Have you ever thought, "Damn, can I make him cum so hard he sees heaven?" Well, nearly 1 in 4 guys occasionally struggle to climax.
Plus, another 7.4% of men experience moderately severe difficulties, with an extra 4.3% having severe trouble reaching orgasm during partnered sex––meaning bedroom prayers go unanswered. Keep reading, babe—he’s about to have the orgasm of his life.
In this article, we'll cover:
7 Proven Techniques To Make Him Cum Faster & Harder
You know how it is: sometimes, as women, we put in all the work trying to create a fulfilling sex life, but still feel unsure if we're really pushing our man's buttons (pun intended). I get it, I've been there—it's frustrating.
But listen, making a guy orgasm isn't rocket science, it's just knowing what buttons to press, and when. Here are seven expert-backed techniques that'll have him begging you for mercy (or at least more sex).
Technique #1 – Use Your Hands
Let's start simple: your own hand is your best friend here. You might think, "Hands? Isn't that his job?" Nope—take complete control and show him exactly how it's done. Guys love it because you know exactly how much pressure and speed feel good. Bonus tip: focus just below the head of his penis—tons of nerve endings right there, it's basically orgasm-central.
Technique #2 – Give An Amazing Blow Job
Fact check: most men rank a good blow job above almost everything else (seriously, right up there with football). But the key thing here is enthusiasm. Your mouth has to be into it as much as your mind.
Technique #3 – Ride Or Stroke At The Right Pace
Rhythm matters. In sexual intercourse, finding the sweet spot of speed is crucial. Too slow and he zones out; too fast, he feels like he's stuck in bad porn. Cowgirl or doggy style are great here—let him hit the right angles while giving you sexual energy vibes.
Technique #4 – Talk Dirty To Turn Him On
Talk dirty. Whisper in his ear exactly how bad you want him to cum inside you—most guys can't resist. It spikes his sex drive through the roof and melts away any performance anxiety.
Technique #5 – Edge Him Before He Busts
Sexual tension isn’t just hot—it actually makes a guy cum fast and harder. Bring him close, then back off slightly, repeating until he's begging. It’s about building anticipation.
Technique #6 – Play With His Backdoor
A little anal play can completely upgrade his sexual experience. The prostate has some of the most nerve endings—basically a direct ticket to orgasm-town.
Technique #7 – Tease Him With Your Body
Here's your secret weapon: you. Many women underestimate how powerful their body is as a turn-on. Tease him visually—strip slow, touch yourself a bit, create anticipation.
Mastering these techniques means not just better sex, but the best sex. You're now officially armed with ways to make your man cum faster, harder, and often. Don’t shy away from mixing techniques like cock rings or exploring a bit more foreplay.
Now that you've got the "how," let's quickly peek under the hood (pun definitely intended) to see why these tricks blow his mind.
Understanding How Men Cum—The Science Of Male Orgasms & What Triggers Ejaculation
Alright, girlfriend, you've nailed the sexy techniques—but ever wondered what actually happens when he screams, "Oh, fuck!" and blows his load? (Of course you have.)
Let’s quickly break down the orgasm basics, because understanding how he cums is your golden ticket to faster, harder, and way better orgasms—guaranteed.
From Turn-On To Build-Up
Orgasms start in his brain before reaching his penis.
Rhythm & Friction—His Best Friends
The tip of his penis—the glans—is loaded with roughly 4,000 sensitive nerve endings.
The Point Of No Return
Ever see that look in his eyes? That's called "ejaculatory inevitability"—fancy talk for "no turning back."
The Big Bang—Orgasm & Ejaculation
Here's where things get explosive. When he's ready to orgasm, there's a quick, unstoppable chain reaction inside his body—let’s break it down (check the handy diagram above):
You'll feel his muscles tighten, hips thrust involuntarily, and that rhythmic pulsing sensation as he releases. It’s intense, full-body, automatic, and incredibly sensitive afterward—so ease off or he'll squirm faster than your cat at bath time.
This quick anatomy lesson gives you front-row insight into his orgasm. Understanding it means delivering exactly the right moves, at exactly the right time—boom.
Mind Over Matter—Stress Kills The Buzz
Remember, it's about confidently taking charge of your pleasure (and his). And hey, if he's still having trouble? It never hurts to check in with a sex therapist—no shame, just solutions.
But if your man’s orgasm is still taking longer than your latest Amazon order, don’t stress—Andrew’s got your back with three expert tips.
Andrew’s Top 3 Tips For Helping Your Man To Cum
Okay, let’s talk about that awkward elephant in the bedroom: delayed ejaculation. You know, when he's going...and going...and you're secretly thinking, "Hmm, is he ever gonna finish?"
First off—deep breath. You're not alone, and neither is he. Loads of couples struggle with this. But the good news? It’s usually fixable. Here are my top 3 tips for helping your man get past the struggle bus of delayed ejaculation.
Tip #1 – Encourage Him To Take Charge In The Bedroom
Many guys struggle to cum because they don't feel confident being in the receiving role. The easiest fix? Put him in the driver’s seat.
Trust me, he'll love feeling empowered in his own pleasure. And you get bonus points for openly supporting him.
Tip #2 – Reset Expectations Of Ejaculation To Remove Mental Blocks
Truth bomb: expecting him to cum every single time can cause more stress than it's worth. (Pressure kills pleasure, folks.) So try this instead:
Relaxed expectations = relaxed performance. Works like magic.
Tip #3 – Support Him To Focus On Presence, Not Just Performance
Delayed ejaculation thrives on overthinking. So help him get out of his head and into his body:
When he learns to just be present, orgasms happen in their own way—naturally, organically, and more powerfully. More advanced tricks to look into are techniques like the Orbit Technique, PC Squeeze, Coke Breath, and improving Masturbation Habits. Game-changing stuff!
Still curious, or did I just hear someone yell, "Isabel, wait, what about...?" Alright, buckle up—let’s hit your juicy FAQs.
Frequently Asked Questions
Alright, I get it. Sex is messy (in the best way), and sometimes stuff comes up that makes you think, "Hmm, is this normal?" Spoiler alert: usually, yes. So let's tackle these real-deal questions, quick and dirty—no judgment, just real talk.
Great question. Guys are notoriously bad at saying when they're about to blow, so you need to be a bit of a sexual detective here. His breathing gets quicker, his muscles tense up, and his hips move with that unmistakable rhythm.
Also, watch his face—eyes shut tight, biting lip, or that adorable "I’m trying not to cum yet" face? That's your green light. Just remember, every guy has his own cues, and after a bit, only you will read him like a book.
First off, chill—it's normal. Happens to everyone, I swear. Anxiety or fatigue can easily kill his vibe. Instead of panicking, keep the mood playful. Give him a kiss, switch up the stimulation, or slow things down to reset.
A quick breather can actually lead to a stronger comeback (pun definitely intended). And, laughing it off together is a good deal better than silent awkwardness.
Hell yes. Stress is basically erection kryptonite. When his mind is racing, his body is usually stuck in first gear. Anxiety is literally the top reason guys get stuck in their heads instead of their bodies.
Want an expert tip? Make sex a stress-free zone—no judgment, no pressure. Help him unwind before you jump into bed (massage, cuddles, even just a chat), and watch him go from zero to hero way quicker.
Easy—don’t focus on his orgasm like it’s the finish line at the Olympics. Instead, keep the vibe relaxed, playful, and connected.
Whisper sweet or naughty nothings, touch him without expecting immediate fireworks, and emphasize you're there for the journey, not just the destination. Most pleasure happens when you're both on the same page, feeling good, and not staring at the clock.
We've all been there—mid-thrust and suddenly he's mentally organizing tomorrow’s report at work. Don't panic; it's easy to reel him back in.
Pause briefly, gently bring him back with touch or eye contact, or throw in a surprise move he'll love. Seriously, a playful spank, a quick tease, or some new dirty talk can snap him back faster than Netflix asking if you're still watching.
Oh, absolutely. Words are like erotic rocket fuel. But here's the catch—they have to be authentic. No cheesy scripts.
Lean into stuff you actually mean—"I love how you feel inside me," "only you make me feel this good," or even simple commands like "Fuck me harder."
He'll feel your sincerity, his brain will light up, and his body will follow suit. Your words are your secret weapon—use them wisely.
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