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Do you want to get better at sex? Do you feel like making love is getting boring? Well, it doesn’t have to be.

There are six crucial areas you can master to get better at sex—and my No. 1 method might just be the game-changer you need.

In this article, we'll cover:

  • Reasons why you might not have great sex and what to do about it
  • Expert tips and techniques to 10X your sex life
  • How to deeply connect with a woman to increase your bedroom performance

What’s Stopping You from Being Better in Bed?

Sometimes, sex isn’t great because of what’s in your mind.

Studies show that up to 52% of men and 63% of women experience performance anxiety, leading to issues like erectile dysfunction.

Here are some common performance blockers and how to overcome them.

I. Premature Ejaculation

Premature ejaculation (PE) can be frustrating and affect your confidence.

It’s when you ejaculate sooner than you or your partner would like, which can make it hard to enjoy sex fully.

Solutions

  • Breathe deeply to relax and reduce anxiety.
  • Use the start-stop method to build control.
  • Try edging.
  • Use thicker condoms to reduce sensitivity.

II. Delayed Ejaculation

Delayed ejaculation (DE) means having difficulty reaching orgasm during sex.

This can lead to frustration for you and your partner and might be caused by psychological or physical factors.

Solutions

  • Focus on foreplay instead of sex. 
  • Reduce stress and anxiety through relaxation techniques.
  • Avoid excessive alcohol and drugs, which can affect performance.
  • Consult a sex therapist or mental health specialist or seek other professional advice.

III. Erectile Dysfunction

Erectile dysfunction (ED) is the inability to get or keep an erection.

It can happen occasionally or frequently due to physical or psychological factors.

Solutions

  • Eat healthily and exercise regularly.
  • Reduce stress and get enough sleep.
  • Take off the pressure to perform by learning other techniques to please her.
  • Limit alcohol and quit smoking. 

IV. Size Of Your Penis

Worrying about the size of your penis is common, but it doesn’t have to impact your sexual performance.

Pleasure isn’t about size; it’s about connection and technique.

Most women say that their partner's penis fits their private parts perfectly and satisfies them sexually.

Solutions

  • Focus on foreplay and use different techniques.
  • Try various sexual positions to find what works best.
  • Build confidence with self-esteem exercises.
  • Learn more about penis enlargement methods

V. Sexually Transmitted Diseases

Concerns about sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) can affect your confidence and willingness to have sex.

Protecting yourself and your partner is important, and if you have an STD, be willing to talk about it, so both you and your partner stay informed about what to do next.

Solutions

  • Get regularly tested for STDs.
  • Use condoms.
  • Educate yourself on STD prevention and symptoms.
  • Get medical treatment if you suspect an infection.

VI. Body Image

Feeling insecure about your body can affect your performance and enjoyment of sex.

It’s important to feel good about yourself to have a better sex life.

Solutions

  • Focus on your strengths and what you like about your body.
  • Maintain a healthy lifestyle through diet and exercise.
  • Practice self-care and grooming to boost your confidence.

Did those performance blockers hit home? Don’t worry—up next, you’ll discover how to overcome them and start getting better at sex.

6 Practical Tips On How To Get Better at Sex

Looking to up your game in the bedroom? You’re in good company—around 70% of folks would like to improve their lovemaking skills. From technique to confidence, here’s how to step up your game and enjoy sex even more.

Tip #1 - Presence Over Performance

Being present in the moment is more important than focusing on performance.

Mindfulness can help you fully engage with your partner, creating a deeper connection and better sex. 

Here Is How

  • Focus on the sensations you feel during sex.
  • Pay attention to your partner’s reactions and responses.
  • Practice deep breathing exercises to stay grounded in the moment.
  • Avoid distractions and stay fully with your partner.

Tip #2 - Take Away All Pressure

Removing pressure from the situation lets you relax and enjoy sex without worrying about achieving goals or checking things off a mental agenda. 

Here Is How

  • Set realistic expectations for yourself and your partner.
  • Focus on the journey, meaning sensations rather than the destination (orgasm).

Tip #3 - Let Go Of Unrealistic Expectations

Unrealistic expectations can create stress and disappointment.

Letting go of these expectations is what allows you to appreciate the unique experiences you share with your partner fully.

Here Is How

  • Embrace the imperfections and learn from each experience.
  • Don't use porn as a measure of how good your sex life is. 
  • Don't expect the same experience or orgasms every time. 
  • Speak to a sex therapist, sex coach, or mentor to unlearn unrealistic expectations.

Tip #4 - Be Fun, Messy & Explorative

There are no goals, and there is nowhere else to be when you're with her.

When you can embrace this fact, you notice that sex magically gets better without much else changing. 

Here Is How

  • Try new positions and techniques without worrying about the outcome.
  • Laugh together.
  • Be open to exploring new things.
  • Create a safe space where both of you feel comfortable being vulnerable.

Tip #5 - Throw Judgement Out of the Window

Judgment can lead to shame and insecurity, while acceptance is what actually builds intimacy and trust.


Therefore, strive to approach sex with a non-judgmental mindset.

Here Is How

  • Accept yourself and your partner as you are.
  • Avoid criticizing or judging.

Tip #6 - Give Yourself Permission to Experience Pleasure

Give yourself permission to feel pleasure and give your partner permission to do the same. Embrace your right to enjoy great sex.

Here Is How

  • Be vocal in bed.
  • Encourage your partner to be vocal in bed.
  • Remove any guilt or shame associated with sexual pleasure.
  • Do the Mioch Method™

Do you think those tips can help you up your game? There’s more where that came from…

6 Techniques to Increase Stamina & Endurance For Better Sex

For you to truly say you’re better at sex, stamina, and endurance are most likely considered essential—especially since studies show that 85% of people believe lasting longer improves sexual satisfaction.

But it’s not just about endurance—it’s about doing it right.

Here are the do’s and don’ts to help you go the distance and elevate your experience.

Technique #1 - Masturbate Like A Pro

Masturbation is a great way to learn about your body and build sexual endurance.

Here are some do's and don'ts to keep in mind:

Do

Touch your whole body, not just your genitals.

Open up your body by lying down comfortably.

Breathe deeply to enhance relaxation and prolong the experience.

Don’t

Use a death grip, which can desensitize you.

Hunchover.

Rush through it just to get it done quickly.

Technique #2 - Master the Art of Edging

Edging is a powerful technique to build control and stamina.

This practice involves bringing yourself close to orgasm and then stopping before you reach the peak.

By repeating this process, you can increase your control over ejaculation and extend the duration of sex. 

Do

Practice stopping before you climax to build control.

Focus on your breath.

Don’t

Push yourself too hard; take breaks if needed.

Get frustrated if you don’t get it right immediately. It takes practice.

Technique #3 - Do Kegel Exercises

Kegel exercises strengthen your pelvic floor, which can help your stamina and control during sex.

These exercises are done by contracting and relaxing the muscles you use to stop urination. 

Do

Practice contracting and holding the muscles you use to stop urination.

Release and relax in between sets.

Gradually increase the number of repetitions and duration of holds.

Don’t

Overdo it.

Ignore proper technique. 

Be inconsistent.

Technique #4 - Get Moving

Although you might not realize it, sexual health is tied to your physical health. Regular workouts can significantly boost your endurance and stamina.

Exercise helps improve your overall fitness and testosterone levels, which translates to better performance in the bedroom.

Do

Focus on exercises that enhance strength, flexibility, and cardiovascular health.

Work out 3-4 times per week and move your body daily.

Don’t

Focus only on one part of your body. 

Use performance-enhancing substances to boost your success.

Technique #5 - Explore Stretching Techniques

Stretching Hip Opener

Stretching helps with flexibility and prevents injuries.

It helps maintain a full range of motion, which is important for various sex positions.

Regular stretching can also reduce muscle tension and improve circulation.

Do

Stretch your hips. 

Combine static and dynamic stretching.

Don’t

Skip stretching before and after workouts.

Ignore areas of tightness or discomfort. 

Technique #6 - Optimize Your Nutrition

Your diet plays a role in your stamina.

In fact, research shows that a balanced diet can boost energy levels by up to 30%, improving overall health and making you more capable of sustained physical activity, including sex.

Do

Incorporate aphrodisiac foods like dark chocolate, almonds, and avocados.

Stay hydrated.

Eat a balanced diet rich in whole foods.

Don’t

Consume vegetable oils, refined sugars, and processed foods.

Drink alcohol on a regular basis.

By following these do's and don’ts, you can improve your stamina and endurance.

Improving stamina and endurance is key, but great sex isn’t just physical—it’s about emotional connection too. Strengthening that bond enhances your overall experience.

Here’s how to deepen your emotional connection for better sex.

10 Tips To Deepen Your Emotional Connection for Better Sex

Have you ever wondered why some couples seem to have that undeniable spark?

Research shows that 88% of couples with strong emotional bonds experience more satisfying sex lives.

When you connect with her emotions and mind, her body will naturally follow, leading to deeper physical intimacy and more intense orgasms.

Here are the top sex tips I teach my clients to strengthen their emotional connection and enhance their sexual compatibility with a partner.

Tip #1 - Be Authentic

Being authentic means showing your true self to your partner without hiding behind a facade. This honesty builds trust and intimacy, making her feel more connected and valued in the relationship.

Tip #2 - Always Ask for Consent

Consent is number one when it comes to sex and all sexual activities. Check that she feels comfortable and respected during all interactions because it creates a foundation of trust and safety.

Tip #3 - Talk About Sex Outside The Bedroom

Discussing sex outside the bedroom can remove pressure and make these types of conversations more relaxed. It helps both partners understand what each needs in the bed, leading to a more fulfilling sexual relationship.

Tip #4 - Celebrate Your Connection

Focus on celebrating your relationship instead of comparing your relationship to others. Appreciating everything you have together can go a long way in building trust, appreciation, and a mutual desire to be satisfied in bed.

Tip #5 - Slow Down

Like most great things in life, great sex, too, cannot be rushed. Slowing down lets you savor the moment and appreciate every inch of her body. During a conversation or sex, taking your time can deepen your emotional connection.

Tip #6 - Practice Eye Contact

Making eye contact during conversations and sex creates a sense of closeness and understanding. It shows that you are fully present and engaged with your partner.

Tip #7 - Hold Hands

Holding hands is a simple yet powerful way to connect with your partner. This small gesture can convey affection and reassurance, reinforcing your partnership.

Tip #8 - Spend Time Apart

Spending time apart allows each partner to maintain individuality and bring fresh energy into the relationship. It helps you appreciate each other more. As they say, absence does make the heart grow fonder. 

Tip #9 - Plan Date Nights

Planning regular date nights keeps the romance alive and gives you opportunities to connect on a deeper level. These special occasions can reignite the spark and bring you closer together.

Tip #10 - Minimize Screen Time

Swap screen time for more meaningful interactions. By putting away cell phones and other devices, you can focus on each other and have those important conversations that deepen your connection.

Try This Today: SQL 2 Laws Of Love

SQL’s 1st Law of Love | Passionate Connect:
Take the time to engage in a passionate kiss for at least 5-10 seconds every day. Yes, act like you are in highschool again and have a daily make-out session with your partner. A passionate kiss releases oxytocin, the bonding hormone, which creates a deeper connection.

SQL’s 2nd Law of Love | Disconnect Connect:
Talk with your partner for a minimum of 10-minute daily, no interuptions, no distractions just pure presence from both of you. This is your chance to deeply connect on a romantic level, to talk about things related to your romantic and intimate relationship. Avoid anything related to your kids, chores, logistics, work, etc. these 10 minutes are dedicated to your love and sex life.

When you commit to the two laws of love daily for at least a month, you will see a huge shift in your connection and the depth you can create as a couple.

Deepening emotional connection is just the beginning—now, let’s uncover the secrets that turn good lovers into unforgettable ones.

But hush, these are insider tips on how to boost sexual desire, improve sexual function, and reach orgasm more easily. Ready to up your game? Read on.

13 Secrets of an Exceptional Lover

Being a GREAT – no, exceptional— lover is not hard. In fact, it's easy.

It's one of the easiest things you can do for a woman. You don't need fancy devices or gimmicks.

Next time, try incorporating these secrets into your lovemaking. 

Secret #1 - Set The “Stage”

Creating the right environment is important. This mood shift lets your mind and hers switch off from daily tasks and focus on each other. To set the stage, do this. 

  • Dim the lights
  • Add scents
  • Play Music
  • Clean your space
  • Prepare the bed

Secret #2 - Dress Up

Look after yourself. Dressing up for your partner shows you care about your appearance and want to look good for her. It can also boost your confidence and make you feel more attractive.

  • Groom yourself
  • Choose attractive clothing
  • Pay attention to details

Secret #3 - Schedule Sex

Plan sex because scheduling sex can build anticipation and ensure you make time for each other despite busy lives.

  • Plan ahead
  • Vary the timing. You don't always have to have sex at night. 
  • Build anticipation

Secret #4 - Take the Lead

Don’t wait for her to make the first move. Take the lead. This can be very attractive and make her feel sexy and desired.

  • Be direct
  • Use touch
  • Create a romantic setting

Secret #5 - Slippery is Sexy

Always have lubrication on hand. It can make sex more comfortable and pleasurable, especially during extended lovemaking sessions.

  • Have it handy
  • Choose water-based lube 
  • Apply generously

Secret #6 - Express Your Desire For Her

Let her know how much you want her. Compliment her, tell her what you love about her body, and express what's on your mind. 

  • Be specific
  • Show enthusiasm

Secret #7 - Take Your Time with Foreplay

Foreplay like kissing, erotic massages, oral sex, and pussy massages build arousal so that by the time you get to sex, both you and her are fully in the mood. 

  • Start with kissing
  • Give an erotic massage
  • Perform oral sex
  • Give her a pussy massage
  • Take a bath or shower together

Secret #8 - Experiment With Different Types Of Touch

Use various types of touch, such as caressing, stroking, and gentle scratching. You might also want to; 

  • Experiment with pressure
  • Use different parts of your body
  • Incorporate the elements: air, water, fire, and earth

Secret #9 - Talk About Sex Inside The Bedroom

Discuss your sex life openly. It'll help you understand each other's needs better.

  • Share sexual fantasies and desires
  • Ask questions
  • Be honest and non-judgmental

Secret #10 - Exercise Dominance

Create a masculine frame that lets her surrender to you fully while feeling loved and protected. Being dominant can make her feel safe and taken care of.

  • Be more assertive
  • Use confident body language
  • Always check in to make sure she is enjoying herself 

Secret #11 - Orgasm Denial

Don’t give it to her right away. Try delaying her orgasm to build anticipation, enhance blood flow, and increase sexual satisfaction. 

  • This can make the eventual release during penetrative sex more intense and pleasurable.
  • Build up slowly, talk dirty to keep her aroused, and let her know what you’re doing and why.
  • Pay attention to her reactions to ensure you’re addressing the emotional side and avoiding any sexual problems.

Secret #12 - Surprise Her With Something New

Don’t be afraid to try new things like kink, anal play, sex toys, dirty talk, and different positions. Exploring together keeps things exciting. Just don't forget to do the following. 

  • Discuss boundaries
  • Get consent
  • Be playful

Secret #13 - Don't Skip the Aftercare

After sex, spend time cuddling, talking, and taking care of each other. This helps make sex feel like a complete experience and ensures she feels loved and cherished.

  • Cuddle
  • Talk
  • Offer water, a snack, or a warm blanket to make her feel cared for

With the secrets of an exceptional lover in your arsenal, it's time to turn the tables. Are you ready to hear what women really want for maximum pleasure?

A Woman's Perspective.. 

For A Better Sex Life

from Isabel
SEXUALITY COACH

To have a more satisfying sex life one of the cornerstones is to also increase your partner's pleasure.

So let's dive in and see how to level up your bedroom performance.

I. Be Open For Feedback

Being open to feedback is a must. It shows you care about her pleasure.

During and especially after sex, ask her how she felt and what she enjoyed.

This helps you understand what works and what doesn't. It also prevents painful sex and helps to create even more fulfilling sexual experiences.

Here are some questions you can ask

  • "Did you like it when I did [insert action]?"
  • "Is there something you want me to do more often?"
  • "How can I make it even better for you next time?"

II. Explore Her Whole Body 

Knowing her anatomy and exploring her whole body can be very exciting. Touch her neck, back, inner thighs, and other erogenous zones.

Here are some more key areas

  • Breasts and Nipples: Many women enjoy gentle to firm touch here.
  • Clitoris: This is the most sensitive part and usually the main source of orgasm for women.
  • G-Spot: Located inside the vagina on the front wall. It can be very pleasurable when stimulated.

III. Breath, Sound, Movement, Vocal Expressions

Sound can be incredibly hot. I love it when a man moans or whispers in my ear. It turns me on and makes me feel desired.

Here is what you can do

  • Encourage her to use her voice, too. Let her know it’s okay to express herself.
  • Sex is a dance between two bodies, move and sync your breath to enhance the experience.
  • Moan and talk dirty with each other, sometimes that's the missing bit to reach orgasm.

Using breath, sound, movement and vocal expressions during sex can create a more connected experience. 

IV. Sex Can Be Pleasurable Without The Big O

Orgasm isn’t the only measure of good sex. Enjoying the journey is just as important. Sometimes, the best sex is about closeness and intimacy, not just reaching orgasm.

Here is what you can do

  • Focus on the sensations, the connection, and the pleasure.
  • Let her know it’s okay to enjoy sex without the pressure of having to cum every time. 

By following these tips, you can increase her pleasure and create a more fulfilling sexual experience for you, too. 

That is the inside scoop. Are you now ready for the game-changer? The expert-approved, No. 1 method to get better at sex is coming up next—you won’t want to miss it.

Andrew's No. 1 Method To Get Better At Sex

At SQL and SoS, we created a new methodology to increase sexual pleasure, eradicate performance anxiety, and skyrocket your libido.

My teachings to also get better at sex focus on the three aspects of sexual liberation: embodying your soft, silly, and savage sides.

  • SOFT: Showing tenderness and affection. How slow can you go? How gentle can you touch her? Softness also refers to being emotionally available and vulnerable rather than repressing emotions or putting on armor.
  • SILLY: Be more playful and use humor. Being silly refers to the ability to let go of one’s ego, to be joyful, and not to take yourself too seriously.
  • SAVAGE: This involves tapping into your primal instincts and sexual desires by being more animalistic, passionate, and fully present in the moment.

Based on the three key principles of soft, silly, and savage, I created an active sexual meditation: The Mioch Method™.

This method shows you how to connect more deeply with yourself and your sexuality, which will allow you to create a better sex life for you and your partner.

To learn more about the Mioch Method™, comment on this article; write the keyword "Mioch Method™."

Frequently Asked Questions

These are the most common questions my clients ask during our one-on-one sessions, where I teach them how to achieve the experiences every guy wants with a woman.

What gives a girl maximum pleasure during sex?

Focusing on her needs, spending time on foreplay, and making sure she feels comfortable are key. Communicate to understand what turns her on and avoid anything that might cause discomfort, like vaginal dryness or other sexual problems.

How did you get good at sex?

Practice, paying attention to my partner's reactions, and educating myself on sexual fitness and techniques were crucial. Being open to feedback and learning from experiences, with guidance from sex mentors, also played a big role.

How can I please my partner better?

A good sex life is based on mutual understanding, so listen to her needs, spend more time on foreplay, use different techniques, and talk openly about what she likes.

What is the best sex position?

The best position varies for each couple. Popular ones include Missionary, Doggy Style, and Cowgirl. However, finding what she enjoys most might require exploring different positions, paying attention to her comfort, and considering any sexual problems. Consulting a healthcare professional or sex therapist can also provide insights tailored to your needs.

What does sacred sexuality mean?

Sacred sexuality involves viewing sex as a spiritual experience, where you connect on physical, emotional, and spiritual levels. It’s about building a strong sense of intimacy and trust with one partner, especially in a long-term relationship. This approach can enhance the experience beyond just the physical act, focusing on deeper connections that turn on both mind and body.

Ready to take your skills to the next level? Join our exclusive online course “Squirting Triggers” and gain in-depth knowledge with expert guidance, easy-to-follow step-by-step explanations, live demonstrations, and two female perspectives. Don’t just read about it – master it! Enroll today and start transforming your life. Get started Now!

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Andrew Mioch is one of the world’s leading sex coaches and best-selling author after spending 10 years learning from experts all over the world.

Currently pursuing his Master’s Degree in Sexology, Andrew has personally coached over 5,000 men. His expertise is regularly sought in publications such as Men's Health, Medium, and Cosmopolitan Magazine.

These days, Andy spends most of his time coaching clients privately and also through SQL’s online Mastery Academy.

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