Premature ejaculation—that is, climaxing too quickly—is a common problem for men.
There are thousands of articles on the topic and even medications to help treat it.
A less common problem, but one that impacts men just as much, is delayed ejaculation.
Perhaps you’re thinking, “There are men who would kill to be able to last as long as me!”
But the truth is, delayed ejaculation can be just as devastating to your love life as premature ejaculation.
So if you’re a man who wants to learn how to orgasm faster, then this article is for you.
We’ll explore delayed ejaculation, including its causes. We’ll then delve into six tips that will help you to overcome delayed ejaculation and orgasm faster.
What is Delayed Ejaculation?
Delayed ejaculation occurs when ejaculation takes longer than expected, or it doesn’t occur at all. Men who experience delayed ejaculation often have no trouble getting or maintaining an erection. The problem lies in reaching the climax.
What Causes Delayed Ejaculation?
Delayed ejaculation can have a physical cause or a psychological cause.
The most common physical causes for delayed ejaculation include multiple sclerosis, spinal cord injuries, and prostate problems. Drugs, alcohol, and medications (e.g. anti-depressants, muscle relaxants, painkillers) can also contribute.
As for psychological causes, these can vary widely. They are often due to feelings of shame, guilt, or stress. Past sexual trauma and relationship issues are also common culprits.
How to Overcome Delayed Ejaculation and Orgasm Faster
You can overcome delayed ejaculation and learn how to orgasm faster. Here’s how.
Cut Back on Solo Play
Masturbation is a natural and healthy activity. It can teach you what you like and what you don’t like so you can voice yourself in the bedroom.
However, masturbating too often can lead to delayed ejaculation during penetrative sex.
This is especially true if your masturbation habits involve overstimulation, such as the use of a tight grip or a pocket pussy type device. This can desensitize the penis so that overstimulation is required each time to achieve climax.
You don’t have to stop masturbating altogether. You should consider avoiding it earlier in the day if you know you’ll be intimate with your partner later on, though.
And if desensitization is a problem, then you may need to reconsider your masturbation techniques, too.
Abstain From Drugs and Alcohol
Drugs and alcohol can make it difficult to get or maintain an erection. They can also dull physical sensations so you are unable to experience the full impact of sexual stimulation.
If you struggle with delayed ejaculation, drugs and alcohol will only compound the issue.
Once again, you don’t have to stop entirely. You should abstain on days you intend to be intimate, though. And of course, practice moderation in your day-to-day life.
Focus on the Foreplay
When talking about foreplay, the focus is typically on the woman.
It’s true that women often require more foreplay and mental preparation to get into the right headspace for intimacy. However, the same can be said for many men.
If you struggle with delayed ejaculation, it’s often not because you’re not physically prepared. It’s more so that you’re not mentally prepared.
Foreplay can get you into the right mindset so that your mental state has time to catch up with your physical state.
One thing to keep in mind is to avoid overstimulation. This can worsen delayed ejaculation.
You should focus on reciprocation, too. Stimulating your partner can be just as big of a turn-on as physical stimulation. So alternate between giving and receiving before you even start with penetration.
Stay in the Moment
When you struggle with delayed ejaculation, you can become obsessed with being able to “perform.”
You have to remove that pressure from yourself, though, if you want to succeed.
Don’t focus on the end goal. Instead, stay in the moment. Relax and enjoy the entire process from start to finish.
That’s easier said than done, right?
One thing that helps is to focus on the physical sensations. Give in to the pleasure by experiencing it on the most primal level. Allow yourself to relax into it and embrace every tingle and twinge.
Alternate Between Penetration and Self Stimulation
It takes time to desensitize your penis, especially if you use overstimulation during masturbation. So what you can do in the meantime is to alternate between penetration and self-stimulation.
As your partner gets closer to climax, remove your penis and masturbate close to the entrance. Then as you’re right on the edge, reenter your partner to finish.
It may take a few sessions to get the timing right. As you get better at it, though, you may find that soon you don’t even need to masturbate to finish.
Some of it is physical desensitization, but you’re also creating a pathway in your mind that connects penetration with climax. This can be a powerful way to train yourself to overcome delayed ejaculation.
For women, different sex positions can mean different sensations. But different positions mean different sensations for men, too.
Doggy style, for example, allows for deeper penetration and stimulation of the entire shaft. Positions like missionary and spooning make for a tighter fit that better stimulates the head.
Switch it up during sex so you don’t get too used to one sensation. It’s also a good way to delay your partner’s climax as it gives them time to “cool off” between each position.
If you struggle with delayed ejaculation, you’re not alone.
By implementing the six tips outlined above, though, you can overcome your delayed ejaculation and learn how to orgasm faster.
Remember, it’s not something that will happen overnight.
But with patience and an understanding partner, you can overcome this problem and enjoy a happy, healthy sex life.
Do you have additional questions about delayed ejaculation or how to orgasm faster? Drop them in the comments below.