or porn.
Don’t be distracted or distant.
III. Sex Isn’t All About PIV
Penetration isn’t the only way to give pleasure. Many women enjoy other types of sexual activities just as much, if not more.
When a man focuses solely on penetration, it can leave her wanting more for a few reasons;
For the above reasons and more, a man shouldn't focus only on PIV (penis in vagina).
Do’s
Spend time on foreplay (kissing, touching, massaging)
Touch different erogenous zones, not just her clitoris.
Don’ts
Don’t rush straight to penetration.
Don’t neglect her entire body by focusing only on her vagina or clitoris.
Don’t assume penetration is always the main event.
IV. Sexual Leadership
Taking charge in bed is very attractive and exciting for many women.
A man who knows how to take charge in the bedroom shows not only that he respects and cares about himself, but that he cares enough about his partner to guide her, so that she can relax and enjoy the experience.
Do’s
Take the lead by holding her, guiding her body, and initiating sex.
Show confidence and assertiveness.
Don’ts
Don’t be afraid to take control.
Don’t rely on her to make the first moves.
Don’t be passive or indecisive.
V. Worship Her Whole Body
When a man takes the time to really get to know his partner's body, it's a turn-on. A woman is more than her breasts and clit.
In addition, every woman has unique turn-ons. Pay attention to her whole body and what she enjoys.
Do’s
Pay attention to her reactions and adjust depending on how she responds.
Make her feel appreciated and loved.
Don’ts
Don’t go straight for the clit every time.
Don’t judge or make negative comments about her body.
Don’t assume what worked for someone else will work for her.
VI. Stop Being A Nice Guy With No Backbone
Never mistreat your partner; that's not what it means to stop being a "nice guy."
In this sense, a "nice guy" is a pushover without boundaries who lets the woman make all the decisions and never stands up for himself.
No one enjoys people pleasers and those who lack boundaries. This is true across the board for men and women alike.
Although she enjoys a kind and caring man, he should still be strong and have boundaries for himself.
Do’s
Talk about what you want in a polite but firm manner.
Be honest, even if it’s hard.
Make it clear what is acceptable and not acceptable in the relationship.
Don’ts
Don’t people-pleaser to avoid conflict.
Don’t hide your true feelings.
Don’t avoid saying what you really want.
Frequently Asked Questions
As a sex coach, I get asked to share sex tips for men on a regular basis. Here are your most pressing questions and my answers:
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