Best Sex Toys For Long-Distance Relationships Because Sexting Isn’t Always Enough

Marco and Ivy on FaceTime, miles apart, each using app enabled toys during long-distance play

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Long-distance relationships are tough. One minute you’re in a sweet, connected groove—then boom, your partner’s in another city, state, or time zone, and suddenly your sex life is just... memes and “I miss you” texts.

Researchers who compared the risks faced by couples in long-distance relationships found that maintaining intimacy can be a real challenge, with physical connection often taking a hit. That’s why finding creative ways—like the right sex toys—to keep the spark alive is key.

In this article, we'll cover:

Expert-approved sex toys that help long-distance couples stay connected
How these toys keep intimacy strong across any distance or time zone
Practical tips to level up your long-distance sex life beyond just sexting and video chats

Top 10 Sex Toys For Long-Distance Couples

Keeping things hot over time zones and glitchy video calls? Yeah, not exactly easy. After a while, the sexts get lazy, the conversations fizzle out, and everything just feels kinda... meh.

Let’s get into some of the best long-distance sex toys out there, because your connection deserves more than just good Wi-Fi.

Toy #1 - Kiss Transmission Device

Let’s start weird—in the best way. The Kiss Transmission Device is literally a gadget that lets you send kisses to your partner through your phone.

Real-time, pressure-sensitive, lip-smacking goodness. It’s like FaceTime for your mouth, but oddly sweet.

Close-up of a plastic kiss device shaped like lips, designed for app-connected long-distance kissing.

Cost

$80–$150

How To Use It

You and your partner both get a device. Download the app, pair them, and start kissing. Whatever you do on your end, they’ll feel on theirs—motion, pressure, even lip rhythm. There are models with built-in heat and sound effects too, if you’re feeling spicy or emotionally needy (no judgment).

Pros

Brings physical affection into your calls
Surprisingly intimate for a plastic mouth
Great for couples who miss more than just sex

Cons

Feels weird... until it doesn’t
Not exactly discreet if you're sharing a living space
Battery life is meh—charge it up before date night

How This Toy Keeps Intimacy Strong From Afar

Sex is great, but sometimes you just want a damn kiss. This device scratches that itch in a way that’s oddly powerful. It’s not just a gimmick—it taps into the emotional side of connection. Perfect for when you're missing more than just your partner's body.

Toy #2 – Intimate App-Controlled Duo Stimulator

Sleek, wearable vibrator for clitoral and G-spot stimulation.

This one’s for the power couples who want everything at once. The Intimate App-Controlled Duo Stimulator is a dual-action vibe that hits the clit and G-spot at the same time—think of it as a high-tech tag team, where your partner holds the remote and you hold... well, yourself together.

Cost

$120–$200

How To Use It

You wear it inside, your partner connects via the app, and from there it’s a full-blown, remote-controlled joyride. You can sync it to music, patterns, or go live with video chat for some next-level long-distance play.

Pros

Hits multiple pleasure zones at once
Fully app-controlled, even across the globe
Syncs with video/audio for total immersion

Cons

Not the most beginner-friendly shape
Takes a little practice to get the positioning right

How This Toy Keeps Intimacy Strong From Afar

It’s all about real-time control. When your partner has full power over your pleasure—miles away—it changes the game. The anticipation, the surprise patterns, the whispered “do you like that?” over the phone? It’s foreplay, domination, connection, and mischief all rolled into one.

For long-distance couples, this toy really shines when you plan ahead. Set a time for a control session—no distractions, just connection. Use a pillow to help with positioning if lying down, and make sure your phone's charged with a solid Wi-Fi. Have your partner start slow, building up intensity as you sync. Pro tip: Use the app’s custom vibration feature to save a go-to pattern they can trigger anytime—even when you’re not live together.

Andrew

FOUNDER, SQL

Toy #3 – Male Masturbator: App-Controlled Interactive Stroker

High-tech stroker with app sync, and different vibration patterns.

If your hands have been putting in overtime while your partner’s away, it’s time to give it a break and let the machines take over. The app-controlled interactive stroker isn’t just another sleeve—it’s a smart stroker that simulates real sex. Long-distance sex in 4D.

Cost

$100–$200

How To Use It

You lube up, slide in, and sync the stroker to an app. From there, your partner can take full control—changing speeds, strokes, and patterns—or you can sync it to interactive videos or VR for solo play that feels anything but solo.

Pros

Intense, realistic sensations
Partner-controlled OR syncs with content
Great for same-gender couples, too
Easy to clean (a rare win)

Cons

Pricey and not super travel-friendly unless you're bold
Some models are loud enough to make your roommate raise an eyebrow

How This Toy Keeps Intimacy Strong From Afar

This stroker lets your partner literally control your pleasure from across the planet. It turns a lonely night into partnered sex, with teasing, edging, and hands-free pleasure that actually feels interactive. Less “solo sadness,” more “we’re in this together.”

Toy #4 – Bluetooth-Enabled Kegel Balls

Compact vibrating Kegel balls with wireless app control

Don't sleep on Kegel balls, gents. These little powerhouses aren’t just for strengthening pelvic floors—they’re secretly one of the most underrated public play toys out there. They vibrate, pulse, and challenge your partner’s ability to stay composed in public. Mischief: unlocked.

Cost

$60–$130

How To Use It

Insert, connect via app, and hand control over to your partner. Some models have “training modes” too, so they can double as a pelvic floor workout device if you like your fitness with a side of foreplay.

Pros

Perfect for discreet public play
Great for strengthening orgasms
Small, portable, and beginner-friendly
Long battery life

Cons

Not ideal if your partner isn’t into being teased
Some models vibrate louder than expected—maybe don’t wear it to a funeral

How This Toy Keeps Intimacy Strong From Afar

This toy is all about anticipation. Whether you're out for dinner or stuck in a different city, your partner has the power to surprise you at any moment. And there’s something insanely hot about giving them full control in a way no one else can see.

Kegel balls are stealth mode for sex toys. Have your partner wear them out—running errands and control the vibrations through the app. It’s a fun way to extend play time from short distance. Great news: many toys have long-lasting batteries, so your partner can enjoy uninterrupted pleasure.

Andrew

FOUNDER, SQL

Toy #5 – Panty Vibe: Discreet Remote Clitoral Vibrator For Public & Private Fun

Flat, curved wearable vibrator clipped into panties, next to its discreet magnetic remote.

This one’s an absolute icon in the long-distance game. The panty vibe is a discreet, wearable vibrator that clips into (or magnetizes onto) underwear. It’s a classic for a reason—it’s fun, filthy, and shockingly effective in the right hands (and pants).

Cost

$100–$150

How To Use It

Pop it into a pair of panties, adjust the magnetic clip connect to the app, and let your partner go wild. Some sync to music or offer video-chat-compatible features. Great for fans of the popular We Vibe toys who want high-quality control and strong vibrations.

Pros

Extremely discreet
Powerful for its size
Great for date nights, parties, or solo fun
Compatible with most app control systems

Cons

Can shift out of place if not secured well
Vibration modes are strong, but battery life varies by model

How This Toy Keeps Intimacy Strong From Afar

This is peak “our little secret” energy. Whether you're in a bar, a meeting, or just walking through the grocery store, your partner has the power to make you squirm in the best way. Long-distance doesn’t feel so far when your phone turns into a pleasure switch.

This toy is one of the hottest out there, I recommend looking into the Pretty Love version. Picture a full date night in separate cities—both dressed up, eating the same food, FaceTiming—and your partner wearing it discreetly under their outfit the entire time. Controlled via app, you won’t even make it to dessert. Incredible experience.

Andrew

FOUNDER, SQL

Toy #6 – Interactive Thrusting Dildo

Powerful suction-based dildo with visible thrusting motor and a remote control.

Alright, we’ve entered the big leagues. The interactive thrusting dildo is not here to play—it’s here to pound. This Bluetooth-enabled beast mimics real thrusting and vibrations, and when paired with an app or video sync, it gets freakishly realistic. You can suction it to pretty much any surface (shout out to shower tiles and desk chairs), and the motor? She doesn’t quit.

Cost

$130–$250

How To Use It

Slap it onto a surface, connect via app, and either let your partner control the action, or sync it to interactive content. It’s solo play that hits like partnered sex… without the awkward cleanup after.

Pros

Realistic motion = game over
App-controlled + great for long-distance play
Suction base lets you get creative with positions
Pairs with video for immersive solo sessions

Cons

Needs space (this ain’t a pocket toy)
Some models are loud—sounds like a tiny jackhammer in heat

How This Toy Keeps Intimacy Strong From Afar

When your partner can make something inside you thrust from another city? That’s a whole new level of intimacy. Add in video chat or synced content, and suddenly you’re not just having phone sex—you’re having full-on 3D sex without booking a flight.

Highly recommend pairing this with a spicy video call. Set the thrusting to match their rhythm, throw in a good playlist, and suddenly you’re the star of your own long-distance porno. Bonus: suction base sticks really well to hardwood floors. Just… maybe don’t forget to lock your door.

Andrew

FOUNDER, SQL

Toy #7 – High-Tech Fuck Machine For Remote Penetration

Ivy on all fours, mid-moan, using a mounted remote thrust machine controlled offscreen.

Yes, we’re using the words “fuck machine” in a serious article—because this one earns it. This high-tech remote penetration device is like the interactive thrusting dildo’s terrifyingly hot older sibling. It’s got adjustable thrust speeds, app control, and in some models, partner sync functions that make it feel like your lover is literally driving it—even if they’re in another country.

Cost

$300–$800+

How To Use It

Position the machine (yes, you’ll need space), lube up, insert, and connect it to the app. You or your partner can adjust thrust depth, speed, and patterns. Some versions also come with different sizes of dildos, the perfect fit for long-distance relationships that crave more realness.

Pros

Deep, intense, and customizable penetration
App-controlled for long-distance fun
Best for video chat nights when you want to get destroyed (respectfully)
Great for power play and control dynamics

Cons

Big. Heavy. Loud. (So not one for stealth mode)
Set-up takes a minute

How This Toy Keeps Intimacy Strong From Afar

This is hands-down one of the most physically immersive long-distance sex toys. Your partner gets full control of the rhythm and depth, which makes video sex feel wildly real. It adds a serious dose of dominance, intimacy, and chaos, depending on how wild you like it.

First of all, apologies to anyone nearby—this toy is no joke. If you’re into rougher play or want the feeling that your boyfriend or partner is totally in control, this is the move. I actually got it for the 2-months anniversary of a previous partner of mine. Let's just say it was a wild celebration.

Andrew

FOUNDER, SQL

Toy #8 – Virtual Reality Intimacy Device

Welcome to the future! The Virtual Reality intimacy device isn’t just a toy—it’s a full-on experience. Combine a VR headset with a synced stroker or vibrator, and suddenly, you’re not just fantasizing—you’re there. This is the closest you’ll get to teleporting into your partner’s bedroom without building a sex-themed wormhole.

Ivy wearing a VR headset and synced vibe, exploring VR sex content while reacting to synced sensations.

Cost

$300–$700

How To Use It

Pop on the VR headset, connect your toy to the app where your toy’s branded platform, and load up synced content—custom videos, 3D scenarios, or even recordings from your partner if they’re up for it. Some toys have bi-directional sync, so your movement affects theirs too. Welcome to the matrix, but sexy.

Pros

Deeply immersive—you’ll forget you’re alone
Pairs with a variety of toys
Great for long-distance and same-gender couples
Can use solo or with partner-created content

Cons

Expensive and requires good internet and setup
Not the best option if you get motion sickness

How This Toy Keeps Intimacy Strong From Afar

It creates a virtual world where you and your partner can connect visually, emotionally, and sexually. Whether you’re watching them, controlling their toy, or syncing up with their movements, it’s a whole new way to make the distance disappear.

Toy #9 – Long-Distance Remote Anal Toy For Adventurous Couples

Compact anal vibrator with tapered tip, lying next to a smartphone open to a control app interface

If your love language is backdoor affection, this one’s for you. The remote anal toy is designed for anyone who wants to explore anal pleasure and long-distance play at the same time. It’s bold, buzzy, and usually compatible with all the major apps (popular ones are We Vibe Sync or FeelConnect app, but I recommend looking into Pretty Love and LaViva instead).

Cost

$90–$180

How To Use It

Lube up, insert (go slow—no need to rush greatness), and connect via the app. Then hand the controls to your partner or play with vibration modes yourself. Some even sync to audio, motion, or video. Look for toys with long battery life if you’re in it for the long haul… literally.

Pros

Next-level stimulation
Great for prostate or anal play
Can be controlled from anywhere
Discreet and compact

Cons

Not beginner-friendly unless you're already into anal
Requires good lube and patience

How This Toy Keeps Intimacy Strong From Afar

Sharing control of a toy that stimulates such an intimate spot requires serious trust—and even more serious anticipation. Whether you're exploring something new or spicing up the usual, this toy adds surprise, control, and power play vibes to your long-distance dynamic.

Anal toys combined with long-distance control can be a big win—especially if one partner loves taking charge. For next level fun ask your partner to wear the butt plug during work, or while running errands. Highly recommended for couples exploring domination, submission, or just craving some seriously good booty vibes.

Andrew

FOUNDER, SQL

Toy #10 – App-Controlled Vibrating Egg

Smooth, wireless vibrating egg with a retrieval cord, and a remote control.

The vibrating egg is the James Bond of long-distance sex toys. Discreet, stylish, and ridiculously effective. This little bullet-shaped beauty fits snugly inside and can be controlled remotely through your phone—or your partner’s. Great for public play, private teasing, or just straight-up hands-free orgasms while you’re on a call, acting like everything’s totally normal.

Cost

$80–$130

How To Use It

Insert, connect to the App or your toy’s platform, and pass the controls to your partner. You can choose between patterns, custom vibrations, or syncing to music. It’s basically a party in your pants.

Pros

Tiny but mighty—strong vibrations
Super portable
Amazing for discreet outdoor fun
Solid battery life

Cons

May require the right kind of underwear to stay in place
Some don't come with a remote and require you to adjust them manually

How This Toy Keeps Intimacy Strong From Afar

It’s playful, spontaneous, and easy to whip out (or in) on a whim. Whether you're sexting, video chatting, or grocery shopping, the egg makes your partner feel close and in control, no matter the actual distance.

This one's the MVP of date-night toys—simple, discreet, and seriously effective. I had an epic experience in Portugal where I asked my partner to wear it during date-night. Walking down stairs in heels was never that challenging or satisfying. Pretty Love app enabled toys are a go-to here: reliable, responsive, and made for couples who like to play with power.

Andrew

FOUNDER, SQL

We’ve got the best long-distance sex toys, we’ve talked vibrations, app control, fuck machines, and many other toys. Now it’s time to talk strategy. Because toys are only half the fun, the real magic is how you bring them in.

Spicy Tips On How To Keep Long-Distance Intimacy Hot, Wet & Wild

Marco and Ivy, both naked, lost in a steamy FaceTime moment—long-distance never felt so close.

Long-distance sex doesn’t just need effort—it needs imagination. If your go-to move is sending a "what are you wearing?" text... It's time for an upgrade. Because when you're miles apart, you either get creative or you get bored.

So if you're ready to turn distance into foreplay, here are a few tips that reignite the heat.

Tip #1 – Order A Sex Toy To Your Partner’s House & Plan A Video Date Night

The move: pick a sexy surprise, have it shipped to her door, and schedule a FaceTime date. When she opens the package mid-call? You’re the gift. Bonus points if you guide her through using it for the first time—live.

Tip #2 – Use Long-Distance Toys During Special Occasions (Birthdays, Anniversaries & More)

Forget boring dinner dates. Add a remote-controlled vibrator to your special night and make the whole evening pulse with tension. Whether it’s your anniversary or just a random Tuesday, this turns “thinking of you” into “can’t stop coming."

Tip #3 – Online Shop Sex Toys Together Via Shared Screen

This is called digital foreplay. Hop on a shared screen, browse toys together, and talk about what turns you both on. It gets the imagination going and puts your head in the right space—by the time the sex toys arrive, you’ll both be ready to play.

Tip #4 – Control Your Partner's Toy While Talking Dirty & Watching Each Other On Video

Simple. Devastatingly effective. You’ve got a toy, a video call, and a voice she wants in her ear. Start slow, tease with your words, and take control of her body from wherever you are. The result? She's not just watching you—she's feeling you.

Look, distance doesn’t have to dull the desire— you can still tease, please, and play hard from miles away. All it takes is creativity, connection, and the right long-distance sex toys.

But with these new toys come new questions—privacy, shipping, or how to pick the perfect toy for your (very deserving) partner. Let's get into it.

Frequently Asked Questions

You’ve got your browser open, maybe even eyeing a toy—but before you add it to the basket, let’s clear up some of the most common questions about long-distance sex toys.

Can long-distance sex toys be hacked or compromised?

Most app-enabled long-distance sex toys are safe to use, thanks to encrypted connections and pairing requirements. Still, use common sense—set strong passwords, don’t give access to random people, and update your apps when prompted. If you're worried, remember: hacking one of these is way harder than hacking a regular webcam. So don’t stress too hard—just play smart.

Are long-distance sex toys discreet when shipped?

Yes, 100%. These sex toys arrive in plain, boring packaging—no sexy names, no wild labels, no clue what’s inside. If you're living with roommates, family, or even in the same city as your partner, no one will know you’re planning a steamy session from afar.

What's the best way to introduce a long-distance toy to my partner?

Keep it light and sexy. Suggest trying long-distance play over video chat, or casually say, “Wanna test something wild with me?” You could also shop for sex toys together, talk about preferences like toys’ vibrations, or surprise them with a discreet delivery. Whether it's their birthday or just a random Tuesday, there's no wrong time to bring in a little fun.

How do I choose the right sex toy for my long-distance relationship?

Start with what feels good—do you want external vibes, G-spot, anal, or penis stimulation? Look for sex toys with dual motors, adjustable vibration modes, long run times, and best-value features like app control and rechargeable batteries. Also, think about how you’ll use it—close range, solo play, or synced up from miles apart. Brands like Pretty Love or LaViva offer some great options, but you’ll also see names like Lovense toys show up in top-rated lists.

Do long-distance sex toys really make relationships stronger?

Absolutely. These toys turn boring distance into playful anticipation. Whether you’re in a long-distance relationship or just not always in the same bed, they help you feel connected, explore new fantasies, and have the best long-distance sex of your life. Long-distance sex toys are not a replacement for being with your person, but they definitely help bridge the gap. From Bluetooth-connected toys like the Lovense Max to other options designed for different needs and budgets, there’s something out there for every kind of connection.

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Andrew Mioch is a certified sexologist and one of the world’s leading sex coaches and best-selling author after spending 10 years learning from experts all over the world.

Andrew has personally coached over 5,000 men. His expertise is regularly sought in publications such as Men's Health, Medium, and Cosmopolitan Magazine.

These days, Andrew spends most of his time coaching clients privately and also through SQL’s online Mastery Academy.

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