What most men don't realize is that rough sex isn't about immediate penetration nor about harder erections or a higher libido—despite what the greatest pornstars in the world make it look like.
As a matter of fact, learning how to fuck hard is all about what you do before, during, and after, and that's what I'll reveal in this guide so you can give raw and rough sexual pleasure to your woman.
In this article, we'll cover:
2 Simple Steps to Make Sure She Enjoys The Hard Fuck
Before we dive into the techniques, learning how to fuck hard involves both physical and emotional work.
If you think you can skip the talking, and dive into her with your penis at full force, you'll likely cause your woman more discomfort, and perhaps even pain.
Instead, follow these 2 easy steps to make sure she really enjoys the sexual experience and show her that you care about her physical and mental health and well-being.
Step #1 - Take The Lead
Taking the lead, being dominant and assertive, doesn’t mean being aggressive; it means being confident and taking charge in a way that feels natural and respectful. Most men can do this by;
Taking the lead is the first step for rougher sex because one partner has to be dominant for this to work.
To give your partner the experience you both want, you have to become comfortable with control, setting the pace, and guiding her.
Done correctly, she might even end up begging you for what she wants, which can be extremely arousing for both partners.
Step #2 - Agree On A Safe Word
Safe words are not optional when you want to fuck hard. Choose a word that can not be misunderstood, and you will remember.
Discuss the safe words before sex every time, as she or you might have forgotten if it has been a while since things got that hot and heavy inside the bedroom.
Safe Words & Meaning
Now that the foundation is set, let's get her into the right mood. The easiest way to start a hard fucking session is by setting up a wrestle date.
Have a Wrestle Date With Her
The goal of a wrestle date is to get you both into a more primal, animalistic yet playful mood. Here is how;
Since you both are in the mood already, let's dive into a few thrusting techniques that can uplevel your whole experience, help you to last longer, and blow her mind.
Thrusting Techniques To Fuck Hard & Last
The way you thrust makes a big difference. These techniques will help you fuck hard while making sure she enjoys every second of it.
I typically alternate between all thrusting methods to keep her guessing and in the moment. When she's getting close, focus on the one that she responds the most to. Next up are my favorite sex positions to fuck hard.
Best Positions For To Fuck Hard
Some positions are better than others and give you deeper penetration. These are sex positions that will drive her wild in all your sexual encounters!
Position #1 - Missionary
Yes, you read correctly. Missionary is a great position to fuck hard since you have full access to her whole body, and you can easily pin her down into the bed.
If you have a smaller penis, this position will help with deeper penetration.
This position is amazing to fuck hard since you have a full motion for your hips to move while you can look into her eyes and check in with her easily.
Position #2 - Bend Over
The bend-over sex position is a real power play since you are in full charge of depth angle and speed of penetration.
Bonus points if you spank her booty, pull her hair, or tie her up. To spice things up even more insert a vibrating anal plug and enjoy the sensations while thrusting deeply into her.
Position #3 - Doggy Style
Classic Doggy Style is fantastic but go one step further. Push her deep into the bed as you fuck her hard and tie her hands behind her back.
A lot of guys find this their favorite position when it comes to giving their partners an intense, hard fuck.
But you need to be aware that even though she isn’t facing you, she will sense whether or not you are present with her at the moment.
Be a gentleman and make sure it is a fun experience for both of you instead of trying to emulate what happens in porn.
Position #4 - Stand and Carry
Stand and Carry is a great position for some rough sex and adaptable even for small spaces like the shower. This lift is meant to demonstrate your strength and capability to protect her.
Pro Tip: While pinning her against the wall, kiss, bite, and scratch her.
Position #5 - London Bridge
This position can be a real powerhouse. I love it because again you are in full charge, while she can fully surrender to the experience.
London Bridge feels great and makes her feel small and fully in your control.
With all those positions in place, are you ready for my advanced tips to fuck her even harder and create and unforgettable experience for both of you? Read on—you won't be disappointed.
Advanced Tips To Fuck Hard You Won't Find In Porn
When you've tried the basics of how to fuck hard for rougher intercourse and are ready to experiment a little in the bedroom, give one of these a go.
Tip #1 - Use Sex Toys: There are plenty of toys on the market that work wonders or rough play and lead to intense orgasms. You can use a simple vibrator or wand, hold your partner down against the bed, and turn it into a night of rough sex. Alternatively, try a G-Spot vibrator, or if she likes more sensitive clitoral stimulations go for a clit sucker. My personal favorite for rough sex is still the anal plug, that is filling her up while I am penetrating her vagina.
Tip #2 - Pull Her Hair: Start with the hair-pulling test. With one hand, gently pull her hair. On the next pull, use a little more strength. Ask her, “Do you like that? Want me to go harder?” or combine it with some dirty talk. Repeat the hair-pulling test until she calls her safe word by slowly increasing the intensity. This is a great way to practice your safe words and see how hard you can go. Make sure you are pulling from the roots and not from the tips—you don't want to cause any unintentional pain.
Tip #3 - Take Away Her Sight: Blindfolding adds surprise and anticipation to rough sex. Many women love it. Removing one sense can heighten the other senses, making every touch and sensation more intense. Start by using a soft scarf or blindfold to cover her eyes. Make sure it is not too tight or uncomfortable. You can then explore her body with your hands, mouth, and toys.
Tip #4 - Restrain Her: Restraints work wonders for rough sex, so tie her up. You can purchase handcuffs, ropes, and ties from anywhere, just make sure they are skin-friendly and do not cause any actual harm to her body. Alternatively, you can find a necktie and use it as a soft restraint to tie her hands to the bedpost, behind her back, or any location in the house.
Tip #5 - Add Some Spanking & Impact Play: Impact play involves striking the body with hands or tools like paddles, canes, or whips. With whatever tool you choose, start with a light spank to warm up the skin. Then, gradually increase the intensity. Aim for fleshy areas like the buttocks and thighs, avoiding sensitive areas like the spine and kidneys.
You are set for some extra rough fun. But remember take it one step at a time, you don't have to explore all of the above-mentioned advanced tips in one night. Take your time and keep exploring.
Before you go let's debunk some of the most common myths about rough sex.
Decoding Myths About A Rough Sexual Encounter
Hard or rough sex is often misunderstood, and owing to porn, you might end up doing things to your partners that are more uncomfortable than pleasurable.
Many myths surround the idea of rough sex, and that is why I want to separate fact from fiction for you to remove any misconceptions about how to fuck hard.
Myth #1 - Rough Sex = Physical Stimulation Only
Rough sex isn't just about physical stimulation. There are mental and emotional aspects at play, too. When learning how to fuck hard, it is important to remember that power play dynamics and dominance are a part of those mental and emotional aspects that make rough sex so appealing for many men and women.
Myth #2 - Fucking Hard Means You Are The Man
Fucking hard doesn't make you more of a man. What truly matters is that men understand and respect the needs and boundaries of their women. Good sex is about mutual pleasure, so if soft and intimate works better for your sexual relationship as a couple, do that.
Myth #3 - Intense Manhandling Equals Being Sexually Competent
Being sexually competent isn't about how intensely you handle your partner. It's about being attuned to one another in both an emotional and sexual way. Competence in bed comes from being considerate, communicative, and responsive to her needs.
Myth #4 - Men Who Fuck Hard Are More Desirable
Women find men desirable for many reasons. Rough sex is only one aspect of a multifaceted relationship.
Myth #5 - Porn Portrays Rough Sex Correctly
Porn often gives a distorted view of rough sex. It tends to exaggerate and sensationalize, not reflecting real-life experiences at all. Moreover, using what you learn in porn as a goalpost for your sex life can lead to low self-esteem, performance anxiety, and even erectile dysfunction. True rough sex has much more communication, consent, and a deep understanding of each other's needs.
Now that we've covered those myths, I don't want to let you go without sharing a few secrets with you on how you can have longer and harder erections during rough sex.
Proven Expert Advice on How To Fuck Hard & Last Long
Rough sex is as much about you as it is about her. Without understanding your own body and how to control it, you're not going to get the most out of the experience. If you want to not only fuck her hard but also last longer, keep reading.
These are techniques that I use and have seen great results with among my students, not just in the way of teaching them how to fuck hard but also improving their sexual relationships.
Breathe Deeply Up The Spine
Practice Edging
Learn to Control Your PC Muscle
Make Noise During Sex
Extend Your Chest
Use The Pause-Method
A Woman's Perspective..
On Fucking Hard
Have you ever wondered whether or not women actually like rough sex and how to unlock this primal and animalistic side of her successfully?
You are at the right place. I will share those answers with you exactly.
I. Do Women Like To Get Fucked Hard?
Women crave rough sex as much as men do. It’s a fallacy that most women only enjoy cuddles and light kisses.
One of the reasons why rough sex is found to be one of the most enjoyable acts in the world is it reinforces dominance as a man and allows her to fully surrender and be in her feminine.
Especially when you are coming from a place of having her best interest at heart, your lady will love being tossed onto the bed and taken.
Moreover, the feeling of relinquishing control and allowing someone you completely trust to have full access and control over your body can be undeniably sexy.
II. How To Unlock HER Wild Side?
Men who can unlock their partners' wild side can expect a very enjoyable sex life. This involves understanding the mental aspects of dominance.
A dominant man equals safety, or at least it did to our caveman ancestors.
You aren’t fighting foreign invaders trying to pillage your village anymore, but the principle still applies: dominance equals safety.
What is Dominance?
Create a safe and trusting environment where she feels free to express her desires and boundaries. Use clear communication and ensure she feels respected and valued and watch her primal and savage side awaken.
Frequently Asked Questions
You might still have a few questions on your mind. Here, you'll find the answers to your burning hot questions.
When a woman says “harder” during sex, she is usually asking for more thrusting or more pressure.
So when you hear the word during intercourse, she wants you to increase either:
By "harder," she might also mean she wants more pressure, as in more of your body weight pressed against her as you thrust.
The simple answer is no. You don’t have to fuck her hard to be good in bed. It's equally important to understand your partner’s needs, communicate well, and be attentive to her. If she is more turned on by sensuality for example fucking her hard would do the job for her. She would much more appreciate your presence, gentle touch, and lovemaking before you fall asleep in an embrace together.
Using phrases like “I want it harder,” “Can I go faster?” or “I want to be rougher with you” when talking dirty can help set the right tone for intense sex and orgasms.
Just make sure your partner is comfortable with rougher sex and have safe words.
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