You’ve seen the memes, heard the jokes, maybe even caught that pegging scene in Broad City or Deadpool. But behind the humor is a genuine curiosity: are women into pegging, or is it just something guys fantasize about?
Surprisingly, about 40% of women have fantasized about pegging their male partners, and 10% have tried pegging, with another 10% interested in trying it. Read on and learn exactly what makes women either absolutely love or hard pass on pegging.
In this article, we'll cover:
- Discover why women secretly crave (or avoid) pegging.
- Uncover the biggest turn-ons & unexpected dealbreakers.
- Master pegging without awkward vibes or regrets.
Do Women Like Pegging Men?
Do women like pegging? It depends on whom you ask. Some female partners find pegging fucking hot, while others wouldn't touch a strap-on dildo with a ten-foot pole.
Let's dive into both sides and get real about women's honest thoughts and experiences.
Yes—Here’s What Statistics Say
Believe it or not, researchers have gathered data on this kinky corner of sex life. No joke, the numbers might even give you penis envy. Check it out:
- 16% of adults have already had a pegging experience. That's a surprising number of heterosexual men comfortable expressing interest in being on the receiving end (Women's Health).
- Almost 40% of women have fantasized about exploring anal play with their male partners—so yeah, plenty of ladies imagine making their husband or boyfriend utterly melt by delivering a prostate orgasm firsthand (PLOS ONE).
- Sales of strap-on dildos and other toys related to pegging shot up by 44% year-over-year. Seems like couples are big proponents of finding a whole different way to boost their sex life (MuckRack).
- Around 60% of heterosexual men admit curiosity about being pegged, so clearly, peg dudes is becoming commonly accepted slang—it’s not just a wild queer threesome fantasy anymore (Queer Majority).
- 2023 is officially the "Year of Pegging," with pegging searches literally doubling (CounterPunch). Yup, pegging has gone from niche kink to as mainstream as your daily Starbucks order—only hotter and probably cheaper.
Numbers are great, but what about real women’s voices?
Yes—Here’s What Women Who’ve Tried Pegging Say
Stats are fun, but let’s hear from the ladies themselves. As a sexologist who’s heard it all (sometimes too much), trust me—some women seriously dig pegging. Here’s exactly what they're saying:
"I’d be turned on pegging a man."
No beating around the bush—this woman straight-up confessed pegging gets her motor running. And she’s got company: another said,
"There's quite a few of us women who'd love to peg a dude" (
Straight.com).
Tons of women admit they get a thrill from the power flip. As one Redditor explained, it’s "the thrill of being the doer instead of the receiver." Another bragged,
"Every guy I've pegged enjoyed it immensely—hearing him moan is like driving a guy crazy with a fantastic blowjob." Damn, talk about an ego boost (
Reddit).
"Nothing better than making him moan."
One woman confessed she doesn't even like anal sex herself, but loves pegging her boyfriend simply because
"nothing's better than making him moan like a girl. Hot." The appeal here? Watching him
utterly melt into pleasure—it's less about nerve endings and more about having her man in a vulnerable position (
Straight.com).
Pegging Can Be Awkward—and That’s Okay
A Cosmo story called
"The first time I pegged my boyfriend was a hilarious mess." Not every pegging experience is porno-smooth, folks. Sometimes, you're laughing, fumbling, and learning. One woman joked after her first session,
"Would definitely eat there again—11/10." Clearly, a sense of humor (and good lube) goes a long way (
Cosmopolitan).
Bottom line? Plenty of women are big proponents of pegging—it spices up their sex life, deepens intimacy, and flips the bedroom script. Sure, it’s not everyone's thing, but for those into it, pegging delivers a connected experience like no other.
But hey, not everyone’s sold—let's chat about why some women hit the brakes instead.
No—Here’s Why Some Women Aren’t Into Pegging
Time to play devil’s advocate. Not every woman is gung-ho to toss on a harness and channel her inner dominatrix. In fact, some are outright turned off by the idea. Here are some reasons women give for saying “thanks, but no thanks” to pegging:
- “It doesn’t remotely interest me.”
Straight up, some women just aren’t into pegging. It’s like cilantro—you either love it or hate it. No deep psychological reason, just a firm "no thanks". (The Georgia Straight) - The “ick” factor is real:
Let’s face it, exploring anal play means potential mess. As one woman bluntly put it on Mumsnet, “I just can’t get past the literal crap that could happen.” Fair enough—nobody wants surprises down his ass. (Mumsnet). - Zero personal stimulation:
Pegging can feel more like hitting the gym than hitting orgasm town if there’s no direct pleasure. As one Redditor said, pegging was “more workout than orgasm”—all effort, no payoff (Reddit). - Role reversal anxiety:
Some women love delivering pleasure, sure, but others can’t shake feeling awkward when roles flip. One confessed, “I could do it… but I wouldn’t look at him the same after.” Toxic gender norms? Probably. But perception matters.(The Georgia Straight) - Stigma and outdated myths:
Despite progress, some women still buy into misconceptions—like pegging meaning hidden bisexuality or questioning your manhood. Total nonsense, but societal whispers can kill the vibe before you even start (Astroglide). - Bad first-time experiences:
Poor prep, missed aim, painful slip-ups—these awkward moments can make a woman say “Never again.” One Redditor admitted feeling “too nervous the whole time,” while her partner had the time of his life. Definitely not ideal foreplay (Reddit).
Translation? Pegging isn’t everyone’s jam, and that’s completely fine. A great sex life is about openly communicating comfort zones and desires. And hey, some of these barriers can shift over time—after all, practice makes perfect, right?
Alright, you’ve heard both sides clearly—let’s dive into exactly what women say makes pegging either mind-blowingly hot or a hard no-go.
A Woman's Perspective..
On The Turn-Ons & Turn-Offs Of Pegging Men
You’ve heard the data—now let’s peek inside her head. What exactly makes pegging either a massive turn-on or a total dealbreaker from a female POV? Let’s jump right into it.
What Turns Women On About Pegging
Here’s why some ladies are strapping up with a big grin:
- Intuitive Body Reading
When a woman pegs her partner, she’s actively reading his subtle cues—like how his breathing changes just before a prostate orgasm hits. This heightened sensitivity not only amplifies intimacy but also gives her a unique thrill: she’s the architect of his pleasure. - Erotic Flow State
Pegging often puts women in what sexologists call an "erotic flow state"—basically, she’s so immersed in the rhythm, sensations, and emotional intensity that time disappears. It’s the bedroom equivalent of athletes being "in the zone." - Private Afterglow Rituals
Many women secretly cherish the post-pegging moments—helping him unwind with gentle touch afterward creates profound intimacy. One client shared how brushing her partner’s hair after pegging felt even more intimate than sex itself, bonding with them deeply beyond the physical.
What Turns Women Off About Pegging
Of course, some women are quick to say "this isn't for me." Here’s why:
- Performative Moaning
Nothing kills the mood faster than exaggerated, performative moans from a nervous partner. Women sense when reactions aren't genuine, immediately pulling them out of that intimate headspace and into self-consciousness. - The Medical Checklist Effect
Yes, prepping matters—but obsessing over every hygienic detail (like extensive enemas or constant questioning of cleanliness mid-act) turns pegging into a clinical chore. One woman likened this experience to "feeling more like his nurse than his lover." - Role Rigidity
Some partners rigidly define pegging roles ("dominant woman, submissive man") and miss the fluidity of the experience. Women can feel boxed into a stereotype rather than exploring pegging authentically—killing spontaneity and connection.
The point is, pegging can be mind-blowingly hot or a total no-go for women. If she’s curious, fantastic—take it slow, prep well, and communicate. If not? No biggie.
So, where does all this leave you? If you’re a guy reading the tea leaves (or this bulleted list) trying to figure out if your lady might be into it—coming up next, we tackle the practical questions. From hint-dropping to harness-shopping, here are the FAQs I get all the time.
Frequently Asked Questions
Let's get right into it—here are answers to your top pegging questions:
What if my partner is hesitant or uninterested in pegging?
If your partner hesitates, approach pegging by first exploring less intimidating anal activities—think sex toys like butt plugs or anal beads—to gradually build comfort. Openly discuss without pressure; great pegging sessions depend on enthusiastic consent, not persuasion.
How do I know if she’s genuinely enjoying it or just doing it for me?
Pay attention to her body language, excitement level, and enthusiasm when wearing a strap—signs like initiating future pegging sessions or openly communicating about feeling powerful are clear indicators she's genuinely into it. Authentic interest can’t be faked long-term.
What’s the best way to ease into pegging for the first time?
Start small and slow, using high-quality lube and beginner-friendly sex toys like smaller butt plugs or slim dildos to gradually introduce your partner to enjoying prostate stimulation. Good pegging comes down to patience, preparation, and clear communication about each partner's comfort levels.
What should I avoid saying or doing when bringing up pegging?
Never pressure or guilt your partner by comparing her to prior girlfriends or relationships who might've been into pegging. Keep the conversation positive and supportive; avoid comments that might suggest disappointment if she's not immediately comfortable wearing a strap.
Can pegging improve our overall sex life and intimacy?
Pegging can significantly deepen intimacy by creating vulnerability, trust, and excitement—especially as the power dynamic shifts when a woman enters her partner. Experiencing pegging together often helps couples discover new levels of sexual connection by directly targeting the male G-spot (or P-spot).
How do I handle the stigma or fear of judgment around pegging?
Address stigma by confidently understanding that pegging is simply another way for couples to explore pleasure—it doesn’t define masculinity or sexual orientation (some believe that pegging men turns gay). Sharing experiences discreetly with trusted friends or online communities can help normalize and ease fears around judgment.
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