Of all the erogenous zones on a woman, the nipples are arguably the most neglected. Very few men (and women) realise that nipple orgasms are possible.
Well, we’re here to tell you that they are. Once you’ve learned how to give a woman a nipple orgasm, you’ll have one more tool on your arsenal for helping her climax.
You might be wondering, “What is a nipple orgasm, anyway?” It’s quite simple: it’s when you stimulate a woman’s nipples until she climaxes. You don’t stimulate her clitoris or G-spot.
Although it might sound easy in theory, making a woman climax by doing nothing other than stimulating her nipples can be challenging. Fortunately, we’ve got some tips that will make it way easier on you.
Most partners falsely believe that all orgasms start below the waist. But as you’ll come to see, this isn’t true. A woman’s nipples have millions of nerve endings, each of can deliver pleasure. By stimulating her nipples, you can make her climax in the same way that she would if you were stimulating her clitoris or G-spot.
Not only are nipple orgasms incredibly fun, but they’re also different, and can add some spice to the bedroom. Nipple stimulation is also very erotic, and will cause a flood of “feel good” hormones to be released into your partner’s brain.
The most powerful of these hormones is oxytocin (a.k.a. “the cuddle hormone”).
Here are some tips and tactics for making her climax via nipple stimulation:
Pick The Right Position: By far the best position for this sexual technique is for her to lay down on her back with her breasts and nipples facing the ceiling. She should be completely naked and comfortable.
Start With a Fan: Rather than going straight in and sucking on her nipples, use a fan to gently blow air against her nipples. This builds a lot more anticipation for the sucking and will get her nipples quite hard.
Is She Hard? Start Sucking: Once her nipples are hard from the fan, go in and gently start sucking on them. Make sure that you’re giving equal attention to both of her nipples.
Don’t Be Afraid to Gently Nibble: To make the experience spicier, gently nibble on her nipples using your teeth. It’s very important that you make it gentle, otherwise, it could turn her off.
Throw In Something Soft: Every now and then, stop sucking and begin stimulating her nipples with something soft (like fur or a feather). This will make the experience even more erotic.
Massage Her Breasts: While sucking her nipples, make sure that you’re massaging her breasts at the same time. It adds a degree of pleasure and will give her a more powerful orgasm.
Use Oil: If you’re going to massage her breasts (which can make breasts larger by the way) we recommend using oil. There are oils specifically designed for breast massages.
Slapping: If she enjoys it, then gently slap her breasts while you stimulate her nipples. You might be thinking, “But won’t that hurt?” Believe it or not, some women love this kind of stuff.
Use Ice: Remember earlier when we said that blowing on your partner’s breasts would harden their nipples and turn them on? Well, know that you can also use ice and/or cooling gel to achieve the same result!
Vibrators: Although vibrators are designed for action “below the waist”, they can also be used for nipple stimulation. Simply place it between her breasts or touch it against her nipples to make her climax.
Remember- everything you do must be done slowly, passionately, and with purpose. Don’t rush her to orgasm and don’t just “go through the motions”.
Really get into making her feel good and focus on providing as much pleasure as possible. If you do that, and there aren’t any distractions present, you’re almost guaranteed to give her a nipple orgasm.
If you and your partner want to become even more adventurous, then add nipple clamps to your arsenal. As its name implies, this device “clamps” around the nipple.
How tight do they clamp down? It depends on the clamp. Some are designed to clamp down very gently, while others are designed to clamp down more tightly.
Find a clamp that your partner is happy with. There are four types to choose from:
Which one works best for giving a woman a nipple orgasm? It depends! If she likes things a bit rougher, then get the clover clamps. For something less tight, go with magnetic clamps.
The tweezer clamps can also be very erotic if she’s into that. Also, you don’t need to spend money on these tools if you don’t want to. Regular clothespins will also work.
Do you want to make her nipples even more sensitive (and thus give her more pleasure)? If so, give breast/nipple pumps a try. This sex toy is a lot of fun, isn’t difficult to use, and doesn’t cause any pain. And best of all, it can lead to very intense orgasms.
Here’s how it works: the device draws blood to the nipples, which makes them engorged and extremely sensitive to stimulation.
Once her nipples are ultra-sensitive, you can use the techniques above (licking, sucking, etc.) to make her climax.
Most breast/nipple pumps are straightforward and easy to use: just place the “suction” part against her nipples and then turn on the machine.
The device will create a vacuum that will pull on the nipples, creating pressure. This will draw a lot of blood to the area, causing her nipples to become extremely sensitive. They’re not that expensive and are a great way to spice up your sex life.
Women aren’t like men. Generally, it takes a lot more effort for a woman to climax in the bedroom than a man. If you’ve followed the tips in this article, and she’s still not having an orgasm, then you’re doing something wrong.
Below, we’re going to show you the most common reasons why women fail to have an orgasm when they’re getting their nipples stimulated:
Sometimes, despite your best efforts, she won’t orgasm. Why? It’s tough to say. It’s possible that she simply can’t orgasm from nipple stimulation alone.
If that’s the case, you’ll need to stimulate her below the waist to make her climax.
Also, just because she doesn’t get off with nipple play alone, that doesn’t mean the attempt was a failure. Stimulating her nipples beforehand can make her more likely to climax during vaginal sex.
We hope that you’ve enjoyed this guide on how to give a woman a nipple orgasm. Our biggest takeaway is to experiment with the various tips and tactics listed above.
All women are different, and as a result, will respond differently to each technique. For example, some women love getting their breasts slapped during nipple stimulation, while others don’t.
Some like clamps, while others prefer not to use them. It’s all about personal preference, so the better you know your partner, the more likely you are to make them climax via nipple stimulation.
In this ultimate guide to erotic massage I’m going to reveal to you my 7 secrets that will:
In this erotic massage ‘blueprint’ you’re going to learn the secret massage techniques and methods that will simultaneously relax and stimulate any woman, turning her from completely uninterested in sex to dripping wet and begging you for more.
At the same time, you’ll learn how to rapidly remove the physical and emotional stress and tension that can make it almost impossible for a woman to achieve orgasm.
Do this, and not only will your woman enjoy orgasms more easily and frequently, but she’ll also be much more likely to experience full body and squirting orgasms too.
In a study performed in 2009, 50% of women admitted to faking an orgasm at one point or another. For men, the number was much lower, just 25%.
Some of the more common reasons for pretending to orgasm were, wanting the sex to end and not wanting to create hard feelings between themselves and their partner.
What does this research tell us?
One, it’s obvious that there’s a certain expectation surrounding sexual experiences and achieving orgasm.
Two, women experience greater amounts of pressure regarding this issue.
But why is the percentage for faking orgasm significantly higher in women than in men?
Just to speculate, consider the difference in arousal styles of men and women.
For men, sexual arousal is like a simmering pot. Feelings of sexual desire are frequently spontaneous, and orgasm is easily achieved by the majority of men, due to these two factors.
For women, however, sexual arousal can be best compared to a pot of standing water.
Female desire is more responsive in nature, and as opposed to the already simmering pot of male sexual around, women first must be brought to a simmer before they can be brought to a boil.
Comparisons aside, it’s obvious that female and male patterns of sexual arousal differ. And, while men may use sex and orgasm as a form of stress relief; stress and tension play a very different role in female desire, arousal, and, ultimately, orgasm.
A number of stressors can have their impact on women making it difficult for them to become aroused or achieve orgasm.
From work stress to illness to general feelings of busyness, feelings of tension can make it difficult for your female partner to “shut down” at the end of the day and truly enjoy sex.
This means that your partner may only go through the motions in order to avoid hurting your feelings, or they may engage in sex hoping to reach orgasm but struggle to fully enjoy themselves due to physical and emotional stress.
But don’t men experience daily stress, too? So, why does stress impact women and men differently?
According to researchers, women are more likely to report physical and emotional symptoms of stress when compared to their male counterparts.
The exact reason isn’t known, but there’s no doubt that stress has a big impact on women’s physical and emotional health.
With some of the physical and emotional symptoms illustrated above, and without feelings of enjoyment and fulfillment, it’s easy to see why many women aren’t as “into” sex as their male partners.
So, what can you do to combat feelings of stress and disinterest in your lover?
As will be explained more thoroughly in the next section, erotic massage can help you to relieve your female partner’s stress and gain her full attention in the bedroom.
You now understand how stress and tension can physically and mentally affect your female partner’s desire, arousal, and ability to orgasm.
So, let’s consider what it looks like on the other side – how lack of stress and tension can ignite your partner’s sexual energy and enable her to reach climax, and even squirt.
Emotional stress brings with it the numerous physical symptoms mentioned in the previous section.
From backaches to sore muscles to general discomfort and tightness, your female partner’s sexual prowess can be severely affected in a negative manner.
This is why the massage techniques outlined in this blueprint are essential.
These techniques will not only relieve the physical and outward signs of tension, but they will also increase blood flow to your partner’s most sensitive areas and teach her how to control her breathing in order to use it as a tool of sexual bliss.
The diagram below gives a good idea of how a woman’s sexual energy can flow around her body, according to Toaist wisdom.
Further, you and your partner will experience a deeper bond, which will help her to relieve feelings of self-consciousness (which may make it difficult to climax) and become more sexually confident and self-aware.
What are some of the other physical and mental benefits that your partner can hope to experience when you utilize erotic massage?
The vagina is a muscle just like any other found elsewhere on the body.
This means that regular erotic massage sessions will help your female partner to let go of her vaginal muscle tension and allow you to manipulate her genitals and erotic zones without involuntary muscle tightness on her behalf.
The very same muscle found in the vagina which is tightened and relaxed during Kegel exercises, the PC muscle, is also linked to squirting.
Some women struggle to fully let go during foreplay and intercourse, and this can make it difficult (if not impossible) to squirt.
After numerous erotic massage sessions, however, your female partner will be better able to not only relax her muscles, but also let go of general anxieties and fears associated with squirting and loss of control.
In our modern culture, while sex is certainly more celebrated today than in the past, there’s still much surrounding the subject, which is considered taboo, and even shameful.
For some women, this can translate to shame and guilt, which in turn leads to lowered feelings of desire and arousal and further cycles back to shame and guilt when she recognizes that she isn’t meeting her male partner’s sexual needs.
This vicious cycle can be difficult to break, but erotic massage can help to bring your partner to a better awareness of the abilities of her body, and the beauty that is sexual desire and release.
Whether you’ve previously realized it or not, there should now be no doubt in your mind that stress and tension (and the control of such things) plays a vital role in your female lover’s ability to orgasm and fully enjoy each sexual encounter she experiences.
But of course, erotic massage sessions can also benefit you and your relationship in a number of ways, two of which will be outlined further in the coming sections.
A common problem in relationships tends to be a feeling of disconnect. The male partner may feel unloved because his physical (i.e. sexual) needs aren’t being met.
The female partner may feel unloved because her emotional needs aren’t being met. This cycle continues, or one partner goes without need fulfillment in order to avoid conflict.
While the above scenario is far too common, it’s also unhealthy and can be damaging to your relationship.
After all, there’s only so much that each partner can give before they must also feel that they’ve received an equal amount back in reciprocation.
So, what’s the answer? How can the male partner feel sexually fulfilled without feeling like he’s pushing his female partner to have sex, and how can the female partner feel emotionally fulfilled without feeling like she begrudgingly gives in to her partner on a regular basis?
Well, as this ebook outlines, erotic massage may be just the answer you’re looking for.
In day-to-day life, it can be easy to let stress and emotional distance get in the way of sexual and emotional relationships with our partner.
Erotic massage, however, forges feelings of intimacy and physical closeness while simultaneously easing your partner’s stress and allowing her to get into the mood for a sexual encounter.
For some, the use of erotic massage as a lead up to sex may seem crass, and perhaps even manipulative. Keep in mind, however, that while the results of introducing erotic massage to your relationship may lead to more and better sex, it’s not the only end goal to be achieved.
With the addition of erotic massage to your love life, you can also bring you and your partner closer together, physically and emotionally.
Whether your partner is regularly stressed or is simply feeling uninspired, erotic massage can be just the tool you need to explore deeper levels of sexual bliss in your relationship.
There’s no gimmick and there’s no catch. Simply put, bringing massage into the bedroom will improve your love life because, by its very nature, it’s intimate and stimulating and profound.
You will explore every inch of your lover’s body, and in doing so, you will introduce her to new sensations and feelings. You will reduce her stress levels and make it possible for her to become more easily aroused and even reach orgasm.
Erotic massage is just as much a tool for sexual bliss as it is for emotional intimacy. In the process of exploring both your and your partner’s sexual desires, you will also build an intimate bond which will bring her to a deeper and more satisfying arousal.
Now, if you’re ready to get started, you may be feeling a bit overwhelmed. In the next few chapters, you’ll learn more about the essential elements of erotic massage, how to massage each area of your partner’s body, and how to combine all that you’ve learned to provide your partner with a targeted erotic massage that will get her in the mood.
In order to reap the benefits laid out in the previous chapter, it’s time to take a look at the three essential elements of erotic couples massage and how you can use these elements in the bedroom.
Setting the scene from the very start is important, as the environment can easily make or break the experience for your partner.
Fortunately, this need not be an expensive or time-consuming endeavor, as long as you consider the three aspects below.
First, you’ll want to create an environment completely free from distraction. Remove all phones and laptops from the room, or set them to silent and place out of sight. Unplug the TV and computer, and even cover alarm clocks and other devices that have harsh, electronic displays.
Next, take a moment to think about how your partner likes to relax. Perhaps she enjoys the scent of a particular candle, or maybe a fresh arrangement of flowers is more her thing.
Set the tone with soft, instrumental music, and create a world that is just for the two of you.
Now, consider which “equipment” you’ll be using during the session. Oil is an absolute must, but the one you choose will depend entirely on you and your partner’s preferences.
Oils such as coconut and almond are lightly-scented options with good, moisturizing effects.
Some, however, prefer the feel of mineral oils, while others prefer vegetable oils, such as canola or sunflower.
Also, where will your partner be laying throughout this exercise? The bed is a good space, if it’s large enough for her to stretch onto comfortably.
However, a table or floor is just as good once covered with a soft, layered mat.
We’ve mentioned previously that the introduction of erotic massage into your relationship can lead to a better and more active sex life.
And, while this is certainly a wonderful side effect, it’s important that your mindset is focused entirely on the enjoyment and relaxation of your female partner.
Prior to a massage session, ask yourself:
The answers to these questions can help you to maintain the proper mindset throughout the session, and while they may take a bit of time to figure out, it’ll be worth it to provide your partner with the relaxing and erotic experience she’s craving.
While environment and mindset are essential aspects of erotic massage, the massage itself would be nothing without technique.
What is technique, and how can you be sure to take the right approach?
We’ll be focusing on applied technique more thoroughly in Chapter 4, and in Chapter 5 we’ll discuss the various massage theories and their techniques, but let’s lay out the basics.
First and foremost, keep in mind that nothing is more important than focusing on how your partner responds to your touches.
While you may be tempted to follow a massage routine or technique strictly, it’s important that you use your intuition to see what your partner likes and use judgment accordingly to alter the routine.
Now, what are some common massage techniques to use in the bedroom?
At the beginning of any massage session, it’s best to start with light and gentle touches.
These touches are known as effleurage, and their purpose is to get the blood circulating and the subject prepared for the massage that is about to take place.
Using the palm of your hands, begin with a light touch. You can work in any pattern you choose, though circular motions are the most common and are the best at covering the most surface area.
Keep the pressure consistent and be sure to pay equal amounts of attention to each area of your partner.
This is perhaps the most commonly used technique during massage sessions, and it’s also one of the easiest to learn.
Using your thumb and fingertips, you’ll take the muscle tissue between them and squeeze at varying intervals. This is excellent for larger muscles, such as those found in the thighs, upper arms, and buttocks.
If your partner has particularly stubborn knots or areas of stress, manual stretching can provide them with the greatest relief.
This technique involves the manual manipulation of your partner’s joints. You can gently rotate their wrists and ankles, stretch and bend their knees and elbows, and work to get their limbs as free and loose as possible without force.
The swift, chopping motions associated with this massage technique may not seem erotic, but this can be fun to experiment with and see how both you and your partner like it.
There are various ways to perform this technique, from using the side of your hand to perform a quick chopping motion to the thighs and upper back to using your fingertips to tap out kinks and knots found on the lower back, neck, and face, percussion is a useful tool in your erotic massage arsenal.
Frequently associated with deep tissue massage, the friction technique can be useful when working out tight, focused kinks.
With your thumb and fingertips, gently apply pressure to the knot and slowly work in a circular motion.
As the knot begins to give way to the pressure, apply more pressure while continually ensuring that your partner is not uncomfortable.
To lessen the hurts-so-good feeling associated with this technique, vary the levels of pressure throughout the session to give your partner a bit of a reprieve every now and again.
Those are just a few common techniques that can be used during a massage session.
Experiment with different forms of manipulation and touch, and remember to always keep an eye on your partner and her reactions.
If this is your first glimpse into the world of massage, you may be asking yourself how massage can provide all of the benefits mentioned in Chapter 1 and so much more.
That is certainly a fair question.
First and foremost, humans are sensory-seeking creatures.
From a young age, humans are taught that touch is good. We touch others in order to give and receive comfort, to provide warmth, and to show a sign of solidarity.
We touch our lovers to show that we care, and to provide them with joy and satisfaction.
Massage, then, can be an easy way to show your partner that you care for them and their wellbeing.
Second, consider that there’s a certain level of openness—of trust—which comes with sensual massage.
Not many women would be open to an erotic massage from a man they didn’t trust or care for, and this contributes significantly to the positive feelings and physical benefits associated with an erotic massage session.
There are a number of processes which the body undergoes when receiving massage. Some of these processes, such as the relaxation of targeted muscles, are local.
Other processes, such as the release of endorphins, are whole body.
But what’s the exact mechanism behind these happenings?
There are a few theories among experts. Some scientists and researchers believe that physical touch as experienced in massage sessions improves circulation.
This, in turn, increases the amount of oxygen delivered to the muscle and helps to speed up the healing process. Other experts believe that massage engages the lymphatic system.
This removes the waste from the knotted area and improves muscle healing and movement. Still, others believe that the benefits of massage are all based in the nervous system.
Touch leads to an electric sensation which travels from the physical location of the massage to the brain, releasing endorphins and other pleasant chemicals.
So, who’s right?
As of yet, there’s no right or wrong. It could very well be that none of the above theories are true, or that they all are.
But whatever the exact reason for the “good” feelings, there’s no arguing with the scientific research which backs the many benefits associated with massage.
From reduction in anxiety and depression levels to control of inflammation following strenuous physical activities, massage and massage therapy certainly have shown time and again that they provide many benefits to those who undergo treatment.
Once you understand how massage works and the many benefits it provides, it’s easy to see how erotic massage came to be.
After all, when you combine two things that make you feel good (in this case, massage and sex), doesn’t it make sense that the good feelings would be amplified?
But erotic massage isn’t all about sexual pleasure. Instead, there are two sources of pleasure that your partner will enjoy during an erotic massage session.
Of course, sexual pleasure is certainly one of those sources. However, the other source of pleasure derives from the massage itself.
Think of an orgasm as a by-product of the erotic massage session, but not the ultimate goal. As your hands move from body part to body part, your partner will become more and more relaxed.
The tension will leave her body, ever so slowly, until all muscles are loosened. This is the reason that climax becomes more likely, and squirting even becomes possible—as your partner gives into the relaxation, her inhibitions will give way as well.
With erotic massage, your partner will slowly lose all signs of fear, anxiety, and self-consciousness.
This is the “magic” that is erotic massage. It’s not really magic, however, is it? Instead, the physical and emotional benefits are supported by research and touted by medical professionals around the world.
It’s not enough to know the common massage techniques outlined in Chapter 2.
To ensure that your partner receives the satisfaction that she deserves, it’s also important to know which areas of the body to target and in which manner.
You can certainly use the outlined techniques from head to toe, but sometimes a routine which includes targeted combinations of different body parts can provide just as much, if not more, satisfaction when done in the right way.
As the point of this routine is to prolong desire in your partner and leave her hungry for more, you want to be sure in the beginning stages to avoid genital contact. It’s important to build anticipation and excitement in your partner, and you can easily do so by utilizing the massage techniques outlined in Chapter 2.
This way, by the time you’re finally ready to stimulate her sexually, she’ll be more than ready, and even craving for more.
This is why massage is such an effective prelude to sex, especially If the woman has a hard time getting in the mood.
To begin, have your partner sitting straight up either on the edge of the bed or in a chair.
Start with a simple neck/shoulder combination massage, utilizing a mix of effleurage, kneading, and perhaps even friction.
As your partner’s neck and shoulders loosen, move on to her arms. Begin at the top, kneading the larger muscles and then using a simple gliding/pulling method from the shoulder all the way down to the wrist. Repeat on the other arm.
Moving on to the legs, begin at the thighs. It’s important at this point in the routine to avoid contact with her genitals.
Using a combination of effleurage, kneading, pulling, and percussion, slowly work your way from thigh to knee to calf to ankle. To intensify feelings of desire, track back to a previous point and then continue on your journey downwards once more.
It’s vital that throughout this process, you really focus on your partner’s sexual cues.
How is she responding to each touch, and which areas of her body are most sensitive? You can answer these questions by taking note of her physical responses.
When you touch a particular body part or perform a particular technique, does she…
The above signals are physical signs that your partner is enjoying the experience, and such cues can help you to get a better idea of what body parts your partner enjoys having touched and which massage techniques she enjoys.
An orgasm is the greatest possible sexual release that your partner can experience. And, while orgasms can vary in length and intensity, with the right massage routine, you can both prolong the length and increase the strength of the orgasm.
Now, the last targeted routine focused on prolonging desire. That’s a fantastic routine to begin with, especially if you and your partner are still new to erotic massage.
However, at a certain point, it becomes obvious that your partner is ready to receive more.
For the majority of women, orgasm cannot be achieved with penetration alone.
Instead, clitoral stimulation plays a large role in a woman’s ability to orgasm, and this nugget of knowledge can be beneficial for you and your partner.
To intensity your lover’s orgasm, you don’t necessarily need to increase the amount of contact that your fingers make with her clitoris.
What’s most important is the quality of that contact and whether you truly know your partner’s sexual cues.
Whether you’re working your way from the above targeted routine into this one, or you’re beginning this routine from the very start, have your partner lay flat on her back on the bed, the floor, or a cushioned table.
For this routine, you want to start with a whole-body once over. This is a quick “rundown” of the more thorough routine you’ll be getting into, but it will start with getting your partner’s blood circulating.
Using just your fingertips, begin at the forehead. Graze either side of her face with both hands, and then slowly work your way down to her neck and chest.
Avoid direct contact with her nipples, but do a light graze around her breasts and down the sides of her torso. At her hips, you’re going to begin to branch out with one hand on one leg and the other hand on the other leg.
Simultaneously working your way down with both hands, remember to keep your touches light and feathery, and for added fun, trace your way back up a few steps and then down again.
As in the previous routine, it’s good to take note of your partner’s cues throughout this once over. This will allow you to have a better idea of your lover’s more sensitive areas.
Now, beginning again at the head, this time you’ll use the techniques from Chapter 2 to work your way down your lover’s body and towards her genitals.
You want to spend time kneading out any tight knots or kinks, but also be sure to add in light touches now and again to excite and arouse.
You’ll know which techniques are best for which body parts by experimenting and focusing on your partner’s physical cues.
As mentioned above, intensifying your partner’s orgasm doesn’t necessarily mean spending more time on the clitoris. Instead, you want to maximize the touches you do make by utilizing some massage techniques in the pubic region.
One such technique is the use of pressure just above the pubic bone. By running your fingers along your partner’s stomach, you’ll find the very top of the pubic bone above the hips but below the belly button.
Using the palm of your non-dominant hand, press down at a comfortable measure. You don’t want your partner to be uncomfortable, but you also want to be sure that she is grounded and secure.
Now, with your dominant hand, slowly work your way to your partner’s genitals, grazing the clitoris and exploring the outer lips.
Insert your middle and ring fingers into her vagina, and place the palm of that hand so it is against the clitoris. Moving your entire hand up and down, your middle and ring fingers will be hitting and stimulating the g-spot while your palm is simultaneously rubbing against your partner’s clitoris.
As your partner becomes closer to climax, press down above the pubic bone a bit more firmly and increase your strokes.
Once your partner reaches climax, this is the most important part. Keep your middle and ring fingers pressed firmly against the g-spot and allow your palm to rest against the clitoris.
When females climax, the clitoris can become extremely sensitive very quickly. This can cause the climax to fizzle out prematurely.
By using your palm as an anchor, you’re helping to keep the nerve endings from becoming too sensitive while still providing the pressure that the nerves need.
For a lot of women, squirting may seem to be an elusive experience. The reason for this, as discussed thoroughly in Chapter 1, is stress. The goal of this particular routine, then, will be to reduce stress in your partner and open her up to complete trust and vulnerability.
This will take some time, and it will likely take quite a bit of patience on your part. The results, however, are nothing short of amazing.
You will want to have worked through the above two routines a number of times prior to attempting this routine. This will ensure a certain level of comfort.
We touched briefly on the shame and fear that is so commonly associated with sex, but now it’s time to focus on a little understood ability in women: squirting.
Why does squirting seem to be a scary topic for so many women, and what can be done to “train” your partner to let go of all fears and consciousness in order to further explore this ability?
One common fear that women have is of urinating during sex. Both squirting and urinating are controlled by the same muscle, the PC muscle, and this can cause anxiety during sex and climax.
After all, if someone has gone their whole life associating a particular feeling with only one activity, it can be difficult to realize that that feeling can also be used for another, much different, activity. So, how can you help your partner to overcome this fear?
First, it’s important to speak with your partner. You need to understand what her biggest fears are and confront them together.
So, for example, if your partner expresses embarrassment about squirting, how can you two work together to overcome that embarrassment. For one, you can discuss “worst case” scenarios.
So, if your partner does end up confusing urination and squirting during sex, what’s the big deal? Let your partner know that, if she does happen to urinate (she won’t), there’s nothing to be ashamed of and you’ll be proud of her for trying.
Second, you need to practice patience with your partner. So many females are taught to feel shameful about their bodies and its sexual abilities, so you need to create a united front with your partner and help her to better see the beauty that is her body.
Third, you and your partner need to create a routine which brings her ultimate relaxation and allows her to feel her most vulnerable and open.
This routine will vary from woman to woman, which is why experimentation is the best course of action. Take the time to explore your lover’s body on a regular basis, and make sensual massage sessions part of your relationship.
What the exact routine will look like will depend upon you and your partner. If you aren’t sure where to start, however, consider following the targeted routine above for orgasm.
As stated previously, you and your partner should have worked through the first two routines offered in this chapter a few times.
This will provide the both of you with a sense of comfort and vulnerability, and it will make the experience that much more relaxed and enjoyable. After working through these routines, you should have a better idea of what your partner likes and doesn’t like.
Perhaps you made some small adjustments along the way that worked better — that’s great! Be sure to keep on top of your partner’s cues and take note of what techniques you used when she’s her most relaxed and open.
Remember, squirting need not be a mysterious experience for you or your partner. With the right level of relaxation and with patience and kindness displayed on your part, your partner too can experience the spine-tingling joy that comes along with the experience.
The previous chapters have provided you with much insight into the world of erotic massage, including how erotic massage can be beneficial for your female partner and how you can use erotic massage to open her up to desire, arousal, orgasm, and even squirting.
Now, it’s time to take a closer look at some of the world’s major massage theories and how you can put them into practice in your own erotic massage sessions.
This ancient theory has been practiced for thousands of years, but it’s only recently gained worldwide recognition as a therapeutic technique for a number of maladies.
A closely related therapy, acupuncture, commonly uses needles to stimulate the various pressure points throughout the body.
Acupressure, on the other hand, stimulates these same pressure points with the use of the hands. From the treatment of nausea to its use in chronic back pain sufferers, acupressure has a proven track record.
There are actually quite a few pressure points dedicated solely to arousal and female desire.
Three of these points which can be easily added into your routine are bubbling spring (located on the sole of the foot K1, K2), mansion cottage, and rushing door (both of the latter being located in the pelvic region).
Bubbling Spring is an excellent acupressure point for beginners, as the point is easy to find and the pressure can be applied with the thumb.
This point, located at the center of the sole and found right in between the two ball pads, can be pressurized at different times during the full body massage.
During your routine, you may want to make your way down towards the point every so often in order to apply pressure, or apply continuous pressure while performing oral or digital stimulation on your partner.
For Mansion Cottage and Rushing Door, both pressure points can be stimulated during oral sex, or when you’re working your way down her body.
These points are found right where the thigh and pelvis meet, so they’re easily accessible during massage and sex.
Ayurvedic medicine has been practice for more than 3,000 years in India.
Additionally, Ayurvedic massage practitioners are just as concerned with what oils are used on the body as they are with what techniques they use.
One of the simplest ways in which to incorporate Ayurvedic practices into your sensual massage sessions is with the use of herb-infused oils.
These fragrant oil combinations can not only set the mood, but they can also provide therapeutic benefits and make it easier for your female partner to become relaxed and open during this experience.
There are a number of oils to try out, from almond to sesame to thuja orientalis. Each oil has its own properties and nutritional benefits, and you and your partner can have fun customizing the experience.
Another thing to try is herbal infusion. There are an array of herbs used in India which can be infused into the oils you use for massage.
Ocimum Sanctum, also known as Holy Basil, is one such herb, and it’s been shown to be an effective treatment for Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD) in adults.
Shiatsu is another Asian pressure massage, very similar to acupressure.
In fact, Shiatsu is actually derived from Traditional Chinese Medicine, but has developed over time to become it’s own practice within the country of Japan and around the world.
Shiatsu massage practitioners use a combination of finger pressure, joint manipulation, stretching, and palpitations to complete treatment. Oil is not commonly used.
Similar to acupressure, Shiatsu massage can be easily added into your sensual massage routine, or pressure points can be triggered at random times during foreplay or intercourse to increase arousal.
Many of the pressure points are similar, however, in Shiatsu, there are other forms of manipulation other than pressure which can be applied.
An example of this is joint manipulation at the hip joint, right where the thigh and pelvis connect. Instruct your partner to lift her leg and bend her knee.
Grasping her foot with one hand and placing your other hand on the thigh which is lying flat, apply pressure to the Bubbling Spring pressure point on the sole while simultaneously leaning your body weight against her foot.
This gentle form of joint manipulation can trigger the two pressure points found in that pelvic crease, while also allowing her to stretch any tight muscles.
This style of massage is one most commonly recognized. In fact, the techniques mentioned in Chapter 2 make up the majority of Swedish massage techniques, which means you can add the Swedish style of massage to your sensual massage routine without too much work.
Swedish massage is likely the most studied form of massage, with dozens of independent studies confirming its benefits.
From decreasing blood pressure in hypertensive women to increasing the quality of life in Multiple Sclerosis patients, Swedish massage certainly has a lot to offer those who undergo its techniques.
Throughout this ebook, we’ve touched upon some of the most basic massage techniques out there.
These techniques, as mentioned above, are all utilized in the Swedish massage tradition, and even the routines in Chapter 4 can be said to be done in the Swedish fashion.
As you can see, many of the techniques used in Swedish massage can be easily added to your erotic massage sessions and will benefit your partner immensely.
This is the massage method that has been developed over a number of years with the specific intent of enhancing the female orgasm.
There are very specific areas where the massage must be applied. These are the areas in the female body where her sexual energy must flow unrestrained to maximize her ‘orgasmic potential.’
When these areas are blocked by stress and tension sexual energy tends to stagnate, so it can’t flow around her body and she will be less likely to achieve full-body orgasms.
Conversely, by using this massage technique to remove the tension spots her body will fully be able to let her sexual energy flow throughout her body.
Think about it like a ripple in a pond. The muscle tension and stress stop the energy flowing, and stop the orgasm travelling from her pussy into her body.
Removing the tension at these specific spots also means stronger orgasms in the first place. The female orgasm can be though of as an ‘energetic release.’
But for this energy to first be available (to be released) it must flow from her body into her genitals.
This is why unhealthy and unfit women generally find it harder to orgasm – they have less sexual energy to start with.
Once you’ve removed these tension spots its easier for the energy to flow into her pussy (during foreplay) and then ripple out through her body (during climax.)
This is ultimately what makes for some of the most pleasurable, healing and intense orgasms she’ll ever have.
Here are the tension spots that you’ll need to get rid of:
On her front
On her back
The blue patches of the body indicate the most important areas that need to be massaged.
Depending on various factors she might need 10 – 15 2-hour massage sessions, over a period of 2 – 3 months.
Some woman who do yoga, for example, eat healthy, regularly detox physically and emotionally will need much less sessions to reach their full orgasmic potential.
On the other end of the spectrum women who have ‘let themselves go’ and are unfit and unhealthy will need more.
Regular massage oil works well, but grape-seed oil is probably the best option, being easily available, cheap, good for the skin, an excellent lubricant, and both good for massage and the squirting method.
This “blueprint” was designed to teach you how to turn your female partner from stressed and unable to orgasm to relaxed and able to achieve full-body orgasms every time.
You don’t need special skills or expensive training. All you need is patience and understanding.
Remember, this blueprint is not meant to be a magic cure for relationship woes. Instead, it’ here to teach you the steps you need to take to relieve your partner’s tensions and create a truly enjoyable sensual experience for her.
This sensual experience will require a relationship of trust and love, and both you and your partner need to be willing to be open and vulnerable in order for her to achieve the satisfaction she so desires.
If you’re ready to make your female partner tremble with delight, and if you’d like to bring her to a climax so powerful that she squirts, then you’re in the right place.
With the help of this 6-step guide, you’ll learn just how to bring your woman effortlessly to one of the best orgasms of her life – the squirting orgasm!
From removing distractions in the bedroom to the exact fingering techniques you should be using, I will show you all that you need to know to get her there.
Just look at this comment from the School Of Squirt private Facebook group…
So, if you’re ready to provide your woman with an experience so intense she’ll be begging you for more, check out the tips outlined below.
The rest of this guide is absolutely useless without this first part. After all, you can’t expect your woman to be in the mood if you can’t even take the time to make it possible for her.
It’s your job to erase all cares and distractions from your partner’s mind. Instead, you want her to only have thoughts of the pleasure that’s to come.
So, what are some small preparations you can make which will have a big impact?
Whether you’re just getting ready for foreplay, or you’d like to start stimulating her clitoris and vagina with the tips outlined in tips 4 and 5, the position she’s in can make or break the experience.
Here’s a simple position which will give you full access to her clitoris and g-spot, while also ensuring that she is comfortable and relaxed to the fullest:
You could even try this special ‘inverted spiderman’ technique. Just hang her head off the edge of the bed and you’ll be able to hit her g-spot in the perfect position.
Now that she’s in the right position, let’s move on to some physical stimulation.
Even more than the environment, preparing your partner – both mentally and physically – for the experience is absolutely necessary if you want her to climax, and especially if you want her to squirt.
With the help of the foreplay techniques below, you can get started getting your woman into the proper mood:
Whisper sweet nothings – Whether your partner enjoys the gentle brush of your breath against her ear, or the sound of dirty talk gets her going, this step can be used to titillate and tease.
Utilize sensual massage – To get your night off to an exhilarating start, why not take some time to give your partner a sensual rubdown? There are various massage techniques you can incorporate into this part of the evening, and you can always take cues from your partner to see what’s a hit and what’s a miss.
Locate her erogenous zones – Just like men, women have a few ultra-sensitive spots that, with the right stimulation, can make arousal easy. You may have an idea what some of the most obvious erogenous zones are, but take a chance to try out these 7 lesser-known hot spots for the ultimate experience.
Protip: Some men may find it difficult to determine which spots their partner find to be most sensitive. This need not be an issue, as long as you communicate and pay special attention to her physical cues.
If your partner cannot tell you what she likes, and if you are unable to read her cues, at this moment in time, squirting will not happen. Instead, you must first work on breaking down these walls in your relationship.
If there’s one thing to splurge on when it comes to bringing your woman pleasure, it’s a high-quality lubricant which will make this sexual escapade much more fun, both for you and for her.
You really can never use too much lube.
With this in mind, let’s go over some g-spot stimulating steps you can take:
Keep in mind, your partner may complain of an urge to urinate. This is absolutely normal, and you should assure her that she need not worry.
In order to squirt, she will need to feel completely comfortable around you, and providing her with reassurance that that a bit of urine isn’t anything that will freak you out will help her to relax and let go.
I mentioned above that the right position will ensure you’re able to stimulate the vagina and clitoris at the same time. But, what makes this so important?
The clitoris, while certainly the most sensitive part of her genitals, isn’t the only place she craves stimulation.
So, to provide her with a body-rocking, breath-taking, and moan-inducing orgasm, you’ll want to take extra special care to provide both the clitoris and vagina with equal amounts of attention.
Fortunately for you, there’s a well-defined technique for doing so, and here it is:
You may be focused on bringing your partner to climax and getting her to squirt, but don’t let that be the main goal.
Instead, focus on the overall experience and let her pleasure and climax be a byproduct of the encounter.
Men find it hard to understand how women become aroused, because its so different from men.
For most men, its a sprint to the finish line – but for when the arousal cycle can go up and down, through plateaus and peaks.
Especially for women who have never ejaculated before, getting them to that point can take a lot of time and patience. You may need to tweak the techniques as you go along, but eventually you and your partner will get into the groove that’s right for you.
And, once she’s cum once, she’s bound to want to cum again and again.
So, take your time and really enjoy the experience.
There’s no shame in needing a bit of help from time to time, and there’s a few tools you can use to make this process much easier.
First, consider bringing some toys into the bedroom. There are a variety of toys – from vibrators to g-spot stimulators to dildos – which can aid you in getting your partner to a screaming, squirting orgasm.
Second, if you’re having trouble mastering the above techniques, you may need a more thorough guide to female arousal and ejaculation.
Here’s what I like to do…
Go out and buy one of those vibrating cock rings (durex have some good ones that are available at most convenience stores…)
Now what you can do is, instead of using the vibrating part for your self, you can gently hold the vibrating part against her clit with one hand…
Whilst using your other hand to finger her in exactly the way I’ve described before.
This powerful combination of vibration stimulating her clit, and fingers hitting her g-spot is too much for most women to handle and they’ll almost always burst open with sprays of lovely pussy juice.
How do I know this technique works???
If you’re feeling really cheeky (and experimental) you can see if she likes having an additional (lubricated) finger inserted up her bum.
This adds another dimension of pleasure to the equation…
and gives her an even stronger feeling of being ‘full’ which women love.
Or you could try using a butt plug, to give her that ‘full’ feeling without needing to use an additional fingers.
In the guide above, I briefly mentioned massage as a foreplay technique to induce relaxation and ignite desire. Massage, however, can also be used as a tool to guide your partner towards orgasm and squirting.
Sensual massage has been used around the world for centuries, and its techniques have been refined and improved upon ever since its use began.
But how can you bring sensual massage into the bedroom, and how can you use it to bring your partner to climax?
Like other forms of massage, the main focus of sensual massage is relaxation.
A byproduct of sensual massage also tends to be sexual arousal and, ultimately, release. And, while this byproduct is certainly desired by both you and your partner, it should never be the main focus of your sensual massage sessions.
Keep in mind: The main barrier for women who feel they are unable to squirt is tension and shame. Both of these manifest in the body, causing tight muscles and knots.
With continued massage sessions, however, you can help your partner to work out their kinks and relax them to the point that they are more open and willing to let go.
You can introduce sensual massage in a number of ways. The majority of women will respond positively, and you may find that your partner is just as excited to receive it as you are to give it.
One way to introduce it is to begin with a full body massage, slowly working your way towards the more erogenous areas of her body.
You can perform a once-over massage, moving from head to toe, and then tracing back to the areas in which she showed the most reaction.
Doing this multiple times, you can create the desired result of increased arousal and make it so that climax, once stimulation occurs, is almost instantaneous.
The method which combines clitoral and vaginal stimulation in Tip #5 is the best way to stimulate your partner following the sensual massage.
There’s quite a bit of mystery surrounding the subject of female ejaculation. Hoping to dispel these myths so you and your partner can begin to enjoy the adventure that is squirting, I’ve compiled a list of some of the most frequently asked questions on the subject.
Contrary to popular belief, female ejaculate is NOT urine.
In fact, the fluids released during the act of squirting have actually been found to be quite similar to male ejaculate without sperm.
But if not the bladder, where does this fluid come from?
In a 2007 research study, scientists utilized ultrasound technology and endoscopy of the urethra to find the source. The ultrasound revealed the presence of a structure, similar to the male prostate.
This structure, known informally as the Skene’s gland, is located close to the G-spot, and surrounds the entire length of the urethra.
When compared to the chemical composition of voided urine, researchers found that the released fluid contained prostate plasma and shows that the fluid’s origin is the Skene’s gland and not the bladder.
Squirting can provide women with both physical and emotional health benefits.
Physically, squirting as a form of release will reduce stress levels and boost the production of endorphins, the body’s “happy” hormones.
Emotionally, squirting can increase the bond between you and your partner, and create a deep sense of intimacy and love.
Biologically speaking, all women have the physical attributes necessary to squirt. Emotionally, however, there may be a few barriers in place which make squirting difficult or “impossible” for a number of women.
With the proper coaching and a good deal of trust, even the most bashful of woman can be brought to a squirting orgasm.
The best indication of a woman’s ability to squirt is the openness and trust she feels in her partner. Of course, any woman can squirt with patience and effort on the part of her partner.
Surprisingly, there is also a physical attribute which may indicate the ability to squirt more easily. This attribute is known as squirter’s dimples, and they are the small indentations located on both sides of the lower back, just above the buttocks.
If your partner has yet to experience squirting, you may think that squirting just isn’t something she’s capable of.
As mentioned above, any women can squirt. There are emotional blocks, however, which can make squirting rather difficult and seemingly impossible.
There are a few things you can do to get your partner to squirt.
First and foremost, the trust which your partner has in you and in your relationship will make or break her ability to squirt. For women, arousal is just as much (if not more) emotional as it is physical.
This means taking the time to build up your partner’s trust, as well as connecting on a deep, emotional level, will make it possible for your partner to squirt.
Second, it’s vital that you create an environment in which relaxation and comfort is the main focus. The suggestions outlined in Tip #1 above will provide you with the information you need to create the perfect setting.
Even women who have been known to squirt before may find it difficult or time consuming.
Practice does make perfect, so just taking the time to focus on your partner’s sexual needs will do a lot to improve her abilities.
Other things to keep in mind are stimulation techniques, as well as cue reading. You always want to focus on your partner’s responses to your touch, as this will guide you in the right direction. Once you understand her cues, helping her to climax will become a breeze.
The best way to make it easier for her to squirt is to get her to practice the kegel exercise.
This tones and strengthens the vaginal muscles allowing her pussy to contract more powerfully, and therefore squirt more easily.
One simple kegel exercise is to lie flat on the floor with knees bent up, then raise up the bum and contract/flex the vaginal muscles.
The main complaint of many women who have yet to master the art of squirting is the inability to distinguish between the need to pee and the urge to squirt.
The simple fact is, for beginning squirters, there is no difference between these two feelings.
As the Skene’s gland is located in close proximity to the bladder, women who have to yet to experience the feeling of squirting will assume they need to pee. As a woman becomes more accustomed to squirting, however, the feelings will become more distinct and easily distinguishable.
What can you do until she has gotten to that point?
If your partner feels the urge to pee and this is holding her back from squirting, there’s still some issues which need to be addressed. Ask your partner to talk about her fears, and use this time to reassure her.
The squirting orgasm, so commonly depicted in pornography, isn’t always the way in which things go down.
While the majority of women will squirt during orgasm, it is possible for her to squirt between orgasms, or even without reaching orgasm at all.
If you find your partner is having trouble orgasming and squirting at the same time, there may be a psychological block which is limiting her abilities.
That your partner is able to squirt while with you is a fantastic first step. Now, it’s time to work on any stresses or troubles that may be blocking her from orgasming, or keeping her from experiencing a squirting orgasm.
This may be the first time you’ve ever brought a partner to the point of squirting. If so, you’re likely worried that your actions during and after will turn her off from squirting again in the future.
Remember, as a natural and extremely enjoyable experience, your partner should never be made to feel discouraged for squirting. To foster positive feelings, be there – physically and emotionally.
Continue to perform the sexual act which caused her to squirt, such as intercourse of stimulation of the G-spot. This will prolong her pleasurable feelings and show her that you want her to enjoy herself.
After the encounter, ask her what she liked and what she wishes you would have done. Your partner knows her body, and she can best tell you what she’d like you to do in the future to intensify the experience.
Unlike men, women don’t have a refractory period. This means that squirting multiple times in a single session is absolutely possible.
If your partner is new to squirting, don’t expect multiple squirting orgasms during her first few sessions. As she becomes more comfortable, though, squirting more than once can certainly occur.
One thing to keep in mind is how dehydrating squirting can be. Provide your partner with ample fluids, preferably some with electrolytes, in order to replenish her hydration levels.
If your partner wants to improve the quality and quantity of her squirting, the best thing she can do is to work on her pelvic muscles.
Kegal exercises can provide your partner with the ability to better control her squirting, and it will make her more confident in her abilities.
Squirting is a sure sign that your lover is fully aroused. This means that intercourse after squirting can be the perfect time to bring your partner to vaginal orgasm, and it may also help her to squirt during intercourse as opposed to just squirting from g-spot stimulation.
The technique you’re looking for is called “squirt stacking,” and it takes a lot of practice to get just right.
Essentially, this technique involves you bringing your female partner as close to squirting as possible, and then backing off the stimulation.
Once you get the hang of this, you can perform this multiple times in one session, bringing your partner so close to squirting that she’s begging for release, and then toning back your stimulation so as to still pleasure her but avoid her climaxing as long as possible.
By the time she finally releases, however, the intensity and duration may provide her with the most pleasure she’s ever felt in her life.
Learning how to give the girl you like an orgasm, and make her cum hard might be one of the most important things you learn as a man.
And yet so few men take the time to learn how to do it properly…
In fact, most men get ‘female orgasms’ horribly wrong.
So it’s no wonder why most women have to end up faking their orgasms.
But don’t worry – having founded School Of Squirt back in 2012, we, Laura and Axel know how to do one thing better than anything else…
And that’s teaching men how to give their woman the best orgasms of their lives.
I mean, we created a whole downloadable video training course on just this one thing.
What you do before having sex is just as important as your actual technique to give her an orgasm.
This is because, for women, sex is about more than just physical stimulation. It is about emotion.
And it takes longer for a woman to get in the mood than for a man.
So, if you really want to give her one of the best orgasms of her life, then foreplay, buildup, anticipation and teasing are really important.
She will need to be extremely horny, dripping wet and practically begging for your to make her cum before she is ready to actually have an orgasm.
Here is out guide on how to make her horny.
Don’t underestimate the power of foreplay, since for women, this literally allows their genitals to build up with sexual energy (and liquid, which means women only squirt after long periods of foreplay.)
A woman will never have an orgasm with you if she doesn’t trust you. So building trust and intimacy is one of the first things you should do if you want to make her cum.
Women are afraid about making themselves emotionally and physically vulnerable to the guy. An orgasm is one of the ways of showing she is extremely comfortable, relaxed and happy.
Having an orgasm also shows that she is surrendering to you. You are about to learn how to make women cum so hard that they have almost no control over their body.
But a woman can easily stop herself from having an orgasm if she doesn’t trust you or feels you will take advantage of her vulnerability.
So, it’s important to build trust and intimacy, and show a passionate and sensitive side too which will allow her to do the same.
Unfortunately, a lot of women still have negative feelings of shame and guilt surrounding sex, and orgasms.
This won’t help her orgasm, but it is something you can help her overcome, and when you do, you will release a sexual side of her you’ve never seen before.
Getting her in the right frame of mind is an important part of being able to give her an orgasm.
The best way to do this is to make the whole experience fun. This way, her guilt and shame will simply fade away.
For example you could use roleplaying to make things more fun. When you both pretend you are someone different then those negative feelings won’t come up as much.
Play fighting is a great way to get her ‘out of her mind’ and ‘into her body’ so she stops worrying about her negative feelings.
Showing that you are a guy who doesn’t have negative feelings about sex and would never judge her is the best way to allow her to feel the same way too.
So, what’s the best way to give her an orgasm?
There are 4 main ways to make her cum, and they all involve slightly different techniques, so let’s cover them here.
The first one is the most obvious – during sex.
To give her an orgasm during sex you’ll need to use your penis to hit her g-spot. The feeling of being ‘filled up’ by your penis will feel amazing to her, but it isn’t always the best way to bring her to orgasm.
In fact, some women find it extremely difficult to orgasm during sex. Which is why we’re going to cover the other ways you can do so below.
There is one position that rises above all others when it comes to make her cum during sex.
Have your woman lie on her back on the edge of the bed and rest her bum on a couple of pillows so that her bottom half is slightly higher than her top half.
Now, from a standing position enter her. Thrust in, but upwards at the same time. Because her spot is located on the top half of her vagina, it is easy to slide right past it with your penis.
With this angle (you coming from below and thrusting upwards – and her on her back with bum raised) you’ll be able to confidently hit her g-spot and bring her to climax.
Fingering a girl to orgasm is a great way to get started, especially if you know you can’t last very long during penetrative sex.
Fingering is also the best way to make a girl squirt, because you can use your fingers in exactly the right way to hit her g-spot.
There are numerous different fingering techniques, and we cover them all live in our training course – Squirting Triggers.
It’s much easier to learn by watching a real demonstration, but here is a basic preview of what to do.
Slip your two middle fingers inside of her and curl them slightly upwards (with her lying on her back.)
With your two fingers curled upwards pointing towards her belly button, start to move your hand up and down (not so much in and out.)
This allows you to hit the g-spot and you can also use the palm of your hand to rub against her clit.
This is the most basic technique. There are in fact 7 main ones which all add different degrees of pleasure and intensity and are highly recommended learning how to do them if you want to give your woman the ultimate form of pleasure.
So, you want to try and make her cum by eating her pussy out? Okay, good for you. For some women, this is one of the best feelings in the world (and other women don’t like it at all.)
There are a lot of different ways you can go about doing this, and they could involve
We’ve already written a huge guide on how to eat a girl out here. So instead of going over it now, I recommend you check out that guide.
Anal sex orgasms are not only very different from normal orgasms, but they can totally unique and pleasurable for her to experience.
Some women don’t like the idea of doing anal though, so here’s a good way you can introduce the idea to them.
First off, when she gives you a blowjob, ask her to slip a finger into your bum and feel free to use lube and a condom if necessary.
This will feel great and show you’re not afraid of the bum area.
Next, you’ll want to start eating her pussy out. As you do this, slip a finger into her bum (use lube and a condom if necessary.) Because you let her do it to you, she’ll let you do it to her.
Now you have two fingers in her bum while you eat her out, it’s not a big jump to try with your penis. Women often find that the fingers in the bum are so enjoyable that they’ll agree to anal.
Later on you’ll learn about prostrate orgasms, which come from anal sex and how to give them.
G-spot orgasms are the ‘bread and butter’ of female orgasms. This is where women are truly lucky to be women because they have that extra spot that allows them to have mind blowing orgasms.
The g-spot is located inside the vagina. If you take two fingers, slip them slowly inside her and curl your two infers upwards, deep inside her, you’ll be able to feel a small spongy spot.
When she is aroused this increases in size and volume making it slightly easier to find.
Later on in this article, (and covered in depth in our video training course via live demonstration) you’ll learn how to give her multiple, stacked and full body orgasms using her G-spot.
The clit and the g-spot can give women two completely different kind of orgasms. The g-spot, as you’ve just learnt responds to direct stimulation from a finger or your penis.
The clit is located at the top part of the vagina and is often hidden away under a hood. During sexual arousal it becomes engored with blood and becomes more sensitive.
There are a number of ways you can stimulate the clit. The tongue is one of best because it can make sensitive adjustments to the speed and power of the stimulation.
The clit also responds incredibly well to vibrations, which is why most women use a vibrator pressed against the clit to orgasm.
You can stimulate her clit during sex, or whilst fingering her, using another finger.
You can learn exactly how to do this in Video 4 of Squirting Triggers Training Course.
This works incredibly well to make her cum because you have the double stimulation on the g-spot and clit at the same time.
One neat little trick is to use a vibrator on her clit during sex – more about that later on in this article.
You can give her a prostate orgasm from anal, either using a finger or your penis to stimulate the prostate.
As mentioned before in the anal sex section, this can be one of the most unusual orgasms she experiences, but also extremely pleasurable.
And if that wasn’t enough you can also combine a prostate orgasm with a g-spot and clitoral orgasm at the same time.
For example, if she uses a butt plug, you can use your penis to give her a g-spot orgasm and a virbrator or lubed finger on her clit. The g-spot orgasm can set off a chain reaction causing a prostate orgasm if she feels the pressure there.
We started School Of Squirt because we realized that squirting is so awesome that it should be part of everybody’s healthy sex life.
And we recommend that if you want to give your girl one of the best orgasm of her life then you’d better make it a squirting orgasm.
The easiest way to make her squirt quickly is with your fingers. This way you’ll be able to hit her g-spot in just the right way to give her one the most intense and dripping wet orgasms she’s ever had.
We’d like to show you exactly how to do this, demonstrated live, since it is much easier to show, so if you are interested in giving her an orgasm that she will never forget then you’ll need to download our training course – Squirting Triggers.
Just imagine, as a guy, having an orgasm but not ejaculating. It wouldn’t be as good would it?
Well it’s the same with a woman. And that’s why any guy who knows how to make a woman squirt will be an absolute King in her eyes.
When most guys think of giving their girlfriends of wives multiple orgasms they think of multiple distinct orgasms, one after the other…
Orgasm, orgasm, orgasm
But this isn’t a true multiple orgasm.
What you should really be aiming for looks more like this:
They are all blended together (not distinct) and follow one after the other without stopping.
For this to happen you need to know and understand how the female orgasm works, so you can see which stage of it she is at.
This takes experience, and it is also almost impossible to describe is words – which is why we created out Video Training Course – Squirting Triggers.
The trick is that, just as she reaches climax and tips over the edge, you pull back slightly. Around 2/3 way through her orgasm, just as she is coming back down, you then start to try and bring her back into another orgasm.
Do this right, and she’ll start having another on top of the previous one. And you can do it again and again until she collapses from exhaustion and too much pleasure.
Orgasm stacking is one of the most advanced orgasm techniques on the planet, and its not for the faint of heart.
This is a Jedi level technique – and if you can master it you will be one of only a few hundred guys on the planet who know how to do it correctly
Stacked orgasms really have no comparison in terms of the INTENSITY of the pleasure that she will feel from these.
So, what are they?
Stacking just means putting one on top of the other. It’s the same with these orgasms. You gradually put one on top of the other, without allowing them to full down (reach climax.)
For example, as your girl gets closer and closer to orgasm (you will be able to see that she is close) you lightly ‘pull her back’ from going over the edge.
This is the equivalent of putting one box down.
You have pulled her back from her orgasm (by slowing down, for example) and now you need to speed back up so she comes close to reaching orgasm again.
But again, you pull back. This is like stacking another box on top of the previous one.
Again, bring her close to climax, and back down again. 3 boxes stacked up.
Each time, her sexual energy accumulates (stacks) ready to be released in one huge, mega orgasm, the kind of which she has never experienced before.
It’s also like you are ‘teasing’ her the orgasm – which women love
As you can probably imagine, this advanced technique can produce some of the most powerful orgasms her body is capable of.
And if you do it right, it can be overwhelming for her. But trust me, she will never forget it.
We cover stacked orgasms more closely in Squirting Triggers.
Full body orgasms are one of the ultimate sensations for a woman. As you can imagine, having an orgasm run up your spine and throughout your whole body has to be one of the most pleasurable and enjoyable experiences ever.
But how can you give one to a woman?
Full body orgasms require a little more work on your part than regular orgasms – which is why we recommend having a long term sex partner to enjoy them with.
To give any woman a full-body orgasm we use a special massage technique that allows the sexual energy to flow throughout her body.
Think about it, for her to be able to experience an orgasm throughout her body, the sexual energy needs to be able to flow there.
Tension spots in her body actually stop the flow of energy throughout her body. This special massage removes those tension spots and allows her body to be filled with intense orgasmic pleasure.
This is something we cover in huge detail in Video 3.2 of Squirting Triggers, so if you’re interested in learning more about it then you will want to study that live demonstration.
There are 3 simple ways you can make sex even more exciting and make and give her even better orgasms. I’ve chosen these three because the props are easy to get hold of and also work extremely well.
Boredom and self-consciousness are two things that kill the female orgasm more than anything else.
And this is why using a blindfold in the bedroom can work so effectively at making a woman cum. It both increases excitement and decreases self-consicouness.
Firstly, being blindfolded is naughty, it’s exciting and its dramatic. Not being able to see anything will build sexual tension and put you in control of her which is a massive turn on.
Women can also feel extremely self conscious during sex. They are worried about how they look. But if they’re blindfolded – well out of sight means out of mind – she will soon start feeling less self conscious.
The blindfold also has another exciting effect. Because she can’t use one of her 5 senses – sight – her other senses will become much more sensitive. Women aren’t visually sexual creatures as much as men.
We get turned on by what we see.
But women get turned on by what they feel and hear.
So when you cut of her sense of vision, she will become more sensitive to your touch (and the naughty things you whisper in her ear.)
Her body with come alive from your touch and it will make it easier for her to orgasm.
So, using a blindfold in the right situation is a great way to give her one of the most exciting orgasms of her life.
You don’t have to use an actual blindfold – any piece of cloth that can be comfortably tied around her eyes to stop her from seeing can be used and it great to make the whole experience feel spontaneous.
Handcuffs are another great prop that can be used to increase sexual arousal and her ability to cum.
There is little that is more exciting to a woman than being handcuffed to the bed post while you bring her to orgasm.
Just ask the millions upon millions of women who are obsessed with the 50 Shades Of Grey books and films.
This kind of stuff drives women absolutely wild in bed.
Again, you don’t have have an actual pair of handcuffs, you can use anything to comfortably and securely tie her hands to the bed. A tie or belt works great.
Watch as her excitement (and arousal) level go through the roof as you assume complete control over her, as she helplessly lies there tied to the bed.
I know you might be thinking – “use a vibrator, isn’t that for women who masturbate?” but hold on a second.
Women use a vibrator because it works. The vibrations are extremely pleasurable and are especially effective for clitoral orgasms.
So why not use one to make her cum more easily. You can still do everything else the same.
This is how I recommend you use it:
First off, you don’t need to go to a sex shop to buy a vibrator. Durex now sell vibrating cock rings at most convenience stores. These have disposable virbators that last for ages and are the perfect way for you ti stimulate her clit whilst you finger her or penetrate her.
You should use spanking as just another tool in your sexual toolbox. You can use it effectively to do a few things, which most women love:
Let’s look at each point individually.
Point 1: Spanking can be used to spike arousal when your woman is getting close to an orgasm. A lot of women can come very close to orgasm, but right before they reach the point of no return, they either hold back, or can’t quite get there for some reason.
Spanking allows you to create an intense spike in her pleasure-meter. It provides the shock that can send her spiraling into an orgasm.
For this to be the case, you will need to time your spanking right. You must be able to tell when she is getting close to orgasm. Right when she is about to orgasm is a great time to slap her hard on the ass.
Not hard enough to hurt her, but hard enough to make a great sound and to spike her arousal level.
Point 2: Knowing that someone has spanked you, and will surely spank you again increases your level of anticipation. You know its coming, you just don’t know when. This anticipation increases her excitement level, which makes sex more fun, and can bring her closer to orgasm.
The key is to be unpredictable in the way you spank her. Never do it in a pattern that she will be able to guess. You want to spank her when she least expects it. And when you do spank her, go hard, with multiple quick and hard spanks and then go for a long period without any.
Never let her guess when she might get spanked by you. Never let her know, use it as a tool to build her levels of anticipation and excitement.
Point 3: Spanking can show her your dominance. You want her to feel that you are dominant and in control. This will turn her on and bring her to orgasm faster than anything.
Spanking is a great way to do this. It shows you understand what women want, what turns them on, and it shows you’re an alpha male who can take control sexually.
You should always read her feedback, since some women don’t like being spanked, but almost all do.
Use spanking sparingly, but when you do it, make it count.
In our video training course we’ll demonstrate spanking live so you know exactly how and when to use it, how hard and in which positions are best to bring her to orgasm.
The most common problem that is encountered with unlocking multiple orgasms is that the woman often resists going back into orgasm because of the intensity of the experience.
She may feel ‘out of control’ or that she will ‘get lost in the pleasure’, sometimes she might not be sure her body can handle it. Some women will resist a second of third orgasm because they feel selfish.
Most of the resistance comes from her contorting her body, allowing you less access to her. If this is during intercourse she might push her hips up and clamp down her thighs.
If you are having sex from behind she might arch her back upwards. If you’re using your fingers she might squeeze her legs together and push away your hands.
After your woman finally comes to orgasm is a great time to bond, and enjoy this special moment with her.
She will feel vulnerable, exhausted, relaxed, sensitive and still aroused. So keep this in mind. For a woman, after she has an orgasm is completely different to that experience for a man.
Now is the time to kiss, cuddle, smile, laugh, and if she can handle it, go for another orgasm again.
After the woman has experienced the intensity of stacked orgasms she will be very vulnerable and this is a point where you can build even more trust and intimacy, allowing you to take her to even higher sexual heights next time around.
Sometimes the woman will cry, this doesn’t mean she is sad, it is just her experiencing and purging her emotions.
A great orgasm can be much more effective and cheaper than counseling, lol. Allow her to purge her emotions, be there for her and hold space for her.
A sexpert, or sex expert, is the title given to a person who helps singles and couples (of any sexual combination) with matters relating to sexuality and relationships.
Fifty years ago, there were very few sexperts available to the general public, mostly because the idea of discussing in detail what goes on behind closed doors was too taboo.
Today however, there are a number of sexperts on radio, television, and the internet, and each has their own skill set and unique personality. Here we have compiled a list of the 30 best sexperts in 2017, in no particular order.
Author, blogger, thrill seeker, and well regarded sexpert, Flox spends her days delving into the depths of sex, and all of the ways it touches our lives.
As the main contributor to Slantist, “where the slant is sex”, she is not afraid to investigate and discuss any and all topics related to our carnal lives.
Giving expert advice and opinions on the mundane, the eccentric, and even the violent, Flox will provide a level of candor that is refreshing.
As a celebrated contributor to publications such as the Los Angeles Times, Vice, and the Village Voice, readers will discover a witty, open, and disarming charisma in all of her sexpert writings.
As a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor and therapist, Evans focuses her vast knowledge and training on the concepts of sexuality and empowering women.
With a private practice in Illinois and many online contributions, readers are welcome to contact Evans with thoughts and questions regarding their own sexuality topics.
Having spent many years addressing the issues that couples face in the bedroom, she offers a safe and reliable arena in which a couple can learn to reconnect and reclaim the intimacy they once had.
Her philosophy that a woman feeling empowered in life will translate to a stronger and healthier sex life has proven to be a great help to all who read her works.
When people of all ages and backgrounds have questions related to sex and sexuality, there is no finer place to turn than igniteyourppleasure.com.
This site, a mixture of self help and sex coaching for individuals and couples, is proffered by the famous sexpert Amy Levine. Levine, with her unabashedly humorous candor and approachability is ready and waiting to assist with all of your sexual health and relationship dilemmas.
Offering a unique perspective on sexual happiness and fulfillment, Levine is not afraid to draw from her own studies and personal experiences, therefore offering some of the best sexpert advice today.
With a name like Tracey Cox, it is little wonder that this famed psychologist/journalist became a sexpert.
Having spent the last two decades speaking, writing, and educating the public on all things sex, Cox offers valuable insight into the human psyche. As a bestselling author of books like Dare:
What Happens When Fantasies Come True and Hot Sex, her works are regarded as cutting edge and candid. Visitors to her website will find everything from advice to toys and products to heighten anyone’s sexual experiences.
Proving yet again that great things can come in small packages, therapist and sexpert Esther Perel has turned the topics of sex and sexuality into an upfront and honest discussion.
As a native of Belgium who speaks nine languages (ten if you count the language of love), Perel travels the globe, giving lectures holding group sessions relating to all manner of sex topics.
Her famed book Mating in Captivity, explores the intricacies and difficulties of loving, appreciating, and enjoying sex in a long term relationship or marriage.
Perel offers a blunt attitude towards sex discussions, often creating a level of discomfort in her audience which immediately triggers discussion.
Have you ever had a conversation with someone who was so completely honest about sex that you found yourself cringing at the embarrassing details?
Welcome to the world of Rachel Kramer Bussel, a noted author, blogger, speaker, and all around sexpert.
Bussel is not afraid to discuss anything pertaining to sex, and usually adds in her own two cents based on personal life experiences.
Her level of candor is engaging, though you may find yourself covering your ears and blushing at times. Her discussions on orgasms are something that every woman in the world should hear.
With thirty five years of experience in the business, Dr. Ruth epitomizes the term sexpert.
As the first “on air” sexpert personality in the United States, her frank discussions and quick wit endeared her to listeners around the world.
Since airing her first radio program in 1980, Dr. Ruth has become an international best seller, often considered the leading sexpert in the world. And let’s face it, hearing her say all kinds of dirty things in that thick German accent is giggle-worthy.
Oh the joys of being naughty. As a Los Angeles sex coach, Sienna Sinclaire is a self proclaimed Naughty Lifestyle Expert.
Relying on her extensive personal knowledge of the adult entertainment industry, and then her subsequent years of study under (not literally) qualified scientific experts, Sinclaire jumps head first into the worlds of sex, naughtiness, and female empowerment.
Open to discussing everything from the ordinary to the obscene, Sinclaire has gathered a loyal following of readers and listeners both on the west coast and nationwide.
Freelance writer and all around funny gal Caitlin Abber has recently started to make a name for herself in the sexpert business.
While her writings can focus on anything from current events to dating advice, her sexuality related pieces are poignant and refreshing, not to mention downright hilarious.
Her article titled “Seven Reasons Why Republicans Are Bad At Sex” will not only keep you in tears, it actually explores the psychology behind the ideology. Proving that being a sexpert is not all fun and games, Abber also tackles the topics of sexual harassment and the struggles faced by both sexes in the world.
There is one simple reason why Morse’s podcast, “Sex with Emily”, is the top rated and downloaded podcast in the world, there is no topic too risque for her.
With an education based in psychology, followed by years of political campaign activity, Morse knows how to screw people.
Her website, blogs, and podcasts will cover everything from Sausage Wraps to the Art of a Hand job, from Talking Dirty to Blow job Embargoes.
Her frank discussions, always tinged with an appropriate amount of humor, offer some of the best sexpert advise available.
Dr. Joe Kort is an author and therapist who specializes in relationships and sex. Having studied in his field and practicing for decades, he is an invaluable source of information on all forms of sexuality topics.
As one of the leading sexperts who focuses on the LGBT community, his books related to the needs of gay men are highly regarded.
In addition to his writings geared toward the LGBT community, his “Gay Affirmative Therapy for the Straight Clinician” seeks to aid straight therapists when treating the varied need of homosexual clients.
Taormino has made a name for herself around the world as a sexpert.
Keeping many irons in the fire, she divides her time between writing bestsellers about sexuality, speaking to private groups, and running Smart Ass Productions, her very own adult film company.
With a goal to allow every person from every walk of life the ability to find pleasure, without guilt or embarrassment, Taormino has an extreme flair for finding the erotic and carnal in anyone.
She has made it her life pursuit to help men and women engage fully during sex.
Kaitlin Menza did not seek out a career as a sexpert, yet through her many insightful freelance writing articles and blog contributions, she is now thought of as a go to expert in the area of sex and relationships.
Having contributed numerous pieces for major women’s magazines, including the likes of Redbook, Cosmo, Vogue, and Marie Claire, her ability to speak about sexuality is one of a kind.
Always addressing interesting topics from a female perspective, gals will learn how to have the best shower sex or what to really expect from anal and squirting.
With a Ph.D. in human sexuality and many innovative books to her credit, Dr. Gloria Brame has become an adored sexpert around the world.
Dr. Brame strives tirelessly to help all of her listeners and readers lead healthier sex lives.
Understanding that sexuality is far more than the act of intercourse, she has written and spoken about the importance of sexual identity, and embracing your true desires.
An advocate of the BDSM and fetish communities, Dr. Brame does not allow the common prejudices to disrupt her search for sexual wellness in the world.
The term “sex coach” tends to instill an image of tight shorts, dodge ball, and a whistle, yet sexpert and sex coach Amy Jo Goddard is anything but “athletic department creepy”.
In fact, this sexual empowerment expert has been applauded many times over for writings and lectures on sex and sexuality. Bestowed the title of Sex Blogging Superhero, Goddard takes it all in stride.
Her articulate and thoughtful writings can help singles and couples cope with the rigors of relationships, the struggles many face with sexual identity, and the desires that most people have for a more fulfilling sex life.
Sexperts come in all shapes and sizes, and from all backgrounds.
Turning the tragedy of her own sexual assault into a force for positive change, Jaclyn Friedman has become a beloved voice anyone who has dealt with their own personal violent demons.
Not only does Friedman act as an advocate for better understanding and safety training to counteract assault, she also works as a loud voice against gender related hate crimes and violence.
Those who follow her writings and lectures gain a deep perspective into the emotional, mental, and physical impacts that sexual violence and assault can cause.
As a member of the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality and the AASEC, Dr. Trina Read offers scientific views on the topics of sex and sexuality that are easy to comprehend.
Providing the community at large with two websites, trinaread.com and vivaxo.com, her vast audience is exposed to a number of helpful insights and tips.
Her traveling lectures are celebrated for their focus on healthy sexuality and sexual relationships, while her writings are adored for their jovial take on adding excitement to the bedroom.
When nature combines the natural talents of comedian, magazine editor, and sexpert, the result is the enigmatic and always fun personality of Lane Moore.
As the sex and relationships editor for Cosmopolitan magazine, Moore knows all too well what it takes to be a sexpert.
Overseeing what is arguably the most popular section of Cosmo’s magazine, she has learned all of the nitty-gritty details about sex, including all of the blush-worthy tidbits that sell copy.
Her talents as a comedian ensure that her writings are always tongue in cheek, if not tongue in some other body part.
As the site director for Cosmopolitan.com, journalist and editor Korin Miller has seen her share of naughty topics.
Producing articles and blogs for a number of mass media publications, including the Washington Post, yahoo.com, and Womens Health Magazine, Miller has written about everything from urinating before sex to tips to make your partner’s penis feel bigger.
Of her many popular sexpert pieces, the articles she wrote for Cosmo about “making him last longer” have been appreciated by women all over the world.
Offering a two for one sexpert extravaganza, happily married couple Dan and Jennifer Baritchi have created a sexpert empire with their askdanandjennifer.com blog site.
Having authored a series of hit books relating to relationships and sex, it is popularly said that this power couple is “today’s number one resource for love and sex”.
On their site, readers will find answers to all of those burning questions, including the ones that we are normally too embarrassed to ask ourselves. Visitors will find everything from advice to videos and sex toys.
When we think of sexperts, Dr. Laura Berman is always near the front of our list.
As a well respected relationship and sex educator, Dr. Berman somehow finds enough hours in the day to host television and radio shows, keep an updated website, write books and a weekly newspaper column, appear on numerous other television programs as a sexpert, run her own Chicago practice, and teach at Northwestern’s Feinberg School of Medicine.
Through all of these avenues, Dr. Berman has helped countless couples to reconnect and build a stronger sense of intimacy in their relationships and their bedrooms.
Anyone who titles their bestselling book “She Comes First”, is a-okay in our opinion.
Ian Kerner has done just that, along with creating many other life altering works centered around healthy and adventurous sex. As a psychotherapist recognized by the AASEC, Kerner can back all of his cheeky banter with the science behind the pleasure.
Kerner is often found touring and speaking at the Ivy League universities, or writing for CNN. His lectures on relationships and intimacy have enabled him to become one of today’s leading sexperts.
Some may think that sexperts are only needed by people who are inexperienced, young, or naive.
This is a completely false theory, sexperts cater to people of every age and background, even seniors. As the official Love and Relationship Ambassador for AARP, Dr. Pepper Schwartz spends her days helping the AARP members improve their love and sex lives.
An avid author, Schwartz is well known for works such as “Dating After 50 for Dummies”, “The Great Sex Weekend”, and “Prime: Advice and Adventures on Sex, Love, and the Sensuous Years”. Putting her sociology and sexology degrees to the best use, Schwartz has been helping people have better sex since the 1970’s.
When the roles of feminist and sexpert fall into bed together, the resulting brilliance is a woman who knows what women want, and is not afraid to ask for it.
Acclaimed sex advisor and speaker Jamye Waxman is a multi talented sexpert on erotica, adult film making, sexual health, and so much more.
Waxman is a regular contributor to online and print publications, like YourTango and Cosmopolitan magazine. Currently, those who wish to learn from Waxman’s years of sexpertise can find her online working as the sex educator for the Lovers online video series.
The British brain trust of EmandLo.com, the dynamic sexpert duo of Emma Taylor and Lorelei Sharkey, are the ladies to ask about bedroom activities.
Presenting the famed UK series “Sex: How to do Everything”, and having authored a number of sex education books, Em and Lo offer answers to sex and relationship questions from around the world.
With a well respected blog that is updated twice a day, these gals spend their days teaching their followers the best ways to be naughty.
Tess Barker, comedian and co-host of the well loved Lady to Lady podcast, offers a brand of sexpertise that walks the delicate line between hilarious and vulgar.
In addition to her podcast scenes, Barker is a contributor and blogger, with many works in Women’s Health Magazine. Readers will appreciate her insights into topics such as “9 Things Sex Experts Really Want You to Know”, “The Lazy Girls Guide to Sexting”, and “4 Ways to Make His Penis Feel Bigger”.
Barker’s ability to bathe sexy situations in a layer of brevity allows her readers and listeners to connect with her more openly, endearing her into the hearts and bedrooms of many followers.
Having one of the busiest sexpert careers in the business, Dr. Sari Locker has been offering up advice on sexuality for close to three decades.
Dr. Locker knows a thing or two about having a great sex life, and the shear number of books she has sold proves that her tips and tricks are invaluable. Having been invited to speak about her forte on over one thousand different television programs, Dr. Locker is a go-to name in the sexpert industry.
While she still teaches psychology courses at Columbia University, she uses the remainder of her time touring college campuses, giving lectures on sex, and contributing to a number of print media publications.
Not so much a single sexpert, but a conglomerate of wickedly erotic sexpert contributors, Mistress Maxxsters created the Sexperts Lounge blog. Here, readers will discover a plethora of sex advice, with topics and opinions from a host of different experts and personalities.
If you have questions about dating, relationships, sexual health, or anything else related to sex, the Sexperts Lounge blog will have an answer for you.
What really sets this sexpert site apart is the many varied perspectives that are offered on each topic. A great way to ensure that the information you are reading is accurate from both a male and female standpoint.
Sandra Daugherty, better known to her followers as Sex Nerd Sandra, provides sexpert advise through her podcast and blogs.
With an eye for the quirky and obscure, Sandra creates a safe environment for sex discussions.
Removing the stigma of shame from our bedrooms, this lighthearted nerd offers amazing tips and tricks to heighten your sexual encounters, face the dilemmas of bedroom boredom, and cope with our own sexuality discomforts.
Painfully honest and contagiously enthusiastic about sex, Sandra will remind all of her viewers just how sexy a nerd can be.
Author, blogger, and contributor Kayt Sukel is a sexpert in the sciences of human behavior. Her fascinating books “Dirty Minds” and “This is Your Brain on Sex” investigate the mental and emotional responses in our brain, which then cause us to have physical reactions to those around us.
Through her works, we gain a better understanding of why were are what we are, a study in neuroscience and naughtiness.
Readers will fall in love with Sukel’s humor the moment they listen to her tell her story about masturbating in an MRI machine! As far as sexperts go, she is really one to check out.
There you have it, the 30 Best Sexperts of 2017. If you have sex, relationship, dating, or sexual health questions, surely one of these fabulous sexperts will be able to help you. Remember, sexperts are here to help everyone, from the most missionary mammas to the kinkiest.
Looking for the ultimate ‘how to’ guide for dry humping?
Look no further, because you’re about to discover exactly what it is, and exactly how to do it right – (not the way you might expect…)
When we say the words “dry humping” what are the first thoughts that come into your mind?
We would be willing to bet that most of you are thinking about those awkward first fumbles in the back of a car or on the sofa when your parents were out. It felt good, there’s no doubt about that, but it wasn’t sex by any means.
Furthermore, we’d be willing to bet that a lot of guys have stopped dry humping as they have become more sexual experienced and, dare we say, talented.
However, dry humping should not be simply dismissed out of hand as purely the domain of the inexperienced kid that you once were. In fact, dry humping can actually bring a whole new level of sexuality to your game.
For those who don’t already know, the term relates to a form of sexual expression that does not involve penetration of any kind.
In many cases, both partners will be fully clothed while dry humping, and it will usually happen in your adult life during the build up to full sex.
However, if we are going to dig a little deeper then dry humping, in one form or another, is amongst the earliest forms of sexual expression, particularly for women.
Even before they began dating, many women would explore their early sexuality by humping pillows or blankets in an effort to achieve sensation.
The thing that guys need to remember is that they did this for one simple reason – it worked!
Many a woman has been able to achieve orgasm from dry humping inanimate objects, which is why it can be such a useful tool in your arsenal as an adult.
You probably already do it anyway, such as when you’re dancing with a girl in a club and she wraps her legs around one of your legs and you both grind away – that’s dry humping.
And it feels damned good, especially for her. It’s all part of the sexual build-up, that period before full intercourse where you’re both working to turn the other person on.
Furthermore, the grinding motion that works so well with dry humping doesn’t tend to work quite so well during sex.
You may be able to position yourself so that a little bit of grinding is going on, but the penetration is the main focus at that point in the game. As such, dry humping can offer a sexual stimuli beyond normal penetrative sex.
Of course, we aren’t suggesting you go straight back to those adolescent fumblings in an effort to get the most out of dry humping.
After all, no girl is going to be impressed with you awkwardly rubbing your erection on her until you accidentally spurt in your own pants.
As an adult, you can take a more considered approach to your dry humping, so that it acts as the build-up rather than the main event.
Thigh humping is a particular favorite, and one that you have probably experienced when dancing with a girl. She’ll wrap both her legs around one of yours and grind away.
Match her motion and bend you knee slightly so that she has better contact and you’ll be dry humping in full view of everybody else, without anybody really thinking anything of it.
Of course, if things get a little bit too steamy then you should head to the bedroom.
Once there, you can start experimenting with a number of other positions.
The classic cowgirl position is probably the best for dry humping once you’re out of sight, and it is also the easiest way for a girl to achieve orgasm without actually having sex. It’s not like you get nothing out of it, after all, by this point you really ought to have an erection from what’s going on.
Get your girl to grind against your crotch and really push against your cock and you’ll find you both experience pleasure even without penetration.
Experimentation is key, so try a few other things as well. You just need to remember that gratification often comes at the expense of looking a little silly.
You may think you are making a fool of yourself with your dry humping, but if you keep it intense and focus on her pleasure you’ll find that what comes after is all the most explosive because of how turned on you both are.
While we’ve focused on dry humping as a build-up to full sex, it can also be used in place of penetration. While that is probably not your goal, there are a number of reasons why you might want to go this route instead of having full sex.
Have you ever gone to the club without any expectations of getting laid but end up clicking with a girl out of pure luck? You get back to her place and things start to get hot and heavy when you realise you don’t have a condom!
It’s situations like that when dry humping can get both of you off without having to worry about the hazards of unprotected sex.
Firstly, as you will both have a layer of clothing on you need to worry less about pregnancy.
It’s important to note that this is not completely fool proof though. After all, if you cum and the fabric of your clothing allows some of it to leak through onto her crotch, particularly around the area of the vulva, then there is a slight chance that things could go wrong, so be sure to keep that in mind at all times.
In the same way, you should both also be more protected from STIs. Again, it’s not perfect but it’s better than plowing right in there with no protection.
You’re also going to find that a lot of girls simply enjoy dry humping when they first meet a guy and are unsure about having sex just yet, or they are in the mood for intimacy but not for full sex.
Dry humping isn’t the childish little sexual act that you grew out of when you started actually getting laid. Instead, it is actually the perfect way to get you both revved up and really turned on.
Trust us, if you have your dry humping technique down, you’re going to find it that much easy to get a girl turned on before you even get her to the bedroom.
This ‘Ultimate Guide’ offers a unique and in-depth look at how to make a girl wet using the 7 erogenous zones.
You are going to learn a comprehensive roadmap—from head to toe—of your partner’s most sensitive spots, that when stimulated correctly get her pussy dripping wet and begging for more
First, we’ll explore the 7 main erogenous zones that women are particularly sensitive to, as well as 6 additional hot spots, which can be similarly used for arousal and excitement.
Second, we’ll provide you with a foolproof way of finding out her favourite hot-spots that turn her on masssively. In other words, you’ll learn how to discover exactly what makes her tick.
Then once you’ve discovered the secret pleasure code for your partner you can continue to use that pattern again and again to get her in the mood and bring her to satisfying orgasm after orgasm.
With the information delivered throughout this guide, we guarantee that you can learn to unlock the sexual desire of any woman and learn how to turn her on and stimulate her in a way no other person can.
While sexual turn-ons are different from one person to the next, there are a few areas on the body, known as erogenous zones, which have been consistently linked to arousal.
These zones, when stimulated just right, can offer your partner unimaginable pleasure.
Fortunately, you don’t need to be an experienced lover to understand these spots and the whys behind the pleasure they bring.
So, to get started, let’s first discuss in further detail where these zones are.
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Kisses are an international sign of love — from a simple peck on the cheek to a passionate make-out session, the lips can provide you with a number of ways to show your partner that you love them. But, did you know that the lips are also a point of arousal?
This is because the lips are one of the most sensitive parts of the exposed body. Just think of how many nerves must be contained within such a small surface, and it’s no wonder that kisses can be so electrifying!
The lips, however, aren’t the only spot above the shoulders, which can be used for spine-tingling arousal.
A whisper, a nibble, or a little puff of warm breath—the ear is just as sensitive to these stimulating sensations as it is to the spoken word.
From an exhilarating shiver to a hair-raising shudder, subtle manipulations of the ear can add a deeper sense of arousal to your lovemaking. Why?
Well, there are a number of nerves, both within and without, the ear.
These nerves are important for transmitting sound, allowing humans to pick up on even the slightest differences in pressure.
This bundle of nerves can also serve an additional purpose of stimulation and intimate arousal.
Now, proceeding south, we arrive at the nape of the neck and lower back.
These erogenous zones, when manipulated with the utmost care, are an excellent area for teasing and manipulation.
Both the neck and lower back/buttocks are intimate areas. These zones rarely come into contact with other people, except in private cases, which makes these spots extra sensitive and particularly sensual.
Further, these spots are easily accessible to you which means they can be easily stimulated whether you’re locked in a steamy embrace or simply passing by during the day and want to bring your lover a bit of excitement and anticipation for later.
In contrast to zone 5, erogenous zones 1 – 4 seem almost innocent in nature. After all, the lips, ears, neck, and back aren’t inherently sexual.
And, while the breasts and nipples certainly have their own biological purposes, this erogenous area is one, which is linked primarily to arousal and sexuality in much of the world.
And, while breasts are surely linked to male attraction, new research shows that nipple stimulation in females is also an effective arousal tool and lights up the same area within the brain that also lights up upon vaginal, clitoral, and cervical stimulation.
Finally, moving down below the belly button, we find the two last erogenous zones.
• The inner thighs, being one of the largest erogenous zones
• The clitoris, perhaps the most sensitive erogenous zone of all.
Stimulation of the inner thighs can offer goose bump-inducing arousal, and manipulation of the clitoris, of course, can lead to heightened excitement and, eventually, orgasm.
While the jury is still out on the exact number of erogenous zones on the female body, the seven zones found in Chapter 1 are the most widely accepted.
But, there’s one thing that’s for certain: While your companion may find stimulation of the above-mentioned zones to be exhilarating, there are a few “lesser” hot spots found throughout the female body that could drive your lover equally as mad.
Unfortunately, the lesser of these zones can be a bit more individual. While one woman may be turned on by a light touch to the inner wrist, another may find a scalp massage to be just as erotic as a nape-of-the-neck kiss.
Now, let’s explore.
The Unofficial List of Lesser Known Hot Spots
What is it that makes the seemingly innocuous spots listed above unusually sensitive and ideal for erotic stimulation?
Consider that such spots are rarely touched by those not close to you, and it’s easy to see how these areas on the body can be used to induce arousal and increase feelings of intimacy.
Your outer arm may brush against a passerby on the street, or your knee may bump into a fellow passenger on the train as you pass through the aisle, but the above six hot spots are rarely involved in public contact which makes them especially intimate.
The art of sexual arousal, and as a result, stimulation, is one that takes time and effort to learn.
The kinds of stimulation, which work for some women, may not work for others, so it’s important that you’re receptive to your lover’s cues (which we’ll discuss further in Chapter 4).
But first, prior to learning stimulation techniques, it’s important that you understand how female arousal works.
As you can imagine, there’s more to arousal than meets the eye. In fact, there have been a number of models produced over the years, which attempt to theorize the overall cycle.
While a number of linear models, such as the one below, have been proposed, it’s only in recent times that scientists and researchers have come to see that the science of female arousal is more cyclical than linear.
What does this mean, and how can you use this knowledge to your advantage?
Consider the linear model of female sexual arousal above.
According to such a model, women go through four stages of arousal in a seemingly straightforward manner. These four stages are excitement, plateau, orgasm, and resolution.
The above model has three separate lines to show how different women (or how the same woman but at different times) go through these four stages of arousal.
Now, let’s consider the cyclical (and more recent) model presented below.
When comparing the cyclical model to the linear model, it’s easy to see that there’s much more to sexual arousal than the physical sensations involved.
In fact, the linear model makes no mention of emotional intimacy, though the cyclical model has it front and center.
Further, as opposed to excitement-plateau-orgasm, there’s now a loop which directly shows the role that emotional intimacy plays in bringing a woman from “sexually neutral” to aroused and, finally, to satisfied (both emotionally and physically).
Why are these models so drastically different, and why is the circular model considered superior?
Consider that, for a good part of the female population, the end goal of sex is not to satisfy a biological drive.
Instead, according to the circular model presented above and proposed by Dr. Rosemary Basson, women have various non-biological reasons for engaging in sex, such as forming emotional closeness.
Men, on the other hand, have a much more direct route (which is illustrated below) from excitement to plateau and, finally, to orgasm.
This is because male sexual drive is more firmly based in biology and is not as closely linked to society and culture, as is the sexual drive of females.
Since women have a much more complicated route from arousal to satisfaction, it makes perfect sense for the female sexual arousal model to be more complicated than that of the male model.
So, how can you use this scientifically backed information to your advantage?
Well, first, by understanding how women respond to sexual stimuli and arousal, you can approach intimacy and lovemaking with an eye towards emotional support.
Second, you can use this information to direct your physical actions and respond to your partner’s feedback accordingly.
The section below will get you started and teach you ways in which you can bridge the divide between emotional intimacy and biological sexual drive.
While not every one of the suggested techniques will foster emotional closeness, the vast majority will provide you with a way to connect with your female partner on a deeper, more genuine level.
Now that you understand how female arousal works, you can use that information to stimulate your partner’s erogenous zones in an electrifying way.
This nerve-filled erogenous zone, used for everything from pronunciation to facial expression, provides you with a variety of stimulating options.
One of the funnest ways to stimulate is with the use of food.
Strawberries, cherries, and grapes are sweet and satisfying. With gentle stimulation, not only will you be increasing the blood flow to the lips and mouth, but you’ll also create further feelings of closeness and intimacy.
Take turns feeding each other, or even pass the sweet treats from your lips to hers.
And, remember, gentle grazes can be just as arousing as full-on contact. Keep this in mind with kisses, as well, and be sure to alternate between soft and sweeping pecks to full on, yearning kisses.
Looking back to the cyclical model of female arousal, we can see that emotional intimacy is at the top of the cycle and, therefore, should be in the forefront of your mind during lovemaking.
As mentioned in Chapter 1, a whisper can go a long way in arousing your partner and stimulating her sexual senses.
Use the sensitivity of this erogenous zone, as well as the knowledge that emotional intimacy is part of the female arousal cycle, to focus your efforts on stimulation and arousal.
Use this zone to focus on closeness and security. Stimulate with sweet whispers, gentle brushes of your lips on the lobe, and short, warm bursts of breath.
Take the time to let your partner know how you feel about her while simultaneously working on bringing her to arousal.
Such a sensitive and under-touched area deserves gentle caresses and light, feathery touches.
How you do this will depend on the tools at your disposal, and the amount of time you plan to focus on this one erogenous zone.
The use of a feather is one way to tease your lover, tickling her while simultaneously bringing her to great levels of sexual excitement.
Or, perhaps she would prefer soft kisses, running from behind her ear to the nape of the neck.
As is to be expected, the zone consisting of the lower back and buttocks, which are located at the base of the spine, is bursting with nerve endings.
There are a number of ways to stimulate this particularly sensitive zone, though we’ll discuss two.
Now, while the lower back and the buttocks are considered one erogenous zone for the purposes of this guide, they are two separate areas, which enjoy different kinds of stimulation and contact.
For the lower back, barely-there touches can drive your partner mad with lust. Use your fingertips, lips, or tongue, or for added fun, pieces of fabric, ribbons, or feathers.
Touch your partner in short bursts, and be sure to vary the time between touches to increase anticipation and sexual excitement.
On the buttocks, you may find that firmer touches will yield more arousing results than gentle ones. This is where the use of paddles, whips, and belts can be distinctly useful, but of course, it’s always important to discuss comfort levels with your partner prior to experimentation.
The stimulation of your partner’s breasts and nipples may make her hot, but that doesn’t mean that the method needs to be.
One interesting stimulation method, favored for its goose bump-inducing effects, is the use of an ice cube on and around the areola and nipple.
As you can probably imagine, the nipple is a very sensitive area, bundled with nerves which are close to the skin. The application of ice—in small doses—can exhilarate the neuroreceptors found under the skin.
Of course, ice is just one way in which you and your partner can venture into temperature play.
Whipped cream, hot fudge, and other hot and cold foods can be used for similar stimulating results.
If you think your partner would be up for some electrifying fun, then you may want to consider giving erotic electrostimulation (also known as e-stim) a try!
The inner thighs are the perfect place for e-stim, because the area is large and the nerves vary in sensitivity (becoming more sensitive as you get closer to the pelvic region).
There are plenty of e-stim options on the market, and the majority of these options allow for complete control of the level of intensity.
These multi-intensity wands and tools are the best, as it will allow you to tailor the experience for your lover.
If you’re just starting out, begin on the outer edges of the thighs, where the least number of nerves are located, and start with a small intensity level.
As your partner becomes more settled, move closer and closer to the inner thighs and higher and higher towards the pelvic region. You can change the intensity and location frequently to further arouse your partner, and you can even move to other erogenous zones for extended fun.
You’ve explored your partner’s body from ears to inner thighs, but now it’s time to focus on the most sensitive of the erogenous zones: the clitoris.
There are a TON of ways to stimulate the clitoris. From digital to oral, and even e-stim and temperature play, there’s something here for everyone. So, for this particular section, we’ll focus more on technique than tools.
The clitoris is a hooded organ, and is actually quite similar to the penis in form. It has a shaft, a glans, and a foreskin (the clitoral hood), and it even swells when stimulation is applied or arousal is felt.
How it differs from the penis, however, is in two main ways. One, the clitoris is 2x more sensitive than the penis (with nearly 8,000 nerve endings as opposed to the penis’s almost 4,000), and two, its one and only purpose is to provide its owner with pleasure.
The 6 Lesser Hot Spots
There’s one thing that these three hot spots have in common, and that’s that they occur at the bend of a joint.
For some individuals, this can mean that the nearby skin is especially sensitive and ticklish.
If your partner is one such individual, then stimulation of these three hot spots can be one way to add some time to your foreplay.
To see if your partner is ticklish, run the very tips of your fingers as lightly as possible over the inner wrist, inner elbow, and behind the knee. This light touch can be an indicator of things to come, and for many women, this can be a turn on in itself.
If your lover seems to be responding positively, consider using this stimulating technique throughout the day leading up to your lovemaking. This can add a hint of anticipation and keep your lover begging for more.
Whether it’s playing with her hair or directly massaging her head, gentle stimulation of the scalp is a great way to help your partner unwind and, for some individuals, even arouse her.
You don’t have to be a pro, though, for your partner to reap the benefits of a scalp massage. Instead, start massaging your lover’s head while she lies in your lap or sits on the floor below you. Use your fingertips and move in a slow, circular motion.
Start the circle small, and then continually build it larger and larger until you’re massaging her entire head.
This sensitive, and often guarded, area is perfect for intimate stimulation and can bring your partner to the peak of arousal and excitement.
To increase sensitivity and ignite passion, temperature play may be just what you’re looking for.
Apply whipped cream or hot fudge to your partner’s navel, and then slowly lick off. The combination of cold/hot and gentle, but deliberate, nibbles can throw your lover’s libido into overdrive.
While this can certainly be a hit or miss spot, this is definitely a hot spot that’s worth testing out on your female partner.
When many people think of feet and sexual stimulation, they probably think of a fetish.
However, the feet are just another part of the body, and one need not be turned on by the sight of feet to find their stimulation exhilarating and arousing.
Of course, the simplest method of stimulation is a simple erotic foot massage, complete with moisturizing lotion.
Start gently, by bringing your partner’s foot into your lap and gently rubbing along the sides and soles.
Slowly move upwards, towards the toes, massaging each one individually. Vary the levels of pressure you apply, and have fun explore your lover’s most ticklish spots.
Are you feeling a bit more adventurous? Flutter light kisses across the tops of her feet, and then give a kiss to each individual toe. Then, work your ways back down to her soles, slowly spreading your kisses up her legs, to her inner thighs, and finally to her clitoris.
Now that you’ve picked up a few new techniques from the above sections, you may be ready to go.
However, it’s first important to drop a quick reminder that the above list of erogenous zones and hot spots is not a list to be worked through, mentally checked off one by one.
Just because you start at the scalp and work your way down to the feet doesn’t mean your female partner will be aroused by the end of your journey.
So, what CAN you do to spark her desire and fan the flames? It’s simple — two steps forward, one step back.
Remember, lovemaking for your partner is just as much (if not more) about emotional closeness and intimacy than it is the satisfaction of biological drives. The best thing you can do is to slow down and take your time.
So, what does this method look like in practice?
Let’s say you start at the ear. You give your partner’s lobe a little nibble, and perhaps you even whisper sweet words.
You slowly trail your way down to your partner’s neck, kissing along her hairline until you’ve reached the nape. Your partner is showing signs of approval, and even arousal, so you continue on your journey south.
Moving on, you reach your partner’s lower back. As you gently brush your fingertips along her skin, you notice her excitement has increased.
Her breathing has intensified, and she squirms closer to your touch. This means you should go for the more sensitive erogenous zones, like the breasts and clitoris, right?
This easy-to-follow method is about teasing your partner. You want to get her into a state of heightened arousal, but you also want to lead her to anticipate what’s to come next.
In the example above, we left off at the lower back. Now, let’s backtrack to the ear, and perhaps add in a few extra kisses and a soft blow of your breath. At this point, she doesn’t know what to expect of you anymore.
The anticipation builds, and so do her levels of excitement and arousal.
You can continue in this manner for as long as you (and, more importantly, your partner) likes.
You want to slowly work your way towards the more sensitive erogenous zones, like the breasts, inner thighs, and clitoris, while continually cycling back to the less-sensitive-but-still-arousing zones on your partner’s body.
Of course, the more sensitive zones aren’t off limits during this back-and-forth, but you do want to be sure not to start off with too much intensity, as that can be off-putting to your partner.
No matter the stage of your current relationship, communication is key to a happy and healthy partnership.
Communication, however, can also offer you and your partner a satisfying and thrilling sex life.
As mentioned previously, sexual arousal and sensitive areas are different from person to person. So, how can you know whether you’re hitting all the right notes or falling flat?
This perhaps isn’t the most erotic of the available options, but it’s one of the most direct ways you can learn of your lady’s likes and dislikes without making assumptions.
Provided are a few examples of questions to consider asking before, during, and after your next lovemaking session.
“How would you like to try [sexual act]?”
“What would you think about [being blindfolded, using handcuffs, a spanking paddle]?”
“Is there anything you’d like to try tonight?”
“Would you like me to go slower/faster/softer/harder?”
“How does this feel?”
“Did you like when I did [a particular sexual act]?”
“Was there anything you didn’t like?”
While asking questions can provide you with valuable information, one of the best things you can do for your relationship (sexual and otherwise) is to learn to read and understand your partner’s feedback without much instruction on their part.
This can be tricky, of course, and it does take a bit of time. But the importance of this cannot be overstated.
And, while you certainly aren’t psychic, there are a few ways that you can learn to better read and understand your partner’s sexual feedback and provide her with a better sexual experience, now and in the future.
Fortunately for you, facial expressions related to pleasure and displeasure is two things, which are not easily hidden or disguised.
So, what signals can you take from your partner’s expressions?
Take special notice of your lover’s eyes. The eyes truly are the windows to the soul, and this is especially true during a vulnerable time such as lovemaking.
Is your partner making eye contact with you? Is she initiating eye contact? When her eyes are closed, are they relaxed? If the answer to the above questions are yes, then your partner is comfortable and, most importantly, open to receiving pleasure.
With such a large concentration of muscles surrounding the mouth and lips, it’s no wonder that certain facial expressions can be seen most clearly on this region of the face.
This can be used greatly to your advantage, and can provide you with a good idea of how your partner is feeling during foreplay and sex.
During stimulation of a particular erogenous zone, are your partner’s lips pressed thin? Does she clench her jaw when you perform a particular act?
These could be signs of discomfort or dislike, and you should be sure to look at other cues to get a fuller picture of your lover’s comfort levels.
When you kiss her neck, does her jaw become relaxed and perhaps her mouth even falls open? These are signs of relaxation and, ultimately, pleasure.
Reading your partner’s facial expressions will clue you in to signs of immediate and obvious pleasure (or displeasure).
If you’re looking for a more subtle way of reading your lover’s feelings, however, then take note of some of these physical cues.
Perhaps one of the more obvious of the physical cues in this list, your partner’s moans can tell you a lot about how they’re enjoying (or not) the encounter.
Each woman expresses her pleasure in different ways, but an attentive partner can distinguish those, which are full of arousal and passion from those which may be half-hearted.
Pay particular attention to when your partner moans. Was it during a particular sexual act? Was it a moan of encouragement, or pure pleasure?
The answers to these questions will help to guide you as your respond to her and bring her to orgasm.
While your partner may want to physically be with you, sometimes emotional or mental stresses can pull her away. There is a way to bridge the divide, though, and that’s by taking note of her response to the stimulation of each erogenous zone.
How does your partner move when her neck is kissed, or her navel is licked, or her back is massaged?
If she sinks into you, completely giving herself physically and mentally, then the erogenous zone is certainly one which triggers her arousal.
Continue to explore your lover’s body, giving attention to each erogenous zone until you have a more complete picture of what your partner likes.
With a better idea of your partner’s likes and dislikes in mind, you can now begin to experiment with various methods of stimulation.
The entirety of this guide is focused on your female partner’s erogenous zones and how you can use the knowledge of these zones and stimulation techniques to bring your lover to arousal.
Keep in mind, however, that female arousal can be emotionally charged, and sometimes it can be difficult to open up with someone who may not be opening up themselves.
To give your partner the sense that you’re willing to listen to their feedback and follow their cues, take the time to discuss your own vulnerabilities.
What do you like, and what do you dislike? Are there certain sexual acts you’d like to try? Are there certain things that you’d like for your lover to focus more thoroughly on?
The simple fact is, communication is a two-way street. You need to be as open with your partner about your own vulnerabilities as you’re asking her to be with you.
Now that you’ve determined your partner’s most sensitive erogenous zones, and now that you understand how to use communication to alter your relationship and sex life for the better, it’s time to put that knowledge to good use.
Whether your woman shudders at manipulation of her nipple, or she shivers with delight as you trail a piece of ribbon down her back, there’s a position that will allow you to enhance the time you spend with her favorite erogenous zones and bring her to ecstasy.
If your partner has trouble orgasming with vaginal penetration alone, for example, then pick a position, which will give you access to a number of her erogenous zones.
Cowgirl is one example, as your partner will be facing forward, and your arm will have direct access to her breasts, navel, inner thighs, and clitoris.
In Chapter 3, various methods of erogenous zone stimulation were explained in great detail. Now that you’ve got the basics down, however, it’s time to move out of your comfort zone and explore all of the stimulation techniques and methods available.
Let’s say, that the breasts are an especially sensitive erogenous zone on your partner. You’ve done a bit of temperature play (perhaps with an ice cube, or whipped cream), but now you’d like to explore further ways to stimulate this zone to ignite passions.
Why not take another stimulation technique, which you learned in Chapter 3 and use it to further manipulate this zone?
Tickle your partner’s nipples with a feather, or use a low-level e-stim tool on her nipples to see how that type of manipulation arouses and excites her.
And, of course, if a particular method doesn’t work for her, then there’s plenty more to choose from.
The same can be said for less sensitive erogenous zones, too. Maybe your partner wasn’t aroused when her buttocks were spanked, but that doesn’t mean that your partner will never respond to stimulation of the buttocks.
Focus on different techniques, such as massage, to see how your lover responds. This can help you to broaden your arousal options, and it will also show your lover that you care about her pleasure and are willing to take the time to find the right tricks that work for her.
Just as your relationship changes over time, so too do sexual preferences and the willingness to experiment.
It can become easy to fall into a pattern, but it’s important that you continue to tune in to your partner’s wants, needs, and feedback cues. Your partner’s tastes may change, but so too may yours, and that’s okay.
Just be open to future adjustments, and you and your partner can continue to have an out-of-this-world sex life.
This “make a girl wet in minutes” blueprint provided above isn’t a cure-all for your relationship with your partner or for your sex life. What the above guide can do, however, is supply you with the information you need to create a sexual relationship, which is based on honest and thoughtful communication.
No one relationship is the same, and no one person is, either. That’s why it’s important that you use this guide however you see fit.
That may mean working through the guide piece-by-piece, applying each bit of information as you come across it. Or, it may mean that you ready the guide all at once and look to use all of the tips and techniques offered during your next lovemaking session.
Whichever way you choose to use this guide, remember that the ultimate key to unlocking your relationship’s true sexual potential and finding all of the spots on your lover that make her tick is communication, honesty, and the willingness to be vulnerable and open.
Over the years we have had this misconception that small penises cannot satisfy women. Irrespective of what porn videos proclaim, the average size of an erect human penis is between 4.7 and 6.3 inches long.
So a five-inch penis is average guys, and even that 2.8-inch penis is 4.7 inches when erect so it is rare to have a smaller penis. And putting aside the length debate, women are not interested in length that much, rather they are mostly satisfied with what they get.
However, there are best sex positions for guys with small penises or those who are worried that theirs are small. But, if you happen to have a bulge that is worth a pornstar Oscar award, the following positions are still applicable and will give your girl maximum and guaranteed pleasure.
This style is done with the woman lying down on the bed or table then you approach her while standing. Make sure your crotch is positioned slightly higher than that of the woman even if it means adjusting with a piece of furniture. Crouch down and penetrate her.
Have her slowly lift up her legs one at a time then rest her ankles on your shoulders. Her hips should move up some inches into the air then support her by cupping her hips or butt. To make this even tighter, grab her ankles in your hands and if possible, use pillows under her hips for a better angle for both your bodies.
This position is excellent because it creates a very deep stimulation for both of you. This position is very adventurous and acrobatic giving maximum enjoyment to you and your partner.
This style is a wonderful variation of the butterfly. Have the woman lie down on the table or bed with her pelvis positioned at the same height as yours. Penetrate her allowing her to raise her legs in the air. Her legs are then crossed at the ankles then both feet are rested on your chest. Get some leverage by holding onto her shins.
The act of crossing her legs makes her incredibly tight especially if your penis has a small girth. With both your pelvis at the same height, the depth is maximized resulting in record-shattering sex even for the guy with a small penis.
In order to achieve that extra depth in penetration with a smaller penis, this position comes in handy. Lie on your back and the lady on top of you with her back towards you straddling you with her legs like in the reverse cowgirl.
The lady leans forward all the way and lies on top on your legs with her legs forming letter X around your torso. It is more like the 69 but your penis is in her vagina instead of her mouth.
This seems common to most people but this is how it goes anyway. Get down on your knees and enter her from behind with her too on her hands and knees.
This is different from the traditional doggy style in that here the lady has her legs tightly shut so the man spreads his legs further in order to rest them outside her thighs.
The resulting fit is so tight your woman will never forget the enjoyment.
This version of the doggy style is great irrespective of the penis size because both your bodies are angled to allow you to hit her G-spot. Since it is so near the vaginal entrance, shallow penetrations will do the miracle.
A version of the missionary position, the nirvana is euphoric, to say the least. The lady lies on her back with you on top spreading your legs outside her legs and making her tighter than ever imagined. This position allows for greater clitoral stimulation and hair-raising sex.
Similar to the nirvana, this position has you lying on your back and the lady on top and your legs are tightly closed around hers. Then the woman slides up and down your body till both of you can’t take it anymore. This style is wonderful for clitoral stimulation.
In this position, the lady lies on her back with you kneeling in front of her straddling one of her outstretched legs. Lift the other leg up in the air and rest it on your shoulder or chest.
This position allows you to get in nice and deep and since you are on your knees it gives you more control to make the most out of every thrust.
Yes, its not a ‘sex’ position as such but this is a great position if you want to make your girl squirt. You can tongue her clit, whilst using one finger to work her g-spot and another finger to massage her backdoor.
With the lady lying on her back, kneel in front of her. From this position enter her then have her hold onto her hips as she lifts her legs to your shoulders. From this position, lean forward and rest your weight on your hands so that she can bend her legs backward towards her head.
This style requires communication about how much flexibility the lady has. She can try other positions with the legs till both of you finds what is comfortable. The added pressure of your weight bearing down on her provides her with more satisfaction.
In this position both of you gets onto your knees with you behind her. If you don’t have a carpet you can use some pillows for comfort. Have her drape her body over the edge of the sofa so she is bent at the hips. With your torso upright or slightly bent over with her, you can have great fun.
Try this in other areas around the house like on the staircase or against the bed.
This is the best sex positions for guys with small penises especially because the rear entry maximizes penetration and your bodies are pressed up against each other leaving you with the chance to reach down and stroke her clitoris for that explosive climax.
This style requires you to lie on your back, the lady sits on top facing away totally in control. This allows her to grind on you getting so deep she can feel you inside her. It gives her maximum clitoral stimulation so she can feel like a rock star.
This great style is a variation of the well known doggy style. The lady kneels and holds the ground she is kneeling on and you close behind her. As you enter, she leans over and lowers her body and forearms for that deep penetration even for the man with a small penis.
Leave a comment with your favourite position for big and small cocks.
Most women are curious about squirting and many would like to experience it for themselves. In this article I’ll answer the question ‘Can all women squirt?’ You’ll also find out why and how women squirt.
If you have any questions, please leave a comment at the bottom of the article so that I can reply with an answer. Although it may seem like a silly question to you, I bet lots of other women and men are wondering the same thing.
Squirting, also known as female ejaculation is when a liquid coming from the … is released during a powerful orgasm. The debate still rages about what exactly is squirting with a recent study claiming that the female ejaculate is pee.
However, it’s very clear to women who can squirt that this isn’t the case. After all, it doesn’t smell (or taste) like pee and it doesn’t come from the urethra.
For many women, squirting is incredibly satisfying and pleasurable, and has been described as adding another dimension to the female orgasm.
For the guys, imagine having an orgasm without ejaculating. Wouldn’t be as good would it? The female ejaculate usually coincides with an orgasm and the amount of liquid can range from a little to a lot.
Squirting is perfectly healthy and shows that a woman has a strong sexual energy, powerful vaginal muscles and a strong ability to have pleasurable orgasms.
Unfortunately, adult entertainment has given many wrong impressions about squirting and many people have gotten the wrong idea about it. It needn’t be confined to adult film sets. Squirting can be part of a healthy and fulfilling sex life.
You came to the right place if you want to learn how to make your partner squirt. School of Squirt teaches you exactly how to do it. We even have an in depth course on the subject.
If you’re a woman who wants to learn how to squirt, please read this article. Whether you want to be able to squirt for your partner, or just during masturbation, or you’re just curious, you came to the right place.
Squirting is fun, and you can get better and have more powerful ejaculatory orgasms the more you practice.
Only a few women do squirt regularly during penetrative sex, fingering oral. Many women are embarrassed, or worried that their partners might be confused or grossed out if they squirt. Many women feel the urge to pee during sex, when in fact they may actually be ready to squirt.
Almost all women can squirt because all women have the anatomy to do so. It just takes time and practice (and a willing partner who knows what they are doing .)
The good thing is, once you’ve done it once or twice, you’ll know the feeling and be able to do it again, often more easily.
The only problem will be the soaking the bed-sheets every night. In fact there is even a special massage you can use to become more orgasmic. There are also the squirter dimples that are an indicator that she can/ you can squirt.
So, to answer the question ‘can all girls squirt?’ Yes, they can, but it can often take time and practice. The woman should be comfortable with herself and her sexuality.
Shame, guilt and tension will all prevent squirting orgasms from happening.
Leave a comment or question below about your experience with being able to squirt or not.
So, you want to learn how to fuck a girl right…
To send her into outerspace with gushing orgasm after orgasm?
Good, let’s get started then shall we, because you’re about to learn the secret tricks, tips, techniques and mindsets to give any woman, or your girlfriend the best orgasms of her life.
If you never had sex before than this guide is especially for you – since we start with basics.
But for the ‘experienced’ players there are also some neat tips that will help you gain mastery in the bedroom and keep your girl coming back for more over and over again.
There’s a few things you need to prepare for before you make love with a woman. Firstly make sure you have protection close at hand. This means keeping a few condoms near to your bed. Condoms will stop STIs and prevent you getting her pregnant.
You’ll also want to make your bedroom, or wherever you want to make love as romantic as possible. For example, dim the lights, make sure it’s clean and tidy and smells nice. This is going to help get her turned on quicker and ultimately lead to great sex.
You won’t be able to fuck a woman properly if she isn’t turned on. This is one thing that so many guys get horribly wrong. They think you can just go straight in from kissing into intercourse. But wait… slow down a sec.
For women, sex is all about anticipation and sexual tension. If you go too quickly into penetration her then all the tension is lost. She might as well have just used a dildo.
Sex is all about emotions, so use foreplay to get the woman in a sexual mood before making love to her. To be good at having sex, you must help the woman to get into a sexual mood using foreplay and arousal. You can read all about how to make her horny here.
Start by touching kissing and caressing all the parts of her body. I also find the pillow fighting, play wrestling and physical things help to get her in the mood and ready for sex.
Ideally you want to get to the point where she is so turned on that she is practically begging to be penetrated by you – before you even think about getting her naked and having sex. Let go of the outcome of sex and just enjoy the process.
You’ll want to keep the lights dim, but still enough so that you can see what you’re doing. If it’s too bright she may feel self-conscious. Usually it’s a better idea to strip off yourself first. Take your shirt off. Then take her shirt off. Bit by bit and slowly as the arousal continues to build.
Now slip your own pants of, now take hers off. Eventually you’ll both be naked. If this all seems too quick for you then find out about dry humping first so that you can see what the sex will feel like without actually having sex.
Before sex, most couples use their fingers of mouths to get the partner even more in the mood. So you might want to finger her first. Or you could go and eat her pussy out. These are very good ideas to try before building up to the big finale of penetrative sex.
After you’ve performed cunninglingus on her, she will be dripping wet and ready to be made love to by you. At this point you need to put on a condom. Sometimes putting on a condom can interrupt the flow of arousal, but don’t worry, it needs to be done. Once you have put on the condom then go back to kissing her before going in.
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The best starter position is called missionary position. This is because the Christian missionaries taught it to the new cultures they came across as a good way to have sex.
Get her to lie on her back. Lie on top of her and hold your penis with one hand. Rub the head of your penis against her vagina, as you feel the opening to her pussy then push inwards slowly.
Don’t push into her pussy too hard to start with – as this could cause her discomfort to start with. Move slowly but rhythmically back and forth or side to side.
Your muscles may get tired after some time in this position – this is perfectly normal – it just means that it’s time to change position.
Many guys and girls agree that doggy style is their favorite position. This means having sex with her from behind. This is a great position for fucking her strongly and powerfully and many women enjoy this the most. It’s also a great position if you want her to squirt during sex.
At some point you’re going to want to ejaculate, unfortunately for most guys, this means the end of the session for the woman, even though she might want more.
If you feel like cumming, but you don’t want to, just take your penis out of her and start fingering or licking her pussy again. This method will keep her turned on, but will slow down your arousal so that you’re ready to go again soon.
For women, they usually like to have sex and enjoy the process for a longer time than most men. So if you want to fuck her properly than try and last for at least half an hour before cumming.
When you do decide to ejaculate (or it just happens) you have a few options. Contine having sex and come in the condom. Stop having sex and take the condom off so that you can come outside.
You may want to ask her for a blowjob, or finish yourself of by wanking. Some girls like to have sperm ejaculated on to them.
After having sex is a great time to relax and cuddle. Hormones are released after orgasm that cause bonding in humans. Girls love to be spooned after they have sex. That means lying side by side hugging.
Remember take the condom off, tie it up and throw it away, you may also want to have a shower.
It’s not uncommon make love to her 2, 3, or 4 or more times in a night, so have a little recovery and then you can go for it again.
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