Intense Orgasm: What It Is, How to Give It, How to Have It

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Have you ever stopped to think that maybe your partner’s orgasm can be more intense than it already is? And that maybe yours can as well?

Then you’ve come to the right place. It is possible to give your partner the greatest, most powerful orgasm of your life.

How? I’ll show you! This illustrated guide will give you an in-depth introduction to intense orgasms.

This includes the benefits of a mindblowing orgasm, how to give your partner the greatest orgasm of their life, and how you can achieve an intense climax for yourself.

So are you sick of mediocre orgasms, and are you ready to give (and get) more? Then read on!

The Benefits of a Mindblowing Orgasm

Orgasms feel amazing. But did you know that orgasms have plenty of benefits, too?

Just to name a few:

  • Stress relief
  • Build a stronger emotional connection
  • Increase your sex drive

Now let’s look a little closer at each one.

Stress Relief

The stresses of daily life can be draining. Work, home, social life, relationships, and just the general juggling involved in living can put a strain on anyone.

And sure, there are many ways to relieve that stress. A bubble bath. A deep dive into a good book. A massage.

But there’s just nothing that can beat out the instant relief of an intense, energy draining orgasm. The after-sex glow isn’t just a cliche. There’s actually scientific evidence to back it up.

Here’s why: serotonin. Serotonin is a neurotransmitter with one well-known benefit, and that’s as a mood booster and stress reliever.

Orgasm releases serotonin which allows you to clear your mind and calm your body. Serotonin isn’t the only chemical to be released following climax, though. Others include oxytocin and vasopressin. These particular chemicals can help you to drift into a deeper sleep so you can wake up refreshed and well-rested.

Strengthen Emotional Bond

Sex isn’t just about the physical connection between yourself and your partner. It’s also about the emotional bond you share. And by introducing intense orgasms to your sexual encounters, you’re sure to strengthen those bonds.

It takes work to ensure that your partner is getting their needs — physical, and emotional — met. By giving your partner a mindblowing orgasm every time, you show them that you care about those needs.

This is sure to strengthen the emotional bonds you already have. The serotonin release is sure to help, too.

Increase Your Libido

Let’s face it: sex can sometimes feel like a chore. But for the sake of your relationship, a fulfilling sex life is important.

So while you might not want to admit it, you sometimes have to incentivize yourself to ‘get it on’ on the regular. There’s certainly no better incentive than a spine-tingling orgasm.

The more orgasms you have, the more you’ll want. The same can be said for your partner. So if you want to increase your libido, the answer is clear: have (and give) more orgasms.

The Anatomy of an Orgasm

An orgasm is an orgasm, right? Not exactly.

There are actually multiple different kinds of orgasms. Here are just a few.

Clitoral Orgasms

A clitoral orgasm is an orgasm triggered by direct stimulation of the clitoris. According to a study from NeuroQuantology, a clitoral orgasm is best described as “localized, sharp, bursting and short-lasting.”

These are the most common types of orgasms that a woman will have, and they are also often the only type of orgasm that many women have experienced.

G-Spot Orgasms

A G-spot orgasm, also known as a vaginal or penetrative orgasm, is an explosive, all-over orgasm that your partner is not soon to forget.

The G-spot is often regarded as a mythical structure. But you can actually find the female G-spot quite easily about one to two inches into the vagina. The easiest way to find it is to insert your fingers, finger pads up, into the vagina. As you move along the “roof” of the vagina, you’ll find a soft, squishy bulb.

To stimulate, it’s as easy as doing a “come hither” motion with your index and middle fingers. You can also gently push, flick, and circle the G-spot with your fingertips.

Men can get in on the fun, too! It’s widely believed that the prostate is the male equivalent of a G-spot. The prostate is a small (i.e. walnut-sized) gland that resides within a male’s anal canal. It can be found just a few inches past the opening.

The main function of the prostate is to produce seminal fluid which protects the sperm. Prostate stimulation, though, has been found to trigger intense orgasms similar to that of a g-spot orgasm.

These orgasms are fittingly referred to as “P-spot orgasms.” So how can you help yourself or your partner to achieve such a climax? With just a bit of anal play.  Whether you want to experiment on yourself or your partner (with their permission, of course), you can stimulate the prostate during masturbation or intercourse.

Add a bit of lube to your finger, and insert your fingertip slowly. You’ll quickly feel a fleshy bulb that feels different from the tissues surrounding it. This is the prostate. Gently press into the prostate.

You can also stimulate the prostate externally by pushing firmly into the perineum, also known as the taint. You don’t need to stimulate the prostate the entire time you’re having sex. You can wait until you or your partner are close to climaxing, and then gently tickle or otherwise stimulate the gland.

If you’re feeling adventurous, you can use a wide-based vibrator for an even more intense climax.

Nipple Orgasms

If you think that orgasms can only happen below the belt, think again! The nipples have millions of nerve endings within them, which is similar to the clitoris and the glans. As such, they can be stimulated to the point of giving yourself or your partner an electrifying orgasm.

A nipple orgasm will vary from person to person. In general, though, it’s not as intense as a clitoral orgasm. And it’s certainly not as full-body as a g-spot orgasm. But nipple stimulation is an easy way to add excitement to your lovemaking.

The most straightforward way to give your partner a nipple orgasm is by stimulating with your fingers. Tickle, tug, squeeze, and lightly flick. You can also use your tongue, teeth (gently!), an ice cube, or a vibrator for extra fun.

Just experiment, and be sure to listen to your partner’s verbal and non-verbal cues.

It All Starts With an Emotional Connection…

Before we get into the down and dirty details, let’s touch on one very important element: emotional connection.

Is it possible to give an intense orgasm with someone you don’t have a deep emotional connection to? Sure. But the same cannot be said if you want to give (and have) the most intense orgasm of your life. The fact is that an emotional connection to your partner will increase the intensity of any sexual encounter.

Now on to something that’s a bit more difficult to define: what is an emotional connection? In simplest terms, an emotional connection between partners is a connection in which you both feel safe and respected.

There are other feelings that can go along with such a connection, but those are the two most important in a sexual relationship. As you might imagine, an emotional connection takes time and effort to foster. So, how can you do so?


This seems like an obvious one, right? You’d be surprised just how many couples aren’t communicating with one another, or at least aren’t communicating well.

Why does that matter? Communication is crucial to a healthy sexual relationship.

When you can communicate freely with your partner, you can be more comfortable in their presence. And this is so important to a healthy (and enjoyable!) sex life.

What does it look like to communicate in an emotionally strong relationship?

  • Share your fears, desires, hopes, and dreams
  • Share your likes and dislikes, both sexual and non-sexual
  • Tell your partner clearly when they’ve done something you don’t like (e.g. I felt disrespected when you…)

Communication is a two-way street, though. This means you must be open to receiving honest communication and feedback, too.

There’s no room for defensiveness in a truly healthy relationship. So when your partner shares something, you should take it as face value. And then consider your partner’s side before you respond.

As part of this healthy communication, however, you also need to commit to honesty. There’s a way to be honest while still being tactful.

Show Affection

Affection shouldn’t be reserved for sexual encounters only. A touch of the hand, a caress of the face, or a gentle brush of the arm.

All of these simple gestures can go a long way in building a stronger physical and emotional bond with your partner. And an emotional bond can deepen your sexual encounters.

You’ll be able to read your partner more accurately and even anticipate their wants and needs. Showing affection throughout the day is also a fun way to stay connected in an otherwise fast-paced and impersonal world.


Communication and affection are important. They also have something in common: they both build trust.

Why is that so important? Sex and intimacy are very revealing activities.

They enable us to show our true selves to one another, but by doing so they also open us up to pain. To trust someone is to feel comfortable with them knowing and seeing your flaws.

While it can be difficult to fully trust someone enough, it can open you up to an entirely new world of hidden pleasure. Because only when you trust your sexual partner can you be yourself in their presence. And only then can you fully give yourself to the pleasure you feel.

Intense Orgasm 101: Best Practices

There’s a lot that goes into giving your partner the most magnificent orgasm they’ve ever experienced. If you’re just getting started on your research, you may be overwhelmed at just what you need to do.

I’ll be sure to get into the more male- and female-specific tips later. For now, though, let’s discuss a few best practices that you can begin to implement now.

Foreplay and Teasing

For many couples, and women especially, sex is about so much more than just the physical intimacy. Because of this, it can sometimes take a bit of time to get you (and your partner) ready for sex. And if your mind isn’t in the right place, a truly magnificent orgasm will be difficult to achieve.

What does foreplay look like exactly? The answer will vary from couple to couple. This is why open communication is key.

A foreplay session can be as simple as making out and dry humping. It can also be role play, oral sex, or even bondage.

Your foreplay sessions may also include sex toys. You and your partner should use this time to experiment, and to learn what you both like and dislike.

And just as another tip, foreplay can begin hours or even days before your sexual encounter. Send sexy pictures and dirty text messages. Leave a raunchy voicemail. Give your partner a little love nibble on the earlobe before you leave for work.

Foreplay is about the anticipation. The longer it builds, the more explosive the orgasm can be. So just like lovemaking, you shouldn’t rush it. Instead, you should let your passions take control.

Set the Mood

Let’s say you’ve laid your partner down, you’re getting hot and heavy, and he/she is ready to get started. But then there’s a text message alert. Or your work is calling with an off-the-clock “emergency.” Or there’s a blinking light on the cable box that keeps catching your eye.

Interruptions can bring you and your partner from a 10 to a 0 on the “hot and bothered scale” in no time. That’s why you should take the time to ready your environment and set the mood for your lovemaking session.

So turn off your phones, lock the doors, and draw the curtains. You can even use sheets or tape to cover up any blinking or otherwise distracting lights on your television, cable boxes, or internet modem.

At this time, it should feel as if only you and your partner exist. It’s NOW that you and your partner can fully relax. And only with complete relaxation will it be possible to bring your partner to the strongest climax of their life.

Get Kinky

A ‘vanilla’ sex life can be just as fulfilling as a kinky one. But sometimes a venture into the unknown can bring you and your partner’s climaxes to new heights.

There may be new, less ‘vanilla’ things that you’ve never brought up before, but that your partner would be more than willing to try. So sit down and have an honest conversation. And remember, you don’t have to rush in headlong. You can start slow.

If you think that BDSM may be your thing, then start with some handcuffs and lightweight paddles. Or if role play is up your alley, just begin with some classics like naughty schoolgirl or dirty nurse.

You should also be as open to your partner’s ideas as they are to yours. That doesn’t mean you should go along with something that you aren’t comfortable with.

You should hear them out, though, and then voice your concerns. Experimentation is about trust and vulnerability, as well as respecting boundaries.

Experiment On Your Own

Even if you intend to use the tips throughout this article with your partner, it can be important to practice a few of them on your own first.

Why? Because you can’t know what you’ll like with your partner if you’re not even sure what you like without them. When you know your own body, as well as your likes and dislikes, you can bring a lot more of your own opinions and experiences to your sexual encounter.

Masturbation can also help you to become more comfortable with your body. You can tell your partner exactly how your body works, and you can guide them as they explore you on their own. So while it may seem counter-intuitive, regular masturbation can go a long way in helping you to achieve orgasm during partnered sessions.

3 Ways to Give Your Man an Intense Orgasm

The tips above can apply to any partner, male or female. However, there are some male-specific and female-specific sex tips to bring your partner’s climax to the next level.

Let’s take some time to look at ways to bring your man to the most intense orgasm he’s ever felt.

Meet Him Midway

The tip of the penis is packed with nerves, sure. But it’s not the only part of the male body with a high concentration of nerves.

In fact, the perineum may just be the key to your partner’s most intense orgasm. What is the perineum? The perineum is the patch of skin that connects the testicles and the anus. It’s the midway point, if you will. It contains millions of nerve endings and, as such, is the perfect place to give your man a little tickle when he’s close to climax.

So how can you use it most effectively? Just like the tip of the penis, when you touch the perineum too soon it can be too sensitive to be enjoyable.

One way to know if your man is ready for perineum stimulation is by paying attention to his testicles. You heard that right. The testicles will rise when your man is close to climax. It’s at that point you should use your finger tip to press ever so gently into the taint.

Give Him Control

There are plenty of men who enjoy being dominated by their partners. But from time to time, even in men who prefer the submissive role, a little bit of control can go a long way in intensifying his orgasm.

So give him as much control as you’re comfortable with, and watch his eyes light up with a fiery passion.

‘Control’ will look different from one couple to another. As long as you already practice open communication, and there’s a mutual respect, you should feel comfortable.

Upgrade Your Oral Skills

Receiving blowjobs and oral stimulation are certainly a favorite among men. Even if blowjobs are a regular part of your sexual encounters, it doesn’t mean you couldn’t add a bit more sizzle to these oral sessions.

Giving your man a blowjob can be a great way to show him how passionate you are about him. If you want to use blowjobs as a way to bring your man to a stronger climax, then you’ll likely need to upgrade your oral skills a bit.

But how?

Oral sex, as with anything else, can get better with practice. Your blowjob skills can also improve as you get to know your partner’s likes and dislikes. It’s easy to get into a slump, though. You may still be performing the act, but are you really giving it your all?

So are you ready to make your man explode? Then consider these tips for giving your partner the greatest blowie of his life.

Show Enthusiasm

There’s nothing that’s a bigger turn off than a partner who just isn’t interested in giving a blowjob. That doesn’t mean that you have to enjoy giving one (though, many women and men do find giving them to be fun). But you should enjoy the experience of bringing your man to an intense climax.

One way that you can improve your man’s experience, and your own, is by showing enthusiasm. Why not suggest giving a blowjob to your man before he even asks? Or while giving one, show that you are enjoying yourself by moaning, looking up at him while giving it, or even touching yourself.

You don’t have to go over the top here. You just need to show him that you want to blow him off. This will help him to relax and enjoy the experience more fully.

Build Up to the Blowie

If you’re not particularly into giving blowjobs, you may be of the mindset to just “get it over with.” Even though your man may be physically ready for a blowjob, it doesn’t mean he wouldn’t like a bit of lead up.

What does this look like? Building up to a blowjob is all about the tease. You want him to be practically begging you to take him in your mouth. A great way to start is by exploring his body.

Use your fingertips to trail along his chest, his stomach, his thighs, and his inner thighs. You can even start with kisses on the lips, on the neck, on the nipples, near the belly button, and all the way down to the penis.

You’ll notice the fire building inside him as he squirms and twitches. And then when he least expects him, finally take him in your mouth for an experience he won’t soon forget.

Finish With the Frenulum

The frenulum is a band of tissue located on the underside of the glans. This tissue is what connects the vernal mucosa (or the membrane lining of the glans).

Note: If your partner has been circumcised, he may no longer have a frenulum. The area where the frenulum was, though, may still be quite sensitive.

The glans is touted as being the most sensitive part of the penis. While this may be true in some men, the frenulum has just as many nerve endings. This means it can be a great place to finish off your man during your blowjob session.

What exactly should you do with the frenulum? The frenulum can be stimulated just like many other parts of the penis, with kisses and licks. But a surefire way to send him over the edge is with quick tongue flicks.

As your man gets closer to climax, use your hand to stimulate the base of his penis. Then bring your mouth to the very top of the penis and use your tongue to flick the frenulum in various directions. You can flick it up and down, side to side, or even get creative with circles or other shapes.

3 Ways to Give Your Woman an Intense Orgasm

Now let’s consider the special techniques you can use for your female partner.

Learn the Erogenous Zones

There’s more to a woman than just the boobs and the pussy. That’s why if you ever want to fully please a woman, you’ll need to learn how where these zones are and how to stimulate them.

The erogenous zones are areas of the body that are particularly sensitive. There are seven “official” zones, which include:

  1. Lips
  2. Ears
  3. Neck
  4. Lower back/buttocks
  5. Breast/nipples
  6. Inner thighs
  7. Clitoris

There are some you’re sure to be familiar with (I hope!).

There are others which may make sense when you think about it, but perhaps you’ve never given them the attention they deserve.

If you want to go a bit deeper, there are also some lesser known “hot spots” to focus on:

  • Inner wrist
  • Inner elbow
  • Behind the knee
  • Scalp
  • Navel
  • Feet

These spots may seem senseless, but think about it. These spots are rarely touched by those who aren’t close to you. They’re not particularly forbidden, but they’re still personal.

This means they are sensitive to touch, but they’re also sure to give your partner a sense of emotional connection as well.

Soft touches, gentle kisses, licks, and even nibbles can intensify your partner’s sensations. When used at just the right time, they can send her over the edge.

Experiment with Sex Toys

Penetrative sex can be an enjoyable, pleasurable experience for men and women alike. Not every woman will climax from penetration alone, though. And that’s okay because vaginal penetration isn’t the only way for a woman to climax.

In fact, there are plenty of different kinds of orgasms that women can experience. There are even more sex toys available to help her achieve them. If you’re new to the world of sex toys, you may be overwhelmed by the options. However, you’ve come to the right place.

Here are just a few masturbatory aids and sex toys we recommend:

  • G-Spot Vibrators
  • Butt Plugs
  • Dual tip vibrators
  • Couple vibrators

The great thing about sex toys is there is just as much variety as there are people in the world. If one sex toy doesn’t work for you or your partner, it doesn’t mean that sex toys aren’t for you. It just means that particular toy isn’t for you.

So take the time to experiment with all the different kinds of sex toys you can get your hands on. You can even have your partner experiment a bit on her own. Just think of it as a way for her to ‘warm up’ for your sexual encounter.

And don’t think that you can only use these toys on your partner as an alternative to sex. The majority of these toys can be utilized during sex. This can intensify the experience for both of you, and it may even enable you to climax together.

Learn How to Eat Pussy

Let’s face it: A lot of men will brag about their sexual prowess, but how many can really back up their words with actions?

And if there’s one thing that a man will brag about knowing to do, it’s how to eat her out. But unless your woman is squirming and screaming from pleasure, are you really doing a good job?

The answer is no. The good news? You can easily up your pussy eating game.

Here’s how.

Mix It Up

It’s not enough to just lick her clit until she orgasms. The truth is, you have to have some variety in your offering. Because how often can a woman have her clit licked without it feeling like the same thing over and over?

So the answer to this common issue among men is simple: mix it up. You have to blow, lick, suck, and kiss your way to her most intense orgasm ever. This also means focusing on different areas of her nether regions, from her inner thighs to her pussy lips to her clitoris to her vagina.

(If you’re feeling adventurous, you can travel farther south to the anus!)

Build Her Anticipation

You now know the mechanics of a good pussy eating session. But you’re not ready to go forth and use these skills just yet. That’s because you’re still missing the most important part of eating her out.

And what is it? I’ll tell you:

The KEY to a truly sensational pussy eating session is teasing.

You must always go two steps forward, one step back if you want to build up her anticipation. Why? Because the greater the anticipation, the greater the orgasm.

So what does this look like in practice? Let’s say you’ve got her going. She’s panting, moaning, and wriggling with pleasure.

Should you: (A) Continue with your current technique; or (B) Move to a less intense technique?

If you answered A, you’re like many men. It feels good, so why stop?

The REAL answer, though, is B.

There’s nothing wrong with a quick and dirty oral sex session. You lick her pussy until she cums, and she’s happy. But in the event you want to leave her begging for more, then that’s just not enough.

That’s why B is the right answer in the scenario above. Just think of the build up that you’ll create as you bring her to the brink, and then pull her back again and again! Because when you finally let her explode, explode she will.

5 Ways to Have the Most Intense Orgasm of Your Life

It’s not selfish to want to experience an incredible sexual experience. If you’ve been conditioned to think it is selfish, though, then you may find it difficult to achieve a truly out-of-body orgasm for yourself.

The good news? It’s possible.


Get Comfortable

I mentioned above that it’s crucial to trust your partner. After all, an orgasm is a very personal experience. But beyond trusting your partner, you must also get comfortable with yourself and your environment.

What does this mean? To reach an orgasm, especially an intense one, you must be free from physical and mental stress. You need to be able to push your day-to-day worries out of your mind so you can avoid distraction.

More importantly, you should be comfortable with yourself. This means you need to accept the loss of control that comes with a truly intense orgasm. If you’re a woman, this also means accepting that you may squirt. Only once you have truly relaxed can you prepare for the greatest climax you’ve ever felt.

Take Your Time

The comfort you feel in the environment you’re in, and with the person you’re with, is important. But even in the best circumstances, you may feel rushed or otherwise pressured to climax on a certain time table.

Good things take time, however, and that includes climaxing. A quickie here or there is certainly a great way to spice up your sex life.

In general, though, you should aim to not put a time limit on your sexual encounters. Clear your schedule, take all the time you need to prepare for the evening ahead, and then have it. Your partner will appreciate the slow down, too.

Know (and Use) What You Like

Whether you’re doing this alone or with a partner, you likely have preferences. Perhaps you like a certain sex position. Or maybe you prefer a certain type of vibrator. Whatever your likes may be, you need to know what they are and use them fully and to your advantage.

It’s never a bad idea to go outside of your comfort zone and try new things. But there’s nothing wrong with using your tried-and-true techniques if you’re looking to achieve an out-of-this-world orgasm.

Try Edging

Edging is a masturbatory act (though, it can be practiced during sex with the help of your partner) where you bring yourself to the edge of orgasm, but then withdraw. You will repeat this several times before you finally let go and allow yourself to climax. As you might imagine, edging builds a lot of anticipation and sexual tension.

It can be quite uncomfortable, especially the more times you withdraw from the edge. The release you experience after an edging session, though, can be dizzying and mind boggling.

Take a Break

This is slightly similar to edging in that the ability to withhold will bring you to a much more intense climax. What I mean by taking a break, however, is avoiding orgasm entirely for a period of time.

So, what’s a good length of time? The length of your break will depend on how often you currently come to climax. If you regularly orgasm two or three times per week, then going an entire week without orgasm may be enough.

Or you may find that waiting two weeks will bring you the most fulfillment. You’ll need to find a length of time that works for you (and your partner).

You don’t need to forgo sexual experience to achieve this. (Though, it certainly would be easier.) This is especially important if you have a sexual partner who would feel otherwise put out by your experiment. You should avoid bringing yourself to the “edge,” however.


As you’ve just learned above, it’s possible to give your partner an orgasm without fully fulfilling their needs. That’s why you need to take a more strategic approach to bringing your partner to climax. This will enable you to give them an orgasm that’s beyond their wildest dreams.

It’s unlikely you’ll be able to try out all of the tips outlined above. But if you implement even just a few of them, you’ll be well on your way to giving her (or him!) the most leg-shaking, out-of-this-world orgasm of her life.